book
positivity
Evidence
Citations (86)
Hi OP, I'm so sorry to read this :( I can't say I completely understand your situation, but I've certainly experienced some of the same things and I hope I can help, if even just a bit. Don't let oth…
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…
Starting over — Heya, I don’t want this to be a negative thread— looking for some positivity and hope maybe? I (34F) am recently out of a one year relationship. It was my first secure relationship in my entire adult…
Overcoming my anxious attachment — Hi I've successfully combated my attachment style and offer some of the resources I've found. I've dealt with anxiety and insecurity across my romantic and platonic relationships throughout my life. …
Maintaining this piece of positivity — Alright gang, I hope everyone is well. I’m getting a lot better with my attachment. I’m so proud of myself for times recently when I’ve had a thought about wanting to play into games or behave in cert…
Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity? — It literally feels like the onus is on people with really challenging life experiences, to hold that all inside and only talk about good things, for fear of burdening people who have objectively bette…
You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…
Please share your CE5 experiences! — Hi guys, I'd like to hear some of your experiences where you initiated contact and how long it took you before it worked and so on. I've had some weird experiences in life but none of them so direct …
Ladies: What makes you swipe RIGHT? (inspired by today's recent post) — What are some things in men's profiles that make you swipe **RIGHT**? I'm looking for positivity here. The stuff that makes you say "ooh," not the stuff that made you say "eww." We hear about dealbre…
Why does it only work through gratitude ? Why not brute forcing ? — So why does the universe or the law etc only work through positivity ? What is this trick about you have to come from a place of gratitude or not wanting it ? Why can’t you brute force a manifestation…
The dangerous 'toxic positivity' of AI therapy: A personal story — **TL;DR:** I used a customized Gemini "Gem" as a complementary therapist, but it completely failed to spot a predator. The AI interpreted extreme red flags (love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation…
Please wish me luck for my interview tomorrow! ✨ — I am going to bed soon and am feeling temporarily super nervous about my interview tomorrow morning. I thought it would be nice to see some good luck messages in the morning! I did this four years ago…
Trying not to get too ahead of myself with new partner — I need to clear my head a bit. About 8 weeks ago I (55F) cold approached a man (49) at a bar. He asked for my number and has been consistent and open with communication since. We are exclusive, see e…
BE OPEN TO RECIEVE! (Manifestation tips + encouragement.) — I'm going to cut right to the chase (forgive my English, I'm not native, and I refuse to use AI.) I've always been a natural optimistic person from myself. Even when life hit me with the worst situat…
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the me…
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the medi…
What I have learned through psychedelic mushroom usage + yoga — With the mushroom trips I have done throughout my life with lots of intention there were some good and bad trips. The good trips left me with a very grateful and happy attitude for life and the people…
How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED PART 2 AND 3 - GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESSSS!) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need y…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED **PART 2 AND 3** \- GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESS) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need…
Breathe in peace, breath out positivity — I want to practice this going forward and spend some time meditating on it as an act of self love. I have been so anxious and desperate to find love from a woman. And I want to be a light that helps t…
Why i believe that law of assumption is enough and methods are not important and you can make your own methods! — For some reason i have always had problems following SAT’s and specific methods , i mean it works but it always feels so out of character for me . And i believe many people are like this , as no pers…
If your parents, guardians, or family; block you from money and abundance, they have mental health issues. — If their energy is so bad, that means you have to go off and succeed on your own. What makes it so hard, is all their depressed energy surrounding you. You can overcome it, and be positive. Life is po…
Does anyone else’s experiences seem to get minimized a lot with toxic positivity? — I’m honestly sick and tired of people telling me I don’t have it the worst in life or that I shouldn’t compare and the list goes on. I know THIS. However when you grow up in a volatile environment wh…
Just read that post "nobody warns you your trauma surfaces in your 30's" and it's got me quite scared — I'm 26, and this past year has honestly been the best year Ive ever experienced in terms of healing/growth from trauma. shifts I've made: 1) no longer externally referenced 2) individuation begin…
Aditya Hridaya Stotram impact — I have been aditya hridaya stotram from past 15 days now, as I have heard it boosts positivity, confidence, and courage in you to face the difficulties of your life. But ever since I have started doin…
Rejection sensitivity — Despite my cptsd i believe i am a positive person. Mainly due to my strong focus on a mental health regime. I.e. exercise, meditation and music. Does anyone find this tricky to maintain? For example i…
