neurodivergent

That's a tough spot to be in. Just a thought, do you maybe think you might have "neurodivergent" qualities? Like ADHD or autism spectrum?? I'm not trying to armchair diagnose you of course, but I had…

Reflections of my healing journey (avoidant) — I’m grateful I decided to work on myself I still consider myself a constant work in progress (I’m neurodivergent,communication and misunderstanding has always been an issue) I used a lot of self h…

Did anyone here grow up with a parent who was autistic/neurodivergent or emotionally distant/neglectful ? — Hi everyone. I (20f) am posting because for a long time i have known that I was very emotionally neglected as a child and I’m wondering if anyone here grew up with an autistic parent. My mom was diag…

I’m 19 and left with a 4yo autistic sister. I feel extremely hopeless. — I’m 19f, my mom passed away November 2025 and Im left with a 5year old neurotypical sister and 4 year old sister diagnosed with autism, ocd, and adhd. My sisters and I have different fathers, their fa…

Neurodivergence(?) and meditation problems — Hi there, I hope you are doing well. Ive had a bit of an existential crisis about a month ago, a sudden spout of dread that has been trickling away bit my bit through each day, like how a wave di…

Could use some compassion - I broke up with my ex of nearly two decades last fall. I was codependent on him for everything. — TW: a depressing and heavy post, self blame, neglect I left him last August after realizing we were holding each other back. I wanted to get married but he just… never proposed. At one point we did …

shifting with LOA is intolerable as an autistic person — Autistic shifter here. I've been in the community since 2021, and the closest I ever got was... in 2021. There's been almost nothing after that, and it gets worse as time goes on. I believe it's becau…

How do you deal with friendships that only partially match your values? — Hey, today I’ve been thinking about my new friends, and my older ones too to be honest, and a pattern has come to my attention. Many times when I get close to someone, or even a moderate friendship s…

Does anyone else have a more negative experience on lower dosages and positive on higher? — To add context im the overthinking anxiety neurodivergent type and simply put on higher amounts i cant string up a rational thought or barely talk, lower dosages my brain functions somewhat hence i ov…

Spiralling please help me — I’m not sure what I’m asking for, someone to make me see the truth and accept what’s going on? Knock some sense into me. I’ve been seeing someone off and on for a year, the last six months being apar…

Does anyone else build an “inner system architecture” instead of a personality? — I’m neurodivergent — ADHD, autistic, highly sensitive, and gifted — and my inner world doesn’t behave like a personality. It behaves like a system. I’ve been developing something I call “Identity Arc…

Life has broken me: depression, bad health, shitty jobs, and an emptiness that even therapy can’t fix — Hey, I was in treatment for severe depression and it turned out a lot of it was actually untreated attention/concentration disorder. With the meds I’m more stable now — my brain only works when you f…

Did anyone else have abusive parents that you've realized are actually neurodivergent and that took out their frustration on you of having to function out in the world(to cope)? — Very specific question based on my experience but I've kept this to myself for so long despite how often I now think about it. curious to see if anyone can relate or has noticed anything similar in th…

Disability discrimination at Goenka retreats — I recently attended a 10-day Vipassana course at Dhamma Dipa (UK). I’m neurodivergent (ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder, awaiting autism assessment) and rely on earplugs as a medically necessary sens…

I don’t know what to do anymore. — M17, neurodivergent. Ever since 2025. I’ve fell into an endless hole of bad behavior. I keep losing people I genuinely liked and increased more of the hateful stuff they make of me. I’m at my lowest. …

High stress jobs — I am a burned-out software engineer. 46 years old, worked for 25 years, possibly neurodivergent. I have recently been trying to find answers to my health issues - energy issues (inconsistent energy le…

it feels like therapy doesn't work for me — i'm going to try not to make this a lengthy post but I have a lot of issues. I grew up in an extremely emotionally, mentally, verbally abusive home and now I suffer from an autoimmune disease,cptsd, a…

I [M23] am facing a decision that might cost me what I think is the love of my life [23F] — TL;DR: After a wonderful but complex 4.5 years, me and my partner separeted. We then kept spending a lot of time with each other and stayed exclusive, before completely ending our contact for a few mo…

Therapist said “no one’s thinking about you. They’re too busy thinkin about themselves”. I think she’s wrong. — I’ve always heard this growing up, but in my experience has been the exact opposite. I was always hyper criticized. Anytime I try something different or do something to take myself out of a social no…

She has never stood up for me and it finally broke me — At 35 I feel completely broken. It was a long time coming and it probably seems dumb to most but I’ve been suffering since she pulled this on me. When I text her about it she ignores me or tells me sh…

