blame game

I was neglected from birth till, well, now, and have CPTSD for 28479227392 reasons related to my parents and to other experiences. I don't think focusing on blame is useful. I can't blame my one paren…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Stop Affirming into a Void: Why Your "Identity" is Blocking Your Manifestations — I see the same questions popping up every single day: "Why isn't it working?" "I've been affirming for weeks, what am I doing wrong?" "Should I switch from Law of Assumption to Law of Attraction?" He…

My (22M) wife (21F) asked for a divorce, then "apologized" once I went silent. I'm starting to realize the whole marriage was abusive — I’m struggling to process the last few days and could really use some perspective. My wife (21F) and I (22M) have been together for 3 years. She is currently in China and I am in New Zealand. A few da…

They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…

And I think the point we are trying to show you is that your role is continuing to subject yourself to said pain. It’s not like you wake up one day in the thick of an unfulfilling, painful relationshi…

Thanks for your message and your care. To answer your questions, I am very recently single. Relationships have been so confusing for me. While this one didn't end in flames and bombs like my others ha…

I don’t think a relational disconnect or discomfort can be solved in isolation alone. It’s probably better to communicate what you’re feeling and what you need. Otherwise you might be doing a disserv…

So, you guys need to talk. Sit down, take out your calculators and formulate a plan to pay your debt. I know it's easier said than done so make it a financial discussion rather than a confrontation o…

Talking about themselves, bragging and excessively praising you, but then say one thing to hurt their ego and watch the venom spew or blame game and lies oh the lies, word twisting, gossiping and turn…

I don’t think this book is playing the blame game at all. I think it’s about attribution. If harm happened to you in childhood, someone caused it. You have to assign accuracy to the events? And the wo…

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, sending you love and strength. It is obvious this marriage is over, so If I were you I would use the leverage you have now to save yourself, get all the asse…

Oh yea my ex did something like that lol. I moved on expeditiously. Edit: To be fair, we were both avoidants, but I was more in touch with my emotions in real time; I just suppressed them(this was …

> First, you helped create this dynamic. You say you are a people pleaser It is not a blame game, but that is true. OP, therapy is so important to understand how you got into this situation and how…

After the realization that they’re fuck up’s sinks in they just find a way to blame somebody else. The mental gymnastic delulu blame game.  They’re afraid of imperfection (or perceived imperfection) …

Closure is the actions they took against you, they no one capable of doing anything terrible to you is capable of talking to you about it because they are just going to play the blame game for issues …

He cheated, hide his passport, go on your non-refundable trip and change his ticket to your best friend’s name! Don’t be a fool, he is playing the blame game and you are the scape goat. If you broke …

Girl you do not do couples therapy at 22. That is for 50 year old married peiple. He's your boyfriend. I hate to tell you honey, but that test is positive and he cheated on you. You already know it to…

I just need to vent. I’m tired. It’s been a long year. He (37m) called me (39f) bipolar during a fight so I kicked him out of my apartment and ended things. For the record, I’m not bipolar. It’s be…

Hi. I will keep away from the blame game, a lot of people bring their own perspective to this and it gets even heated gendered political at times. As a father who has gone through this, i have though…

There are 2 sides to every story. We are only hearing your side. It takes to make a relationship work and it also takes 2 to wreck a relationship. The first thing the came to mind when I read this is …

You don't feel respected or appreciated, but until you can define what respect and appreciation should look like, your partner is going to do what they think respect and appreciation is (and trust me,…

🤣🤣🤣 that playing the blame game sounds exactly like something mine would do! I'm glad your at the 'laugh at it' stage too

Why do you want to play the Blame Game here? Is this some kind of "two wrongs make a right" logic which just cancels things out and makes everything fine?? I'm sure OP has things to reflect and learn…