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No kidding, it is like they didn't read any of the posts here about the women's profile chalk full of red flags. The reality of women like women's profile styles because they are made by someone wh…
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Are you running Exit surveys? — When your wife asks, “Does my bum look big in this?” Do you give the honest answer? Or do you say “no” to keep the peace? The truth might sting. But the people who tell you what you need to hear are …
Where are y'all buying T-Shirts? — I'm looking for T-shirts I can sublimate print on. I am autistic and am opening my business soon. So I am also wondering: How many do you keep on hand in each size? How did you "test" the shirt …
Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…
Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me? — I was with my ex (FA) for 2 years, amazing connection and relationship. She broke up after a rough period (lots of changes + frequent arguments, not too intense) saying she was overwhelmed. Later she …
How do you get over the need to be asked/the other person to initiate to prove you are wanted? — I think sometimes I get too fixated on people not being the one to initiate something I want with them which makes me feel they probably don't really wanna do it with me. Like asking to hang out, play…
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup? — For me it would be : "I have no hatred or resentment, and I don’t regret the year we spent together." Cool. I’m glad it was such a pleasant memory for you. Personally I was still trying to process ho…
I've been shown how our inner narrative creates and shapes our worlds — So I've been asking for more knowledge and guidance from my guides about how can i feel like myself again after period of suffering. (i was also asking my human guide-my therapist and got answers from…
Coworker with anxiety simply stopped talking one day — I don't have anxiety disorder myself. But in Dec I randomly started talking to a coworker from another team (our work and teams are completely unrelated to each other) who does. Apologies in advance f…
Avoidant advice needed. I '28f' am worried my partner '29f' is distancing away — To start, we have lived together for 5-6 years and I believe my partner has an avoidant attachment style whilst I am anxious, although I have learnt and am learning to regulate it. Currently my partn…
My(25F) boyfriend(25M) tells my mom too much and it pisses me off — This is a throwaway. We’re 25. We’ve been friends for a really long time and dating for 5 years. And my mom has known him since he was a kid cuz she’s his family doctor. They’re quite close too becaus…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
Why have I always felt like the black sheep? — Hi everyone, I am just asking to see if anyone can see anything in the chart. As I’ve gotten older I’ve felt the feeling of separation from people (particularly family) more. Just a general sense of …
When did you know your marriage was over? — (M28) For me, it was when she cried on our wedding night. Together 10 years, married 4. She just asked for divorce. How long were you together / married?
Confused if my therapist is just not the right fit. Am I the problem?? Do I just need to work harder? — My diagnosis is Bipolar 2, heavy on the depression. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a few months now. A few things I’m confused about that I need advice on. 1) I feel like he doesn’t understand my …
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically — I need to explain our history cause that may explain why everyone is telling me to get back with her. Our parents were college friends and so decided to move close to each other. So i have known her…
Is your seventh lord debilitated? Did you ever get married? If yes, then at what age? — Hello all, I am not seeking personal information here, just asking for basics. Earlier today I was told anyone who has a debilitated marriage lord has a high chance of being single or be unhappy in …
Unmatched 45 minutes before first date? — This was my first, first date, getting back in the game. I guess I’m just asking someone to confirm I don’t need to still go, right? Like this isn’t some new OLD thing?
