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Why should one person do all the work?

Yes, same here. Surprise, surprise, that is a person asking a stranger to do the emotional labor. Not stellar behavior from any gender. Ones where I couldn't swipe left fast enough? As a woman in my …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/1/2026
The person called my "Step-dad" having a narcissistic collapse, slight advice wanted?

The person called my "Step-dad" having a narcissistic collapse, slight advice wanted? — So, I have schizophrenia and am 30M and currently live with my parents, I won't mention the country. My "step-dad", who also has bipolar, really started his narcissistic collapse maybe in December - …

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/12/2026
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

I think what others are saying unless someone says I hate you, then it's based on your feelings. Feelings are 100% valid but not facts. I'm anxiously attached and felt many people have disliked me ov…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
How does avoidance "feel" in your body?

Sometimes I’m aware of my body physcially tensing up, like around my adobemen , spine and ribs. And my thoughts quickly dart away from the feeling and my brains like nope! When I’ve managed to overrid…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/18/2026
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Yes this is how I feel too. And he is actually 42, so yea... nope!

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/8/2026
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I think it's more me thinking "oh she goes to all these conferences and must find all the great men I miss online." Nope!

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/18/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

A couple years ago, I met a guy who was taking me on very cute dates. He was like model handsome. So handsome people comment on it a lot. He is also wildly sweet and silly and smart. Very cool guy tha…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
my(F28) bf(M30) thinks themed bridal shower of my friend is stupid and my costume is stupid.

You’re never too old for dress up! My friend (40)and I (57) are going to Les Miserables this afternoon. We’re dressing up in evening gowns. Why? Cause we can and we want to. Will we be overdressed? Pr…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/7/2026
People whose parents only seemed to notice you when you achieved something and didn’t really accept you as you were — did you end up loving yourself once you reached real undeniable success?

lol nope! Goalposts was always moving and I wasn’t the golden child. I had a nervous breakdown from a combination of work and personal stress, had to take leave from work, continued my already extensi…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/9/2026
„Did you forgive them yet?“ — I stood my ground and said NO.

Right, you are a victim of the abusers, it is counterproductive to deny it. at the same time, the fact that you are a victim is not the entirety of you, you got this! on the topic of forgiving, I th…

r/CPTSDcomment3/9/2026
I find this insane they don't love their children

literally the only child daughter to my single parent nmom and you would think that would make difference but nope! it absolutely baffles me to think about the horrible things she would say to me at a…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/10/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

This reminds me of a first date I went on. We had queso dip. The man showed up in a suit and tie.This was some years ago. While eating , he dripped queso dip on his tie. Instead of just getting a nap…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
For those who stayed no contact with a parent until they died did you regret it?

Nope! He even asked for me on his deathbed. No regrets.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning

Nope! She was for about a year, but she lost her nerve. She was closer with him because until this incident he had never abused her like he did me. To my knowledge he didn't hit her again, but I belie…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
Anunnaki Contact

Nope! It does sound like that, and it's what I thought at first too. STS is more about control, domination, manipulating others for your own benefit. STS entities have no qualms about infringing on th…

r/experiencerscomment3/14/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

Conversation cards?? Nope! I’d rather poke my eyes out than have to make conversation cards. Being able to connect intellectually is just as important as physical chemistry to me. It doesn’t sound lik…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/19/2026
Thinking More and More About Just *How* Boring They Were

I relate so much. My parents did nothing but sit around watching TV (then later, on their ipads). If beg them to watch me or play a game or help me ride my bike or read or *study* even anything but no…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/20/2026
Anyone else never asks for help because they don't want to be a burden?

A burden. Worthless. Have nothing to offer people except being an emotional dumping ground or my body, or if I bend over backwards and kiss their feet. Worthless. Useless. A burden. I hurt everyone ar…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/23/2026
Women who had a glow up

Yes!! I started getting my lashes done not long ago, the more natural looking minimal amount. Had a guy on a date ask if they were real and I quickly replied nope! He said, you know guys don’t care ab…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
If you were the dumper you need to be the one to reach out if you want a relationship with that person again.

Nope! Not when the break up is more than justified because the person was purposefully turning your life into a living hell almost to the point where she was pushing you to break up because she had no…

r/BreakUpscomment3/25/2026
It’s sometimes weird and overwhelming to go from being SUPER controlled to having endless amount of freedom….

4 years out and nope! It brings me anxiety thinking about getting into another relationship, actually.

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/26/2026
[Partner] Wife’s suppressed severe trauma surfaced. She’s in extreme ‘flight’ mode, refusing therapy, and I am burning out. Need honest outlooks.

