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Thank you for your response and your sympathies. Just a few things to note, I think it’s worth looking at the history of these practices. For centuries, monks have sought out remote caves or engaged i…

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

What to do with LLMs taking over? I'm LOST. — So we are in the era of AI and LLM, I got it. I've invested 20 years of my life into coding and information technology. (I've got a degree and such, I even have a personal blog with programming stuff…

We all have this problem, what's your solution? (i will not promote) — I'll cut straight to the chase, do you **focus your marketing on**: 1. **The benefits of your product** (which other solutions similarly provide) 2. **The novel way those benefits are delivered** (wh…

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

Help me understand what happened here after around 2 months of dating and talking with someone I knew from 7 years ago — Hey all, I need some perspective on this to help me process. I'm 33M. I met this girl (30F) about 7 years ago when we were both working at a bar. We always got on really well and hooked up one ni…

Am I crazy? I feel like a stalker. — I (26F) don’t understand how my ex (31M) switched on me overnight, and I’m struggling to cope. We dated for almost a year. At first, he was obsessed with me. He talked constantly about our future mar…

Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain. — I didn't plan to go no contact. I just got to a point where I realized every time I reached out I felt worse for three days afterward. So I stopped. Day 1–7 was the worst week of my life. Worse than …

Become Indifferent Neville says. But it's easier said than done. My Tips. — If you want to be in charge of your creations you have to become indifferent to your own reactions. And it sounds easy until someone triggers the bejeezus out of you. Politics, your mother in law, pe…

You will be rewarded openly! I promise! — How to manifest your desire? Well, We all know the "How"(Techniques to get into the state) but We don't know "How" (bridge of incident) whole thing will arranged itself to produce the result of the i…

I (32F) trusted my partner (34M) completely until I discovered he lied about a “friend” he talks to daily and that they were texting very appropriate. I’m shaking and feeling lost — I’m a 32F and my partner is 34M. We’ve known each other for many years and have a long history together. We were apart for a while in the past but recently decided to try again because we both felt th…

People Pleasers Make the Worst Partners — I'm a Codepedent in Recovery. My partner is also a Codependent (Severe) and he's refusing healing and is a Chronic People pleaser. Being in a relationship with a people pleaser is exhausting. You sl…

I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…

The Double Body Technique : A Great astral projection method. — # The Double Body Technique: What is The Double Body? **The double body** is a visualized form resembling yourself, created through imagination. This construct can be inhabited and used for astral pr…

what finally got me to shift - I broke my mind ⋆˚࿔ — I used to be the person who would try to shift every single night and wake up crying from a failed attempt because I was so frustrated with the fact that I wasn’t shifting. I thought that I fully be…

After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process? — I met my husband when I was a 20 year old college student and even though he is 4 years older than me, I became a pseudo-mother upon meeting him. For the last 10 years, I have been the sole breadwin…

Admitted to Stanford but at the cost of my childhood — I am a high school senior who has spent the past 18 years growing up in a middle-class Asian family in the Bay Area. My parents constantly complain that they have no money, no connections, and no adva…

I Astral Projected — I actually astral projected but it was a little scary, due to tgw fact it was such a new experience.. Firstly to explain how this even came to a possibility ill describe the events leading to this mom…

My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…

What does fixed air mean to you? — I find the air signs hard to imagine when it comes to analogies, because of air's immaterial nature. The water signs are easy. Fixed water is like a bog or ice. Mutable water is like the ocean. Cardin…

First provoked exit from the body, Raduga method, smart band analysis — Yesterday afternoon I received a smart band with a vibrating alarm on my wrist so as not to wake my partner. I had previously experienced two spontaneous OBEs within a 2-3 month period, but I had neve…

No need to overthink it — When it comes to getting your desires, we tend to overthink them at times. “Does this really work? Will it happen? When will it happen? Do I need to do xyz to get my desires? What if what if what if.”…

I don’t like it when I cannot do my yoga and meditation. — Sometimes I cannot do my yoga and meditation due to outside situations. Fx we had people come over just now, and it meant I couldn’t do practices. If I don’t do my practices I slowly start to feel anx…

Just do it. — Sounds so easy. Youre "just doing it!" You've seen the nike commercial. Just do it, get going, start now. Flow state! Yeah that's bullshit. Just doing something is easy. Everyone is motivated to lo…

