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Yuuup. Eldest "daughter" with a significant age gap. Basically a second "mommy." Raising kids while being told I'm too anxious, too sensitive, too naive to do X, Y, Z thing my parents didn't want to b…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…

Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

Mom is being kicked out — Parentified eldest daughter here. haven’t spoken to my recovering alcoholic mother in years. Doing so always sends me into a spiral. She puts herself in awful, high-risk situations, never chooses her …

Woke up today feeling awful — Today is my 48th birthday. I woke up feeling like a complete loser. My ex wife left almost 4 years ago. I knew we had some issues but nothing to level of divorce. She never mentioned it. Our daughte…

What s month it's been — The title says it all. Confronted my wife last month on the 7th last month at 1 am and learned that she cheated on me and was talking with someone. This was after an emotional affair that I discovered…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…

my 4 year old meditates better than I do — I've been trying to build a meditation practice for years and I'm terrible at it my daughter saw me sitting quietly the other day and asked what I was doing told her I was trying to calm my mind and…

6 month mark, can't progress further right now, but pausing feels shitty too. Leave? — In September, I cautiously decided to start seeing the father of my daughter's best friend. It's been really great, and has helped me work through a lot of emotional stuff including heavy grief. Aft…

Do romantic relationships ever work with enmeshed parenting? — When my ex and I broke up I told him that his mom was going to make his marriage miserable. She disapproved of/disrespected me and we could see it wasn't going to work out. I don't hate him, but I'm o…

My new home — Hello everyone, Since May 2025, I’ve been practicing the Law of Assumption regarding owning a home. I started out affirming for a 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom house and even began viewing properties and att…

parents found out about bf — i’m indian 22f and my parents found about my bf (same age) who is from a different race and culture (we live in the US). my mom seemed to be open to it but my dad lost his shit. told me to stop it imm…

“She doesn’t have to respect you” — My ex was told this today by a person in a position of major power over him after he vented about how I didn’t treat him like I used to when we were married. I mean he did betray and destroy our famil…

AP’s Ex-wife was told not to talk to me. — My original post is. [https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/b5fIkVp6Yr](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/b5fIkVp6Yr) Something that has been on my mind after having a text conv…

My mom was supposed to pick me up after surgery. Instead my son took the bus. — I’m in my 50s and still unpacking things about my mom. Growing up, she was always extremely emotionally absent. There was almost no affection, no comforting, and very little interest in my inner life…

32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth? — I’ve been married for 32 years now, but there is a something from 2006 that I’ve never been able to move past. Back then, my daughters were 11 and 10. We were leaving my parents' house after a weekend…

Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…

HUGE tantrum from my NDad due to my recent success. Hilarious but also depressing. 🫩🥹 — My ndad is currently throwing a tantrum - screaming, stomping around, making threats etc whilst telling my mum and I that it’s my fault, and that I know what I did, therefore avoiding/refusing to expa…

Us who were child victims — Do you absolutely melt when you see a parent go above and beyond to protect or avenge their child? I was not believed by my mother when I told her I was raped at 9 years old by a family "friend." When…

My (19F) Boyfriend (18M) Called Me His Managers Name During Sex — UPDATE: wow I really did not expect this post the get the traction it did. thank you guys so much for the kindness you have shown and a lot of you guys gave some really good advice. the first thing I'…

I am 18F and I’m exhausted dealing with my Indian mom who practically worships her narcissistic, manipulative younger brother and lets him control my life while treating me like garbage. — My mom (44F) has two younger brothers. The one I’m talking about is the middle child. He’s married and has a 10-year-old daughter. In my opinion he is one of the most narcissistic, selfish, and arroga…

Horrified to find myself talk to my baby the way my mom used to talk to me — I grew up with two parents who hated each other but stayed married. They were also emotionally very distant and verbally & physically abusive to me (they'd beat me up sometimes). I don't ever remember…

Found out my husband resents me a lot for my mental illness — Let me start off by admitting I did something wrong. I looked at his Reddit history after seeing his username on his computer. Yes, that was wrong of me. Basically, I found his post on depression\_pa…