Nope! Healthy as a horse, aside from obesity….from all the food I used to keep my emotions buried! But even fat, I was healthy, always baffled my doctors because my blood pressure was perfect, lipid…

r/CPTSDcomment3/27/2026
People trying to manifest an SP back into their life. Read this

I do this all the time. I just made a post yesterday mentioning that (one of my personal techniques that I do) is I listen to music I imagine multiple vivid scenarios of me and my crush/sp. Music adds…

r/Manifestationcomment3/28/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

Some playful bully acts actually turn to testing how much abuse your partner will tolerate. You can be a butthead to each other but at least show concern when your partner is actually hurt regardles…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Who wants their ex back?

Nope!! Lol that was hell

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026
My wife (f38) wants me (m42) to be okay with her going speed dating with friend?

Woah! Fuck that. That’s not a partner move. She blocked you because you were uncomfortable with her going to a speed dating event? Nope! That’s not partner behavior.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

Nope! When you have a man’s body, you’re signing a contract to put your autonomy and your child secondary to his sexual needs.  Took my dumb ass until this thread to figure it out.  But thank God I …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Did they ever really care?

Nope! 7 months in to my discard, zero fucks given, possibly losing her son to me full time, out behaving like a petulant child, and has 2 flying monkeys as best friends and she's delusional as fuck to…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/31/2026
Attempting to meditate

This reminds me a lot of my first attempts at meditating and the adhd part of my brain going "nope!" immediately ;D It took me a while to figure out how to meditate like that and the way I got myself …

r/energy_workcomment3/31/2026
I 24 f got a dm that I think is about my 28 m husband and idk what to do. How can I bring this up to him without sounding accusatory?

Okay… so what you’re going to do? Say NOTHING not yet. The reason? You have to know what will happen next if this is a thing. If you’re leaving: It’s time to investigate WITHOUT letting him know…. I…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
My gf 25F of 1 yr gave her number to a guy at a bar and is saying it overreacting 26M

Nope! Time to leave! ( I know the advice on Reddit is always to dump them but in this case? Trickle truthing and the like? Nope)

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 02, 2026

Interested in getting others' reactions on this one... One of my biggest critiques about dating apps is how they somehow always match me with people outside my radius despite having a set radius and/…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/2/2026
My 23M bf gets a panic attack every time i ask him to pick up after himself 22F am i the problem?

Yeah, he'd find out real fast just how my TONE works! LOL He'd be the one running, not me. I don't deal well with men behaving as little mama boys! Nope!

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality

Nope! No counselor! Run! I’m serious, not kidding. The amount of manipulation these people are displaying is insane! Grifters gonna grift. Don’t give them a chance! Dump her!!

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
My soon to be ex-husband wants me back.

That’s a big ole “Nope!” Some crimes leave room for forgiveness and re-acceptance. This isn’t one of them. Even beyond how terrible it is, it’s a social contaminant. If you go back to him, you’re …

r/Divorcecomment4/8/2026
The person (35M) who absolutely obliterated my heart texted me (35F) for my birthday, what do I say back?

Nope! Instant block. Engaging will not end well. Ask me how I know 😂

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Me 34M not sure I can trust my wife 34F again after secrecy and emotional affair

If this was me, it would be a big fat NOPE! Ask my ex wife how I feel about cheaters.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
Did your parents ever play with you?

Nope! And! My Mom would complain about being bored. It was to annoy my Dad, but it was annoying for all of us.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 08, 2026

That's the only positive to take really. These sharp turns are killer. You think you're in the clear for at least a little bit after just being introduced to her entire family, but nope!

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/9/2026
Is it fair for my boyfriend (26M) to charge me (21F) the same rent as his roommate when we share a room?

That’s not fair, it’s a shared space between you guys. If he doesn’t see it that way, then move out if possible. Damn and you are cooking and cleaning up and no one is putting their part? Nope!

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

It's the sheer unwillingness to take accountability and be responsible. Sure, we can give the benefit of the doubt for 'not knowing' a few times (def not after a year though). But if he was willing to…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Is it fair for my boyfriend (26M) to charge me (21F) the same rent as his roommate when we share a room?

She's basically paying his part. It's possible he was paying more than the roommate, but even then, she's not getting the same real estate as the roommate and is effectively paying more. Nope nope nop…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Is poor dental hygiene or bad teeth a dealbreaker for you when dating?

Love this question. Yes for sure for me! I work in the oral care industry and pay too much attention to oral hygiene. If they have majorly messed up teeth or I can tell they have a dirty mouth, that’s…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/11/2026