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Not everyone can emotionally handle short term. Plus, I think a lot of people use "short term" the same way they'd use "casual." I usually read both of those as code for hooking up or fwb type situati…
Update — Saw her again at the Social Club — not much to report. She came over, sat next to me, and we had a nice chat the whole time. We’re actually planning a spa date since we share the same birthday. Befo…
Coworker with anxiety simply stopped talking one day — I don't have anxiety disorder myself. But in Dec I randomly started talking to a coworker from another team (our work and teams are completely unrelated to each other) who does. Apologies in advance f…
He’s pulling away, and now he’s asking for space. — Hi. I’m 21M (bi and closeted). I met a guy last year, and at first, it was just something casual. Early on, after 4 meetings, he told me he has a girlfriend. Then he blocked and ghosted me for about a…
Revenge on my ex of 1 year — TL;Dr a 32 year old CA i have been dating a guy for 1.5 year now. Initially he love bombed and was always there for me n all. later the inconsistency began and he was clearly an avoidant who would d…
I wish men wouldn’t talk about my curves after 3 chats — I decided to try hinge because it seemed more serious. I try to post pictures where I hide my body. I like men’s profiles that seem to be more serious. I don’t insinuate I’m looking for casual. Bu…
My peculiar version of ladder experiment + how I manifest effortlessly — This is gonna be long, but worth the read. I've been consciously manifesting for years with lots of successes but recently fell off my mental diet a bit (bc I'm human, ayo 😂) so was recommitting to…
I (33M) felt triggered by my partner’s (43F) response to a message from a past situationship — unsure how to handle it — **Yes I used chatgbt to help write this out. My thoughts were too scattered and it helped break it down.** **TL;DR:** My partner (43F) got a reflective message from a past emotionally complicated par…
Leaving a Messy ‘Situationship’ — I (25m) dont think I have the emotional maturity to end a nearly 2-year situationship with a girl (25F) with whom a future with seems uncertain I met this girl when we both started grad school, and w…
How do I handle a guy with disorganized attachment? — I need honest opinions because I feel like I’m spiraling a bit and trying to make sense of something that might be simple… or not. Also i’m 19, he’s 23. this guy and I have gone out 3 times. though, …
I [31M] have been seeing a woman [29F] for 5 months, we say I love you and are exclusive, but she still does not want to fully label it. — I am 31M and she is 29F. We have been involved for about 5 months. Basically, from the start I made it clear I had feelings for her. She said she had feelings for me too, but needed time and wanted t…
regretting opening up — hi guys. quite a bit of a backstory as quite a lot happened in a short period of time. i (23F) have a friend (25M) whom i've known for quite some time now (about 3 years through another friend (24F)) …
how do i make him rethink his choices — **TL;DR;** : situationship made his decision to cut things off due to what i said, how do i make him rethink his choices? hi guys. quite a bit of a backstory as quite a lot happened in a s…
My [18/F] crush [21/M] drunkenly kissed me, how do I continue? — A little disclaimer before I get into it: I changed a couple of details in order to stay anonymous, but my question still stands! I've had a crush on this guy for about a month, and we became pretty …
I (23M) was unfaithful and crossed boundaries in my first relationship with my ex (23M) and later with another partner (21M). Am I a freak? — I’m 23 (M, gay) and I’ve been struggling with a lot of guilt over how I acted in my first relationship. I’d really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who’ve been through something simila…
My partner says she chooses me but keeps an emotional affair with her coworker — I’m losing myself — Hi everyone, I created a post some time back in different community about my gf having a possible EA with a coworker which turned out to be true. I’m in a situation that is honestly breaking me menta…
How can I [F35] handle conversations about my friend’s [f41] relationship when I don’t support it? — Hello everyone, My friend “Lola” \[F40\] has been in an on-and-off casual relationship with someone \[M40\] for over a year. The beginning was very chaotic: constant breakups, misunderstandings, and …
I [24M] had a great first date with a girl [21F], she said yes to a second but now it’s a vague “I’ll let you know” — normal or low interest? — So I’d like some outside perspective on this situation because I feel like I’m overthinking a bit. I '24 M' met this girl '21 F' recently (literally 3 weeks), she’s from the UK and she’s working as a…