Why is my relationship with my mom so bad? — I love reading other people’s charts (I’m still new to astrology) but when it comes to reading my own, it’s tricky. Interested if anyone can point out any correlation to the bad relationship I’ve had …

Daffodils on a first date? — I'm late 30s M, she's early 30s F, this would be for a *first date* (an early dinner of wine and tapas at a cute wine bar). **Context:** I grow thousands of flowers throughout the season, and have h…

My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…

Pulling the trigger but terrified, Male 48 — I'm a male, 48 years old. Married for 24 years to a woman two years older than me. I'm sure my story isn't unique, but here it is anyway. On the outside, we look like a great couple. We have a teena…

I got into medical school but my mother is still ashamed. — I (24f, Filipino) recently got accepted to medical school away from home. For context, I had a conditional acceptance for my local medical school that did not work out in the end. After 3 cycles and 4…

I'm going to meet AP for the first time — I divorced my husband 1.5 years ago after discovering his affair, not only once but twice (with the same person). The first time he confessed everything and was commited to make it work but after some…

Need Help - Sick — Hi everyone! I’m brand new to r/energy\_work but am so ready to learn all I can! I was introduced to it through the second season of the Telepathy Tapes podcast (which I highly recommend!). I’m post…

UPDATE: I asked for a divorce — Here is my original post: https://old.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/1b6vfpt/i_asked_for_a_divorce/ Hi everyone. Hope this post finds everyone better than the last time I posted. I last po…

Dream or Real? — I’m curious if anyone has had a similar experience. **TLDR:** Saw a grey in my room. Communicated I wasn’t afraid. Instant paralysis. Felt three taps on my forehead. It showed me images. At the tail…

New to CE5s Should I be concerned? — Hi everyone. I’m new to the CE5 community, though I’ve seen orbs throughout my life. For years, I’ve followed Dr. Steven Greer’s work, believing that advanced intelligence must be peaceful or they wou…

I (36M) am in tears in my own home while my parents play with my daughter. — My wife has gone away for a conference today (for the first time since we had a kid). I am alone with my parents in my own home and feel so unsafe with them. At any time, I fear an attack will come my…

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

Finding out about an unknown child from an affair 28 years ago — I’ve found out I have been deceived for 28 years by 50M after DNA test I F47 and husband 50M. 29 years together, was contacted by my BIL 3 days ago , had spoken to a F27 who had take a dna test tryi…

My N mom started therapy and her first update made me sick — **TL;DR:** My covert N mom started therapy after I confronted her about her abuse. I told her to go work through it with a therapist before coming back to me. She found a junior therapist. After her s…

My husband (39M) is annoyed that I (31F) always get sick after him. How can we find a solution? — Hello Reddit! Need some advice as I don't know what to do about this. It seems that my immune system isn't quite as good as my husband's. We have a 1.5 yrs old and we go to playgroups regularly, whic…

ICE Agent who detained a mom and her daughter in SF International Airport

Man who abused me died. — He was 66. Just found out. He keeled over in December. I’m going to drink Prosecco tonight and see if I can find his cause of death. I bet it was his rotten heart! He was a habitual dater of women wit…

After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process? — I met my husband when I was a 20 year old college student and even though he is 4 years older than me, I became a pseudo-mother upon meeting him. For the last 10 years, I have been the sole breadwin…

Only child (30F, Indian, US). Parents financially exploited me and my husband for years. Set boundaries. Now they’re trying to destroy my marriage. — **The financial fraud:** My father retired with 1 crore and started building a house. Behind my back, he took a loan using my husband’s documents — claimed 45 lakhs, was actually 80 lakhs (POA fraud)…

[23M] gf [24F] wants my parents to be grandparents to her child, but they’re not open to it right now, should I end it? — I (23M) have been with my girlfriend (24F) for a year. We’re very compatible, great communication, and I can see a future with her. She has a 2-year-old from a previous relationship. I haven’t really…

Found out my wife cheated before, after & during marriage — Hello All, new account here because my wife reads these subs from time to time. I guess I’ll start from the beginning. My wife (28f) and I (28m) started dating in high-school. After high school we wen…