“Grow up, act like a mature adult.” he said. — I (25F) wash the dishes as usual, when I washing a coffee cup, it slipped and smashed to a cup of glass. I screamed a little bit along with the loud smashing sound. He (44M) clearly heard, didn’t come…
I’m a shitty person, my demons are haunting me, and I don’t know how to deal with these emotions. [24 F] — I \[24F\] just got dumped by my boyfriend \[21M\] after 3.5 years. It all started in high school when we met. However, we didn’t start dating until late 2022. We set up boundaries and we both agreed…
Just venting — This is a throwaway name. I didn't know what else to do so I'm just making a post to vent. I've pretty much given up on my marriage. I honestly don't know why I've been holding on to it at all. For t…
Could he be actually cheating? — 27y/o (F) 35y/o (M) married for 7 years, 2 kids (preschool and 7m baby) tested positive during prenatal screening for syphilis both unsure where from? Got treated during pregnancy, I’ve lost basically…
My ex (M25) reached out me (F24) after a year and a half of no contact. — Long story short last week I got the text I never thought I’d get, my ex texted me to tell me he is going into the military and put me down as a reference. He then proceeded to say he’d like to see me…
I almost broke no contact today, but didn't. I'm proud of myself — The break up was pretty amicable, we were together for 5 years. He needed time alone to get himself together and be a better man before he could be a partner that I (or someone else) deserves. We brok…
anxiety when my boyfriend plays video games with his friends? — Hi everyone! I'm posting what i've been feeling for a long time during my current relationship and also asking if anyone has felt the same way, and just asking for advice. Just to let you know I'm cu…
My partner (23M) makes it extremely difficult for me (24F) to sleep — I am so tired of being on edge at night. It sounds so dumb, but it’s impacted my ability to sleep and be able to get comfortable in bed. My partner gets so upset when the blanket or sheet is slightly …
Asian Men Low Testosterone — [https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country](https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country) I've been edging to make this po…
I hate that they deliberately try to ragebait you — Like what is it with APs and wanting to deliberately ragebait you for no fucking reason? Like I just ate lunch and I just asked my AD if he had any news. Now for context, my AD, for whatever reason su…
Advice — Hi im new to this and just asking for advice as im new to reality shifting. Id like to practice it, Id like to be immortal and live in a reality where i desire to be. I never did any lucid dreaming al…
It is REAL. It is easy. — First things first, I want to start with some of the things I did. \- manifested a change in my position at my job (was close to termination) \- manifested extra on tax returns \- manifested my dre…
So I decide to shift somewhere specific but then a storm comes within. — Okay so I have been thinking of shifting to a transcendent fallen angel reality but then I get a nudge/gentle pull to stay in the cr but a better version of it. I just had this a few minutes ago as …
Conveying the psychedelic experience to the (potentially curious) "uninitiated" - how do you do it? — First the question, then the context: how do you most accurately convey the psychedelic experience to someone who has never taken psychedelics (may or may not have been in an altered state due to othe…
I had to put my dog down an hour and a half ago. It just made things worse — I relied on my dog for cuddles, to get me through this. Ive gotten better, I left her on read during a hoover, but now a big piece of my life is gone forever. You grieve one thing then another thing …
What's the meaning of "Feeling"? A detailed answer — The following quote is from an old comment by u/ Olutrageous-Vast9607 which I think more people will find it helpful It is a mood, an emotional state in res.ponse to something you contemplate (such …
My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it? — I’ve been with my husband for thirteen years, and for most of that time, he has been clean-shaven. Recently, he decided he wants to try growing out a mustache "for a little while." The problem is not…
Bringing up my emotions and emotional needs always ends up as an argument — TLDR boyfriend gets defensive and turns conversations about emotions/emotional needs into arguments. I 25F have been with my boyfriend 24M for almost a year and a half. Four months ago, I began trav…
Were anyone elses parents weirdly controlling about food? — Ive been having issues with food basically my whole life and never really thought deeper about the starter cause behind it until now. my father has always been afraid that I would end up fat like him…
I’m building a relationship with someone and seems like he’s following new women? Does Instagram glitch? — I have been seeing someone for a bit. We’ve decided to be exclusive and I discussed a big boundary for me is social media behavior as I have a lot of trauma surrounding it from my past, also just find…
Hurt Feelings and no one to tell — TLDR; Husband won’t represent us as a couple or me as an individual in his tattoos and it hurts my feelings. My (F38) husband (M40) has two tattoos. He wants more. We’ve been married 17 years and ha…
Back to square one in an obsessive loop — Currently on day 11 of a 3 year breakup I am deciding to use this account as tracking, as venting, and maybe a place to seek advice from the few kind people that reply. I want to be completely ho…
I 22F WANT TO CALL HIM 70M DAD, BUT HOW? — I want to call him dad. This one's pretty wholesome guys. Just looking for advice om how to broach this subject. I 22F lost my dad 6 years ago. My mom has never dated anyone else. not that my sibli…
Is this considered SA? — This is something I think about daily, and I really want to know if this counts or if I am just reading too much into it. When I was younger, probably about 9 or 10, I danced at this studio, that ha…
I feel anger whenever my mom asks me for help — I do not have a good relationship with either of my parents but my mom was the parent that was physically there, while my dad has lived in another country since I was a child. whenever I was a kid, I…
Is sleep paralysis induced for wild optimal if you want high quality fully lucid dreams? — Just asking as there's different variations of wild, what do you think is best?
