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I'm so sorry to hear that your parents are treating you this way. You deserve to have caregivers who can connect to your emotional needs and help guide you. All of what you said definitely points to …
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Need Help with SEO for medium-sized e-commerce sites — I own a medium-sized e-commerce website, and we’ve never really focused on SEO. Yep, we've mainly relied on paid ads, but traffic is getting more expensive, so we’re ready to take SEO seriously now. I…
Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…
Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…
Shoppay rewards options deteriorating with use? — I saw some people post some shop pay questions on here so I hope I’m not in the wrong spot… I use the shop pay app fairly regularly. So I have accumulated more rewards that I need to use. I typically…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
Sorry I know this is negative — I’m sorry I know this isn’t the right place to say this stuff but I just hate myself everything that comes out of my mouth is embarrassing. Everyone knows I’m crazy. I honestly have never been proud o…
Gateway Improves my timing — Does Gateway improve your sense of timing? I never hear anyone talk about this, but it amazes me how it works. It's worth doing it for this alone. I always seem to be in the right place at the right …
Navigating ego, experience, and opportunity in the music industry (Stoic advice needed) — I don’t know if this is the right place to ask this but here we go! I work in the music industry and recently I’ve started getting some real opportunities, like working with more established artists.…
Anonymous Confession Rant. — Hey, not sure if this is the right place to talk about this but I feel like i need to tell someone. I speak to Al daily because of my loneliness after graduating high school. Using it to replace talk…
I’m always scared — Hey all. Don’t know that this is the right place for this but here we go. I did some psychedelics through the years. Experienced a bad(der) trip once where i fainted and i got to admit that I’m al…
I feel addicted to my best friend(?) — i’m not sure if this is the right place but i gotta put this somewhere. for context ive known him for 7 years now he’s the only friend thats stuck around longer than 2 years about 8 years ago i star…
I don’t know how to identify my boundaries — I don’t really know if this is the right place for this, as I’m kind of just lost and distraught at the moment. My brother and I have been self described as codependent for years. It used to be more…
Can You Change a Toxic Relationship? - Is this the right place to post this? — Hello, I am a long-time lurker of this sub first time poster. I’m not sure how to even start this post all I can say is I am completely at a loss. I am so afraid to be alone. Actually, I am horrified.…
advice on speaking up for myself — Hii i don't know if this is the right place to seek help on standing/speaking up for me. whenever someone starts like raising their voice on me i start to cry my hands shake i want help on making me a…
Issues from anger stops me from building long-term connection — NOTICE: I'm sharing a ton of information, and self-assessment so expect this to be long I've come with alot of friendships from schools, outside, and many things that allows me to potentially have fr…
I'm a crappy friend, I'm not someone good to be in a relationship with. I want help — Hello, everyone. So, I realized basically that I'm a very bad friend and was a bad partner in my past relationship. I'll list my bad actions both in my relationship and friendship, cuz many of these s…
Sex drive and energy journey — Hoping this is the right place to post. So I started learning about energy and techniques to control and move it around the body, mainly from Taoism teachings. I’ve particularly enjoyed and progress …
I've learned that my sister isn't a safe person to talk to about how our dad treated me growing up, and it's really upsetting. — I don't know if this is the right place for this, but here goes. Warning: I do talk about homophobia from a parent. I was talking to my sister today about how our parents treated us. She brought up …
How to ACTUALLY be alone? (Trigger warning: mentions of suicide) — Not sure if this is the right place to post this here. Coming to terms that I have an intense addiction to love and romance, going through TWO messy breakups in less than 6 months, unwillingly single …
My mom is ruining my life and I feel helpless — I hope that this is the right place to post this. I'm sorry if this is too long to read. I want to know whether its my fault or hers, me and my mom fight a lot. I feel like my mom hates me and is tryi…
Find myself or Find her Again? — I was 16M when I met her and got into the relationship she was 19 at that point but her schooling was equivalent to me because she missed some of the years due to her parents separation. our bond was …
