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The New Agora: Daily WWYD and light discussion thread

> The sub doesn't let me post That's weird. There are auto-rules that limit TOP-LEVEL comments for posts tagged as "Seeking Personal Stoic Guidance". You have to be tagged as a "Contributor". I do…

r/Stoicismcomment11/25/2025
Introducing VPS Pilot – My open-source project to manage and monitor VPS servers!

Introducing VPS Pilot – My open-source project to manage and monitor VPS servers! —  Built with: Agents (Golang) installed on each VPS Central server (Golang) receiving metrics via TCP Dashboard (React.js) for real-time charts TimescaleDB for storing historical da…

r/DevOpspost5/4/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Plugin for editor, designer bylines?

Plugin for editor, designer bylines? — Hello. Does anyone know of a WordPress plugin that would let me add bylines for the designer and editor of a blog post (not just the author)? UPDATE #2: Ended up paying for PublishPress (suggesed by …

r/Wordpresspost5/7/2025
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

r/attachment_theorypost12/28/2025
A Splash of Cold-Water for you

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

r/attachment_theorypost2/2/2026
How knowledgeable are contributors?

How knowledgeable are contributors? — The question is basically in the title. I want to know if the contributors are teachers or historians or you local taxi driver

r/Stoicismpost3/23/2026
I’m a 3 x National Champion in my sport and struggling

I’m a 3 x National Champion in my sport and struggling — Hi, Not quite sure where to post so I thought here would be best. Happy to post in any other places if I have the wrong place and open to recommendations :) I’m my country’s current National champ…

r/selfhelppost3/26/2026
Welcome! Read Me First.

Welcome! Read Me First. — # Welcome to r/Stoicism. This community exists for serious discussion of Stoic philosophy. It is not a forum for general self-help, motivation, validation, or professional therapy. It is also not a p…

r/Stoicismpost4/2/2026
People destined to do exceptional work in their fields

People destined to do exceptional work in their fields — i was just curious to know if there is any conjunction or something very specific (not one but any such placement) that people had in their kundli which pointed towards them breaking grounds, not mone…

r/vedicastrologypost4/3/2026
I let my marriage shatter my entire sense of self worth.

I let my marriage shatter my entire sense of self worth. — TW: Physical domestic abuse I’m not sure why I’m writing this here. I’ve never posted anything like this, I’ve always just been a lurker. Maybe I want to know if I’m not alone maybe I just need a pla…

r/Divorcepost4/7/2026
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems?

I’m no expert on the matter, I’m learning about avoidants after being married to one for 19 years! I was always made to believe I was the issue in our marriage (I have ADHD) but husband is a huge cont…

r/attachment_theorycomment9/5/2025
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Dating apps are a major contributor to people being unable to converse. The illusion of choice and someone else being a swipe away, just makes people put in the absolute bare minimum of effort. Or…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/14/2026
People whose parents only seemed to notice you when you achieved something and didn’t really accept you as you were — did you end up loving yourself once you reached real undeniable success?

Don't really have any good advice of my own, but I relate and it's probably a big contributor to the burnout I'm going through... 😭 I'm happy to hear there are some people here saying they're doing b…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/9/2026
If you are a dumper missing your dumpee you caused the pain

Not every relationship ends in some sudden and cold discard. In that instance I’d agree with OP. One of the main contributors with my ex and I parting ways was that once we grew up and matured, we r…

r/BreakUpscomment3/9/2026
Why do we keep doing things we know are wrong for us?

A big contributor is simply habits. We can be hard on ourselves and treat our problem behaviors as a reflection of us as a person. As in "I keep scrolling until 2am rather than going to bed and theref…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

There is a reason the nuclear family worked for thousands of years, and I daresay we were better off as a society when we prioritized being faithful to one another, rather than promiscuous or 'casual'…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
Wife (26F) scheduled cosmetic procedures we agreed we wouldn’t do before marriage, using money from our joint account. I’m (28M) struggling with the trust breach.

i agree with the other commenters. as a female myself i couldn’t fathom lying and telling my bf let alone my husband that we have the same ideas about something like that and then completely switching…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
Wife (26F) scheduled cosmetic procedures we agreed we wouldn’t do before marriage, using money from our joint account. I’m (28M) struggling with the trust breach.