I just want to be happy. Share with me your daily thoughts or practices to maintain or work towards general happiness and positivity. — Im almost one year sober from alcohol, incorporated regular exercise and healthy eating into my routine. I have a great life. But my day to day just feels like something is off or Im waiting for thing…
Anyone has a spare Cultfit voucher or discount code? — Hey everyone, This might be a bit of a long shot, but I thought I’d ask here. I’ve been going through a really rough phase lately — dealing with a breakup and honestly just feeling like I’ve lost my…
What are you guys doing to occupy your free time? — I'm about 10 days into my breakup. I'm making some good changes, but I am still heartbroken, constantly thinking of her, and hurting. Almost breaking no contact, but not giving in. I work early i…
I fucking hate how I would be blamed for having trauma — Every time I express my problems to my mother, she's like "oH BuT PEopLe iN AfrICa HavE iT WOrSE!". Shut up. Shut the fuck up. I was raped. I was raped when I was 4. I don't even remember what …
What kind of therapy or tools recommended for my problem — Hello everyone, I'm trying to keep this short, I believe I've identified a problem I have that I would like help with. That I cant solve on my own and keeps persisting. I'm aware there are different …
How do I (M35) navigate my wedding with my sister (F37) and her alcoholism? — I (M35) am not sure how to navigate my wedding with my sister (F37). My sister has had a hard life. She had a very toxic and abusive relationship with her ex-husband (both sides), both have struggle…
Why do all my attempts at manifestation or even positivity seem to fall through? — Hello! I was wondering if anyone else goes through this, knows why it happens, or how to change it. So basically, something I’ve noticed is that whenever I say/expect/want something, the complete op…
One step to be better! — Today I deleted telegram, my worst addiction from 2 years in which I lost everything. Right now Imma loser, scored -21/300 in my entrance exams for which I took drop but Telegram ruined my 12th + D…
Growing up was just hell for me. I can't believe this is my reality. I feel like the world did go without me. — I think I'm heartbroken, honestly. Even despite of it all, I remember being happy. I remember dreaming, playing, being innocent... And I remember feeling amazed by the world, learning new things, neve…
Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…
36 days later from my last comment: I still think about her but the feelings aren’t as intense. This marks month 3. 3 months now and it gets better. You just need to keep yourself busy with POSITIVITY…
Alrite, but since there are two ways to impress to sm - by feeling the wish fulfilled or using the five senses, how does positivity come to play with say.. The ladder experiment?
As a regular of that sub, I dare to disagree. While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant…
Reading this did make me more positive! I’ll keep going with more positivity and hope … I’ll share my progress. thank you so much!
I use the [manifest](https://apps.apple.com/app/apple-store/id6463312362?pt=126574659&ct=sydnov25&mt=8) app to help me think of things. i vent into the app and the app responds with lots of positivity…
just keep trying Barf, you'll find some nice people eventually. Maybe sometimes you just have to radiate positivity to attract it.
I think you guys may just need to up your communication game? I just started reading this book by the gottmans called eight dates. It really breaks down communication in a way that I’ve never even con…
Awesome! Love the positivity! 😊
Got permanently banned from r/dating for a body positivity comment. I don’t expect that would happen on this sub but yea I believe the mods over there are just on a weird power trip and can’t explain …
Homie all this self defeat talk isn’t going to help you get anywhere either. You don’t have to fake positivity, but at some point you have to take control of your life and make the moves that are rig…
>Homie all this self defeat talk isn’t going to help you get anywhere either. Eh, changing my attitude wouldn’t help me get me anywhere either. >You don’t have to fake positivity, but at some poi…
Wow. First time I’ve come to this sub looking for positivity, happiness and abundance and this is the way the mods respond to people asking a question? Reddit is often tricky for first time users to …
I appreciate the positivity, but I am not. Absolutely not. It's the one thing in my life that is eating me alive
I’ve experienced similar, but also the opposite re: LSD & Psilocybin Like on a fresh tolerance reset, 3.5g-5g’s of shrooms makes me an absolute child mentally. Every bit of expression and emotion I h…
I really liked your analogy. My child was diagnosed with PTSD at 13 (now nearly 16). They also struggle with Dysautonomia and managing this, and learning how to regulate has been so much work. The…
I’m six months post-breakup, and it has helped me a lot. I’ve been using it mainly as a tool to understand my grief and to reflect on what the breakup revealed about me things I hadn’t fully seen bef…
I've smoked weed for 5 years. Was addicted to coke for 4 and overdosed and died. I've done mushrooms a good 10 times and acid a good 30. Dmt around 5. Weed is all I do nowadays unless I can get my han…
Wow thank you so very much for sharing this. It was a really good read, and very encouraging. I also like your positivity and you seem to be doing a good job at being kind to yourself. How do you d…
Best wishes on your new start, we could all use some positivity these days in life!
