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Part of it is dating culture. I know asian women, at least many I encountered, want the guy to be proactive. That is, reaching out, schedule dates, saying "how are you" etc. If guy is not doing it the…

How does the process look transitioning from dismissive avoidant to secure? — I'm 44 and have slowly worked out there's something up with me, to finding out about this term and seeing a lot of myself in fellow sufferer's description of it. My life is full of unrealistic expe…

How many of you had suitors before meeting your NPD partner that were actually really nice, attractive, and ready to go all in with you, but you turned them away? — Asking for a friend 😏 jk…that was me. Those suitors’ love felt strange and off-putting. It felt too easy and therefore not genuine. You mean I don’t have to perform for you, hide my feelings, or s…

Admitted to Stanford but at the cost of my childhood — I am a high school senior who has spent the past 18 years growing up in a middle-class Asian family in the Bay Area. My parents constantly complain that they have no money, no connections, and no adva…

It has been two years since I broke up, and here we are, folks. — It's a strange day/event to commemorate, yet it's undeniably a significant one. I feel like it's important to pay a token of respect to the journey I took. So here we are. 1. Before diving deep into …

Am I giving up too easy? — ‼️MENTION OF DV‼️ I want a divorce. Back in November he put his hands on me. Resulted in a hairline fracture on my arm from when he grabbed me by the neck and threw me on the ground. He kept screamin…

I go back and forward between ending my relationship every week, even though it's essentially perfect — My boyfriend \[22M\] and I \[22F\] have been together for over two and a half years. It was originally going to be a summer fling. I had gotten into a different university and was planning on transfer…

I (31F) want to move in with boyfriend (30M) of 5 years. He doesn't. Now my flatmate (31M) and childhood friend thinks of moving out to live by himself. Now that this is a possibility, I want to tell my boyfriend to finally do the next step. I am afraid I'll find a stonewall. What to do? — For the past one and a half year, I (31F) have been wanting to live with my boyfriend (30M). When we talked about this a year and a half ago he said he wanted to experience living by himself and he mo…

Brain dump to hold me back from saying unhinged shit to my ex — Enjoy my spiral if you feel like reading <3 Hi, I know it’s been a while but i still think about you and cant help but have questions about us. I dont know if this is productive or harmful to ask but…

If you are going to pivot to a cash grab you better have something worth paying for, there have been many products/softwares more advanced than this that don’t meet that standard. Too easy to recreate…

This is a really good point! Texting is too easy. It should be a way to ask about an IRL convo... not THE convo!

The learning that has made progress possible is also one of the hardest parts of this journey for me. As I work to heal my abandonment wounds and anxious attachment, I also find myself understanding t…

All of the above. Whenever i feel triggered by something (The latest one is an approaching movein with a partner) it’s a lot easier for me to step back and look at it and think to myself, why do i fee…

I'm emerging from several days of I'm-going-to-die-alone vibes. It can be a little too easy to fall victim to it when using the apps, so I'm taking a break for a bit. One person snuck through the ga…

Nothing is going to make someone not act like their Moon placement. The only difference is going to be how visible it is to others. The Moon is very internal planet, much of it even subconscious to th…

If you do start again, make it almost too easy to skip. Five minutes, same place, same time. That helped me way more than trying to be “serious” about it. Most days it doesn’t feel dramatic at all. I…

Thank you for your response. I feel like I am currently living through this scenario from the other side (I am the husband/father) and it seems my wife has completely lost the desire for “us”. She say…

My guess is that the difference in resilience comes first, and the abuse comes after. People who have it too easy, who never had to learn to deal with consequences, are the ones more prone to abuse …

Prep school has a specific meaning and it’s not the one you intend. For example—Dalton is a prep school and that is in fact elite. Probably enrichment, after school program, tutoring or extracurricula…

The more we carry the unresolved or unconscious baggage with us, like a backpack filled with the rocks of our past, sometimes many of not even ours in the first place placed in there, though we know i…

Yep! If he'd taken the compromise and gotten whatever he wanted, and then he dumped her anyway (which he's definitely going to do), she has a place to go to all arranged and ready for her and that wou…

The NYT did a great article a decade ago about cuddle clubs. But many of these clubs have extremely strict codes of conduct and in a lot of cases look like a mass of people hugging one another. It's t…

Yes. I think today’s society is very free about who we share ourselves with- and I’ve typically been more on the free/ promiscuous side of things. Not in a dark way, just in a fun loving and free spir…

Good stuff mate! Here's to more dreams! You might want to look into natural awakenings to help your dream recall even more. [You already wake up in the middle of the night every night.](https://www.ho…

Wow! This is really awful. Says a lot about society. They make it way too easy to literally have money sucked right out of your bank account with a click of a button. It’s worse than online shopping. …

its too easy, but its kind of like hell to stay there with the oily fried foods, inconvenience, typhoons

too easy to take it as a signal of over commitment or investment too early, there's a delicate dance where you can't be so disinterested that they don't know whether you like them, but also you can't …

Sometimes less really is better. We’re just conditioned to complicate things because it seems “too easy” Good explanation!

