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Advice regarding Yoga Nidra

I'm being responsible by speaking the (whole) truth... didn't even make a recommendation I said "it's up to you" but at the same time I've gone through it and I find it to be worth the pain... the thi…

r/Meditationcomment4/5/2026
Have your parents ever given you an illusion of choice?

Have your parents ever given you an illusion of choice? — My mom gave me a choice today, but in reality it felt more of an illusion. We were stuck inside a diner as we had no umbrella for around 45 minutes. By the time the rain had stopped, I was already ha…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost3/12/2026
Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back.

Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …

r/BreakUpspost4/2/2026
No one should suffer because we have trauma.

I don't agree with that no one should suffer. Suffering is, on some level inevitable. It's a signal to address an unmet need. While I agree that we should work on healing and healthy ways to connect w…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/26/2025
I broke no contact

there are better things to do than getting hung up on someone who doesn't want to be in your life in any shape or form, respect their wish and give them *aaaaaaaaall the space in the world*, especiall…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/16/2025
Physically Reacting to Jealousy

I'm trying to explain that the intentional exclusion is likely due to your manager status. And while it's okay at your company, your direct reports may feel differently. If I were to spend lunch tryi…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/11/2025
feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy

Hi, just wanted to say you're not alone in this. I'm aroace (my attachment style comes to play in platonic relationships) but for the longest time in my life I denied being aromantic because I wanted…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/28/2026
Ending a 1-year relationship: Self sabotage or gut instinct?

I think ultimately every person is going to have qualities you don't like. The perfect person just doesn't exist. It's up to you to decide whether those qualities are important enough for you.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Gonna out myself here, but FWIW, I'm a pretty clean guy and people have noticed so much so they have commented on my cleanliness. That said, I've had a peeling right foot since I was a child. IDK if …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I think 1 or 3 are all right. We all know there's churn on the first 3 dates, so it's not a major surprise to say you're not interested after the second date. Definitely don't do 2, it's just going to…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

What is it he's doing that is like someone who is romantically interested? Can you ask him to refrain from that kind of stuff if he's not romantically interested? It's up to you to communicate where …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/16/2026
Is this an emotional affair?

Agreed. This needs to be toned down. He should have done it already, unfortunately it's up to you now OP and it seems it will be a good idea for you anyway. 

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

It's up to you how you decide to live your life from here on out. But if you want to be productive (however you define that for yourself), that's something for you to explore / work towards. You have …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

You can have boundaries. If this is a boundary she knew about and crossed, then it's up to you whether you want to end the relationship. Boundaries are not meant to control the other person. They're a…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

I think I commented on this before. Not sure if you posted under a different account. Presumably in a year or two things could be better if you live together. But it's up to you to decide whether y…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 01, 2026

It could be that you just have different communication styles. You are clearly a high volume communicator who likes to talk things out (you just wrote 11 paragraphs about someone you've been dating fo…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
Herpes

Not true. Relatively healthy adults can take 1g of Valtrex every day (for suppression and reduce viral shedding) for the rest of their life without adverse effects. As you get older (65 or older) one …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
How to protect myself from negative entities

Become wholeness, accept there's good and bad in each of us, and it's up to you where you put your attention .but to get there, you have to integrate both sides. Find what hurt you in the past, and y…

r/energy_workcomment3/9/2026
tried dating sites at 41/42 and only get messages from 20 year olds

Yes, guys in their 20s are horny. This is not breaking news. They will swipe on every and anyone in hopes of success. On the other hand, with OLD, men in their 30s and up aren't acting much differen…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate

You've been with him this long and you still feel awkward around him? He has seen you at your most vulnerable. I promise you, he doesn't care. You like that dick? Lay on the bed, wait until he walks i…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/10/2026
OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL.

Well that's life. You are going to encounter good and bad. It's up to you which you let get in on you.

r/Manifestationcomment3/12/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 12, 2026

You are right. I know I should go ahead and cut this.  I just don't even know what to reply to that message of his.  His is his message.  Hello, sorry for not answering directly but I needed some ti…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/12/2026
Is suffering required to create the reality we desire?

If you want to suffer, sure. It's up to you. There are no answers except the ones you find within.

r/experiencerscomment3/13/2026
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone.

It's up to you what you do but I think you should operate with the assumption that he will not change. To me personally, I cannot imagine living like this. You are so young. Still in your 20s! You can…

r/relationshipscomment3/13/2026
Does Ho’oponopono really work for healing others? Any real experiences?

I have more than 100's of healing experiences, mostly instant, so for lack of better language, I will just tell you the answer to your question is definitely yes. Find the PDF "Who's in Charge" writt…

r/Meditationcomment3/14/2026
The absolute dearth of any kind of help for victims of polyamory under duress

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP, but with respect, this feels like displaced anger to me. If someone wants to be polyamorous, who cares? They can live their life however they like. The issue i…

r/therapycomment3/14/2026
I 34F woke up to a message about my 35M husband

**It's time to accept reality. You knew he was a cheater, allowed him to cheat (as you stayed with him after he did) and continued being with him. I'm sorry that you have three kids with him but nothi…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
Found out my husband resents me a lot for my mental illness

It is not your fault that he hasn't communicated.Talk to him and suggest couples counseling. If he agrees, great he wants to work it out. If he refuses at least you'll see where you stand. It's hard t…

r/CPTSDcomment3/16/2026
Parents almost only talk about their job?

