I'm tired

It is always difficult when physical/intimacy needs don't align. I've experience the same thing you have regarding shrinking yourself to better meet his needs, and I've heard the same story from so m…

What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like? — I am a dismissive avoidant trying to get better about reaching out to others for connection, co-regulation, emotional support, etc. I am really struggling to figure out what's normal/healthy/reasonabl…

Can I get some assurance from reformed people pleasers 🥲? — And some advice? Not necessarily on "what to do" because I know how to set boundaries in theory. It's managing the guilt and fear of fallout that I struggle with and I do because all my life any time …

I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…

Tired of people asking me for stuff... — I don't know how else to put this but I'm tired of people asking me to do stuff for them all the time.. it's at work (that's different, it's fine it's work.) But like my mom, my roommate, my friends..…

Wanting to fix my life — I want to start my self help journey tomorrow. I am tired of being lazy and having no discipline. My life has been terrible so far I'm doing bad in school, I'm poor, I'm ugly, and I'm bad at socializi…

I'm sorry, I just want to get out of this mental hell — I'm sorry if I keep making these extreme venting/screaming posts.... i'm just tired of all the bad news in the world I'm a graduated artist and animator looking for a job and goes to therapy, but I c…

I'm sick of the state of this subreddit — I'm tired of it: I love lucid dreaming, I achieved it on a weekly level for years now and I love to read about people's experiences, sharing my own piece of advice, learning about the different techni…

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

A person who DMed me for support replied to my latest problem with "LOL". I am livid. — I can't believe people are still acting like this to me whenever I feel low. This is the reason why people are hopeless nowadays, you treat them like a punchline. I'm sorry, but this is absolutely un…

How to stop chronic procrastination that's genuinely ruining my life? — I am in my second year at uni and I'm doing really bad. I am currently on academic probation and if I fail to meet the semester grade requirement this semester I will be required to withdraw. I have …

I think I want to get divorced. — I'm so tired of swallowing myself to make room for him. I'm exhausted by his casual homophobia, misogyny and racism. I hate that I cannot speak the way I want to because he doesn't "get analogies" or …

I'm tired of people assuming that everyone can afford therapy. — I live in a third world country, I'm non functional and I depend on two abusive parents, who refuse to let me go to therapy. I also don't have the money for it, I don't even have a job.. Anytime peopl…

I 34F woke up to a message about my 35M husband — This morning I woke up and was going through my messages on messenger. Something inside me told me to look at the requests and right there in my spam folder was a message from a year ago. "Be wary…

I can't get over death — Hey my fellow lobotomites, recently I've been overwhelmed with the loss of a loved one and its kinda sent me in a spiral of contemplationing death. I've always accepted death as a natural thing but th…

I'm stuck in metaphysics — *Hi, I'm 17M.* I used to feel light and carefree. But a few months ago, my worldview took a 180-degree turn... I've recently gotten into philosophy and religion. I've been searching for answers, as…

i'm feeling so fucking lost and alone i don't know what to do — It's been +4months since my bf of 3.5 years broke up with me back in November 2025. It was really heartbreaking for both of us bc we had an amazing, truly healthy relationship but hewas going through …

My nervous system is ruining my life. — I'm 28. I live in a constant state of fight or flight (and sometimes fawn/freeze). I also carry a large amount of shame, which manifests in different ways. My nervous system is incredibly sensitive a…

Why you feel drained. — \# emotions For the longest time, I couldn't figure out why I was so exhausted. I’d finish a day where I technically didn't "do" much—no big projects, no heavy lifting—but I felt like I’d been in a f…

I did it.. — I blocked him. Everywhere. No doors left open. Because I can't take it anymore. I'm in love with someone who could not give the slightest shred of a fuck less about me. Somebody that destroyed me em…

Fuck my family , fuck asian culture , fuck this country, fuck everything. — Im Korean 20 years old and I hate this fucking country and values. People are all savages who live off material goods and see NPCs as stupid robots, functions that should work and do nothing else in …

Energy around sleeping — I was wondering if anyone had had issues with energy manipulation around sleep. mainly : \- being tried and going to sleep, but being energetically woken up 1-2 hours later. Not feeling exhausted …

My (23F) husband (26M) gets offended over EVERYTHING and I don't know how to handle it anymore? — We have been together for 4 years and married just last year. We also have a child together (unplanned but very loved). For some background, I grew up in a very insensitive family and I know I still …

My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work — Quick intro: I'm a 49-year-old man earning \~$225K/year, living with my 71-year-old mother in a house that's fully paid off. I'm planning to move out within the next few weeks. You can see the post hi…