My little sister's best friend confessed to me — e\*\*TL;DR; : My little sister's best friend confessed to me and I don't want to hurt her feelings\*\*. I (21M) was visiting my parents when my sister and her best friend (18F) pulled me aside and po…

My slut shaming parents — A few months ago my parents saw my hickeys. This led to an awful fight in my family because they couldn't handle the thought of their 19 year old daughter having sex with someone. Me being me, I stood…

18F. Forgot to pack a small biscuit and ended with him wishing I don't pass my dream University — I'm about to start my college life and Im living with my step dad and mom in a small apartment. I had my own cute little dream about getting in this TOP 1 COLLEGE for my whole high school life. My dad…

Antoine Watson, Grandpa Vicha's killer, will be released on probation and not go to prison — https://preview.redd.it/fi7aaezn0mrg1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=453d995342c839fd80ea0306c357a0ee119a26e4 If you don't remember the details of this case, Watson, a 19-year old at the time,…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

I was literally just thinking the same thing, and wondering what I have been doing in respect to emotionally neglecting my daughter. And my answer is probably, and I'm fucked up too. I try my best, bu…

As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise.  I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…

If you had a daughter who had a partner like that would you tell her to stay with him? Or would you tell her she deserves someone who’s healthier and not neurotic.

My relationship with a DA just ended about 6 months ago, after being together for about 6 years too. My real healing didn't begin until I decided to go no contact with him. If he had it his way, he wo…

I’m so sorry about your daughter. That’s terrible and truly hurt my heart to read how he treated you. You deserve to be acknowledged ❤️

My last astral projection experience well it's pretty intense. I was going super sonic speed up into outer space beyond the cosmos and all of a sudden I heard a pop and my eye was opened and I was in …

You say you want an anxious one until they’re crashing out on you all the time for minor stuff.  Honestly a lot of avoidant aren’t bad people. I too can be both so I know how both sides act and react…

In my possession, I have a lot of antique guns passed down from family members. Like the Derringer my great grandmother carried as a traveling nurse in the early 1900's. And the 38 special her daughte…

I know how hard that must be for you. It's painful to hear, but there is no reason to hope or wait for someone with such vague "I need to work on myself," assertions. My 30 y.o, stepdaughter went thro…

No. No. No. It's not about you being "worthy enough." It's about people's preferences, their own emotional issues that makes them choose someone, and a host of other reasons. I learned through my Avoi…

Congrats on your progress and growth. It takes a lot to look at own patterns and you not only did that for you but also for your daughter to grow.

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

This is incredibly powerful and honest. Yes, it was a painful relationship, but what you describe is precisely the moment of "breaking" that opens the door to profound change. Not only did you recogni…

*You're not just healed. You're breaking cycles for your daughter. It's a legacy. A source of absolute pride.*

Already started therapy a couple weeks after breakup.  As far as engagement I thought that's what she may have wanted...I think she did in the moment, but it triggered something in her.  I was there f…

Thanks for responding! I’m totally fine with a few texts a day and the lunch call and end of day call. What I’m saying is not most days I don’t even get texts through out the day… 😔 just 1 lunch time…

I'm a 51-year-old man, divorced twice, with autism and severe anxiety. I've been completely socially isolated with no friends. I met a woman online 6 weeks ago and we've had 1.5 in-person dates. I'm f…

This is so hard right. But logically we know that after the first 3-4 months the honey moon phase fades and back to reality. Try to remind yourself that she’s A: answering back, trying to incorporate …

So I went into other posts because I’m supposed to comment on them in order to be allowed to post here, but I literally do not have any advice for these people. I don’t know much of anything about anx…

First, congrats on your progress! I just have a piece of advice, opening up and giving vulnerability to everyone is usually the first step in healing after shielding our true self and emotions away fo…

Hey, to be honest, a big part of my recovery was choosing to be intentionally single. Instead, I focused on just human connection, friendships, practicing vulnerability in real time or over messaging.…

You are an incredible human. Your daughter is so lucky to have you! Your future partner will be lucky to. Thank you so much for the vulnerability and sharing.