Hating myself — I hate this behavior of mine. My roommates are also my classmates. Sometimes when I study I notice my attention drifting towards them and what they are doing. Even in the library I caught myself looki…
Job Anxiety — I'm an 18-year-old with severe anxiety. I have had it basically my whole life; it was at its worst in middle school, but it's better now. I got my first job in November, which was seasonal, but instea…
Early stages right now myself. My wife just asked me to fill out divorce paperwork in the end text she said that the mortgage went up. I still have s string urge to try to financially support her ev…
Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…
Try therapy. Just remember that therapy can take a long time and be expensive. If you haven't already in the meantime, try looking for parenting classes. Or try parenting forums, if a specific p…
Curious to know why you’d assume she felt pressured. Would you feel pressured? Just asking because like I said, did I get lucky? Is this really a solution to bridge the gap or is it a one off?
The depth of their reflections if you ask them about previous relationships, how they healed, what they want from a partner, relationship with parents… etc How they feel around children: if they’re …
That last part is what happens with my partner. It hurts so much that she feels me trigger a core wound. She will retreat for a few days, usually 4 or 5 and then come back when she's regulated. She …
I mean if you really want to check in , you can just have a short convo and end it clean , because at one point you were her everything and I bet she misses you even now but also wants to avoid you du…
Not giving you any advice because I simply don’t have any. I haven’t practiced the index. Just asking out of curiosity - did your attitude change after 4 months of practicing the index? Are you more c…
He wasn’t always mean. There were times where he was kind and showed interest in my day, what I’m doing, and whatever else. Other times when there was minor conflict or I sensed him just being rude, I…
Hello, so I've recently started seeing this coworker and we've had some fun so far. I like her and I'd like to believe she likes me. We've only hooked up before and I've tried to ask if she would want…
Text of original post by u/bleepbloooopity: I think sometimes I get too fixated on people not being the one to initiate something I want with them which makes me feel they probably don't really wanna …
I think it’s understandable that in the moment, you might have felt helpless and upset because you were in pain. Now that you’re no longer in pain, do you think you communicated effectively? It does …
I just expected him to have any initiative or take action. I'm 100% that person who'd risk being overbearing because when I do see or hear about someone I care about having health issues, I get very p…
Yes I would! If he asked me anything or imposed anything that was for my sake, I would just go with it at that point and then appreciate it. Reposting ny answer to someone else: I just expected him…
You don’t need to be arsey or defensive about it. I was just asking what your exposure or experince was with PD’s. As someone who is learning about them I’m sure you’d agree that there is a lot of mis…
Question: are you both avoidant? Just asking because for a lot of people a connection like this is ultimately a waste of time and energy. Though, sometimes anxious would do that sort of thing too just…
Sometimes it's hard to tell if I'm just asking too much. They work more, have a busier, fuller, and more balanced life than me. I don't have a lot going on besides working part time and my relationshi…
Yeah I totally hear you on that and how it can all feel disconnected from what we are experiencing here. This also may sound like nonsense to you, I know it did to me until I started practicing it. B…
\- You can absolutely fully break down in front of someone. Yes, people are fully breaking down in front of the people close to them - just not, like, all the time. Most people cry a little bit regula…
It’s very possible you dodged a bullet. His words and actions are not lining up. He is clearly emotionally unavailable. If you are not looking for a friend or mentor then you need to block this person…
Right, I tell myself that too - my future partner would want to date me and that we just ... would. One place I still find myself getting stuck emotionally is the "I am not even asking folks for a rel…
They're just asking for people's personal perspectives.