I appreciate the clarity that yes we are mostly saying the same, but by avoiding dating I meant I refused to be in a relationship or do anything past casual. My current relationship is my first ever r…
I think it might also a problem with the way you sound about it like too aloof and casual. Like, at this point, you might not be able to trust anything about yourself as it pertains to relationships …
I am so scared to date again. I don't know if I can open up after my last relationship. It sounds so stupid, but as a lover girl, I don't wanna lose it. I wanna stay a lover girl, stupid & naive. But …
Looking for help and support. This girl and I have got a fucking unreal connection. When we are together, time stands still (sounds fantastical doesn't it!). But then she pulls back every time and th…
I wouldn't base his dating activity on texting. He could easily go on dates any time he's not with you, especially since you haven't established exclusivity nor talked about it. A month in, no exclus…
If he doesn’t plan to spend V day with you, it’s a clear signal that your relationship is casual.
It is possible that neither of them wants anything serious with you and are ok keeping things casual. I do think generally when a monogamous guy wants you for a long term future, he will ask for exclu…
See, I had the conversations too, but after that last two-month stint, you're right, I reallyyyy started going in on them early. My boyfriend on our first date last year said, "Hey, I want to be trans…
To your question: "Am I expecting too much consistency and reciprocity for the kind of “passionate friendship with benefits” she’s proposing?" Yes you're expecting too much. She is intentionally stru…
Literally just broke up with someone I've been seeing since Xmas because they only wanted casual. Ignored the advice of reddit, therapist and friends plus my own gut. Proud of musk but feeling so blu…
I got dumped after sex! He said he took some time to think about it and his feelings weren’t romantically there. Before that he dated me for a month and we kissed a lot. What the hell happened? I was …
Got a possible date this Sunday with a girl is matched with on Tinder. I dont find her that physically attractive but she seems to be a nice person from chat. Always inquisitive about me. I dont think…
Well I finished it by finally telling him that I like him and want to start dating more seriously and that I am looking for a relationship. He said he is only looking for casual. But yeah, I did spend…
So in that 3 years have you managed to date anyone else at least somewhat deliberately and intentionally? I had a casual relationship - which i'd never had and thought it was exactly what i needed. …
It sounds like you have been abandoning yourself in trying to do something casual. That’s not what you really want.
Crazy! 2 months must be the ghosting timeline today then! We had one date - he has a lot going on and i knew it was only ever gonna be casual - but I liked him enough I want casual. Ya, I can see why…
Looks like today’s thread got locked by accident so here I am. Went out with a few friends yesterday. At one point one of the girls asked what I thought of a particular guy that was there. I said he …
Unfortunately you really have to take their word for it when they say they're not ready for a serious relationship. That's all that matters because they can still be perfectly nice, kind, charming, fu…
I had a great 2nd date yesterday. I am learning another language and my date is a native speaker so I forced him to listen to my terrible grammar and limited vocabulary but I'm pretty sure he found it…
Posting here as I am a new member and dont have enough karma for a post. The auto-bot said I could post here instead. **(When?)/Should I disclose trauma history with a new partner?** Before I say a…
He’s on hinge and not looking to date, kinda tells me he’s looking for casual.
I think you’re within your rights not to like this and to see it as an incompatibility but I’m loling at the idea that leggings are better? Leggings are super casual.
Did dating get even worse in one year or did I just get ugly in the last year. Last year it was relatively easy to get dates and I had several guys who were interested in a serious relationship. I dat…
I think there's a few things that might help here. Maybe a little of BPD as well as Co-Dependency and possibly some PTSD. Firstly, co-dependents need to be really careful around aggressive egos. It c…
I expect this new relationship to only be casual. This guy is too young for me!