My (28M) girlfriend (28F) is pregnant with twins. We had an arguement today and she was mad and showed me a video on her phone sucking off her ex. Now what? — [Updated] My partner and I are on holiday for the long weekend. It'll be our last chance to go away before the babies come so we headed off. Two days in, we're having a fight. I'm upset, she's upset. …

What can I do to have a better relationship with my mother? (18F and 51F) — So, I'm on the last year of school and I'm very stressed with everything I have to do and with the pressure from my parents, which is normal for my age and situation; I expected this to happen. I have…

Guys idk what to do — this might seem silly or stupid but I'm literally pouring out half of my thoughts.. I can't take this anymore.. where did i go wrong?.. after Covid struck I got fat like really fat.. I was 80 kgs then…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…

Husband wanting divorce is also dragging it out — Husband and I had a big fight a few weeks ago. We 'recovered' from the fight and landed on marriage counseling. We went to 2 sessions last year but didn't continue because he didn't want what the ther…

Me (F21) and my friend (F21) spent nine hours together, cuddled, and held hands, and I don't know if it's a date or not. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend (F21) a few weeks ago and we're staying friends. Can I talk to her about it? — **TLDR:** *My ex told me to date around when we broke up, but has been really clingy and possessive since then, and one of my friends want me to go no contact. But she's the person I want advice from …

Do you have a fucked up relationship with money from being raised by narcissists? — I am LC with nparents and is financially independent... but I struggle with so much guilt just fulfilling my basic needs even though it's necesarry for living and it's from my own money. There's an in…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…

I (26F) need advice about a situation with an old friend (27F) — Am I experienceing just a crush or obsession? I'll start by giving in some details, so me (26F) I'm exhausted, I'm tired and unable to function properly cause I can't stop thinking about an old fri…

I give up. — I'm a late diagnosed Autistic. I grew up with an extremely abusive mother, (and family). She mentally, emotionally, and medically abused me. She controlled me, stalked me, ect. I had no idea how every…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…

How to stop being envious and jealous of people — I'm tired of feeling this horrible pain in my chest whenever I see or hear someone who is obviously better than me. more attractive, richer, nicer, braver, with more friends and, overall, a better l…

I'm thinking about killing myself — honestly I'm tired and I can't do do this anymore.

Is this real life? I wish I'd never started therapy. — Here we go. When I had my daughter, I promised myself I'd never do the things my mother did - namely, hitting her. That's back when I thought that was the worst thing my mum did to me growing up (lol…

Nmom doesn't want me to buy concert tickets — So Babymetal is coming to my country after 2 years. I wasn't able to go the first time. Now I'm planning to buy them with my credit card, I don't think they should be super expensive cause they're ki…

Anyone else extremely LC with narc family but afraid to block them completely? — So my parents love to act dumb and basically pretend that they never did anything wrong. I know, shocker. I'm in extremely low contact with them since last year. I see their missed calls and messages …

Sex and Power - is it my trauma or just me? — I (M29) know that I'm not alone in feeling destroyed by my trauma, I have deep feelings of being damaged, broken and despairing. I think it's difficult for people to understand how much pain (in all t…

I (24F) want to breakup with my boyfriend (24M) — I need advice on how or what I need to do. We have been together for 5 years now, and we've been through a lot together. We've had arguments about a lot of things like him not celebrating special occa…

How do I (29F) tell my partner (29M) I don't want to go to the movies with him anymore? — My husband and I have been married for three years and together for 11. We have our lives set up for us, and we are both very busy with our jobs: we both work in an office. However, I am also pushing …

Finally seeing the realities of my mother's "silent treatment" — My single mom (53F) and I (18F) just got into an argument, and now she is completely ignoring me. Whenever i talk back, or do something she doesn't like, or seem like i'm in a "bad mood", my mom immed…

venting. my dad is a NIGHTMARE. — growing up I always thought he was the cooler parent out of the two, but now either I opened my eyes to a reality I couldn't see when I was I kid, or he turned worse than he was then. he's fucking chi…

What do I do rn? — Maybe this is a sub for more severe situations than mine and I'm sorry if reading this post was a waste of your time, I'm just wondering what to do in this situation. I'm 17 with a narcissistic mother…

Exhausted by my asian parents — \*Wall of text that goes off on a tangent\* I'm a grown ass fucking adult that still feels so infantilised by my interactions with my APs. I'm 25 but when I'm dealing with them, I still feel like a c…