Have her clarify that information. Understand how she paces herself. Learn how she showed up for relationship in the past, were they built on friendships first? Is this something she has learned about…
Could I get thoughts on some sexual issues I have? I've accepted the way that I am and I don't feel insecure about it, but I am wondering about the effects it's had on my dating life. Please no comm…
Yeah, I've already seen therapists and specialists, I'm just asking about the social part of this.
As an FA, I can tell when someone is interested and then if I choose to, I can let a bit of my passion show and people usually are attracted to that. The most I have ever felt "seduced" though was …
Just ask him! There's nothing to lose. If it's been a month ya'll could both simultaneously be playing the "I don't want to be too much" game. Have a chat! A month in is a great time to lay the founda…
32 Y/O M here. A lot of guys will say things and not back it up. I like to tell people I wouldn't date somone 5 years older than me, but occasionally see beautiful older women that may even make me fe…
I just ask during the chatting phase if it's not mentioned on their profile. No point in being shy with a potential major incompatibility.
this is sooo true like for a minute i was trying to date someone who was pretty much straight up ignoring me and i was like "🧐 is this my anxious attachment causing problems? 🤔" like no bestie you a…
Chance in the future? Did I mess this up? Is there a chance in the future? How to stop thinking of someone you never dated? I (f in my 30s) connected with a m in his 30s on hinge. We both seemed v…
It could be the Valentine's Day thing, honestly. I've had a lot of people on here tell me the same thing, but just ask him. After 30, we're all a little tired of playing the game. A quick "hey, do …
So maybe it's not new? But Bumble just asked to show me the "really into you" tab, which okay cool. And said it's likes from people who send fewer likes. Can't help but feel like this is supposed to c…
I would just ask her out again and then you'll have your answer either way. :) I've learned to not read into these things too much. I just always assume they are interested until they explicitly tell …
Relatable. I stated on my OLD profile that I still mask up and that I'll know I'll align with a match if they also do and at least do not make fun of me (this simple statement already weeded out so m…
I’m 28 I’ve been single for 6 years, and I’m honestly tired of dating apps. Most guys only seem interested in hooking up. They don’t ask me on real dates—they just ask for my number. Just to talk any …
Yeah, that's one of the really unhelpful things people like to say. It'd be nice if it was true, because it'd make things so much easier. But it's just not true for most people. Being in a good relati…
I have had so many friends say that I should just ask him out. But I don't have the confidence. I really hope that when we go back to school things will just be normal and then I will feel more calm/n…
Just ask him, it wouldn't be very awkward at all. Now if you date and then have a breakup... :) But yeah... last year I tried all sorts of meetups and sports and it's also problematic in other ways. …
Girl you're in your 30s, just ask him if he's seeing anyone and go from there. It can even be as casual as "so how's dating been going for you?"
That's really interesting. We are both neurodivergent, which is also why I think potentially we have both been too subtle for one another to pick up "cliues". So far, I have just asked him if he would…
I am starting to think this as well. I have been too sutble in the past, and I kinda just need to know whether this is going somewhere or not. That said, I have just asked him if he would like to come…
Honestly? Throw caution into the wind and tell him how you feel. Life is too short for missed chances. Invite him out for a catch up, something casual like a drink, coffee or walk, whatever you guys …
Just a casual mid-month whine about dating apps (and Hinge specifically). I very regularly see girls whose profiles use this prompt: "The best way to ask me out is..." And then their answer is "Just a…
Answering "Just asking" to that prompt lacks personality, creativity, shared responsibility, and effort, so I usually swipe left as well. I don't think I've ever used that prompt, but if I did I'd tr…
There are at least two/three different reasons why I think people do this: 1: They are using dating apps as a game with no intent to date. Often these come with thin prompts and glammed up photos x6…
Guy from Friday who I went on a first date with told me that everyone he meets on the apps he gives two dates to. this made me feel not special, as every girl he matches with gets another date. Well, …
all this tells you is that he is not interested in watching movies… i’m sure if you stopped trying to read his mind or read into his actions/responses without any evidence to support it and just askin…