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I need help, please read. — This is messily written because im really not ok. My first relationship. A year and a half from my first day of college. She wanted me from the second she saw me from a distance. She loved bombed me …
Fellow DAs, do you sometimes experience people taking it personally when you need space to be by yourself? — I'm a DA as stated in the title. By "needing space" I'm not necessarily talking about romantic relationships only. I've had situations where I've been on holiday with people and when I wanted to just …
Don’t seem to understand which goals to prioritize and work on first because all seem critical — I keep going back and forth with my mind about the things I need to work on but all I’m doing really is just wasting time breaking promises and procrasnating. I feel like I need time to be ready or be…
Exhausted of healing — Does anyone relate to how exhausting trauma healing can be? Lately I haven’t had any big emotional processing moments (no heavy writing sessions, no major realizations) but the fatigue is still there…
I said, I need time to process.. — ... but after a week I am still confused. //edit: thanks guys, I needed this. For some reason this guy kept popping up for me, even though I've been meeting other people and am quick at cutting cr…
Why is she just messaging me out of the blue? — I moved out almost a month ago. I told her before I left I was going no contact to help myself heal and that it's not that I don't want to message her all the time but I am giving her the space she wa…
Overcoming emotional trauma from abusive father, feeling scared — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…
I feel I have CPTSD from emotional abuse by my father, need advice — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…
My dad just texted me to "get over it" after 8+ months of silence — I've been low/no contact with my mom since last August after she sent me a guilt-tripping meltdown over something trivial (I didn't text her back fast enough about a card renewal while I was on vacati…
my (22F) boyfriend (21M) is genuinely addicted to his phone. what would ya’ll recommend i do? — so today me and my boyfriend decided to watch the first michael bay transformers movie because i absolutely love transformers, and he knows this. within the first 30 minutes of the film i had to ask h…
i [29F] have been feeling kinda uneasy about my relationship w my bf [29M] — it's kinda a long story but i will try to summarize it as best as possible. nothing necessarily terrible has been done, but i just have this weird anxiety lately about the stability of my relationship…
Am I wrong for not inviting my mom to part of my wedding because of our emotional dynamic? — I (f, late 20s) could really use some honest outside perspective, because while I feel clear about my decision, I still catch myself questioning my own reality sometimes. I also sometimes dissociate i…
Is it a good idea to text sp? — I am drinking wine actually and i have been manifesting him for 3 months, I can’t let him go. I have a feeling that I should text him but I have been manifesting that he is the one texting and apologi…
Standard dating after divorce? — So I (36F) am no where near wanting to start entertaining the thought of dating, but of course my social algorithm is pushing. Even here on reddit. I haven't been in the dating game, well pretty muc…
Guy (23M) I’m (23F) seeing admitted to something terrible — I’ve been talking to this guy for a while now. We get along really well, and we have undeniable chemistry and connection. That being said, the other night, he admitted something to me that I never saw…
My bf (25 M) of 2 years send random girls follow requests whenever he has a fight with me (25 F) — I (25 F) just learnt yesterday that my bf (25 M) of 2 years was sending out instagram follow requests to random pretty girls whenever we had an argument. Yesterday I was using his instagram, when I s…
Funnily enough a situationship dismissive avoidant got upset with me when I said i just need space, he thought I was blaming him for my feelings and I said no I need time to process my feelings... in…
It's everything, I feel so guilty because they are being nothing but lovely and I'm still feeling the need to step away, so I try very hard to show that I also care, I'm also dedicated, I also love th…
Before I was aware of attachment issues this sentiment would just feel like annoyance at their presence, like I'm unhappy and I just want to leave them. Now I know, when I start feeling uncomfortable …
I think it's a matter of personality. I'm like the partners, I need time alone and with other people. My ex wanted to spend all the time he had with me and that was... suffocating. There isn't a one f…
I don’t know if the issue is introverted vs extroverted - I am introverted bc I need time alone (and love being alone) to recharge but I love my hobbies, travels, adventures and being social…..it soun…
