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Creepy behavior before date?

My mistake. I read "have" when you said "haven't" as in you "haven't" been to each others' houses.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/3/2026
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
2 monts into breakup. Here's what I'd tell my younger self.

2 monts into breakup. Here's what I'd tell my younger self. — 1. **Zero Contact.** Unfollow her, and if necessary, unfollow people in her inner circle. I unfollowed her **close group of friends** and her sister. I have absolutely nothing against them; I just don…

r/BreakUpspost3/19/2026
Out of a delusional episode and have quit drugs, but evidence of something "wrong" with saying it was delusional has emerged today...

Out of a delusional episode and have quit drugs, but evidence of something "wrong" with saying it was delusional has emerged today... — First off do me a favor plz, google for "what is the electrical phenomenon some stipulate is needed for a timeline shift?" yourself and tell me if it throws in the answers anything about a change in S…

r/energy_workpost3/27/2026
For those who've dealt with hierarchy being a factor of there emotional what was it in plain view as in a parent or caretaker forcing obedience or more a subconscious thing. As in your not outright being order or forced to confirm but still end up having your own desires considered lesser.

For those who've dealt with hierarchy being a factor of there emotional what was it in plain view as in a parent or caretaker forcing obedience or more a subconscious thing. As in your not outright being order or forced to confirm but still end up having your own desires considered lesser.

r/EmotionalNeglectpost3/30/2026
Praised as "gifted"

Praised as "gifted" — TL;DR: Did you recieve praise as a "gifted" child? Did your family never encourage effort and only praised results? As an adult, because of this, do you now find doing the things you were praised for …

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/3/2026
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME)

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME) — THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS!- **IT WAS/IS ALWAYS YOU** Never me , nor anyone else. No post in here could make you get all your desires, no coach could teach ya all that you wanna know about…

r/Manifestationpost4/5/2026
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME)

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME) — THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS!- **IT WAS/IS ALWAYS YOU** Never me , nor anyone else. No post in here could make you get all your desires, no coach could teach ya all that you wanna know about…

r/nevillegoddardpost4/5/2026
one day you’ll wake up and have a flashback of what I was in your life. That’s when you’ll understand why people say you can’t find the same person twice in life, not even in the same person

one day you’ll wake up and have a flashback of what I was in your life. That’s when you’ll understand why people say you can’t find the same person twice in life, not even in the same person

r/ExNoContactpost4/12/2026
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Worked out as in you got him back?

r/ExNoContactcomment7/18/2023
My arguments against manifestation

1. Daydreaming that makes you feel emotional isn’t what Murphy or Goddard are talking about. It is about feeling the reality of what you want to have happen now, that is the feeling. Emotions might co…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/1/2025
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them?

You're absolutely right to question. This is such the norm in the dating scene, it's crazy! From my experience, what I can say is that you're definitely dealing with a DA type here. Idk if you got int…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/7/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

>But if you were me and you had just discovered attachment theory, wouldn't you at least try use that new information to work on a solution? I think EVERY anxiously attached person in an anxious/avoi…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/15/2025
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Its really heartbreaking when you view it this way, but suddenly all the puzzle pieces fall into place. Theres even scientific studies that back this up. When parents don't touch their kids enough a…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment6/5/2025
Anyone Else Feel Relationships just Aren't for them?

I’ve dated someone who was in your mental state before, I haven’t had a chance to say anything to her as I’m keeping her in the no contact zone. Now that I understand more and put a lot of effort into…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/24/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

So idk what kind of “problems” came about that changed things. I also am not sure if what you experienced previously was something that could have been sustained over long periods. As in you both had …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/31/2025
The pain of being unmet...