Just three months of dating and I'm having a tough time getting over it. — Hey everyone. So, I (28/M) met my ex (43/F) about three months ago. I was a bit fresh out of my previous relationship, which I ended after almost two years because of sexual incompatibility. I was j…

My sister admitted that mom responds differently to her than she does to me — For years I always felt like my parents but most especially my mom never took anything I said seriously or just didn’t listen to me. If I was arguing about something, she’d tell me I’m wrong and to sh…

8 Months No Contact — It's almost 8 months no contact now. I still have a deep sadness - I was hurt like I've never been hurt before. But I'm overcome by a deep sense of injustice. For all her cruelty and betrayal. And the…

I just realized how simple shifting is — I just realized that I don’t need to learn how to shift because I already know how to do it. I am doing it right now. I’m just not shifting to the reality I want. So really all I have to do is align m…

manifestation + past changing — Hi to all of you!! It’s my first ever time writing something on Reddit. Well, I have actually been reading many stories to find courage, but I am new to being the one with the story hahah. Okay, so I …

When will my time come? I am 32 and burnt out. I had a hard life. Nothing was easy. Will my time come? Would be happy to hear tome positive things — Appreciate any insight

Uncertainty gave me happiness again. — Feel like I've been waiting around the last few years, and I'm not even sure what I'm waiting for. I'm just hoping life will fall on my lap one day. But life is out there, and it's also waiting. T…

How to deal with resentment about past behavior that is no longer present? — My ex (30f) broke up with me (30m) about 2 years ago after a boundary violation on my part. The distress I experienced after the breakup is what first led to me to read about codependency and to under…

I think I just “received” something about Chris Bledsoe’s prediction, but I don’t have enough knowledge to better develop my reasoning about what I received. Is there any astrologer, chemist and alchemist here in this group? The question is something about regulus, halogen, tennessine and antimony. — This also seems to have to do with Archangel Michael. If you are a astrologer, chemist and alchemist, could you please tell us if you can visualize any possible physics or metaphysics connection betw…

If you didn’t reach out to them today, be proud of yourself — If you made it through the day, although hard and almost impossible, be proud of yourself. If you did the things you needed to do today to take care of yourself, be proud of yourself. If you reflect…

Overgiving Advice for a healthier mindset — Hello everyone, Im not sure if this is the right subreddit but I genuinely need help with general relationships with people. ​Im very thankful to whoever gives their experiences and advice. I am an o…

It is REAL. It is easy. — First things first, I want to start with some of the things I did. \- manifested a change in my position at my job (was close to termination) \- manifested extra on tax returns \- manifested my dre…

You have the answers — ​ Hello folks, hope your day is going well! Below i'll post the final chapter to a short work I put together. while out of context it does provide some useful tips on how to be. A dedicated …

What products should I use for straight Asian hair? — So what products and which brands should I use to style my hair? I have straight Asian hair and I have tried some products but none of them worked. Most of them didn’t do much and only made my hair l…

Moving forward without a confession — I’m sure this question has been asked many times. But how do you move on without a confession of cheating? I guess this could be considered more of a rant than anything. I’ll try to shorten this the…

Need help — I am struggling right now. I have been separated from my ex for six weeks and I am pretty sure she is with another man tonight. She asked me to hang out. With the kids tonight so she could go have …

Oh boy do I have a story — For context I am 24(F) in Kenya and I practice manifestations techniques yk, for fun and to practice as well... so I came back to school because I had a retake for a certain exam. And for context, th…

Letting you go is the best decision to protect myself — My final act of love won’t be a hundred missed calls or text messages. It will be the silence you always wanted. Not because I stopped caring, but because I finally learned to care for myself. I won’…

The only advice you need. — MANIFESTING IS EASY. let's get that cleared up. You don't need a million rules, you don't need to do anything other than making it fun and natural . Seriously. Manifesting is something we do every s…

My boyfrien 'M28' and I 'F28'of almost 3 years still hasn’t started his divorce and I feel hurt. — My boyfriend '28M' and I '28F'have been together for almost 3 years. When we first started seeing each other, we were both going through a divorce. I had already started my process before meeting him …

i realized i've been saying "i'm fine" so much that i actually convinced myself — i've always been the "chill" friend. the one who's like yeah i'm good with whatever, i don't care where we eat, no it's fine you pick, i'm easy. and for a long time i thought that was a good thing?? l…