It really is just a frame of mind. It’s all about catching yourself being upset and saying it’s ok to be upset. “This person hurt me because they lied, I’m allowed to be angry with them and I’ll let …
I have a couple of fixed things each week or month (sports, board games, creative activities, volunteering), I save at least one or two days to hang out at home and watch TV or do a puzzle or paint mi…
I'm going through to the exact same thing but mine is kinda fresh...? It's been a year now, in the meantime I suffered from depression because my brain went crazy even tho I have a strong mentality. I…
I disagree. I'm in my mid-30s and sometimes after a big fight with a friend or partner, I need time to work through my emotions and figure out what a resolution might look like. It feels like there is…
Yeah its hard because I still love them and I know they love me too. And I think maybe it could have be okay, maybe I should have pushed myself further. Then I get back to my senses and I know it woul…
Do you drive home? I’m a working mom as well and I work with clients. Sometimes if the day was especially bad, I’ll drive somewhere after work like a parking lot or an overlook and just sit in my car …
Your mother just has to accept it because that is her son and her grandbaby. You don't have to accept shit. Take all the time you need to process your feelings. If you don't want to speak to your fami…
" I've been thinking, you need to tell your mother about this, not me. She's your mother and it would be more appropriate coming from you as her child. I know you're upset over this, I am too but I ha…
So I met a cute guy on Hinge. We met already twice, kissed on our second date, had a lot of smalltalk. I feel its only superficial. I want to get to know him better, learn about him and his views. Th…
I’ve been this woman before. Usually what happens is I like a guy, get to know him and then with time figure out it’s not a match. I will not discuss my internal feelings or thoughts with him, since …
I've been on the other side of this equation. I met someone who was awesome in so many ways - kind, caring, generous etc. But something was missing for me in terms of attraction and chemistry. It wasn…
>He talks about himself but doesn't ask me so many question. I don't know if its a common thing for men. He doesn't talk so much about his feelings, maybe it's too early. I am shy, too so I need time.…
> I’ve been this woman before. Usually what happens is I like a guy, get to know him and then with time figure out it’s not a match. I will not discuss my internal feelings or thoughts with him, since…
Reading between the lines here and also hazard a guess and say the sex is probably amazing but if it’s genuinely stressing you out or making you feel like a prisoner, it is so not worth it, it’s not g…
Thank you for the tough love honestly, I think I’m going to try and go cold turkey but I need time to build up to it. And honestly I’ve realised that it’s extremely damaging my ability to think by my…
It can be austim or any type of neurodivergence. Some signs of what you mentioned: * being super sensitive about eviroment noises, it even give you headaches. * Feeling exausted after social interact…
I want you to look into enmeshment with parents. I also want you to look into people pleasing. You atr going to have to set boundaries with your mom. It's going to feel very uncomfortable for you at f…
I’m very similar to your fiancé. Is he also more of a night owl? This can be tied to depression, ADHD, sleep-wake disorders, and or a combination of these. I’m 42 and have been like this my entire…
I'm the same as your partner. I need time in the morning to adjust, I just can't turn on right away. I also have it when I come home from work, I just need to be left alone. To your question of why n…
>Having him in the space with me giving off this angry energy and unwilling to acknowledge my existence throws off my peace. He's not doing this *to* you, but you're acting like he's being grumpy *at…
Something very similar happened to me. He kept being vague saying “this might be the biggest mistake of my life”, “I need time to get some stuff out of my system”. I had to actually say that we were d…
ok this was wild ride lmao but good for you blocking her been in similar situations and the "I deserve better so I need time to change" line is such bs - basically means "I want to keep my options…
hey guys me and my avoidant gf, just broke up/ no contact, I lied to her about smoking thc pens since november, I was using them in Nov dec, stopped in Jan, after valentines started using again. …
Nope, i need time with kids and do not really want someone that in my life until they prove it. Yes its more lonely but i can keep myself busy with some netflix binging and lots of hobbies and house …
Great questions! We did not establish a set of rules, although this would’ve been helpful in hindsight. (I am sure he knows that spending time with the GW would be a relationship breaker.) Here’s his …