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Thank you for taking the time to read and respond! I 100% agree and you probably stated it best. When something someone says hurts me, or even silence... I take it very personally and begin to eithe…

How to overcome lack of mobile experience? — I'm a mid-early senior product designer with over 5 years working on SaaS/Enterprise products. The issue is that they've all been for desktop. Quite a few roles i've been applying to have some need fo…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

Hardstuck in Pre-Seed. i will not promote — Hey fellow startupers, I actually wanna hear some advice from you guys. Currently we're in pre-seed, and tbh, last year when we were having money problems I thought once we overcome them, we'd kinda s…

Parallax effect issue on mobile using theme — I'm trying to find out if anyone is using Flatsome or any other theme, experiencing issue with parallax scrolling effect? I tested it on a few phones using Chrome browser app, then tried it on Firef…

I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

How to soothe myself when they say they aren't upset. — I am very fortunate to have consistent, attentive, loving people in my adulthood. I haven't conquered my unhealthy habits that come from my attachment system, however. My husband is wonderful. He st…

My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…

A decision of a cub — Hey fellow Cubs and Lions, Funny, but this is my second post today (I deleted the first one) after years of silently going through the Index and the posts religiously, without posting anything at all…

3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…

How do I beat decision paralysis? — My entire life I've struggled with making decisions, whether it's choosing what food to buy at the shop, which route to take on a trip, or more important things like what job to take, or what I should…

If You Get to the Center Time Stops; Sun as the Center — During yesterday morning's tarot card reading, I received the message, "if you get to the center of the wheel, time stops." My interpretation was that getting to the center means *perceiving* time as …

How do you stay present even when you are feeling the pressure to run? — My bf and I are long distance and he's very very very loving and sweet. The best bf I could have ever asked for. He understands and accepts my feelings even when I'm feeling avoidant, but right now I'…

You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…

Struggling with a morning porn habit that ruins my whole day need advice — I’m a final-year undergraduate student trying to get my life together and focus on my career. I really want to improve myself, learn more, and get a good job after graduation. But there’s one habit th…

Men having rigid body type preferences — I'm (45f) 5'8", thin. Not underweight, but a thin person with largish tatas of Scandinavian descent. I matched with a man on an app and went on a date, where he told me that his ideal type is a pet…

Personal journey with psychedelics — Hi peeps :) So, I wouldn’t say I’m a seasoned veteran in traversing the inner workings of my mind, but I’m no armature either, I’ve personally done shrooms around 30-40 times, each time around 2.5-3 g…

The secret to manifestation — I posted here about a year ago about an experience I had with the I AM state. Since then, my life has changed completely. Manifestation became absolutely natural, to the point where it became a questi…

Why am i so average — I've put effort in everything I do, and yet everything I do leads to just an average outcome. How do other people try a lot less and do much better? Is life only successful if I have raw talent and we…

What We Really Need To Heal — Not sure if anyone else feels this way: but I'm kinda over all the "healing" stuff. Because it doesn't work. And I think there's too much pressure on survivors to "heal". The only way that we can …

Saturn in the 4th House – How to Overcome It? — Hi everyone, I’m posting here because I’m trying to better understand a placement in my natal chart that has always felt quite heavy to live with: Saturn in the 4th house in Gemini, conjunct my Moon …

My(25F) boyfriend(25M) tells my mom too much and it pisses me off — This is a throwaway. We’re 25. We’ve been friends for a really long time and dating for 5 years. And my mom has known him since he was a kid cuz she’s his family doctor. They’re quite close too becaus…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

I got a call from my lawyer — I'll make this quick, but 6 months ago I was arrested for something I didn't do. Since then I have remained under investigation for Conspiracy to commit fraud and it's turned my life around. The polic…

I have a Cardinal T-Square with an apex Mars in the 2nd House, squaring my Sun/Mercury and Saturn. How do I overcome this internal blockage? — Hey everyone. I’m trying to understand the Cardinal T-Square in my chart, with my 11H Sun and Mercury opposite my 5H Saturn, all pointing to Mars in my 2nd House. This honestly feels like one of the…

Realised me and my wife of 12 years have a codependent relationship! Can we change? — Hello, I've had quite the few weeks… I’ve been married to my wife for 12 years we both grew up in very religious households which is part of what brought us together in terms of shared values and try…

How to deal with strong intrusive thoughts? — Hi everyone, I have a problem I'd like everyone's advice/insight on. I've had a very suppressed/repressed mind since childhood, which eventually precipitated in mental illness at the age of 33 (I'm 40…

I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …

Dealing with bf — My bf(26) and I(f25) have been together for over 2.5 years. He has always had a drinking problem, however he’d usually drink 12-18 packs on weekends, and an occasional 6 packs 1-2 weekdays. Lately, th…

