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The way I deal with the possibility of rejection is not viewing it as rejection. At this stage of the dating process, you simply cannot take things so seriously. You are just talking and meeting to s…

Handling another crush as a FA — Hello all, spring is here and so is a new crush. I really can't get used to how excited but anxious my butterflies and fantasies make me. Sometimes they make me so anxious to the point I get dysfuncti…

Old vs new client website, mine got rejected — So yeah, I recently created a new website for a client but it was rejected. Not sure why, they simply said they are "working on an update". I don't consider myself an expert by any regard, but w…

Old vs new client website, mine got rejected — So yeah, I recently created a new website for a client but it was rejected. Not sure why, they simply said they are "working on an update". I don't consider myself an expert by any regard, but with t…

Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

Getting rejected every time during the portfolio presentation stage — Hello everyone, I seem to be unable to pass the portfolio presentation phase and now is the fourth time this has happened — Many of these companies are fintech which I have a background in but recentl…

From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…

APPLYING FOR MERCHANT ID — Hey guys, just thought i’d drop in here to quickly as a question for the experienced folks here. I am looking to apply for MIDs but i am kind of stuck on what banks/ Mid providers will look at on my…

Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

Sitemap could not be read (Google Search Console) — Google search console has not read a sitemap from me since 2023 and as I build out my website, its becoming more frustrating to have to submit URLs one by one. I keep getting the error 'Sitemap could …

Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) — When I was 21 and *severely* fearful avoidant I dated a secure guy who was wonderful in every way, but obviously not for me. I did everything stereotypical of a fearful avoidant attachment does in a…

Working on becoming secure has made me more susceptible to toxic relationships — I think. Here's the thing, I'm fearful avoidant, and before I was aware of attachment styles at all the moment a person I was interested in made me feel at all rejected in the slightest (took too lo…

Avoidance seeking help: what if he’s not avoidant like me, but he actually just has a girlfriend he didn’t tell me about? — Been in contact with a guy for about 6 months now who has been pursuing me the entire time, subtly. When we first met, I had just broken up with my ex a couple of months prior to that (6-month long…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

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Don’t Contact Your Ex. For Anything. Let Go Quietly. They Watch You for Access Without Intent. — We had a bad breakup. He was very cold and distant at the end, as always (we broke up several times). He made a joke about how I can be single and rushed me off our last phone conversation when I was …

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

I feel like no one talks about parental co-dependency… — My mother and I are thick as thieves and have been ever since I was born. I grew up in a household full of boys and men, my mother being the only consistent woman in my life. I had many ups and dow…

When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…

did i mess up by telling my therapist i feel like i'll end up killing myself in the end? — i had been going to this therapist for like year and a half. at one vulnerable moment i told her i feel like i'll just end up killing myself in the end. (i maybe didnt word it correctly, i just didnt …

Alone — The loneliness gets you. Not having those goodmorning texts,"I love you" "be safe" or ""l miss you" after hearing it everyday is crushing. It's lonely and sad. I don't miss them. We split a while ago…

I think I’m falling out of love with my boyfriend — I’m 21 F and my boyfriend is 23 M, we’ve been together for three and a half years. Hoping to get some advice, but I know it’s a really complicated situation, I just don’t know how to wrap my head arou…

I realize Im not allowed to be anything less than above average with this condition. — I dont have a family who watches out for me. I don't have financial privileges. I'm by myself in this mess. Im not accepted regardless of how I am. - Other people will have a social life and people t…

Don’t you fear being too isolated? — I recently got rejected by a girl that I really liked. We started off as very good friends and unfortunately I caught feelings for her. So right now, I’m grieving the fact that I lost a really close f…

Pulling the trigger but terrified, Male 48 — I'm a male, 48 years old. Married for 24 years to a woman two years older than me. I'm sure my story isn't unique, but here it is anyway. On the outside, we look like a great couple. We have a teena…

My (M19) Gf (F19) constantly asks for details on me being raped because she "can't wrap her head around it", is this worth it? — Me and my gf (both 19) have been dating for 2 years. 4 or 5 months before we started I was raped by an older woman. She tried to play being my friend and it just happened. I have never told anyone ab…

if you're in this vibe, you're not alone — some of the vibes I've observed on a personal level now, has a lot to do with past pain resurfacing around "muggles," and the "muggle world." specifically the antagonistic energies we experience as in…

I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward — I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward I’m 36 and feel like I completely blew up my life and I’m struggling to move forward. I was in a 3.5 year relati…

I’m 31, but I just realized I’ve been emotionally 4 years old my entire life. — Hey everyone, I’m having a massive breakthrough and I need to put this into words. I finally understand why my life has felt like a performance for 30 years, and why I’m suddenly "falling apart" now …

My [28F] husband [37M] wants me to deliver bad news to his mother. How do I get out of doing this without hurting feelings? TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ mention of miscarriage. — UPDATE: I did talk to him, and I took the advice of not being gentle about it. It’s his mom, and he told her the “good news”, so he can break the bad news. At first he was upset with me, but he got ov…