She has never stood up for me and it finally broke me — At 35 I feel completely broken. It was a long time coming and it probably seems dumb to most but I’ve been suffering since she pulled this on me. When I text her about it she ignores me or tells me sh…

I'm the bad guy! And I admit it! But I'm growing. — TL;DR I did dumb shit but I've learned & grown & I want some insight from guys who've accepted accountability & made the best from the worst. So I'm gonna get this started with some backstory. STBXW …

I can’t say no — When I was younger I was taught “You can’t say no”. If I didn’t like a food or I didn’t like something done to me I want taught that I couldn’t reject it. If I was I was told by my grandfather (late 5…

Been posting heavy post and i thought I might do one more relaxed — Feel quite intensitie. Haven’t eaten for 6 hours but just feel trapped I know this is heavy already but I don’t want to lie to myself or try pretend I’m happy because then I won’t get the validation I…

AITAH for being mad at my ex for lying about their sexual activity? — So when my ex (30F) and I (32M) were dating, I made it clear that I can feel quite anxious when it comes to sex - for context, I’m neurodivergent (so is she) and I also have OCD. I made it clear that …

Am I justified in feeling mad / violated with my ex lying about her sexual activity / STI status? — So when my ex (30F) and I (32M) were dating, I made it clear that I can feel quite anxious when it comes to sex - for context, I’m neurodivergent (so is she) and I also have OCD. I made it clear that …

Life has broken me: depression, bad health, shitty jobs, and an emptiness that even therapy can’t fix — Hey, I was in treatment for severe depression and it turned out a lot of it was actually untreated attention/concentration disorder. With the meds I’m more stable now — my brain only works when you f…

So bad at calming — So I had a concert for months reserved and just came back from it today as it was last night. Amazing time. I took a half drive and a train the rest of the way because of points I have. In my newish d…

Reclusive partner [32M] and I [32F] trying to have kids — We are together for 5y now, and trying to have kids for the last 1.5y. Infertility is a big problem in the relationship. I have been taking some down time to recover from some fertility treatments, an…

How to stop letting toxic and negative people affect and control my whole life? — ​I want to be a better person—a better woman.in every aspect of life. I really, truly do.👀 ​After months of self-isolation and struggling with depression, I’ve been trying to socialize again, both o…

Interpretations? Kundalini, Father Eagle + Winged Jaguar with Snake — [Morning on Mt. Hood | photo credit: Me! ](https://preview.redd.it/6dqeh8a3f7ug1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=48df689554b127133e9dfd1e25592160d4fdd28c) I need some help interpreting some sy…

The universe feels evil to me — I am not sure about how I wanna express this but I just cannot pinpoint to a reason for the things that happened to me. starting from when i was 15, everything took on a wrong turn. got hidradenitis…

33M Fiancé (32F) told me she feels regret with me but our wedding is in 2 weeks — Over the course of the last month or two, my fiancé has told me multiple times she feels regret choosing me. This has mainly to do with my family and friends. My younger brothers are neurodivergent …

Lonely Despite My Best Efforts-- Vent+Advice Please — This is going to be pretty long because I feel like context is needed. I'm 18F, finishing my first year of college. **Some relevant info:** I have diagnosed ADHD, OCD, and PMDD as well as largely re…

My 35M husband shuts down every time — My husband M/35 and I F/ 34 have been married for 9 yrs together 12. We have 3 kids (7m/6m 3m) 7 yr old is neurodivergent. Anyways anytime i try to bring up an important conversation about the kids or…

Tripping to get back on track — I'm currently midway through my usual "re-centering" myself trip and the few times I've mentioned to someone I do solo trips at home I get a reaction as if it's odd, and know almost no one who does ps…

Mental health sucks and I'm exhausted from it — Just want to vent a little. I'm really tired of trying to fix myself. I'm tired of knowing I have abrasive and self-defeating tendencies that I can not fix. I'm tired of attending therapy, crying a l…

How do i deal with people trying to diagnose me? — HI. I was always someone to do copious research out of anxiety and wanting to know what was wrong with me and that describes so many days of high school(i am graduated now and looking into tutoring En…

Struggling to start healing: keep invalidating myself because I feel like I have not suffered as much as my perpetrators — Hi guys, I am neurodivergent. I grew up with toxic parents, one who chronically invalidates all of their children's life choices, preferences, ideas and beliefs, and another who is emotionally absent…

Little win i wanted to celebrate — I really like this sub, reading it has given me so many ways to express my feelings and understanding what the fuck even actually happened during my childhood. Especially the notion of narcisstic f…