I have been poly and have had good experiences with it (returned to monogamy though bc my partner is mono) but I would highly advise you against it as well at this time. Your primary relationship is …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/11/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

It’s cool. I’m not too broken up about it. She was cool and all, had a good time, but I think there was something off. Probably was in your case too, but that’s a good thing, it leaves you open for th…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/8/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

If I was in your place I would also be saying this, yet I can't apply it to myself.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 25, 2026

Personally, id have told my friend that I already had made plans and unfortunately couldn't make it, especially if partner was traveling. Maybe overthinkinking thing but if I was in your partners posi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/25/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 03, 2026

Not saying either of those about you.. I was just saying that when I was in your shoes with a very similar situation earlier, it was the first of those two options - I didn’t think there was compatibi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/4/2026
Herpes

For me, if i was in your situation, I would not have sex without protection, ever. But that is just me ,and I think you should do what is best for you not him.....

r/datingoverfortycomment3/8/2026
If you are a dumper missing your dumpee you caused the pain

None of that was in your OP so I didn’t miss any point. And you can be an asshole and still be shocked you got broken up with.

r/BreakUpscomment3/9/2026
Ex-Wife texts daily about the kids

Give you mother (and anyone else in your life) the heads up because she WILL move to someone else and its best if they are not in your family/friends circle otherwise you'll get "hey your ex wont stop…

r/Divorcecomment3/9/2026
I’m the problem.

I was in your position and I left. Biggest regret of my life. Work on it if you can. I found out post separation that I’m a dismissive avoidant, and it all made sense after that. If I’d realised this …

r/Divorcecomment3/9/2026
My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do

I’m gonna be honest here brother - you are young, no kids. Leave this woman, keep going to therapy, and become the man that attracts women who value you. The only reason she even told you is because…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/9/2026
My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him

I was in your shoes for too many years. The 'people talk' BS was just that, the only people that talked was her. The only people who don't think your best is good enough is her. It didn't matter wha…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/10/2026
I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help.

"I don’t know if I’m making the biggest mistake of my life by leaving the best person I’ve ever known." Even if he is the best partner in the world in every area, but doesn't have sex, none if it mat…

r/Divorcecomment3/10/2026
I did it, I broke no contact.

Dude please help me out man. I was in your exact same position and I’m thinking about breaking no contact too. We ended in really good terms but she left me because she was overwhelmed in her life and…

r/BreakUpscomment3/10/2026
I doubted and spiraled for weeks. It happened anyway.

When you persisted in the knowing ? Did you just tell yourself it’s done as In your scene is done ? Or was it more like it’s done meaning you’re together ? A bit confused on what you did for this. And…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/10/2026
Getting married soon help me pls

I was in your exact situation with the same woman twice. The first time she had an affair we were young. I forgave her too quickly and I didn't do what was truly best for me. While I don't regret our …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/11/2026
Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown.

yeah I really get that. This is a thing with this space, but that isn't on you in any way. There is no clear cut way of processing trauma and symptoms and identifying with a label before being diagnos…

r/CPTSDcomment3/12/2026
My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again?

That decision to stay was wired into you from your entire life to that point. It was in your childhood and in everything that's ever shaped you. None of it is your fault. You said ex husband, your lif…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/12/2026
I’m can’t even open my bedroom door without being monitored.

If i was in your place I would just randomly get up and open and close the door. I'd even go far to just open the door and stand there waiting for him to check on you and just deadahh stare at him whe…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
It's not lovebombing. It's grooming.

Please, please get your child into counseling before too much damage is done. I didn't when I was in your position and the negativity my kids got from him was stronger than the positive they got from…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/12/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Pick the birds. I was in your same situation a long time ago and I gave up my beautiful cat. The relationship didn’t work out anyways as she ended up cheating on me. I regret everything. I miss you, D…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
Stop wanting a relationship with neglectful parents.

This is a really positive sign. Not everyone can get there in the same way, as it depends on the kind of “content” that was in your family system that you absorbed when you were trying to bond. Som…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/14/2026
29F. Having immense trouble in married life. Is there chance of separation?

Honestly, you have a really good chart. Jupiter, Mars, Venus and Moon in their own sign, Sun is also exalted and i can also see many Raj yogas in your chart. Although, Saturn + Ketu is in 7th house …

r/vedicastrologycomment3/15/2026
What can I do when my (20F) husband (20M) is convinced I cheated on him because I’m pregnant again and refuses to listen to me.

As a woman who is from the same cultural background, was in your exact situation (did well in school, etc) , and had kids very young...get an abortion. It is a very simple medical procedure, and you …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
Some men have questionable hygiene and it has made dating even more challenging than it already is.