My therapist says she can’t see me after I graduate, and our session turned into this chaotic, bittersweet back-and-forth. — ​I’ve been spiraling a bit because graduation is coming up, which means I might lose my school counselor. We had this long, intense exchange today and I’m still trying to process her attitude. I wante…

Your labels determine your reality — Y’all. You have got to stop taking physical reality as end all be all. “They rejected me” “The job said no” “My bills are due” You are taking all of your cues from physical reality rather than f…

How do I restore my dignity after getting played and lowering myself too much for someone? — Someone persued me and as soon as I reciprocated they abandoned me. I ended up chasing them and they acted in really horrible mean ways and Im afraid I lowered myself in the moment but I wasn't aware …

I (M46) seem to be a bit lost with what I want from my relationship with my partner (F44) — I (M46) was with the same woman for roughly 20 years until we divorced few years back. The relationship was good on a many level, but pretty practical. The emotional intimacy was there occasionally an…

How do I get myself backup after getting rejected at the final stage of job interview, just tired of the lengthy process at the moment — Self confidence has hit rock bottom, feeling bad for myself

I don’t think I’m okay anymore — I don’t really know how to write this, but I feel like I need to say it somewhere. For the last few years, I’ve been trying to connect with people, especially romantically, and nothing has worked. I’…

I am talking with myself in alone? now what I do? — I am a 23 year old woman. I’ve started talking to myself in alone and I think it’s because of several factors. I had a traumatic childhood because of my parents fighting and as an adult I studied fa…

Breakup because i wanna work — My girlfriend wants to break up just because of me working part-time in a restaurant!! she believes working around servers is not something a nice bf would do, she feels uncomfortable with that. Howev…

I figured out why my affirmations weren't working and most folks miss it. — For two years I did everything right. Access state, feeling it real, present tense, thinking from not of. My sessions felt good. Nothing moved. Then I found something in Murphy that nobody in this sp…

Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

Feel terrible for initiating NC — On an alt account for this. I was broken up with about a month and a half ago or so. 3 years together and it was a relatively amicable breakup, I wont go into details because the entire situation was …

Did you manifested a Job with less payment but still trying to manifest your dream job? — For the last 10 months, I’ve been looking for a job (I quit my previous one), but I wasn’t able to get even interviews. I have a high-value skill set and work in IT, but for some reason I felt blocked…

Divorce order rejected.. — Apparently, our request for divorce was denied. The endorsement makes some comments on feeling the child support arrangement in our separation agreement is not adequate… We both feel it. It’s fair and…

My ex turned into a middle aged fuckboy — Recently learned that my (40F) ex boyfriend (42M) of 6 years has been having picking up young (20s maybe early 30s) girls at the bar every weekend and having sex. There may be a more constant girl in…

Got what I wanted !! Again !! — Hi everyone, **Context** So I made a post called “7 Seeds - 1 Harvest” and mentioned there would be upcoming posts since writing about each desire that came true would’ve made the post way too long.…

Struggling with self worth nearly a year later even though I was the one that left? — It's been almost a year since I left and I still struggle with feeling like I wasn't good enough for him. And I don't get it because throughout our relationship, I left him multiple times and got hoov…

manifestation + past changing — Hi to all of you!! It’s my first ever time writing something on Reddit. Well, I have actually been reading many stories to find courage, but I am new to being the one with the story hahah. Okay, so I …

I’m trying so hard to let go but he was the only person who treated me nicely and loved me until he randomly dumped me via text. No one ever asks me out and when I ask people out I am rejected. I am a…

Another update: My ex did want me back, but I rejected it since I know she doesn't want to work yet on her issues, which meant that we're only going to go back to the same situation as we were before.…

From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…

I get where you are coming from. I feel like though, at least for me, it can be a false sense of security trying to overanalyze things. It is masking the fear of being rejected if I ask a partner some…

I feel so seen. I had to take breaks from dating due to that built up resentment but also from sensitivity to rejection that I projected onto my worthiness. I’ve mostly dated FA in the past I felt l…

It's very, very painful. I'm so sorry. I went through something similar 2 yrs ago. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, felt incredible low self-esteem and rejected. I never pegged him to ghost me, and we ha…

Oh believe me, I spend a lot of time talking to them. They only answer rarely. My latest thing is to take each part and work to understand wehre it's coming from, what it's movtivations are, how it …

I’m DA and I feel hurt when I’m rejected in favour of someone else. For example if someone breaks up with me, and then they date someone else. Or someone I have a crush on is not interested in me but …

If you were in this situation and felt like you had been rejected are there things that could help you regain some trust in that person?

This isnt wrong. Think about the way we used to punish people in our societies of the past - we would exile them. Being socially ostracized used to mean certain death for us. Somewhere in our genes we…

I’m not a DA, but I have dated several and I also have a long term relationship with a securely attached introverted person. When my DA exes wanted space, they didn’t just physically distance themse…

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

I'm secure. I can't relate to those feelings in general but everyone hates a fake person! Not everyone is fake though. Not getting a response can make me feel anxious, let down, or rejected -- not g…

“There’s something about you that’s comfortable” = “I went in hot pursuit of the person I actually desire and they rejected me so I’m back hoping you’ll still be available. After you accept this offer…

I’ve rejected available women in the past.