My Mom Makes Me Feel Unsafe in My Own Home — Is This Abuse? — I’m a teenager dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts, and lately I’ve been questioning whether the way my mother treats me is emotionally abusive/narcissistic or if I’m somehow overreacting. …

Do you ever feel like you are from another world? — I'd like to know if someone else has ever felt like this. All my life I always felt like I never belonged, and the fact that I was constantly abused, bullied by everyone around me just seemed to confi…

my (36 F) bf (48 M) has anger issues: do I leave? — My (36 F) boyfriend (48 M) of one year has anger issues, especially at times when he's dealing with a lot like now. I try to support him and have been a good loving partner to him but now I'm starting…

Recently divorced M (44) not sure what I feel about a F friend (48) — Ok, so I divorced three months ago after a 25 year marriage. My ex-wife loved me, I loved her, no third person, but we're neurodivergent and had different love languages .. Shee neglected the couple r…

How childhood trauma and bullying turned into a specific paraphilia (Enuresis/Denim). Looking for perspective. — Hi everyone. I’m a 22yo male (Engineering student) and I’m finally trying to face a complex situation involving childhood trauma, neurodivergence, and a very specific paraphilia. I’m looking for suppo…

How does one go about dating — Okay so I’m a 17 (turning 18) yo trans guy and up until the last year, I’ve had little to no interest in relationships—or people in general—due to mental health reasons as well as other things. Howeve…

He said he has already been over it with me We’re both neurodivergent I have a tendency of forgetting stuff when I’m stressed, audio processing disorder ( we were in a LDR, and this makes hearing …

Well in a interesting turn of events, they texted me on insta and I took the chance to ask them if they'd have time soon and they said that they've been very busy that they barely have time to sit. …

You were very right to hold off and try to calm down before addressing the issue, this could very well be a misunderstanding that doesn't mean you aren't loved. This is coming from someone whose bf is…

You sound secure, but you have issues with limerance. Are you neurodivergent? 

Hello, I am in a relationship which is neither strictly platonic nor romantic. We are both neurodivergent and asexual and met 6-ish months ago, hence the seemingly strange nature of our relationship. …

I am a 65 year old professional man, happily married to another man 25 years. Recently I started reaching out to make more straight "bro" friends because I really don't like the gay scene, (gay men ta…

I went through something similar with my person earlier this year (though I think they're disorganised attachment leaning avoidant, not entirely dismissive). They were actually the one who said they w…

Thank you for this. In the past year I (35) have come to understand myself as neurodivergent (almost definitely autistic, maybe ADHD as well) and am now struggling to heal from the end of what was a v…

Are you neurodivergent? Also, you’re the one who posted here asking strangers - what was the point of that if you don’t see any issues with your way of doing things?

I don't think I'm neurodivergent. I ask strangers here because I know that my conclusions sound abnormal. So I looking for what I am missing here.

I relate hard but I tend to just find people who are as messed up as me who are equally obsessed and we move in together on day one 😬 honestly, I don't think just that aspect it of it necessarily a b…

Unless you have very strong social skills and are a "people person" you absolutely need to be on all the popular dating apps in your area. Diversify and cast a very wide net. And yes it's difficult a…

Direct-within-the-context-of-neurotypical-conversational-norms is not the same as direct-without-them. (I say this as a neurotypical person who has spent a lot of time in relationships with neurodiver…

Who said it was intimidating, and what type of direct communication lol I will say as a neurodivergent man: I've opened up to appreciating why some people don't like direct communication, but it is a…

Had three good dates with a guy I felt a very strong intellectual click with: from the first minute we seemed to fire off and kept on jumping through topics together, for hours on end, despite only me…

I understand everyone needs a bit of "me" time to reset and catch a breathe. Trust me, being neurodivergent myself, I totally understand the need for this... But NO ONE is too busy for seven straight…

Trying to get out of the apps and find things in person. There’s a queer Valentine’s event on Saturday with a mix and mingle element. You can pick from non-binary, neurodivergent, and polyamorous. …

This is great, but can I ask why neurodivergent has been placed in with the others?