And y’all can rock the baseball caps better than guys with hair. 🔥🔥🔥🔥 I had a bald guy friend put his on backwards. I still think that bad boy look is hot on older men. Not for dinner, but for a s…
Sometimes it's the person. I've had FWB relationships that worked spectacularly until circumstances ended it. I moved in one case, he got involved in another. The first I didn't stay friends with, the…
It's a consistent theme for many of us -- How come casual sex so often becomes decidedly non-casual. Feelings happen. It's hard to keep it capped at just sex, or at least, it's normal to have those …
I think I realized that I want casual only if the person is open to truly spending time with me outside of the bedroom. If they don’t want to then it’s not worth it for me. I want someone who gives me…
I was monogamous girlie for 25 years. The first bf jokingly said I needed more than one bf (mostly because he had too many hobbies). When my marriage ended, I thought ok. I’m just going to be casual. …
Most people are not cut out for casual. I suggest you end this immediately, Listening to podcasts about how to casual sex is like a pig watching bbq videos.
Tried to do the FWB thing after my separation. Talked through stuff with my long-time therapist, and he was very pro casual dating, given a lot of things I was still working through surrounding my div…
In my experience, casual sex works with people *after* you’ve decided you don’t want a relationship with them. You don’t proactively arbitrarily decide “we’re just going to be casual.” That isn’t how …
I don't like the word "casual" when it's referring to sex, as different people have different interpretations of what that casualness means to them. Your casual is not going to match the other person'…
Because we are wired to attach to the one who gives us an orgasm. Not everyone can do casual.
Casual dating (with or without casual sex) is the precursor to ENM or monogamy in my experience. Until a relationship becomes more emotionally meaningful and established, I don't classify it as anythi…
Someone who cannot take accountability. Inability to meet expectation is not their fault. Never apologize for what they did. Someone who loves talking about themselves. Someone who is deemed as “cha…
I can't do latinas unless I wanted it just casual. Legit I'd get disowned by family if she wasn't asian
This isn’t casual misogyny, it’s his belief system about the world. That’s the opposite of casual. Maybe you mean that to him it isn’t malignant? He believes that his ideas about men and woman aren’…
I don't want to do casual either but honestly at this point casual is better than nothing. Unfortunately I can't even find casual.
You're probably right about this guy wanting something casual given having a primary partner and his current time commitments, but I do want to point out that less frequent contact partners in the ENM…
Thanks for your input...I'm thinking more about it. So, in the relationships you've had, we're you monogamous or did you expect monogamy? I've talked to men that are clear they want monogamy, but als…
I’m so horny (hello Spring), but I can’t do casual. I also don’t feel ready for a relationship because I’m still sort of hung up on a guy who turned me down in December (I know it’s stupid, and I’m pr…
I think you want to put out the energy you want to attract. Say you add a bikini photo or something, you'd start getting likes from people looking for casual.
My drive to home when I'm out of the house. I used to calculate my time to get home, rush and drive fast to get home. Going home always put a smile on my face. Now I don't have anyone waiting on me so…
Im 43m. I found the woman I will spend my life with 2ish years ago. I will say I got lucky, very lucky. She changed everything I thought I knew of love and a healthy relationship. It started with me w…
Like someone said in another thread, you really ought to reply, "Sorry, the sex wasn't good enough for me to be interested in anything casual. Good luck to you."
If you feel like it's worth it, even to just get it off your chest - say 'Hey, you felt really cold towards me this morning. That's something I don't look for in a potential partner or even something …
That’s a singles night then, not speed dating. The setting is much more casual.
Keep the first few dates super light and casual. No need to plan these elaborate dates or book dinner reservations. A simple walk on the boardwalk or park is fine, for example. Then if it doesn’t wor…