I'm tired of living this miserable life and not finding direction in my life — ​ A few days ago I turned 23, and instead of feeling joy or satisfaction for what I've done so far, because if I'm completely honest with myself, I don't like the life I'm living. The years ha…

Need Advice — Ex and I are not talking that much, broke up a month ago, hooked up last week, can I just drop off her stuff outside her door and send a message saying "hey just to let you know ur remaining stuff are…

How do I stop the cycle of procrastination — How do I stop this cycle of procrastination (this post is a mess and not organized, I apolgize, also apparentally there's a problem with bots? idk but I can assure you I am real I just don't use redd…

Life is hopeless now. I don't think I'll live long. — Life fucking sucks and I can't do anything about it because my parents made sure I WONT do anything about it. I have trauma bonded to them at an early age, so after a punishment, my mind keeps looping…

I'm 37F AP and my partner of 5 years is 53M DA. We're now in the processing of breaking up because of the anxious-avoidant cycle. I myself want out of it. I'm tired of it, and I've been the one overgi…

i'm so tired of being avoidant and getting close to people only to repeat the same patterns. I think there's some core belief/thought that i'm too much for people/friends/loved ones and when we get cl…

Realizing the fearful avoidant + fearful avoidant pairing is so painful and destabilizing. I don't even mean with just romantic partners (although my next point explains why I keep finding them). It…

I feel so mean saying it but as time goes on I begin to resent anxious patterns more and more. I watch how they operate and it's so emotionally lazy. Being needy isn't the problem, being scared isn't…

I'm 18. I'm barely an adult and these feelings I don't see myself getting rid of. Yes of course I crave that love, because no one ever gave it to me. Everyone that was supposed to, and everyone that I…

This is very refreshing. I'm tired of hearing anxious people constantly bash us and talk about us like we're demons or something. IMO, anxious people are not as self aware as they think. They'l…

Was meant to go on a first date from Hinge today. Last minute she messaged to say she didn't want to go out because it was raining. Feels like a flimsy excuse to me. I was all ready to go out anyway s…

I feel like you could probably stand to cut them off sooner. If someone cancels on me for a first date, even with a seemingly good reason, I usually break things off. If they cancel after a 2nd date w…

I'm (36F) one of the oldest people in this particular friend group (and the extended friend group ie. Friends of the friends) The oldest person is 3 months older than me (but different year) and the r…

Had a date planned for Sat night, sort of. She messaged me in the morning saying "Hey want to meet up tonight, I am going to see my friend play music at 8 but would be fun to meetup beforehand." I re…

Ok yeah I see. It's a balancing act and different with everyone I meet. My ex was abusive and my last date who asked what went wrong in the relationship I hesitated and then just said "he was a dick"…

My last hinge interaction feels like a good summary of how the apps have been lately: got asked out by someone I've been talking to, said yes and asked when he was free, then several days radio silenc…

YES. I'm tired of trying to "convince" partners that I deserve to be treated well. It's not my job to fix these grown-ass men in their 40's and 50's.

I'm turning 40 in six weeks, and I've been thinking a lot about the last decade lately, and by extension, my twenties. I say this without looking for sympathy or advice, but I think I'm giving up. The…

I feel you so much. I'm tired, I'm incredibly tired. I can't stand all of this anymore. I wish I could just fill my backpack, jump on a plane and go live somewhere remote where nobody knows me or wan…

So, she found me of her taste, that she's feeling herself with me, that she likes being with me, but no feeling for attractiveness towards me. She doesn't feel that high inside. It sucks, just plainl…

Fellow Libra rising I feel youuu. I'm tired of the ghosting or the hot/cold/confusing ness, I'm tired of it!!

*Stop telling me I have to be fine being on my own first!!!* I'm *fine* being on my own, it's *fine*. But *fine* is not a life I wanted for myself, and I'm tired of being the third wheel and of going …

Nope, not at all. Everyone knows what Uranus in Gemini means at this point. I'm tired, boss.

