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To me the following succinct phrase comes to mind: hurt people hurt people. *"Hurt people hurt people" is a phrase explaining that* *individuals with unresolved pain, trauma, or neglect often pass th…
Hurt people hurt people. Is it wrong? Yep, but they do. All we can do is try to be better individuals and keep strong boundaries that If we are disrespected we can walk away. I always try to remember…
No, it’s not normal to ask for that much space. The idea that dismissive avoidants “need space” gets thrown around a lot, but here’s the truth: that need for space usually comes from emotional overwhe…
As someone who is a few days on the other side of the “I need space” deactivation, withdrawal whatever you want to call it. This will only end with an ugly break up (past week) I wish I had been stro…
Thank you, that's so nice of you to say 🥲 it's definitely helped me to hear your perspective and story. I agree, hurt people hurt people and I would be only stunting my own growth to pretend I had …
Hurt people hurt people. They didn’t have to mark us as they did, but I’ve learned to let people live in the illusion that they created. Hope for them the best. Hope for us healing and growth
Fair point. No one *is* evil, for evil is a no-thing. It cannot create or bring good into being; it is a lack of good, truth, and beauty. People *do* evil things. Hurt people hurt people.
Right? So what do you do when dealing with someone like that? Do you react? Do you stress about it? Do you allow their opinion to affect yours? Do you engage in malicious behavior to enact revenge? …
This was the first moment I realized my mom wasn’t “normal.” I honestly couldn’t fathom a mom being this way to her child but I was angry inside because things didn’t ever make much sense. I was comp…
There’s a saying, hurt people hurt people. To me this applies here. Many of our fellow humans are walking this earth unhealed and lacking in self awareness. This leads to a scarcity mindset in most ca…
That's a really great quote. I've started to think of anger as a means of transferring suffering. You know the pithy statement "Hurt people hurt people"? We usually (only?) get angry when we ourse…
It's probably a good factor for the book to have included, and it might have if it were published later, but I also don't really see oppression as a mitigating factor. My family is white, I'm a first…
Your last paragraph resonates hard 👏👏 However, I’d argue that some parents don’t even recognize what hurt them and therefore wouldn’t be able to prevent that same harm. Recognizing the source of p…
My family was heavily impacted by both generational trauma and our various marginalized identities, but to me, this post is truly not it. I’m not comfortable with any argument that essentially softens…
Your mother seemed to have done that with you about your dad. Perhaps some therapy for yourself would be beneficial as well. I feel with how much your mother negatively colored your father that it imp…
What you describe is a very dysfunctional mindset. Whenever excuses are made for poor behavior it is dysfunctional. People who act poorly have a few choices. They can acknowledge their poor behavior, …
Hurt people hurt people
Who says they're happy? Hurt people hurt people. People who are happy and healthy do their best to be honest, loyal, and decent.
Hurt people hurt people; however, it sounds like you’re dealing with it in very healthy ways with your journaling. If you’re gonna lash out, make sure it’s at some one who deserves it, not an innocent…
hurt people hurt people this is a saying for a reason Just because a person was abused doesn't mean they can be free to abuse others. The coping mechanisms can manifest into abusive behaviour and i…
They like saying shit like “hurt people hurt people” cuz it makes them feel good about themselves without having to do the real work into understanding trauma. People are so driven by their egos
Of course, and thank you for describing how I was feeling so succinctly! Constant communication is necessary for safe play, not only for Bottoms but also for tops. I feel that people often neglect top…
When people tell you who they are or show you who they are always believe them the first time. People will always tell you or show you their true feelings towards you when put in uncomfortable situati…
Yes, you nailed it. I would also say that I'm not done in an way or Form, there's still more to do. For me, the thing is, my whole life was somehow decided by Anger. Anger steered me this or that wa…
If you're unable to break up with your partner in a respectful, adult way as a 40 year old, and are using your trauma history or neurodiversity as an excuse for that, you should warn partners in advan…
Yeah that guy is literally a sex tourist in SEA. Hurt people hurt people. 🤷♂️
This is a really tough situation because like you said he doesn't seem like a "bad person" but that doesn't inherently make you the bad guy for wanting to end things. It sounds like you are two peopl…
Hes choosing a woman 2,000 miles away over his ex. Please dont weaponize the children. My mother did that to me and it caused terrible grief. After 9 years thats alot of time. But im under the impress…