deconstruct

Ooh I love this post and comments... Big wide open spaces that you can stare at. Not like the grand canyon, but lived in spaces. Long streets, tall buildings, empty offices, big parks. A purgatory t…

Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…

Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

Old therapist told me I was gay — Title kinda says it all. Shared w a therapist years ago some of my religious upbringing and how I came from a homophobic household. I mentioned how my marriage (w my wife) was, at times, challenging. …

Realised me and my wife of 12 years have a codependent relationship! Can we change? — Hello, I've had quite the few weeks… I’ve been married to my wife for 12 years we both grew up in very religious households which is part of what brought us together in terms of shared values and try…

The illusion of fighting your bad habits — Many people define their relationship with a destructive habit by the fact that they are "fighting" it. But the simple act of trying to stop usually fails because it keeps you trapped in a dependent s…

the veil dropped — So, I am in a new layer of integrating my dimi break through (3 months ago), and the experiences and lessons (hell) I had are revealing themselves to me in new ways, expansive ways, however there is e…

I have dreams of my future — This is something I've talked about with only one other person before, and they're my ex, but I will have dreams, flashes of things that will come true. I have vivid dreams, most of them are nonsense,…

Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…

Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…

weird ah weed experience, what happened guys? — I‘ve been doing psychedelics and weed a few times by now. I’ve never had any problems with psychedelics but with weed… I’ve taken a few hits and suddenly I started panicking and I thought I was dyi…

I’m seeing angel numbers everywhere — As the title says, I’m seeing angel numbers literally everywhere! It’s getting to the point where it’s increasing by the day. I have been manifesting a lot lately using robotic affirmations, meditat…

It’s honestly uncanny, how accurately you have described my own situation - except that it has been a week now and we (me: f34, AP - him: m30, DA) were together for 10, married for 8 years. We were ea…

I'm not qualified to give you any pro opinion but I can tell you what I've done, for myself. First step is admitting you can't continue this way, for your own sake and the sake of your close ones. S…

You could try using journaling as a way to write out the current thoughts and feelings (aka the narrative you have around it) and then start challenging those thoughts. Try looking at it from a differ…

Text of original post by u/EveyandSylus: Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But f…

I absolutely relate to this - even down to the religious deconstruction and losing my two best friends. It's something I struggle with to this day - finding and maintaining female friendships so my pa…

Thanks so much for sharing! Have you found any communities on here of people who have also deconstructed?

I can definitely relate a lot to your experiences - I also was religious up until about age 26 when I deconstructed, and lost most of my Christian friends when I stopped going to church. It was a real…

“Never” dating? “never” having a relationship? I’m sorry I didn’t know we had a fortune teller in the house. Ofcourse thoughts like that would make anyone sad and full of grief dude. You sound like me…

Wow, I bow before this very scientific-minded deconstruction of this situation as described by some particularly mope-y fellow. Of course you are absolutely right that my "lens" through which I perce…

No not really taking energy out of me. It’s more just anxiety inducing. And no my social anxiety hasn’t really dulled overall. But more so in the last year or so but that’s also because I got less dep…

In two sentences: Be aware of what you are aware of, don't stay on anything, as soon as you realize that you're hooked on something (breath, day dreaming (fabrication), sensation, emotion), let go. Yo…

One view is that these patterns are rooted, not only in the mind, but also in the body. It can be useful to work with your patterns at the levels of mind (as you're doing), emotion (feeling into and a…

The middle ground is controlled exposure. Exposure therapy only works when it's titrated to match the patient's comfort level, and geared at expanding it consistently. Accepting you may have dysregu…

It doesn’t mean it’s fake, but it’s something worth thinking about critically and deconstructing because it plays into toxic gender roles set by patriarchy that harm women and men (I mean look at OP’s…

Not sure about groups but my partner and I use it similarly. It's also one of the main benefits of ketamine therapy. We do a lot of talking since we do it together. But we use the time you examine o…

I'm a Kurdish-Iraqi woman who likes Asian men and I would say that a lot of this "Asian men only like white women" belief comes from only/mainly seeing these men with white women and talking about wan…

Hearing "No one is going to save you" was like a punch in the gut because I was waiting to be saved for a long time. I don't know exactly what I was expecting. I think it was just leftover from when I…

To what extent is it not about having a good community that you can be intimate with? I read pretty much every comment and I'm genuinely shocked and disappointed that only two mentioned cuddling with…

Been there. I used to pride myself for being 'ambitious' when I was working tirelessly towards pointless achievements to feel some sense of being loved and accepted. When I did my best to be amazing a…

question them, where did they come from, when, how, etc. they are not the physical body, they are words/sounds/symbols to describe physical reality. was/is anyone born fluent in any language? no. they…