Once I learned that getting out of fight/flight/freeze/fawn was the key (aka, a regulated nervous system as you stated), then it all shifted for me as well. I began receiving and receiving in ways I'd…

By the way, My relationship with my grandmother is very good. I was with her a lot as a child and i remember she was emotionally available and she played with me a lot of did things with me. Things …

You’re right I know I need to I’m just not sure if I’m able to. I’ve blocked her on SM but it’s still too easy to access her through text. I feel like I can’t block her number because of the house sit…

"You are doing it wrong" (...wait for it). Just focus on feeling good in and about the choices of life, and 'whatever you want to call it' responds accordingly. I think it's too easy to get caught up …

You are in no position to assess yourself. No one ever is. You are describing nothing more than classic trauma from a comment which challenged your self-image. It's too easy to look for magical cause…

If i ever get involved with someone again, highly unlikely at this point, it's going to be mostly analog. These devices have made it way too easy for people to do things they would never do in person.…

Get a pack of butt wipes with aloe Vera and wipe your ass. Go to whole foods first of all. They have them right next to the toilet paper and they cost $4 for a pack of 50. Or if you want target even h…

Not necessarily. Things you have to struggle with early in life can "build character" in ways that people who don't have to struggle never get. Having difficult placements can lead to understandings…

You can't find a date in Arlington? Just go to Clarendon on a Saturday night. There are mad Asian girls all over, Ballston, Viginia Square, etc(I'm a black woman, but I see all races here). Go to Quin…

You’re making it entirely too easy for him. Why does he get to be a parent when it’s convenient for him. You need firm boundaries. He can come over on specific days and times. If he doesn’t come then …

I think it’s slept on because it is so simple and straightforward that it seems too good to be true. We wouldn’t want anything to be too easy.. 🤭

Ad a monogamous person that decided to try out polyamory, this shit will eventually destroy you. Its all too easy for other s to tell you to stay when they wont have to deal with the heartbreak when s…

How my mother would always describe me as being "too easy" as a child. That's because I was self-erasing and appeasing my parents so that I wouldn't get yelled at, threatened, punished, hit, etc., and…

I don’t see how his actions show it is all a “gimmick “ and I don’t believe the part where you say you’re “at ease” with the outcome 5 years later. It’s obvious there is still some resentment and mayb…

This. Let it go and move on as normal. One thing though - a normal message about whatever you normally message about is excellent. But generally speaking, do not get raunchy over text until you've g…

No, but I can relate. I created a fantasy version of a woman I dated from all the text messages she sent. Even though they were her real thoughts, she was not the same person I met in real life. A…

Working at a grocery store. He...is the baby of our family and my parents kinda spoiled him, didn't hold him to the same standards as the rest of us. He would just smoke weed and hang out at home and …

As another Chinese American, I was gonna say try connecting to other Chinese Americans if your family isn't giving you that connection, but it's sad to hear that other Chinese have dismissed you. Maki…

Thanks. HUGS back. I am in a pretty good place now - VLC and live far away and financially independent. This helps the most. But still dealing with the anger and many other emotions of this abuse li…

I’m not familiar with that app, it might be fine. I can only tell ya how I’ve done it and what’s worked. I’ve noticed concentrating on breath really isn’t too easy and will probably take time to rea…

Yeah my dad really said "think before you act" one too many times, now that's all I ever do lol.  I'll take the patience to heart as well though, it's too easy to slip into self-blame

One thing at a time. First, start talking walks. If that is too easy, take longer walks, et cetera. One step at a time.

I was thinking about exactly this today; does anybody want to make a small support group. No names or personal info but we express our goals for the year, co-regulate and hold each other accountable. …

You will find many handy informations if you just search Transcendental Meditation on Reddit. It’s very easy, you repeat mantra in your head and let your mind guide you deeper. Key to success is doing…

Yes Encanto but it goes way too easy on the grandmother who basically shamed and disowned her grandchildren for not performing enough.

Girl…. It’s not that divorce is easy. It’s that he doesn’t want one and you’ve made it too easy for him not to get one. He doesn’t love or respect you. End of.

Giving up too easy? He's doing better? Broken bone? I'm sure you're confused, but the answer is right there in the words that you wrote. Yes, I'm sure you filed police reports, I'm sure that you had t…

I saw blocking as freedom because social gives them windows into your life and theirs and text well that’s just too easy for the reach out down the road so no contact can be a good thing for healing i…

Ok. I guess it's too easy for me to say you should just file his inquiry under "figures, dope." and continue unaffected on your current path. Best to you.

I absolutely get what you’re saying - and have seem signs of it - where our relationship is now tightly wound around the affair itself. We’ve been trying to find joint activities to have fun together…