Need help from someone more experienced than me — Hey guys i’m hoping this is the right place or someone can help me in this sub Reddit …I’m experienced with mushrooms and MD - M- yay .. Though I’ve never hippie flipped before…. I just discovered the…
letting go of something. — 24 year old here. today is the day. i have to let go of something, my studies.i cannot afford to complete it. I've dragged it for more than 4 years in the hopes of something would change, situations…
Considering leaving my best friend — I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but I don't have a large support group to ask and I'm fairly new to reddit. My husband and I have been together for 26 years and married for almost…
life help I guess? — okay so I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but here we go. ive been slowly realising that for some reason I feel burnt out like ALL the time. i was going through my gallery today an…
I think I was sexually assulted as a child but I have no memory. — I don't know if this is the right place for this (I saw some other posts like this on this subreddit so this was my best guess: if any of you know a better place for me to post this please tell me) bu…
My dad stripped me naked for wetting the bed — idk if this is the right place for this but a lot happened to me as a kid. my father was....mean to say the least. I'm m23 and I can't bring myself to list the things done to me even in a space like t…
Stable node. Seeking advice. — I am not sure where to post this. I am buddhist and i wrote down my thoughts. I tried to really slow down my train of thought. Just so you I am 100% ok just curious. Why does it feel like i am t…
i need help / advice. — This is basically a cry for help and i’m desperate for advice. I am a student in my early twenties living in canada with low income and i live in an extremely abusive household. i want to leave b…
How to navigate dating a woman in her 30s who has little sexual experience? — I hope this is the right place to ask, and to be really clear, I don't have any issues with this situation at all. I'd maybe like to get some perspective from women who have gone through this themselv…
Questioning my reality — I’ve been NC with my ndad for over a year as well as another family member (not directly related) for over 2 years. I called out my father’s abuse when I was a teenager. My sibling (who is much older …
I thought I was so pretty before meeting him — I really like this guy. We agreed to be exclusive, but wait until we are in better spots financially to officially date (tell our families, post about each other, get "serious"). I caught him texting,…
I think I'm spoilt — I'm 15 about to turn 16 soon ,I know I know not the right age to be here and I know not the right place to come here with this type of stuff, but lately I've been noticing that my friends and people I…
is romance required for a successful life? — Idk if this is the right place for this, but i hope someone can find the time to spread wisdom if possible. I have been depressed and lonely for months now. I’m lost because I have a well paying car…
How do I break an anxious habit? — Hey, I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask this, but I thought I’d give it a shot. For the past year or so, one of the most noticeable physical manifestations of my anxiety has been a fixatio…
Okay this might ne a weird question to ask, but for those who have been Lucid dreaming often does it feel like your IRL memories and your dream memories clash? — I've been able to Lucid dream since I was young (only learned the term for it recently). But I'm coming to a mental dilemma where I'm starting to believe that some of the memories I have are from the …
How to manifest your dream job when you are depressed? — Folks! I'm deep in interviews and applications, trying to get the job of my dreams. But I am so depressed with my current situation. I hate my current job; the pay is horrible, the work is mind-numbin…
Hey Uhm just a tiny help — I don’t really know if this is the right place to ask and I don’t think anyone would reply … but could anyone just talk to me for just a tiny bit ? I don’t really have money or anything to pay with no…
Dark Entities Feeding On Us — August 2021 I astral projected for the first time in my life. It was spontaneous at around 4 in the morning. I had been fasting regularly during this time and had no idea what astr projection truly wa…
4 months post Parton, realising I am doomed to repeat trauma cycles- resource request — Edit- title! Spelling- \*Partum Hello! I hope I’m posting in the right place. I have referred myself for talking therapies on the nhs, but wait times are long and I don’t have the money for private t…