Interval timers are pure gold for meditation! — Meditating in the mornings is easy. My mind is normally calm and it is easy to meditate for 30-40 minutes after waking up. But once the day starts, my mind comes with all sorts of excuses to not med…

My Experience as a Beginner — I was introduced to meditation as a teen, when I went through a productivity phase. Just starting university, was going through some stuff, and I wanted to find a "better" version of myself, whatever …

The shock of secondary dissociative disorder — I got a cPTSD diagnosis on wednesday. I’m soon to be 40, woman, chronic pain patient at the severest level with trigeminal neuralgia since 2012. I got new treatment that made the pain managable a year…

Terrified of having a MRI and need help — Hi everyone, About a month ago I (27f) had a routine appointment with my neurosurgeon for a hydrocephalus check up, and they ordered an MRI (since I haven’t had a brain mri since 2004 and apparently …

I think a better phrasing would be assigning responsibility, not blame. Our parents neglected their responsibilities to us when they neglected us. It's less about pointing a finger at a person and mor…

>She found someone else at the 3rd month mark. And women say they don't have easy. lmao How are you doing now?

1. Daydreaming that makes you feel emotional isn’t what Murphy or Goddard are talking about. It is about feeling the reality of what you want to have happen now, that is the feeling. Emotions might co…

I don’t relate to attaching to my therapist, but I certainly was blindsided by some of the anxious traits that have popped up after I started healing. It was pretty disconcerting until I read in a boo…

Thanks for such valuable advice. It meant a lot. I'm in sp situation. And when other person is envolved things get tricky... I'm doing my best to visualize. Sometimes it felt like it can happen. Wh…

You have to give more time to build a rapport with people from the apps.  People in the wild, you instantly see them in person without any competing preconceived notions, then you gradually get to k…

You can build your own using ansible pretty easy.

Congrats! Think the most important thing is to pinpoint the right content niche - high demand, but also from well-paid individuals so that advertisers are willing to work with you. Not easy. I had a g…

Cloudflare is fast, cheap and easy. Fastly from what I know offers more as it's based on Varnish but very few people need that level of complication. I only worked on one project that needed Varnish.…

Totally get where you’re coming from, I’ve worked with someone teaching people how to land local business clients by offering done-for-you sites + recurring services (but using GoHighLevel instead of …

Thanks...yes it's not easy. It's a shame that nobody has even heard of attachment styles until they are in a mess...

I like this idea. It seems to help both the anxious leaning and the avoidant just check in for the day rather than the avoidant expecting to have to check in continuously, or the anxious person waitin…

Much appreciated. It definitely hasn't been easy. Eye opening, humbling, but worth it so far. Not sure what I can/can't put on here, I'm a newbie to Reddit, but if you want a glimpse of it, check out …

This is a really good point! Texting is too easy. It should be a way to ask about an IRL convo... not THE convo!

So, I don't keep counts of my manifestations. But I swear by scripting. Scripting has changed my life. I am a very rational person myself. I strongly believe in science but I also believe in God/uni…

For me, understanding is key for my healing. Having this community and its members (like you) helps with the other parts that are a bit too sharp to handle on my own.❤️ Therapy helps, but this firs…

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you might be describing the 'Drama Magnet + The Citadel' trauma attachment patterns, which often come from emotional neglect childhood experience for you, and con…

It's likely to be your abandonment wound having a flare up. Something about them, perhaps their mannerisms or even lack of fighting makes you feel uneasy. This is likely to trigger the wound Lack of …

Yes that could be a good interpretation of it! It could also be that maybe this woman in the example had a good story about relationships in general but just not her current partner for whatever reaso…

Its very simple but not easy. For starter, you try to find the longest time you can go without losing your mind and ask for reassurance. Then add +30 minutes each time. Do it like how you lift weights…

I feel you. That thought of being used is terrifying, I know this might not be what you want to hear but you might be projecting past partners behaviour or fears on to him, as in, if others treat you …

Why not find that fulfilled+wanted feeling through other means—a hobby, travel, other relationships such as family or friends, a job…some passion that is yours and leads to some kind of connection. Wh…

The second to last paragraph here is so important. I didn't truly start healing until I realized that I was treating relationships like they were something I could react correctly to rather than corre…