I would love to see her change focus to her child, but whatever she's struggling with is probably in the way. Sounds like she is dysregulated by the work environment, so it's not a good fit for her a…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/17/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

I don't think it will improve no. This sounds to me like someone who lacks emotional depth. Unless he becomes aware of this and chooses to prioritize working on it, he's going to continue to be conten…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

If he's really introverted, it won't get better because being calm is their preference. Nothing wrong with that. It's up to you to decide if he's too calm for you. About his lack of curiosity and int…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 18, 2026

Well first things first is to decide if you are both on board with an LDR. If neither of you are interested in getting into one then it doesn't matter. If you are, then it's up to you, honestly. I've…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/18/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 18, 2026

> There's adult goth aesthetic and angsty teen goth aesthetic. You might want to post photos with your face blocked out so people can give you feedback on your style. Leather jackets paired with plai…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/18/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

Sounds like he's the one who's getting emotional about the topic, given that he couldn't even continue it as a topic of discussion. Real talk: if he's not willing to engage with scholarly articles t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
I [27f] feel like I have to ask for a lot from my boyfriend [29m] of 2.5 years

This is a super common issue so I believe you, but the examples you've given are kind of confusing. Getting spontaneous gifts of flowers and coffee aren't some unspoken rule, that's something you DO n…

r/relationshipscomment3/19/2026
My (26M) brother (35M) has impregnated my ex wife(F27) and is engaged to marry her. How do I move on going forward?

Pour gasoline on the bridge, make sure its saturated then burn it. Go to therapy and find ways to move past this and take good care of yourself. Give yourself time to run through the gamut of emotions…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
What is 'not' meditation?

That's a good question. I'm repeatedly surprised by how many people here don't define meditation. People talk about meditating and often ask for advice, but without explaining what they mean by medita…

r/Meditationcomment3/20/2026
How do I change my state of being to "I have" if real world experiences are telling me the opposite daily?

With respect to intention, the problem with it is that manifestation is an area where you need to tread lightly, if at all. You should care but be so close to "so what" that it's no big deal if it nev…

r/lawofattractioncomment3/21/2026
Wrong again but did I do the right thing ?

It's basically an open page to who he is, do you want to be with someone who projects jealousy and likely would be like that in that situation. He's revealed who he is it's up to you if you want to to…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
How knowledgeable are contributors?

That's an interesting question! I think to get the contributor tag you gave to demonstrate some basic understanding of the principles of stoicism and demonstrate you can participate in a productive …

r/Stoicismcomment3/23/2026
Reality Shifting Truths

This is not only unhelpful, but quite probably incorrect. Whatever shifting is, it's not some magical thing that can occur at any time for any reason. If that were the case, people would be shifting …

r/realityshiftingcomment3/23/2026
As an ardent follower of Astrology - I now find it very dehumanising.

Well. Just browse this subreddit a little bit to see what people are asking us astrologers for advice. Here are my top negative inquiries. Coincidentally, they are also roughly the most frequent inqu…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/24/2026
Mom wants to review financials with me 2x a year to receive my inheritance

One of the less celebrated perks of being poor, or from a poor family is not having to give a shit what your parents think. They have to behave of they want to see you and vice versa. My mum was s…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/24/2026
I (22f) entered a relationship with a set date but no longer want it to end. My bf (22m) won’t reconsider and it’s breaking my heart.

You have only been dating 5 months, if I understand your post correctly. It's very reasonable for it to still be early days for him. It sounds like you've formed a strong attachment very quickly - b…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026

>She also put together birthday plans for this Saturday. I mean, she planned something. Not everyone gives a shit about birthdays. If it's important to you, it's up to you to make it known that you…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/24/2026
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically

At the end of the day, it's up to you and how you are feeling about this whole relationship. Your parents aren't the ones in the relationship, you are.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 25, 2026

Honestly it sounds a bit like he wants to keep you around mostly as a failsafe in case his ex doesn't want him back. It's up to you if you want to wait around for that but it hardly sounds worth it im…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/25/2026
the “meditate 10–20 minutes a day” advice is why I never stick to it

You're asking the wrong place. Everyone here has bought into the false idea that doing it more = progress. So much so that they track every second of every day, and becoming fixated on it.  Well let…

r/Meditationcomment3/27/2026
Boyfriend insults me in fights

'He has said before he has anger issues and that a past relationship ended due to the ex not wanting to deal with them' I don’t know how to respond to him and have just been quiet since we live separ…

r/relationshipscomment3/27/2026
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

This showed his true colors. If you gain any weight back, he will say nasty things again. He wasn't sorry to call a stranger a humpback, he was only sorry when he found out it was you. If you still …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Would 1 month be ok for me to ask for our break to be over

It's good that you're self-aware! It's up to you ultimately how you want to handle everything, but I guess what I would've wanted to see from my ex, if he were to come back is: accountability for his …

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026
I understand getting a divorce is normal and you will finally move on after some time. But its different when it is your turn and you lived more tgan a decade together. Especially when you have to give up the custody of your kids and all the life to begin again at 40, from zero again.

It works out fine. The normal sequence is that kids grow up and move out. If your kids stay at home, you've been a bad parent. When they move out, it means you've been a good parent. So that alw…

r/Divorcecomment3/30/2026
I can't believe I'm asking this as a 49 year old woman, but...

Great. He knows your single. But he probably can't ask you out because it's his work place. If he asks and gets it wrong, it could cost him his job. I'm afraid it's up to you to take the risk. I sup…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026