Yes it’s her body her choice. But it’s not her money her choice. You need to separate the reason for the spending vs the money itself. The reason is not relevant except that it’s not mutually agre…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective

Sounds like my marriage. My type of party was an impromptu crawfish boil, no frills. Everyone had a good time bc nobody felt pressured to perform. Her standards were so high that if it couldn’t be in …

r/Divorcecomment3/17/2026
Some men have questionable hygiene and it has made dating even more challenging than it already is.

It’s so sad that some people cannot even keep a basic awareness around hygiene. If you sweat, shower. It’s for one’s own health, but it’s also a social consideration, a basic cornerstone of etiquett…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
Miss sex with my ex

(I’m probably not a good contributor here because I love no contact) but there’s a fantasy book I like, and the characters each have a specific skill, as alomancers: weaponry, strength, stealth — ther…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/18/2026
Are My Expectations Too High?

>ED does occur in this demographic, but a man that is secure, able to care for himself, and takes ownership of his health overall, will take the appropriate steps to get evaluated/start meds. Several…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
I (34m) have been with my partner (34f) for 8 years. I have supported us financially for 8 years but want her to contribute and I'm made to feel like the bad guy

Brother you are not getting it. Telling her what to do is not you telling her what you need. Have you ever been to therapy? I think you could really use the help in learning how to communicate better.…

r/relationshipscomment3/20/2026
You're not allowed to be angry. You're not allowed to feel your emotions.

Holy shit, THIS!!! My DNA contributors and my (now ex) older brother could scream in my face when they wanted, but me? I was always expected to just be calm and serene regardless of what they did to …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/21/2026
My husband (39M) is annoyed that I (31F) always get sick after him. How can we find a solution?

Explain to him that lack of sleep is a strong contributor to poor immune system. If he wants you to get sick less often, you need better rest! Looks like he has to do more parenting on a regular basis…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
How knowledgeable are contributors?

That's an interesting question! I think to get the contributor tag you gave to demonstrate some basic understanding of the principles of stoicism and demonstrate you can participate in a productive …

r/Stoicismcomment3/23/2026
How knowledgeable are contributors?

What I find incredibly interesting is that contributors have all sort of backgrounds. It honestly shocked me that you’re an artist, to be honest now I’d like to see the art you make. Nevertheless this…

r/Stoicismcomment3/23/2026
How knowledgeable are contributors?

"I'm just a dude playing a dude disguised as another dude" - I work in revenue intelligence/data analytics, so, just a dude. In all seriousness, I believe the flairs were to try and reduce the spam…

r/Stoicismcomment3/23/2026
How knowledgeable are contributors?

I found examples that posters shared, whether from their own personal everyday lives or from modern situations, particularly helpful for applying principles. The more varied experiences, the better. …

r/Stoicismcomment3/23/2026
People are always shocked when abuse happens in "good families"...... but that's kind of the point.

When I was growing up, my so-called family looked like a perfect Russian-Jewish family on the outside: always well-dressed, clean-shaven, designer clothes, financially comfortable, good food, well-con…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/26/2026
Is it inevitable that one arrives at stoicism with non-virtuous intent?

It is is helpful to acknowledge but just remember context is king. If you were talking to Alex originally it would be one case but what you offered to the contextual audience was good for the scope. T…

r/Stoicismcomment3/26/2026
Getting over approach anxiety

I think multiple things are happening for younger folks, but I think it might be more like under 35ish, the ones over 40 are more similar to us in upbringing. The younger folks grew up with a lot of…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/27/2026
A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault.

I had severe anxiety as a kid. To the point of not being able to speak in certain situations. Poor self esteem. Stress. Just couldn't cope with life somedays... no doubt caused by a combo of emotional…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/28/2026
"You'll thank me for this when you get older."

Here are those gems that stick with me ever since I was growing up: 1. "We're not your slaves!" (when I request something simple from my DNA contributors) 2. "The world doesn't revolve around you!" …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/28/2026
People with CPTSD what are things that people just don’t get about it?

That makes sense! I think I heard that somewhere myself. I am sure that is a contributor. It's just weird because my morning anger is very irrational. I mean I get angry over/about stuff that is likel…

r/CPTSDcomment3/28/2026
I cheated on my husband (online) and want to leave this behind me.