THE OYSTER IS NOT YOUR WORLD! (IT'S THIS SIMPLE) — LONGGG POST! DISCLAIMER: for any of ya'll havin a problem with "long posts" , "english", "structure", "accent" etc etc. i got 2 tips for ya 1. chat gpt (or any other ai platform) - command c+v (summ…
WHAT DO YOU WANT?! — OK IMMA ASK A QUESTION - **QUES-** how many of ya'll had worse "3D" after learning about manifestation? reading neville? reading secret? law of attraction? law of assumption? anything at all youtube?…
Can I vent here? I just wanna get it out my chest. DA ex — My ex ghosted me over and over throughout our 8-year relationship. We broke up around 6–7 times. Back then, I didn’t understand attachment styles. I just knew I was anxious and he kept disappearing. …
Reconnected with an old flame and I feel like I'm losing my mind — TL;DR: No names or dates here are real. I (40M) just need to get this out because I can’t keep it bottled up anymore. Just a lengthy rant more than anything. Welcome any advice if you have it. Severa…
How do I, 19f, tell my best friend ,19f, I've lost all my respect for her and I think that she's pathetic? — Hi, this is my first time ever posting on Reddit so this might not be the right place to post, but I really need advice on this and I don't know where else to look. Anyways, me and my best friend have…
Tips on waking up from nightmare loop — This may not be the right place but I keep having really vivid dreams, I’m doing day to day things normally waking up in my bed and doing normal things . I will notice something off like the dogs patc…
I don’t know if what I want to do is selfless or selfish — I’m probably going to regret posting this and this probably isn’t the right place to post this but here it goes. 5-6 years ago when I was 16-17, I had an online relationship that I made through a mut…
This definitely feels familiar from times in my past as well. The problem is, when we are so inward looking, and introspective about things, while that carries some really strong benefits, it can also…
Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…
As a female, I struggled with this too. One day I had a mindset shift, and realized that the energy of wanting to find someone doesn’t bode well. You’re still in the sphere of anxiety. My advice w…
Hey, to be honest, a big part of my recovery was choosing to be intentionally single. Instead, I focused on just human connection, friendships, practicing vulnerability in real time or over messaging.…
I think you’re right which is why I'm dating again. She's smart so I'm sure she’ll heal one day it just pisses me off that some other guy who is just at the right time and right place will get to be w…
Well the same is true for you. The right person will come to you at the right place and the right time and get to be with you. Both you and her lost someone when the relationship ended and you both …
i just joined this sub and this is the first post i seen. it's a bit of a jolt to read a description of your behaviours and why it's wrong. think i'm in the right place
Hello anxiously attached souls. I have a very difficult time. My anxious attachment is being triggered recently a bit more. I’m dating someone for over 4 months. I’m 35F. I really like them. First two…
Personally, I wouldn't break up with someone I want to spend time with. That is the entire bar for me. If I like being around them more than being alone, then that's it. I'm not looking for anything m…
I'm similar. I was never strongly for or against, and thought that once I'm with the right partner and at the right place and time in life, it'll become an easy decision. And now here I am lol. A col…
I've been single for 10 years at this point and frankly I've all but given up on the idea of a partner. I'm convinced I will be alone for possibly the rest of my life at this point. It hurts because n…
lol weird that I have my first ever actual valentine this year. Bf (3 months) is taking me to a really nice restaurant for V-Day dinner. He got me a beautiful bracelet as a gift. I got him a new wor…
I cancelled the date I was meant to go on yesterday that was causing me a lot of anxiety. I explained that I wasn't as ready as I initially thought I was, not because I don't feel "over" my ex, on the…
There’s no such thing as missing a chance with someone who actually wants to be with you. People drop everything and everyone for the person they love. You missed your chance is just a soft rejectio…
I saw my cute (now ex-) coworker today that I had asked out 6 weeks ago when I left my old job. I did it by a postcard I made and gave her because I could not find an appropriate moment to ask her in …
Hey all, Male, 34, just need to vent about dating and life in general. Overall, things in my life are pretty good. I have a great family and friends, and my social life is pretty active. I started to…
Yeah, me too. Not more than anything, but she was so pretty and her body was amazing. She was perfectly curvy in the right places and lean in others. Could spend nights staring at the whole of her.
