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What are some double binds you remember from growing up?

Two spring to mind! First: If something difficult happened my mom would get upset if I was acting upset about it, I couldn't visibly cry or look like I wanted to cry without her lashing out at me. I …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/10/2026
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

r/DevOpspost6/30/2023
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

r/attachment_theorypost10/23/2025
Effective ways to get lucid dreams 80%

Effective ways to get lucid dreams 80% — A way that you might think is contrary to the ways on the internet, but this is actually the most effective way according to me, how? This is the way. The first way, this method often allows you to h…

r/LucidDreamingpost3/10/2026
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically (Update)

I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically (Update) — Hello everyone excuse any grammatical errors or spelling im a little tipsy at the moment. I wanna start this with a trigger warning there is attempted suicide involved so if you can't take that stuff …

r/relationship_advicepost3/29/2026
How do I stop seeing everything so negatively?

How do I stop seeing everything so negatively? — In general I am a really unhappy person. I have a lot of good things, but all of my instinctual thoughts are negative. If people are too happy around me, I feel irritated. If someone cuts me off in tr…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/3/2026
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

Yes, I do this myself and see this happen with the guy I'm dating as well. I think it's triggered by positive feelings/increased connection or vulnerability. For me, when we get closer, or when he tel…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/20/2025
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

Oh my god, I totally relate to this! One of the saddest aspects of my own avoidant tendencies is that, in some ways, I’m even more uncomfortable with intense positive emotions than negative ones. It’s…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment12/24/2025
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

When I see others who i think are being too happy I either judge them too or sadly envy them, depending on my mood. Either way, I know it's a me problem. >Anything other than vaguely bored and dissat…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment12/24/2025
Anxious Attachment Injury - Nervous System Stuck in Fight/Flight

Its cliche to say this but it is true when people say to focus on yourself. They just kind of suck at explaining how. I'm going through a new break up right now and what kept me stuck before the most …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/3/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Follow up to me [ending things with Casual Guy](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/s/o7Ml3P7aXn): The fact that he just replied “ok” reeeeeally bruised my ego. I know it comes from a bad place …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/12/2026
„Did you forgive them yet?“ — I stood my ground and said NO.

For Christians who weaponize spirituality, I tell them forgiveness is equivalent to cancelling a debt… bc sinning against someone incurs a debt (hence, the whole sacrifice of Jesus and all)… as eviden…

r/CPTSDcomment3/9/2026
Hypomania with MDMA and doubts

The week after MDMA I usually feel nice but then it dissipates. But LSD numbs me completely. Its kind of wild to me though that people took a look at you and were like "oh no no no you are way too ha…

r/Psychonautcomment3/11/2026
Men having rigid body type preferences

That stinks, but at least they told you about it. Not for nothing, slim with nice tatas is just about every guy I know's type. Of course a thicc Latina or a petite Asian is too. Either every guy I kn…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
APs always strike at the moment your dopamine peaks.

I feel this. Constantly feel like if I’m “too happy” there will be a price to pay, and there’s always something. I cry more than I laugh and smile in my family.

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/16/2026
APs always strike at the moment your dopamine peaks.

My mom literally used to say to me when I was little that “you’ll cry if you laugh too much” so yeah this checks out. It’s like they’re afraid to get too happy or excited…which is sad, but, you know, …

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/16/2026
Being the good spouse doesn’t guarantee a good marriage

That last sentence is really important. My STBXW’s parents marriage ‘died’ decades ago and they legitimately are only still together because they’re too broke, old, and fat to make it on their own or …

r/Divorcecomment3/16/2026
APs always strike at the moment your dopamine peaks.

Yes, because of how I was raised, every now and then, I would feel so guilty for being so happy about something. It instills in me that happiness comes with a cost and it makes me feel like, I can be …

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/18/2026
What’s a behavior or reaction you’ve had that you later realized was actually a trauma response, even though you didn’t recognize it at the time?

Oh so many trauma responses, If someone seems annoyed I assume it's my fault. If i've spoken for more than 30 seconds I get nervous and say sorry I'll shut up, cos i assume no one is interested and t…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/27/2026
You're not allowed to be angry. You're not allowed to feel your emotions.

OMG this - everytime I'm happy I say to myself I'm too happy about this, or I'm too excited about this. even though I've been No contact for nearly a decade and i'm 38. Like you say we have to kill ou…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/28/2026
How do I stray my thoughts away for an exam

Thank you ur right, but I’m just scared of the idea that what if their too happy to be friends and decides to discard me

r/BreakUpscomment4/8/2026
What are some double binds you remember from growing up?

Getting home from school was always nerve wracking. The question "how was your day?" always felt loaded. If I said I had a good day the reply was a sarcastic "well Im glad someone around here had a go…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/10/2026
I [20F] and my Bf [19M] are struggling to get over something that happened, what can we do? (Slight TW)

No, no I get you. I do have a therapist (Through betterhelp) It's not the absolute best obviously, but it's the best I'm able to get currently. You are right with the mental health, It's something I'v…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
23F dating 25M for 2 years: Thoughts on bf keeping nudes of all his exes?

Yeah I'd say it's quite normal dumb 23yo guy behavior. He should delete them and it's completely okay to ask that. His exes are probably not too happy that he still has all that stuff on his phone, he…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
DAE feel as though they are really performative and everything they do is for attention?

Not really, but sometimes I have to, I mean sometimes I have to squeeze joy out of myself even though I don't want to, the problem is that I can't be sad because my parents will be angry, but I can't …

r/CPTSDcomment4/12/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

i'm in a relationship with someone i truly love (and I've been single for 7 years, so i had plenty of time to work on myself and get to understand what i want in a relationship), it's been 5 months on…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment4/12/2026
Was anyone else not allowed to be sad?

Absolutely not allowed to be angry. At all. Ever. Not really allowed to be sad. Couldn't be too happy either.

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/12/2026
Was anyone else not allowed to be sad?

Yes! This sounds like my experience. These days, I try not to get too happy because that's asking for someone to smack me down emotionally. 

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/13/2026