>He saw explicit messages and photos I sent, including things I’m honestly really ashamed of.I feel extremely embarrassed, guilty, and exposed. Sis, being guilty is not enough. Because this seems lik…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/29/2026
I cheated on my husband (online) and want to leave this behind me.

She can't be a passive beneficiary but needs to be an active contributor to the relationship. If the relationship is becoming stale or boring, it is her responsibility too to bring back the spark, not…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/29/2026
I (m31) had my first real argument with my husband (m32) about children over the weekend and I dont know where it leaves us?

When he’s living in lala-land where he thinks he’ll be an equal contributor but is showing he is not and seems incapable of it - dude needs a reality check.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Fantasies about being rescued?

My biological dad is a POS but my mom and stepdad were the big contributors to my CPTSD. My biological dad did as well, but moreso later in my life. As a kid, I would fantasize about him actually bein…

r/CPTSDcomment4/1/2026
Did anyone else have abusive parents that you've realized are actually neurodivergent and that took out their frustration on you of having to function out in the world(to cope)?

Hmm. I haven’t thought about this before. This is likely at least a contributor to my dad’s anger issues. He is profoundly dyslexic and had nothing to explain it until my brother was diagnosed with …

r/CPTSDcomment4/2/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
This subreddit is bad because of the moderation.

Same sentiment here. The Contributors and other posters alike share interesting nuggets. The original posts themselves can also serve a purpose.

r/Stoicismcomment4/5/2026
Anyone else get sick a lot during this relationship w a narcissist?

Yes somatic illness is an underrated contributor to many many long term issues. Your body will heal with you.

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/6/2026
my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality

They seem completely unfamiliar with how to buy a house. These are questions the loan officer will ask, guaranteed. $48k annual income is a risky buyer, and a secondary co-signer and contributor will …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
my shoulders are….up(?) all the time.

Same here! I always thought it was because I had a desk job before but after reading so much about CPTSD I think my work is only a small contributor.

r/CPTSDcomment4/6/2026
my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality

My nephew is still extricating himself from a similar situation. He and his girlfriend lived together for probably 5 years. Bought a house after she got finished with a Court Reporting Diploma - pay …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
Why Are People Hating on Asians for Hanging Out With Each Other?

I grew up in a super Asian part of California went to a super Asian elementary and middle school than went to a much whiter(but still decently asian private high school(cause I was a spoiled brat and …

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/6/2026
Google engineer rejected by colleges uses AI to sue UCs and others for racial discrimination

I recently watched the PBS *Independent Lens* documentary about San Francisco Lowell High School, *[Try Harder](https://www.pbs.org/independentlens/documentaries/try-harder/)*. One scene showed a gues…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/9/2026
reflections on working in white dominated workplaces and the "bamboo ceiling"

I worked the first 15 years of my career in aerospace engineering, which was absolutely a "good old white boys' club," with no advancement beyond going from junior to senior level engineer. I transiti…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/9/2026
reflections on working in white dominated workplaces and the "bamboo ceiling"

A lot of people think management should be the best individual contributor, which isn't the case at all. It requires a completely different skillset in a different environment. That means not doing th…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/10/2026
NATAL SATURN SERIES: IN THE 3RD HOUSE

1. Aquarius 28°59' 2. Aries 7°11' 3. 12th and 1st houses 4. Sextiles with the Aquarius Moon 7°22' and Gemini Mars 14°23' and Gemini Venus 11°47' | Squares Capricorn Jupiter 12°57'r Cancer Mercury 1°23…

r/astrologycomment4/11/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 11, 2026

I’m really enjoying dating the person I’ve been seeing for six months. I don’t know what the future holds, and I’m really tuning in with my limited capacity for uncertainty today. Usually, by this ti…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/11/2026
Lived in survival mode for 3 years, lost all sense of identity

Develop your sense of self. Your desires and intentions. Intention is most important. Your intent is to be a good student, a contributor to society, while haing fun and not pulling any others down wit…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/12/2026
How do I (37F) contribute to household with wealthy partner (41M)

You're already contributing to your household as much as you can! A wealth imbalance can feel very uncomfortable, but as long as you are both happy, it's ok to allow him to be the breadwinner as he is…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026
“You have absolutely no right to be upset, hurt, or cry, sweetie”

Your egg donor is wrong and disgusting. Your sperm donor actually didn’t—doesn’t love you because he’s not capable of love. After all, parents who actually love their children would never react the wa…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/13/2026