A non-insignificant number of neurodivergent people identify as LGBT And I think it’s also an accommodation thing, making sure people feel accommodated for or that they won’t be overwhelmed by a typi…

nah the doctor analogy makes sense, but i have not encountered it. my type is emotionally reflexive, politically outspoken neurodivergent women tho so i’m biased. it seems like you’re looking for …

>I think I have the ability to appreciate people and care about them deeply >even when I like someone and can imagine building a life with her, I just don’t *feel* anything. I think you need to re…

That's really interesting. We are both neurodivergent, which is also why I think potentially we have both been too subtle for one another to pick up "cliues". So far, I have just asked him if he would…

I’m glad to hear that you like the version of yourself when you’re with him! That conversation you described seems incomplete and waiting to be picked up again. I think the topic is too tricky to be c…

I saw a reel from a european supermarket a few months back of a woman joking to her bf /fiancé/ husband (dunno which) who grabbed the pink apparently social coded "im available " basket and he wasnt a…

My boyfriend lives with two dogs (his roommates) who are very attached to him and usually in his bed. They always want to cuddle him or be laying next to him and lick his face frequently. He will clea…

Hi. Anyone else have any similar experiences? I’m a gay guy and really want a group of straight buddies for some reason. I love platonic bonds with other guys since I didn’t have any as a kid. I’m m…

Is your bf possibly neurodivergent? That can often come with challenges around expressing the emotion felt; I want to be clear that neurospicy individuals still feel emotions, it just can be really di…

I put in my bio that im neurodivergent and will share that im on the spectrum if asked or it comes up. I mean its gonna come up eventually anyway, why not be proactive about it?

I’m neither neurodivergent nor queer. If you’re looking for someone who will buck gender norms, split bills, what’s the problem? Your dating pool is smaller, and that’s okay. I’m the kind of woman in…

I'm neurodivergent and bi and prefer for the man to pay if he's asked me. If I ask him, splitting is okay, but I prefer him to pay. If I ask a woman out, Ill pay. Also, I'm getting coffee or drinks wi…

So I'm stressing myself out and not even sure if this is the right subreddit to post. Is anyone here neurodivergent and are taking SSRIs? I'm about to start on Zoloft and I'm kinda scared of being fl…

Me pasa igual! Te entiendo, con el agravante horrible de que tengo un físico muy imponente, nadie se imagina que soy neurodivergente, tampoco les importa, ese contraste a mi me da mucha vergüenza, por…

I've gotten that a lot. The vast majority of women who I ask out will accept, but it rarely leads to a second date. Some women will get the "ick" just due to you being neurodivergent and not behaving …

I think it will be difficult but not impossible to date monogamous women with this set of circumstances. Whether it will be harmful depends on the mindset you approach it with. You read neurodiverge…

Are you neurodivergent? This could explain why you feel you don’t process and express emotions the same way as some of the people around you. I’m not saying you are, but I do know that a diagnosis can…

First, it’s okay that you’re not over the moon excited or even interested in the pregnancy or being an aunt. I have been way more excited about news of a new puppy in the family than any of my 6 niece…

As a ADHD/Autistic woman, OPs description of her emotional neutrality to things like shes struggling with really resonated. It can be scary to confront, but diagnosis actually comes with a lot of rel…

Im childfree and have to actively mask and turn on my expressions for pregnant people cause i dont actually care. I mean i care about the person but babies dont excite me. Theyre messy and loud and al…

*short novel alert, sorry, TL;DR at the end* As someone who has been struggling with finding a technique that "just works" for these things as well, and who also just discovered I am neurodivergent (…

Do you feel they chose to be that way with no supporting circumstances? The damage caused is terrifying and outrageous but there’s the fact that my father was given away to an abusive family, abandone…

Living together is a great chance for lazy, entitled men to make women do all the work. I'm careful and prefer to have my own home. LAT for at least 3 years and if we still love each other very much a…

I had a therapist that argued for toxic positivity as a remedy to combat depression. I guess the understanding in their school of thought is that depression is not just a sad feeling all the time, it'…

Also, setting boundaries and respectfully asserting yourself in these situations is a SKILL. It’s one I never learned. I am in the thick of it right now! I am in a leadership position with a person wh…

Fellow neurodivergents and weird introvert folks (affectionate), Any recommendations for **online quizzes, prompts, or games** that we could do together with the persons we're dating, that could act …

Exposure therapy doesn't really work if you're neurodivergent. I learnt that I'm probably autistic recently.

Yes, that’s very likely. So what could help in the case of being neurodivergent?

This depends on what you mean. If you mean exposure won't treat being neurodivergent it's true. If you mean that neurodivergent people who have anxiety disorders don't benefit from exposure therapy th…

I broke up with my ex 10+ years ago. I still have moments where a memory, good or bad, pops into my head and I feel a flare of emotion, usually very negative. Through therapy, I understand that this…

I know someone who also doesnt identify w their sign and he happens to be neurodivergent

So giving context as a neurodivergent person, im overly observant and overthink about touch and consent around other folks i date and dont generally go for a kiss on a first date (which can be a sign …