How can i use my 12th house stellium to my benefit? — https://preview.redd.it/u3ie7zi3xjqg1.png?width=700&format=png&auto=webp&s=e1f7988ac1239b37f1bfc57f511e0dcd1ad27af5 I very much am a textbook sagittarius but i feel as though the house it occupies st…

My girlfriend (27F) flirts with other people in front of me (28F) and it makes me feel disrespected-how do I handle this? (together 4 years) — Hi everyone, I need some advice. My partner and I have been together for almost 4 years, and one recurring issue is that she's naturally very flirty with everyone. I love her and I trust that she lov…

Boyfriend anxious about being with one person forever — I (25F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for a year. This past year has had its ups and downs with a lot of personal changes happening like moving states, starting a new job, etc. Overall, our relat…

Writing a letter to someone who hurt you — It‘s a common task in (trauma) therapy, as I‘ve been told. As someone who went through severe childhood bullying and has been working through my trauma for the past 10 years (by myself, but go to ther…

Tired of toxic connections.. can my birth chart help me finding the right people? — I’ve been trying to understand how to not stay stuck in what hurt me + somehow still find people I actually feel aligned with. I also wonder if some of these patterns make sense through my chart, lik…

How can I attract genuinely aligned friendships? (my NN is in the 11th but I have a very hard time with it) — Hi! I’m very interested in the insights of this sub bc I’m not very experienced with astrology but even less with the whole sign system. Just right now while transferring my chart in whole sign notice…

How to handle envy? — I am new to stoicism and maybe do not understand it completely so apologies in advance! Recently I cant help but been feeling jealous of another person who is dating a woman i liked. Initially I rea…

Realized that I am a serial monogamy because I can't handle grief — TL;DR: I can't stop trying to find new people to date because i can't deal with the pain after breakup Since I broke up with my first partner back in 2024, I have never stopped dating. I have been in…

8 Months No Contact — It's almost 8 months no contact now. I still have a deep sadness - I was hurt like I've never been hurt before. But I'm overcome by a deep sense of injustice. For all her cruelty and betrayal. And the…

Friend with horrible mental health and I don't know what to do — Giving a little bit of context, I been friends w this person since childhood. We been through elementary, middle, high school and most of uni together and their mental health has always been pretty ba…

Help PLEASE — so hi everyone, I've been looking for an app like this where I can feel heard and understood by older people with more life experience and more emotional knowledge than me. I also need some advice on …

Woke up last night to vibrations and heard something that scared me — So I’ve been trying to astral project for about a year now and have experienced vibrations couple times but always get scared and end up waking myself up. Last night, I “woke up” with vibrations aga…

I still have hope — He doesn’t love me anymore. And I don’t even want to call him ex. I love him so much. He’s my soulmate. We had so much love. Our relationship wasn’t perfect but I thought that we can overcome everythi…

When is love not enough? Please help me understand — When we first got together she was up front with me about her emotional issues. I was OK with them, having dealt with my own demons for so long. But I didn't realize how severe her issues were. Two co…

Impatience with shifting — Lately Ive been seeing a lot of posts from people who have been trying to shift for years without success, and its kinda starting to worry me. Im lowk scared that the same thing will happen to me and …

Indian Parents and their control over Children! — I'm a 23 year old women, I somehow wanted to speak about this! wanted to know If I'm not alone in this world. I'm a grown up adult now, due to strict parenting in my childhood here I am having lot's …

Spiritual experiences — I would like to share my perspective on a series of intense spiritual experiences I encountered during my Sadhana. ​My practice centered on the Japa of a specific Mantra consisting of a single Beej A…

A message I won't send — Hello, I just wanted you to know that I miss you deeply. We never gave ourselves a proper chance. We let our fears, and our past traumas, dictate our behaviour, and this poisoned our resolution. But…

Scared of learning and stagnation — I have some learning challenges and find that I am scared of learning. How do I overcome this fear? Because of this, I have stagnated in my life. I want to grow as a person but don't know what to stud…

My Dearest, Love — As I began to drift off tonight, I thought of you. This time it was different. It was the first time all day. But I am overcome with grief right now. You’re fading, my love. Another goodbye, a quiet g…

I feel called out o.O But its also nice to know there's a whole bunch of people who feel the same way. It sucks that we all had to go through shitty childhoods, but at least we're trying to overcome …

Hm. I wonder if that could be it. But I'm also super new to spirituality. How do I overcome this? I'm wondering if also maybe it was because it was the first time I was trying to separate my conscious…

Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…

When I said self hate, I meant those posts which very obviously points to OP not having a desire to be better. It refers to posts just venting and talking about how useless and worthless they are, how…

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …

>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

I disagree. Some avoidants will be good at hiding yes, and that's because in their avoidance + arrested emotional development, the initial playful energy will cause you to mirror and stop noticing the…

I get what you're saying with respect to people taking responsibility for their actions, but I think it's unrealistic to expect everyone to be at the same point in their healing journey as you are. If…