I am going through this exact same scenario right now with a girl. I met her while traveling and got her number, and we've spent time on Discord hanging out together. Eventually, I asked her if I coul…

curious how you react when similar situations happen to you and only you? sometimes we codependents think we are empaths because of how much we feel but actually we lack cognitive empathy and, in some…

As people said, both are the real her. But it can change as she gets more secure, and she may get more secure as she sees she can consistently count on you in her relationship. If you want to make it …

My therapist has suggested dedicated “rumination time” when I let my thoughts wander freely for a 30 minute duration every day at the same time. Outside of that window, I need to gently nudge myself o…

Yeah I guess that's an interesting perspective, thank you. I guess I can see how fear of rejection would show up. I do think part of him feels that the right person would just know and things would ju…

Text of original post by u/BornEducation4428: I am quite curious to hear if there are those who are still in their own "wound care " (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of…

Let me preface this by saying there's a lot of overlap to all these labels we give ourselves. That said based on current attachment theory I'm FA-leaning avoidant becoming more securely attached. I …

I was going to say this too. I thought I was fully healed and now in a relationship and the triggers have resurfaced. Honestly, I feel like I’ve healed more in the last 2 months being in a relationshi…

Not here to give advice. Here to say I’m currently going through exactly the same thing. This is the first time I commit to a relationship and I’m battling the urge to break up every single day. I r…

I (49F) am a recovering anxiously attached person. I did a lot of work in therapy after my dismissive avoidant ex discarded me in a blindsided breakup. My goal was to heal so that I never, ever get in…

As an anxious -attachment, it's not that easy. Many of us, especially as women, when it comes to relationships and our experiences, we need to remember --> everything with LIFE are a process. Growth, …

I’ve been frozen for 2 days ever since my friend told me she feels my txts have been tense, noted I haven’t been in contact, and asked me if I was mad at her Literally just frozen. Like what am I su…

Similarly, I sometimes feel like I don't know if I'm happy or content. Like, if I'm laughing, I know I'm happy, but if I'm in a more neutral state it can be harder to read. I've broken up with people …

My win is finding out about dismissive-avoidant attachment style. Since childhood, at very specific moments, I would shut down to people, often those close to me, like family and romantic partners. I…

Thats a trap i fall into every time I start dating. I think if things go well with one person we can fall into the mindset of "well then things could go well with other people too" which although true…

It's possible but unlikely. I've tried it and it's only worked out one time over dozens of first dates. Total lack of interest or reciprocation from everyone. The let's be friends is pretty much alw…

Before getting into a relationship when I was 28, dating was really easy. I could get dates whenever I wanted. Now there are two changes (1) I became more selective and (2) the 35+ dating scenario doe…

Advice needed: TLDR: Do I drop someone for being not good at conversation when Im comparing them to an emotionally unavailable potential partner.   Im currently talking to a very sweet guy (let's cal…

This confirms my initial assumption - based on your comment, you can easily make new friends but I have a feeling that finding a new romantic partner doesn’t come as easy. Hence the unease and stress …

I met my now husband on hinge January 2024. Went exclusive end of January 2024. Moved in together August 2024 (his lease ended so it made sense to move into my condo). Engaged May 2025. Bought our hou…

"I wish you told me sooner?" You guys met on a dating app though! It's not like you were pining after a coworker.  I'm sorry you went through this. This one is grinding my gears on your behalf. Pers…

My crush and I met on Saturday for Valentine's Day. I brought her 6 roses and she got me an incredibly thoughtful and adorable gift. I smiled so hard seeing her for the first time, she's just so beaut…

met someone in person over the holidays and only recently started becoming confused about their behavior. some context, we don’t live in the same city (about 4 hours apart), and the question of whet…

that's fair i totally get that worry, but it's not as hard as people might think. i go out with my single friends and frequent public spaces like gym, coffee shop, bars, work events. when i'm at any o…

What is the emotional version of "promiscuity," my heart might just be easy. I can't describe a time where this has happened to me. Maybe it's a function of being the initiator most of the time, so I …

Oh yeah. It was sort of dismissed with an "you know I love you". And then when he sent valentine flowers the card with it was completely blank, and I made a joke about him not even expressing feelin…

My last person was extremely avoidant. I’m not one of those who hate them - he was a great person and I want nothing but the best for him. I’d say this relationship seems more open than that, but I ca…