I’m nauseous. Pls stop. 😂😂 Trust me, I was in your same spot. I barely got through dinner, and that was by only looking at my plate. Barely ate and was starving prior. That whole date was pure tras…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/16/2026
Anyone have the experiance of anxious attatchment killing you as a person

First of all AA's have to relinquish their need for control, their attachment to a single outcome. Then if anything doesn't go exactly as it is envisioned it doesn't mean a date/partner doesn't view …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment3/16/2026
Fiancé 26 M shamed me 25F for my kink

Similar kinks along with some others here. Wife isn’t into them, but she will read the fuck out of them in her books too lol. Nothing to be ashamed of first of all.. he needs to understand that at t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

Please listen: if you maintain your commitment to getting better, you *CAN* do this. The pieces are in place, you just have to keep going. I was in your husband's position with my very emotionally/ve…

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
If your avoidant ex discarded you: go no contact immediately.

Came too late as in you don't want to try to work things out? Or your ex is moving on?

r/BreakUpscomment3/18/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

I can tell you from first hand experience that it will not improve. It will little by little become a bigger issue for you and it will bleed into other areas in your relationship. It's a sucky situati…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Caught wife with her best friend (F)

Yeah, I heard that too, 120k later. Thats because she feels guilty right now. Once the contempt sets in you’re just someone to stab. I recommend you take my advice, advice I wish I had, from someone w…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/18/2026
My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago

I can’t believe the similarities in our stories, but my husband had an affair for over two years with a coworker. I found out a year ago, and at that time, it had ended 9 years before. As in your case…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/18/2026
They don't care

I was in your position too and I know how hard it can be… especially when you know they want out and are purposely hurting you. What you did was very brave… you put yourself first and that’s so import…

r/BreakUpscomment3/19/2026
How do I (M22) explain to my girlfriend (F20) that I have a substantial amount of money?

I'm so sorry you lost your Dad. I know someone who was in your position45 years ago. Life did not turn out well for him. You need a job. Any job. It can be a volunteer job, but do not start doi…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
My (M19) Gf (F19) constantly asks for details on me being raped because she "can't wrap her head around it", is this worth it?

Its kind of normal to ask for context. Dont get me wrong women can be predatory and its obviously something you dont want to relive but as a guy id want context if a girl I was with was in your shoes.…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
Wife is sad over her Affair Partner???

Mate you need to leave. I was in your position. I believed that the only outcome where I as a father/husband haven’t failed, is one where I keep my family together, regardless of the personal cost. …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/20/2026
My (M19) Gf (F19) constantly asks for details on me being raped because she "can't wrap her head around it", is this worth it?

I was in your spot literally 4 years ago today. She has retroactive jealousy. Protectiveness can be isolating, which is subject to mental abuse. I didn’t know I was isolated until I brought this up to…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

Because a man can have sex with another man and still be bisexual? Are we even talking about the same thing? As in your either gay, straight, bisexual, pan etc. But to me you're not simultaneously ga…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
I (27F) keep getting mocked about my lack of friends by my boyfriend (32M)

> Ever since he’s been making snide remarks about me needing more friends, even going as far as saying “just because no one likes you doesn’t mean no one likes me” when I advised we just elope. It mad…

r/relationshipscomment3/22/2026
Those of you who were blindsided, discarded, or abandoned- how are you doing now?

They don't have to be "our" (as in yours and his) places anymore, they can be "your" (as in you alone) places. Don't let him spoil or suck the happiness out of the things you love.

r/Divorcecomment3/22/2026
Am I (50M) Widower With A 7 YO Just Doomed To Be Alone?

I was in your position - Bottom line to be successful you must date. You cannot just find someone to replace what you lost. Doing that will open you up for manipulation and or further disappointment…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Trans in a religious and conservative Viet household

I can never quite understand why Asian men are so angry. My dad is the same. So many tantrums and bruises. I became a giant scaredy cat up to my early 20s. I don't have great advice or anything like …

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/23/2026
My (31M) GF (28F) Informed Me That She Kissed a Stranger At an Outing While Playing Truth or Dare 2 Months Ago. How do I navigate this?

Hey man look, I don't know if you feel this way, but If I was in your shoes, being 31 years old and assuming you want to settle down, I would get the fuck out of there. To kiss a stranger is one thin…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026