By not chasing and instead matching their pace. Absolutely reply when they text you, and match the energy if you can. Ideally you’d want to be perceived as safe, so when they text you should be detach…

Never give up on friendship or love. You can overcome this

Ahh, man. I'm sorry to hear that. It sucks big time. I empathise with you. I have found understanding attachment theory & limerence helpful , too, but only up to a point. I sometimes think, regardless…

You claimed that the most toxic things APs do is “have too much empathy,” which amusingly points to one of the primary hurdles APs have to overcome in order to heal.  I claim that the most toxic shit …

Yeah, I feel you my friend. That hypervigilance that's always sort of "on" under the surface. And what makes it harder to overcome is the fact that we can point to all these instances where that hyp…

Healing DA here, and my best advice: don’t wait on her at all. She’s losing interest due to ur availability and her lack thereof. You waiting only makes her lose respect and even more attraction. Not …

Avoidant attachers don’t just decide when they want to be avoidant and when they don’t. It’s built into their subconscious. So it’s not just about them choosing someone—they have no problem choosing s…

Before I was aware of attachment issues this sentiment would just feel like annoyance at their presence, like I'm unhappy and I just want to leave them. Now I know, when I start feeling uncomfortable …

If you had truly followed this sub,studied and read the index, you would have learned to use the search bar to find previous posts concerning a similar topic as well as an assortment of advice on how …

I think it depends on what you want. If your boyfriend is FA and he doesn't know how to regulate his feelings then the exact thing that he would do is breakup/ghost you when he started to become emot…

Have you managed to overcome these behaviours? If so, How did you manage to?? I’m in my 20s and do pretty much everything you’ve described, in the moment I can’t see the full weight of what i’m doing,…

Looking for some advice because I am struggling a lot at the minute. I (31F) have been with my (35M) partner for 2,5 years. We have a good relationship and it is the first mature relationship I have b…

In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …

In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …

In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …

Not OP, but, as an FA, I would say that if pride or anger is an issue, it's probably actually fear and insecurity. When we're afraid and insecure, we go into fight or flight mode. When the mode is fig…

In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …

Text of original post by u/Positive-Entrance193: In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 2…

Stay away from dating apps. It will literally set you back in your recovery. This is the best advice I can give someone trying to overcome anxious attachment. 

Hello, I am also trying to improve my romantic/social life and am trying to figure out what style of attachment I am in order to overcome and grow as a person.. As the mods don't seem to approve my …

Text of original post by u/DrawStringBag: I am very fortunate to have consistent, attentive, loving people in my adulthood. I haven't conquered my unhealthy habits that come from my attachment system,…

Indeed the thought is that when people with attachment disorders remove themselves from difficult situations they are safe That would mean they have stepped aside from the cyclical nature of this I…

You might benefit from a combination of 1. reducing "enmeshment" by strengthening each person's individual interests, by say, taking separate evening classes at a community college and talking to ea…

He’s not avoidant. He talks to me everyday but it’s just my anxieties and worries. How do you overcome that? What helped you?

i haven’t overcome it…. however when i am with my friends, this feeling is alleviated. JOURNAL!!!! when you feel anxious about him, journal about your feelings and communicate with him and tell him yo…

You’re welcome! As somebody who has worked hard to overcome his anxieties, following a divorce three years back and reclaim a secureness in relationships, I know how difficult it can be to find your g…

Kids will want love, nurturance, and constant supervision. You won't be able to get away from that (for long). Having said that, I'm sure some FAs/DAs can overcome their programming for their kids. A…

I appreciate that. When I read some subreddits people say it's so easy to become secure and overcome those feelings, when I also hear from attachment therapists that: it's really hard, the success cha…

You can't force someone to overcome their own fears and try to make the relationship work. Breakups are always painful, especially when you're still attached to them. In order to detach yourself, you …

More often than not, my partner is understanding of my anxious attachment behaviour (i.e., When I act out on impulses and blow up the situations). But I still doubt his intentions because he is able t…

Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…

“You can face the pain again, but you don’t have to let it consume you. You can overcome it by not engaging and choosing grief for the connection ending over attachment pain and intermittent turmoil b…

Guy I’ve been seeing asked me over and now I feel repulsed and don’t want to talk to him again. I don’t even dislike anything about him. This happens with every guy I romantically involve myself with …

I've been recently trying to better myself into being more securely attached for my ex and I's relationship. I found an influencer by the name of Margarita Nazarenko ([Instagram](https://www.instagram…

How do I feel content with my life without needing someone to surround my life with? Earlier this year I realized something about my self that I genuinely don't feel happy unless if I surrounded my …

I have never been attracted to secures so that would be a no for me. I've been with my partner for 11 years, he's FA and we have been able to become secure together. We both had things to work on so…

Jonice Webb PhD Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect Ichiro Kishimi The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real…

Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…

I had this conversation with my therapist because I was also unsure which label fit best. She said that if I were aromantic rather than avoidant, my avoidance would only show in romantic situations/re…