short term

Not everyone can emotionally handle short term. Plus, I think a lot of people use "short term" the same way they'd use "casual." I usually read both of those as code for hooking up or fwb type situati…

Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …

Are these early signs of narcissism? — So I met this guy on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. We do know some random people in common. Here are the signs that I find strange: \- He’s absolutely grandiose - have a ton of projects, ideas, storie…

"What does it mean to heal?" channeled message from my guides — I thought to share with you all this excerpt from a channeled conversation between myself and my guides. I love this text a lot and return to it often. Perhaps those of you on a healing journey and t…

Wish it had gone different — A few months ago I put myself out there after ending a very long marriage. Messaged with a guy a few years older, it turned sexual pretty quick. I hadn’t had anyone make me feel wanted, nor had I been…

How to date seriously when you are in a city you dislike — I have been in this city* for 7ish months and know that it is not for me. I was born here, moved away happily and due to unfortunate circumstances, I am back. I am also a woman who wants marriage and…

Ex is back on dating apps looking for a ‘life partner’ 4 weeks after — He (33m) ended our 1,5 years relationship (34f) as he said he can’t commit to anything long term 4 weeks ago. Prior to that he asked me to move in and said how beautiful our kids would be… it was a co…

Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…

I think too much it hurts my brain, literally — I’m the kind of person that’s always busy, juggling so much together in my daily life as a student/athlete and chasing success in what I do. Because of this passion (or maybe anxiousness), I constantl…

I need more than just “Love yourself” — I wrote a lot about my situation and then my phone died and I lost all progress 😭 so for now I’ll keep it short and sweet and I’ll maybe update this/make a new post with all the details. I’m a 20yr…

Short term relationships and new sub users post here — This is a safe space for individuals to seek advice for relationships lasting shorter than 1 year or for any individual that is seeking general advice on infidelity that just started an account. We, …

I am scared of relationships because I dont want my partner to grow old — I’ve never been in a relationship, and I’m scared of something that feels ugly to admit. I’m afraid that if I fall in love and get married, I won’t be able to handle my partner aging and becoming less…

Women from dating apps vs women in real life? — I am a 27M in the US. I have been on dating apps for the past 2 years or so, was mostly looking for short term for the duration although I wouldn't have been opposed to long term if I were to find so…

why do i keep self-sabotaging myself by going home to my family knowing it harms my mental health/success? — i go to college out in the city and i have my own dorm. i love having my own space even though it gets lonely sometimes, but it’s peaceful. there’s times where i have the fantasy or want to go home fo…

I (28M) want her (31 F) back but am conflicted around how everything ended. — Hey y'all, I'm looking for some advice on if I should continue holding out and hoping to get back with my short term ex or finally find a way to try and get over this. there's many layers to this bu…

needing help on what to do with a narcissistic mom who controls the situation with cps. — Hello so im 15 (F) only child. this is really more of a rant and important need for advice from adults. So basically I just have a mom, no other family member. my dad is a alcoholic who abused my mo…

Grief — I honestly just need to scream into the void a bit tonight because my friends/family seem a bit tired of hearing me go on and on about grieving the loss of my relationship, and honestly I'm pretty tir…

How do I (20F) get out of a 10-month lie I told my boyfriend (23M)? — me (20F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been together for about 10 months. when we first started dating, i thought it would be short term because he was leaving for med school in another state in like 2 …

new to therapy — I (NB18) don’t currently have coverage but when im on Medicaid again, im planning on looking for a therapist to discuss some long term + short term issues I’ve had weighing on me. im just new to all t…

Divorce on the Horizon? — Sorry this is a long one so grab some coffee or tea. I (38M) have been married to my wife (35M) for 11 years together for 14. We have 3 kids, 5yo twins with autism and a 2 year old. When we met we ha…

Anxiety about starting therapy — I have been considering finding a therpist for a really long time now (mostly for my anxiety, amongst other things), but I am very anxious about opening up. I have been an intensely secretive person m…

Why do I feel so good about holding grudges and ignoring people? — Back in 2019, I asked out a co-worker who initially said yes. We went on a few dates before she called things off and she had cited not being in a good place for dating because of two things. One was …