honestly it’s a bit tricky. a lot of people would argue that it’s one of the best placements but as long as there’s no positive support this is a very mentally stimulating placement because this nativ…
ICU is not the only place with beds. That being said my comment was not specific to your case but against the medical profession as a whole. A building with high pressure situations where you work ext…
As a 42M also having trouble dealing with aging, a liberal/progressive/social dem, living in a very small, conservative, evangelical town, in a conservative state, who would gladly date 30’s, 40’s, po…
Dude… you are clearly focusing the blame in the wrong person. That guy didn’t have any commitment or obligation to you. He is not at fault. For him, he entered in a relationship of two consenting adul…
Such is life yes, but would you say you feel this way because your previous relationship was recent? I initially thought my ex was the one but with how she treated me, looking back on it I was just ve…
yeah feeling the same way.. i know it was my decision and it was for the best but part of me feels like im making the biggest mistake. i wish it could have been different, i wish we could go back to t…
Not unless she was hammered to the point of making decisions she would otherwise not make If I felt that I was somehow taking advantage of her current state, I would not consider them able to give pr…
Idk if this is the right place but it’s on my mind and I’m dating over thirty so 🤷🏾♂️😂 Something that I’m trying to do (and this may be a “no duh” thing) is date with intention. Last fall I joine…
Success needs a lot of factors to come together for somebody to truly stand out. Timing is paramount and the quality of a birth chart determines the eventual success or failure of a native. Every birt…
Went to a movie meetup yesterday that seems to be mostly expats. A few familiar people and a new woman that seemed unsure if she was in the right place. So I talked to her and we ended up chatting for…
Those 2 factors are still luck because they involve being in the right place at the right time while having skills they need for that project/job. But they also chose me over many other qualified cand…
Oh Mama, your head and your heart are in the right place. You are exhausted, you’re a new momma, you’re going through so so many huge experiences that are new and hormonal and challenging. Yes, your…
You need to get yourself in the right place physically and mentally.
I used to have a really active imagination, always off in my own world daydreaming. But some tough experiences really messed with my nervous system, and it kind of shut down that creative thinking par…
I used to have a really active imagination, always off in my own world daydreaming. But some tough experiences really messed with my nervous system, and it kind of shut down that creative thinking par…
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Instead of trying to find a romantic partner, focus on vlcrewting a great life for you and your kids. Join a meetuo or singles activity group in your area (or more than one). There, you can do some fu…
She is simply not emotionally ready or available for a relationship at this time. She wanted something new and exciting to counteract all the stuff she has going on with her divorce. Just someone look…
It sounds a bit more to me like your friend might have an anxious avoidant attachment style. With the signals he's sending you, even a securely attached person would get whiplash. If you want a relat…
Omg I am crying as I am reading this. I feel like your comment is exactly why I was meant to post here, because everything you wrote was something I didn’t even realize I needed to hear until I read i…
I tell myself that what I want is already mine, but I don't have it yet cuz the timing isn't right. I think of it like ordering stuff from a warehouse. It takes time for them to process the order, and…
It doesn't like he's in the right place emotionally to be committed to you. this has nothing to do about you as a person. This has to do with where he is in his life and it looks like he's not ready.
Giiiirl, happy for you! I recently had a couple of dates with a 29M (I'm 39F) and much to my displeasure we ended it because we were going to get attached. But everything on that boy was on the righ…
I’ve dated people like you before and I’m pretty mobile in my future aspirations. But let me be clear that if you come in strong about how much you hate the city you are really a downer to date. It’s…
The third month of dating is apparently when you start to (i) feel more comfortable farting in front of each other and (ii) notice the uphill battle of adjusting to each other's quirks. Anyone here i…
No, I think that is absolutely it. His whole family is like this. So they don't understand why it bothers other people, but also they are unbothered by it themselves. Like, it's not a hypocrisy. They …
Sounds pretty normal to me, it usually takes several to find a good fit. Some are lucky and find a great match on their first attempt. Others are unlucky and get into the double digits before finding …
Do you give feedback? Even if you aren’t too picky, you may not be giving enough feedback. Another possibility is that you aren’t working with someone using the right modality for your issue. If you …
Stayed with the cheater but you’re worried about the friends that were complicit in the affair? How do you deal with a cheater who actually had the affair? Your mind isn’t in the right place at all. …
I think your heart is in the right place, but it’s kind of strange and a bit too soon, imo. It may come across as clingy or over bearing, *especially* since you’ve only just entered a relationship. …
You've so gotta tell him you work at a different place just to waste his time and make him embarass himself 😂 just him going to a random workplace with the intent of embarrassing you. Then when he ki…
You are absolutely in the right place to share and welcome to the community. You are not alone in experiences such as these. The description of the being is fascinating and it is something I hav…