I relate..I think. There was a moment in my relationship where I realized I wanted my bf to fulfill a sense of safety and security not recieved by my parents. But in reality, our parents are the only …

If you have been able to discuss hard topics and he has changed his mind in the past you MIGHT have the ability to have the deconstruction convo you want. I'd suggest a mediation type person for those…

Yes, and with good reason. I'm a cis man, but i take gender studies very seriously. The problem is that we have a culture that inundates men and boys with extremely toxic traits and frames it as "masc…

question whether they serve one's happiest/healthiest potential, and devalue their importance if they don't. many believe things based entirely in hearsay, rather than able/willing to test/verify cla…

Being ok with uncertainty has two components to it - noticing the sensations in the body as just sensations (aka not calling them anxiety), and deconstructing the thoughts that narrate the story, that…

Oh man...so very sorry to hear this. I am 2 weeks into an unexpected break up after a year of dating. I cannot imagine 7 years. Chat gpt has been very helpful for me. Create a project folder called …

[This is a post that I wrote](https://www.reddit.com/r/Soulnexus/s/KF9tMl3ubR) years ago. I was raised Christian. This experience is how I see God/Source/creator now. In the comments of that post you …

This is where I’m at also. I’ve since deconstructed from it mainly because of the people who follow the faith. Too many said “OMG THE DEVIL IS AFTER YOU” and I’m like…the universe is so much bigger th…

1. Aquarius, so Saturn is my chart ruler! 2. Saturn is retrograde at Pisces 21°. 3. 1H and 12H. 4. My Saturn is opposite my Sun in Virgo 8H and square my Gemini Moon in 5H. It's also sextile sextil…

Went on a first date with someone who works in the same office building as me but different department today. I (32M) and she (36) had a good time but I'm a Christian who is making more strides to get…

i feel kinda mixed, on one hand I don't really blame humans for the parasite but on the other hand one of the main ways we can get a handle on Leviathan is to hold its present powerful pawns accountab…

I reckon that the most effective way of dealing with a parasite is to remove it. As for the systems of power, they are disintegrating on their own as our collective vibration increases, so they wouldn…

That actually lines up with what a lot of long-term meditators report when they combine steady practice with rhythmic sound. What you’re describing , the “losing the body” feeling and becoming a kin…

Preach🫶🏼😂🤦🏽‍♀️🇨🇭🇨🇦🍁🩷🚩🚩🚩 Plz don’t make more kids,you have two babies already and please tell him that and show him this right here: have you done any or looked at behavioral or psycholo…

First of all, try to think of your interests in presidents and star trek as 'hobbies' and recognize that's just fine. It's normal to have interests. It's really fine if you don't know anyone around wi…

Hey, I think maybe looking a bit into gender theory and queer theory might help you to make sense of what you're feeling. I have been researching those topics for a while now (I'm a femininst and gend…

Because if the issue is at home, you goin somewhere else ain't gon fix it. Gotta deconstruct

You have a personal issue that has nothing to do with her. It is your insecurity, except if what one point she compares your financial and professional situation to her ex's in derogatory terms, which…

Right. That's one mechanism. What I'm warning against is a mischaracterisation of OCD as being an issue that's rooted in poor concentration on a meditation sub-reddit, as not only does this not give …

Im 46, and am starting therapy soon. In the meantime I've been doing some self work. Im an addict and got clean just over 2 months ago. Now that I have my brain back, I've found that I don't truly kno…

I could deconstruct what I'm seeing, but I have a suggestion for you. Lean into active listening actively listen when people are speaking. Stop listening when you know that they are not being authenti…

I am part of such a story myself. So yes, these stories do exist. However, you will often find very one-sided perspectives here on Reddit, which is understandable. Taking this path means you must be …

I would say it solidified my deconstruction.

all of them. they're products of surrounding influences/conditions. are they serving your happiest/healthiest potential? yes, fantastic. no? disregard them, accept them without trusting/believin…

Was raised in a very religious upbringing and community. It’s essentially one of those things where the religion was your whole identity and nothing mattered more and your eternal salvation was of the…

Good grief, I hope you are planning to take the kids with you. I know what growing up in religious trauma looks like. It take years to deconstruct that shit. I’m 38 and still have problems at times. T…

again your "references" refer to books which aren't backed by rigorous scientific and anthropologic data and have been criticized. the Wiki article can be easily modified, but the general consensu…

I had a friend like this, where initially I was like "well, shes never really done anything to me" when the vulnerable narcissist lightbulb went off. But she did - it's death by a thousand cuts. It's …

MDMA triggered my deconstruction from Christianity. I was already on that path, but the experience opened me up to the possibilities of what ***God*** could be. And what its definitely not

Meditation often exposes infections within oneself. Your meditative experience allowed for the bandaid to be ripped from the infection that had been festering. The most important tool in meditation…