You are an amazing human. Your daughter is so lucky to have you.

Thank you so much! I still have a lot of work to do but I can see the difference in my life already and more importantly in how my daughter interacts. She has done so much better with telling me when …

I love that you’re practicing vulnerability on purpose. It’s exposure therapy at the emotional level, and honestly one of the hardest things someone with FA wiring can do. Sharing, staying present wit…

Thank you so much for your words, it resonates with the experience I've been having. I actually just got back from my weekly therapy session. It's all very... confusing, but I'm starting to accept tha…

I’m a widowed mom and have been texting a divorced dad for about a month now. We have gone on two dates total with the last one about a week ago (I left town to visit family for the holidays a few day…

Assume he’s busy with the holidays and his daughter and don't say anything at all. It sounds so simple, yet it can be so hard when we are anxious and hyper vigilant. My advice would be to spend so…

> My question is, do I make a comment about a noticeable shift in communication or do I just assume he’s busy with the holidays and his daughter and not say anything at all? Do I just assume we’d see …

As a fearful avoidant disorganized (yeah I am pretty messed up apparently)...I only start to really avoid when I am sad or upset about something else and I need to process....or I just need to process…

I'm (31F) my parents' only daughter and also the youngest child. My dad is in his late 70s and luckily in good health. But I get anxious knowing that because of the horrible dating culture, he might k…

A few weeks ago I made the mistake of talking to my mother about dating. I told her that yes, I've used the apps, I'm very sociable and meet people around town, and I've been set up by friends. Nothin…

Yeah, queen_izzy’s mom! Recognise your daughter’s weirdness, please! (Also, we’re all weird. Signed, a weird dude)

If you want my opinion? Solid character is non negotiable. Date the kind of person you'd be happy for your, say, your own future daughter to date. Everyone else is just a waste of time -- it's better …

I've been single for 10 years at this point and frankly I've all but given up on the idea of a partner. I'm convinced I will be alone for possibly the rest of my life at this point. It hurts because n…

I understand that it is a lot. That is fine with me. I don't need every man to be attracted to me or be compatible with me.  I am a high effort friend, daughter, granddaughter, sister...and would als…

I met my wife on Hinge and when we started to get to know each other she told me that she had never been in love before. I was nervous about that but I really enjoyed our conversations and I felt lik…

I tried to take solace in my youngest daughter today. Hoping I am giving her a good day and not leaning on her. I worry a lot about putting too much on the kids since the separation. But my two oldest…

I'm so sorry that happened :( I had a very similar dating experience - the guy's last relationship was with his kid's mom, and they had broken up, gotten back together, had a baby, then broke up agai…

Had dinner with one of my older friends last night, I’m 31m and he’s 56m. I’ve got a small close group of 4 friends in their 50s and it’s always interesting hearing their perspective on life and what …

This is exactly what I mean.  I am also the oldest daughter and my parents were absentee. My entire life I've had to be the leader and in charge. If at work and in family, I'm the one who has to keep…

Uh, it took me three years and I never properly got over him until I got all of the things he had given me and my daughter out of our house. And then it was kind of like a light switch. So if any of …

Did a bread baking class last week. 70% of the class was men. Only three women were one guy's wife, one guy's daughter, and a stay-at-home mom. There were apparently a lot of guys disappointed beca…

I dont think the point is to go to these things once and declare they never work and never will. A lot of the spirit of this advice is: get involved in some things and build community. Keep going to t…

Right. You think the book club ladies don’t have daughters they may want to set you up with??

I feel people are using "middle aged" differently. A 37 year old man and a middle aged woman are the same age, he absolutely should not be dating her daughter EDIT: Thank you to the people clarifying…

The middle aged wives in the book club have daughters and family friends who might be single. The point isnt to go to a meeting and immediately get paired off, but to expand your social circle outside…

I host potlucks. A retired couple tried to set me up with their daughter who lives in a different state

Some middle-aged/older women will get real excited trying to set you up on dates. But you need to get to know them and be someone they'd want their daughter/niece/younger friend around.