A love letter to Dextromethorphan — I am a very avid psychonaut(stay sober now though), I have experience with upwards of 70 psychoactive drugs and a countless number of combos. Dextromethorphan is my second favorite drug(first is meth…

Short term relationships and new sub users post here — This is a safe space for individuals to seek advice for relationships lasting shorter than 1 year or for any individual that is seeking general advice on infidelity that just started an account. We, …

Feeling very guilty for setting boundaries — Posting on a throwaway to attempt to preserve my identity. Very very long story short, I am fairly sure my mother has BPD with narcissistic tendencies. Undiagnosed, of course. But it led to a tumultuo…

7 things you need to know about an ex who left — 1. When they‘re asking for space, they don’t use that time apart to reflect and 'find themselves'. They‘re using it to enjoy the short term relief of leaving you, to meet other men/women who they thin…

I checked my ex’s account again and I feel sick. How do I stop feeling the need to stalk his accounts again? — He told me he needed to focus on himself first and now he’s already calling some new girl his “future wife” after 2 months lol I can say I’ve healed from this situation but what the hell? That shit h…

Advice appreciated after recent breakup — Hello, me28 F, bf 28M broke up after 3 yrs and living together for 2. We both had our own issues prior to entering this relationship. We both acknowledge that I’m extremely anxious and he acknowledges…

i am a 51yo married man and educated with a professional degree but stuck in middle management which is fine. I have become more or less an alcoholic in some respects because i love sleeping and my…

Definitely not. It's a short term infatuation or limerence.

What have you done to resolve your fear of commitment, your emotional unavailability and the inferiority complex? Why are you searching for excitement from a partner? What does that mean to you? Is i…

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I disagree partially. Keeping things purely physical is a definite characteristic of avoidant attachment. If they don't know each other that well then there's no real basis for her not seeing a future…

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

I suspect his last relationship she was more DA so maybe he was more triggered into his anxious but it wasn't a super long term relationship, 2 yrs and they also broke up and got back together through…

Analyze the actual data versus comparing it to old loops. Make sure you know exactly what you want from your partner and make sure they know what you want. Make short term and long term needs based …

It's like my whole spirit recoils...the internal "me" screams to get away, and if it's not something I can physically or literally distance myself from -- like an emotion I find uncomfortable, or a si…

Good sex doesn't mean a good relationship. Have had amazing sex with very incompatible men. The fact that he escalated into wanting to end things with you because you brought up things moving a bit t…

I’m in a completely different state to him. He has a week to get out of my place before I return home. It’s possible I’ll have to share house for a week or so when I get back - a time period in wh…

Okay so I agree with a lot of what was said here, and I have something additional to add.  I think part of this is the overculture. I grew up reading mags with articles about how "drive them crazy…

I’m in the same boat. I’d love to find a long term committed relationship with someone I love, but like I’m also not gonna turn down a fling or a short term relationship. Gotta get through the short t…

I've only been in a (short term) relationship once that crossed valentine's day, 7 years ago. She didn't get or do anything for me, and we had only started going out a couple weeks prior so I simply t…

Probably said "Open to long or short term" 🙄

You get no matches with looking for sex/short term or fwb. But you can get sex from looking for long term. It highlights the big issue men have in dating. They cannot be honest cause it gets them not…

After being promoted by someone on here last week, I asked a guy I was talking to on tinder if he wanted to go for a coffee, he asked me what I was looking for, and I said a relationship but potential…

I’m really sorry you’re in this position... but one thing I’d gently caution you about is the “if you need to talk, I’m still there” part. I know it comes from a place of care, but in situations like…

I’m really sorry you’re in this position... but one thing I’d gently caution you about is the “if you need to talk, I’m still there” part. I know it comes from a place of care, but in situations like…

That’s what I was saying - long term, it’s against our nature to settle. But short term and can be nice and stabilizing for a while…

A short term relationship with a woman who is good on paper is stabilizing? As a woman, I can’t even picture wasting time with a bench warmer. If anything, it would make my life way worse to need to a…

I see that Feeld was mentioned in other comments, so I figured I’d share my experience as a woman that was in a very similar place to yours a couple of months ago: - I liked Feeld because the user po…

I like Hinge over the other apps for a few reasons. 1. Intention. Hinge is seen as an app for serious relationships instead of short term flings or hookups. 2. You can see who likes you without …