Good job! These toxic positivity, spiritually bypassing people need to shut up with their invalidating and victim blaming BS. Some of this shit is taught by abusers themselves in order to gaslight the…
Forgiveness is a gift, not something an abuser should or can be entitled to. Contrary to popular belief, it's perfectly fine to not forgive. The crap (the toxic positivity crowd is selling) that y…
The Stoics would actually say you don't need to get rid of nihilism so much as pass through it. There's this idea in Chrysippus about preferred indifferents, things that have practical value but aren'…
Personally I understand why you'd resent someone for shutting you down or pushing you away if in the past you have been there for this person and always offered a listening ear in their difficult time…
It is toxic positivity! I agree the term is constantly misused/over used.
yeah, the whole "good vibes only" crowd are frankly, idiots. What kind of banal human interaction is that, when everything is positive? Have these people gone outside? Relationships are based on being…
I had a therapist that argued for toxic positivity as a remedy to combat depression. I guess the understanding in their school of thought is that depression is not just a sad feeling all the time, it'…
Trauma-dumping refers to a one-sided coercive relief of tension without regard for the other person. Talking about, or mentioning trauma, as it pertains to an organic topic, is not considered trauma-d…
I think if someone asks you how you are, and you tell them, then being accused of trauma dumping is unfair, however, i have to concede, it is a thing. Its when a person chooses to center their own neg…
That part. I went to another sub that's about conversation of a casual manner, and they won't even let you use the word "toxic" like, at all. Because they say it's a place of "positivity." I was appal…
I come here for the success stories, they motivate me. Seeing people fail and give up tends to discourage others so we need more positivity!
I agree with you about Christianity. But it's these New Age hippie types that are saying stuff like "you have gotta forgive them or that's bad karma...you guys have a soul contract together mayun!" I …
Absolutely 🙂↕️ And thank you, having that to focus on will help me maintain positivity while going through this.
This is the kind of cute positivity I needed today!
So I'll preface by saying I don't have vast experience in this realm. I'm also a hetero male, so I come from that experience. I do have some thoughts I think are relevant: 1. I think people believe t…
Original copy of post by u/DOFthrowallthewayawy: What are some things in men's profiles that make you swipe **RIGHT**? I'm looking for positivity here. The stuff that makes you say "ooh," not the st…
Comment removed - victim-blaming, toxic positivity, and ignorant assumptions. If you continue to comment in such a way, you will end up banned.
Smiling photos! It amazes me how many men have all serious faces. On top of that a profile that shows positivity, a love of life and the desire to share it with someone. A list of what you do want rat…
Hey it’s been a while since I have come across you. I hope you are well. I agree with your main points and that gratitude is one of the best emotional states for manifesting. I think the one caveat…
I’ll echo what others have said and commend you for your post. I took a look at your posting history, and here’s a grab bag of thoughts you might find helpful: ChatGPT is in no way a substitute for I…
I wouldn't like your words either, but he doesn't sounds like a catch. You shouldn't have to walk around eggshells. A partner should complement you, that is you should feel better with your partner an…
why positivity? because when you exude positivity the loa will give you more things to be happy about. if you exude negativity, the loa will give you more things to be unhappy about. like attracti…
Can’t imagine the struggle, so sorry to hear. I reccommend the free podcast from Louise Hay; Positive relaxing affirmations to overcome fear and anxiety overnight. This is not just positive thinking o…
Ahhh, yeah. As a standalone post, I love the positivity, but if someone wants to leave their spouse, it shouldn’t be to go and immediately find someone else. Either leave with the idea that being …
A positive OLD post? Hmm. I’m gonna have to contact the authorities here. This type of positivity will not stand. You’re in trouble, lady.
Agreed. I do get what OP is saying to a degree - but they lost me when they said their codependent partner left them to do all the emotional labour. That's uh.... Not a people pleaser then. A people p…
I’ll have to check it out, even though in my case, it’s my siblings. Our parents died young (fortunately I was 21 and 1 month into being a full-fledged, paying-my-own-way-in-life adult when my a dad d…
Well i always had mic of success & failed in manifestation but no matter what i always do this : Every morning I affirm "I am loved,I am love,i express love" before opening eye. Everyday i try to l…
Don’t worry, I have done it too lol. I don’t think anything is wrong with it. Just wanted to sprinkle in some positivity. That’s awesome about the drawing and painting! Art can be so soothing
Did you read the whole post? There was no shaming in it. I said I think it’s important to be raw and honest, I just wanted to see some positivity sprinkled in too For me, it’s extremely encouraging …