I think there’s some good advice in this thread, but just adding this bc I didn’t see it mentioned in your post or other comments—work on platonic relationships! I know it can be difficult to make fri…

One thing that helped me is actively trying to date multiple people at a time because it meant there was a lot less pressure on the one, and I had less to lose. I also think that what people say about…

Research for the knowledge first off, then be consistent with how you show up for her and showing interest over a longer period of time. Many of us with this fear weren’t allow to be ourselves growing…

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

I honestly think you're a more secure person that gets triggered by an avoidant unable to bring you the desires and love you need. There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel a strong intimate connec…

That's me.. my therapist who wrote her thesis on Attachment Theory pegged me as "Disorganized Avoidant." And it tracks... for me, I run when I fear being rejected, and have anxious behaviors leading …

He might be regretting it? [Disclaimer: I’m not at all an expert this is all just my opinion and experience as a former anxious] In my experience, avoidants work in the formula of “feelings minus fe…

He wasn’t always mean. There were times where he was kind and showed interest in my day, what I’m doing, and whatever else. Other times when there was minor conflict or I sensed him just being rude, I…

Be aware that the process of healing your attachment type is long and very uncomfortable, but knowing you're insecure is the best and hardest step so kudos! What helps me on a day to day case is try…

I completely understand this. What if it is possible to experience these simply as junk thoughts that are running on an error from past conditioning? For me, for a while, I thought the thoughts migh…

This exact same thing happened to me except I’m still at that stage where I feel rejected and abandoned because he broke up with me. I am not going to reach out. Do you think you could give any advice…

In fact, you're going to be banned 30 days for not reading the rules of the sub like you're required to before you post anything. If you had done that, you would know that you're required to read the …

I definitely suffer from the two questions you asked. And yeah, I think I tend to ignore all the other obvious ways that points to a person caring about me and cherishing me in their life just becau…

Living with a fearful avoidant for 30+ years... My personal experience: It looks like they want to connect, to be close emotionally. They want you to be close and available. They, however, find …

I 100% felt that when my friend told me they just wanted to give what he wanted to give. I felt wanting to withdraw and argue. But then I remembered how much that would hurt my friend. They were giv…

I think it's normal in anxious attachment style. That doesn't mean it feels comfortable for you - nor for him, to be honest. It sounds like you could both benefit to do work around your attachment sty…

I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…

From what you wrote, you're normally pretty good at advocating for yourself. So, are you "testing" him by withholding that self-advocacy? If normally you tell him what you need, this is what he expec…

*Should I text her or stay silent? Don’t want to restart hope or regret not trying.* I (male) am really confused about a girl and could use some clear advice. Around 2 months ago, I confessed to a …

I understand where you are coming from and I can understand your anxious behaviour coming about because of this. However, in order to help you feel more secure in yourself, trust yourself to let go. …

I relate with so much of what you have written. For me, it's very similar in that it feels like an ever-present sense of calm or okayness. I think that there are two main feelings that I often have …

i wouldn’t consider it splitting, but yes to a certain extent. like you said i get triggered which causes emotional dysregulation, especially in response to feeling disrespected, rejected, or betrayed…

for me as an FA both parts are real, my fear is that when you see the uglier side you won’t love me anymore. the mean side comes out when my inner child is triggered and i don’t feel seen/heard/unders…

Feeling the same, had a crush and got rejected. Now she is acting cold and doesn’t want to call or talk to me much ever since though she stated we should be friends first. Idk about you but what i wan…

Is my anxious attachment responsible for people not being interested in me very early on in dating? I think I’m a pretty attractive guy but there is a pattern of being rejected after only 1-3 dates w…

> I think this is an anxious trait so I want to know if this also happens to you? Why am I reacting like this? Is it justified or is it my insecurity talking? How do you communicate, instead of pullin…

So I initially thought I was anxious attachment, when I got with my now partner (avoidant) it led to me being anxious. We started this push and pull away dynamic about a year in, where they would want…

You should check out the book Nonviolent Communication!! There are free PDFs online if you want to try before you buy. I'm moving from AA -> Secure and it has been super helpful. The basic idea is: …

I just rejected someone I liked for no reason other than my avoidant reflex kicking in when things get too real. It's not the first time it happened, but this time it hit hard. I'm devastated and I do…

Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…

I’ve had two aspects of this come up in therapy.  I’m kind of surprised how much I have to describe to my therapist about what Jonice Webb calls the Fatal Flaw—the conviction that there is something …

Realizing the fearful avoidant + fearful avoidant pairing is so painful and destabilizing. I don't even mean with just romantic partners (although my next point explains why I keep finding them). It…

I have recently become a master in this arena (not really but honestly so much better after 2 yrs of therapy). What I did to help myself was to slowly tell him what was triggering me. At first (probab…

I would say with teens or young adults, it's possible that someone is very into you and just unable to make it move forward due to lack of experience and shyness. Beyond that, I wouldn't bother with …

I think the problem is not *how* you reassure her, it's that: * As a person with chronic pain with periods of flare-ups/exhaustion + being more introverted in general, your friend's anxious attachmen…