Younger men might be a better fit in the short term, but I will not serve as a place holder for a man while he finds a woman young enough to have children wish. Did not end up being an issue because …

Given the expiration date on your relationship, does it matter? If she refuses your offer then ok, but if you're financially well off and can help, sure. I think when things are casual/short term, you…

Woman here and experience the same dynamic with men. Maybe it’s a people problem? I’m so exhausted and disheartened by the lack of effort, or even worse the short term burst of effort that makes it se…

It might be difficult to maintain Long-term relationships around rituals that heavily induce neuroflexibility. But loverships (short term) of course, and you will share many peak experiences - Then …

They hate kissing AND they're bad at it! My long-term (about 10 years), mid term (year and a half), and short term (few hooks ups) nex's all kissed the same way; stiff lips, mouth wide open, aggressi…

This used to be me. I would over function and could make things happen, even short term relationships, but then I pulled back a bit and focused on co created experiences. Less things happen but when t…

"rejection "phobia" or whatever you're going to have to get over that" literally an untreatable phobia, panic attacks in the short term, stress and turmoil that can last weeks, months, even years, lo…

I’m not ready for a date THIS week solely because I have a really busy week this week and I wanna sit and really redo my profile. I’m not not ready because I’m emotionally unavailable, I’m just liter…

Dead bedroom is indeed a big problem. Not being able to get the physical attention that is important to her is a big problem. I would guess there is a lot more to that issue than she’s explaining fo…

Because losing doesn't mean the same thing to them as it does you. It's often very short term and extremely short sighted. It doesn't make any sense because you would never do that. First husband ca…

Yes..it's a bit important..just match a few main factors like gana, bhakoot and nadi. These are very very essential factors in guna milan. Yoni isn't that essential as intimacy is short term tbh. But …

This is truer than true as far as I’m concerned lol. The woman I’m with now? When I initially met her, she was just supposed to be something short term. I left her on read a lot. Ignored her. Did my o…

Casual sex is a short term goal, so they dont usually care

good feedback!! i'm multifaceted 🤭 but actually i am a huge nerd AND i also like to go out!! maybe i take out short term tho. thank you

I would say it’s worth it to people who really need ii. I don’t mean that to be invalidating I mean need vs could benefit from, so people who need to access long term support and treatment outside of …

Mehhhhh I disagree with the other commenter. He's in his 40s, and doesn't know after 6 months? He either sees you as short term only, or he's still confused/healing/not ready. Either way, I'd say bye …

If it’s your financial situation that’s stressing you out, I absolutely agree that using money to pay down debt instead of paying a therapist is probably the right choice in the short term. Longer ter…

100%, I’ve dated since but haven’t gotten into anything serious, casual dates or short term relationship as in just a couple months, I was with the narc for years. It’s actually pretty nice and refres…

i spent about the same amount of time and some similar resources as you. i have finally settled on working towards peace. what others say about top-down vs bottom up coping skills rings true. somewher…

I think a lot of guys would be fine with that. Perhaps because I'm doing a good job filtering on the apps, but basically every woman I've dated has been like this: Wanted to casually date. I'd define …

I think in modern dating culture the terms 'casual', 'friends with benefits', 'short term', 'fuck buddy' are all too nebulous so everyone goes into those relationships with their own preconceived noti…

I always saw this as a short term thing and I’m amazed we even made it to six months (he said long term was absolutely possible). I’m in no rush for a life partner and I do believe in getting to slowl…

Started dating a woman who put she wanted "ethical non-monogamy" and "short term relationships only" on her bio. We just had our 4th date and I went to kiss her and she said it was too soon. I'm a bit…

This right here. No one who is rooting for their own relationship floats the idea of breaking up, especially that hard. He’s expecting you to accommodate him in the short term while he gets his ducks …

It is really not so complicated. We are wired to be selfish - and are also rewarded for short term pleasures (in the form of dopamine). And really, that's it. People cheat because they want to and…

Problem is when you resort to cheating, you don't want to leave the relationship but you're hoping to never being caught and facing the consequences. You're only thinking about short term gratificatio…

Helping your kids out from your own free will bc you want to see them succeed would be the way to go. But unfortunately we’re not dealing with sane people. They are only in it for themselves and for t…