Yup, that last question is everything isn't it. Every relationship needs a risk assessment, only after someone cheats the risk drastically increases. If your plan is to stay and "work on things" then …

I just got out of a 20 year relationship. The only relationship i've ever had and with one person since highschool. 20 years of memories and everything and i'm just living in this house with all the m…

Yes. I was working 100+ hrs a week, lots of travel as a Dr, and he was a great dad and husband until I became very ill from Covid and then he changed. He became hateful, withdrawn, verbally abusive to…

it's a fucking meme at this point i don't even care, i'm getting banned from subs where i always help people out with my comments to make sure they have safe and positive psychedelic experiences, the…

It feels like there's no winning here. I (37m) was just let go by the woman (33f) I was seeing. First date happened at the end of January then the second date two weeks later, and then for the next …

Thank you, I appreciate your advice. I do meditate a lot but for over 20 years on and off I've gone through using porn. When I'm meditating, I'm somone else and when I'm alone at night, I sometimes …

Are we dating or are we not? I never know when I will see him again. Or if.  I'm told this is attachment anxiety. I reach out to him and then resent always having to reach out. I'm tired of this He…

Yeah i played a bunch too growing up and into my twenties and pretty much have always dated gamer guys. With my most recent ex, he was always in front of a screen so that's all we did while hanging ou…

Two unhealthy things here that aren't deal breakers, but ideally need work to make a healthy relationship. (1) He did some light manipulation by "testing" you rather than just talking to you. That's…

The same ppl will tell you it's not a psyop even tho I've seen with my own eyes Koreans and Vietnamese claiming Chinese things are created by them. Like recently with Koreans claiming that the Cdrama …

Same here. I'm over 3 years out and have absolutely no interest in romance or sex with men. It's just too dangerous that it's not worth the risks, and I'm tired. I sometimes get sad thinking I'll neve…

I cope by working out obsessively until I'm tired and want to sleep or gaming obsessively until I'm tired and want to go to sleep. Beats alcohol/drugs/anything else but it still sucks. I'm sure my lif…

Maybe it's a matter of our time. I used to be active in lucid dream forums 10 years ago, just recently picked up the topic again and subscribed to this subreddit. I feel these old boards had more cons…

I've just started being honest about it, I'm tired of hiding it. I don't work, I will never be able to do anything again and I'm signing up for assisted suicide, so why bother trying to spend the last…

It seems like the only people that it's ok to not be working are those who became really rich and chose to retire early. So "retire early" may be a way to go. So would it be okay to say, "I retired …

I understand and relate to this too well. I have a friend who i constantly had to "save," and now that I'm in recovery (it's been 2 years now) I now have no desire to pick up the phone when she calls…

Where are you all getting HRT? I have no medical conditions that would preclude it but I've been told by 3 doctors now that I "don't need it" and "Maybe we can reevaluate after menopause". I feel like…

Yes, the entity I dealt with in 2018 explained precisely what to do. I mentioned this important matter to a user here, but they don't seem to understand the urgency of doing this. So I'm tired of tryi…

Thanks! I probably agree, but it's really hard to realize that you have to let someone you have so much care for. It's been an emotional rollercoaster, and I've deleted/gotten rid of everything that c…

I'm tired of people assuming therapy actually works. I'm more tired of being cast aside and told to "get some help" when you're opening up to someone you trust in a cry for help. Then you realize th…

This is not the case. I don't find any man attractive yet I look at them as people. Because I wasn't raised not to. I wasn't raised in a female-centric world with token men. I don't care about testos…

Yep. Been there. My mother could put on a good mask. People saw her as funny, silly, and harmless. Meanwhile, she was sexually abusing me, among other things. No one who knows her believes me. N…

Yes. I've always done the work for everyone else to not be upset. Always looking in to why they do what they do, trying to understand and empathise. Now that I'm tired of it, I'm in trouble for being …

Thank you for writing this. I teared up lots as I read it. It resonated with me deeply and I knew these truths too but it helps so much to hear someone else say these things out loud. Especially someo…

For me, that's exciting. That's part of the fun.. but you can always just look outside before going out. lol When I use the window to go out I can look through the blinds and see what's on the other…

Sorry my comment really has nothing to do with OPs original post other than I will say I had that experience as well he was 36 and completely ruined by his inability to proform and it didn't help that…

No more dating apps after 3 years. No more. Its a relief. I'm tired. I put myself out there. I work out, go to therapy, volunteer, have social hobbies, and yet on the apps its like pulling teeth. I …

No not always. But lately more often than not. And I'm tired of them. I'm gonna do coffee moving forward. Usually we have two drinks each. I'm not aiming to hook up on date one. Sometimes it leads…

I have never in my life had a guy suggest any "fun activity" for a first date. Hell, most of them don't suggest a fun activity for later dates either. It's generally drinks or dinner. I'm usually the …

Because I will not let this world break me completely and force my hand before I choose to go. And I also won't let it kill me by degrees and inches over months and years. It won't be because I'm ti…

My only solution I know of has been love of self. It has done the most to ground me over the years, primarily by learning to interrupt negative self-talk, and to check-in like an imagined mother figur…