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I [43M] have been disowned by one sister [41F] followed quickly thereafter by having to disown my father [65M] — **TL;DR up top:** While concerned that my marriage was falling apart, I asked my sister ("Alice", who I will no longer refer to as any variant of "sister") if I could spend time at her place, during w…

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

Losing (F23, AA) my mind in my relationship with my (F22, DA) sister. — We’ve had some real struggles, and I’m at a loss for what to do. I feel generally pretty secure outside of this one relationship, but recently it’s been making my AA flair up in my romantic partnersh…

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

I’m not sure how to process this. Idk if it’s my Anxious Attachment style acting up or if I’m being objective — Thoughts on finding this text exchange on my girlfriends phone? she was with a group of friends and at a bar and I guess she started talking to some guy there. I’m brown, she’s not referring to me wh…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

I’m 20 and my mom still asks for my phone and laptop every night or there's consequences — I'm 20 (F) and turning 21 in a few months. My mom recently started asking me to surrender my laptop and phone again. "Again" because she did this to me as well when I was 13-18 years old. Before, she…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …

DDay - 2/19/2026 - Online Emotional Affair Led to Full Blown Infidelity — I found out my wife was going on “solo” concert trips, but was also using them as a way to vacation with a guy she had been talking to online for years. Seventeen years together and seven years marri…

Did your Narcissist gift you a " Trash " gift? — My Nmom would gift me the most ugliest things to wear just to make me look bad in front of other people, to the point where I wore something she gave me and I would find out I was being laughed at by …

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

My sun and rising are in Sagittarius. Why am I so shy and reluctant to express myself? — Based on my limited understanding, having your sun and rising in Sagittarius signifies being outgoing, expressive, and freedom seeking. I couldn’t be further from that. I know other aspects in my char…

AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…

My (29F) brother (34M) asked me if he ‘still has a sister’ because I’m not excited enough about his baby. How do I fix this? — My (29F) brother (34M) and his girlfriend (31F) are expecting a baby in May. I’m happy for them because I know they really wanted a kid, but I don’t feel particularly excited about becoming an aunt. W…

The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…

I (31M) have a situation with an aunt (70F) where she thinks she is my handler, she won't back off whenever I tell her to knock it off. — I'm just curious if my pushback is the only solution, or if I need to rethink my approach with this aunt, I'm going to use my sister's wedding night to paint the picture of what I've dealt with all my…

I am successfully shifted — Hi! My English is bad sorry I wanted to shift my reality where my sister is alive and healthy with me. I started to robotic affirmation 24/7 and subliminal, I have been locked in my room since 1…

Revision is where it's at. — People say that revision works faster and this is my experience as well. I'm a fairly good manifestor but there were a few things I was stuck on, namely my height. I carried a bit of disappointment …

As an artist, I now can see the reason I loved art, nature, and music so much growing up was a form of escapism from my emotionally neglectful parents — Can anyone else relate? I think when I was younger, getting lost in a painting or paying attention very closely to the natural world around me would help me find joy in a world where I felt extremely …

My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this — For context I am a 20 year old girl I was raised by my two lesbian parents they got a sperm donor and had me and my twin sister. Starting since I’m assuming a toddler up until about 13 my biological m…

Children know when they parents don't love them. Children know when their parents resent and hate them. — It's surprising the amount of parents who not only think that their abuse is justified, but that believe that their children "are too young, so they won't notice" or "they'll forget about it". I heard…

Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning — So long story short: My dad is an abusive piece of shit narc in a family of narcs. 7 years ago was the last straw when he beat up my little sister who was 19 at the time. Rather than harm him, I went …

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) keeps telling me I’m at high risk of diabetes. How do I address this? — I am a 19 year old woman. I am 5 foot 9 inches tall (177cm), my body weight is 67kg, my BMI is 21.4, body fat percentage is 15.8%, and body fat mass 10.6kg. I go to the gym 5 days a week and perform c…

Heart chakra help — Hello all, I hope everyone is well. I am suffering from a closed heart chakra, I consciously think I am good there but I am not. I hold pain there. It began in 2023, I got a snippet of some trauma i…

My cop husband cheated and now I can't trust him when he leaves for night shift. — My husband became a cop in 2024 and our entire relationship changed. We've been together since 2019 and we have three kids. Before this, I truly believed he was loyal and strong. He always told me he…

Sister (29F) has not invited me (32F) to be a part of her wedding. Does she not want me to come? — My little sister is getting married this year. Backstory: we grew up with abusive parents. I spent my childhood shielding her from abuse. When I got older and moved out I made sure to take good care …

Heart Chakra opened, and I feel very very calm — Last night I laid down to meditate. After a while, my thoughts began to drift away again. They felt strangely random almost like they didn’t belong to me. I saw a woman and her child. She looked noth…

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…

Should I help repay my sister’s debt to protect my parents? — I’m 31F. My sister is 29F and lives in Canada. We come from a lower middle-class Indian family that has mostly lived paycheck to paycheck. My sister always dreamed of studying abroad. She completed …

Understanding the parent who ‘did nothing’ has been really hard for me. My therapist recommended I share. — EDIT: Thank you for being a safe place to share. I feel seen, but also heartbroken that so many of us have this in common. Due to the kind encouragement I received, I have posted links to the three …

Started gateway this week. I’m confused — Hello! I admittedly don’t have the most knowledge about the gateway tapes. I’ve listening to a couple podcast episodes about them but it sounded like this intense experience where you will astral pr…

First post here, don't normally do this but I need help. 27M — Gday all, firstly just want to say hi to all who come across this post, and also forgive me if my grammar is bad. I was never really good at it... What is mentioned in here could be quite triggering …

My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course. — I don’t speak to any of my family anymore because they disowned me for being gay after i was outed. It hurt at the time but honestly the more time i spent away from them the more i realized how awful …

Major John Liu Fugh — I came across this guy during my general reading. This is Major John Liu Fugh. He was the first Chinese American who was able to attain rank of General in the US army. He was born in China and his …

The distrust of my family in India finally pays off — My APs usually talk about how well my family’s kids are doing and how they’re doing medicine and grad programs and all that jazz, but today including a few before, things have been quiet about my fami…

Sometimes they’re so cartoonishly evil you have to laugh — i visited my older brother yesterday. We have a bit of an age gap, so we aren’t totally privy to each others childhood. He asked me if i remembered a “song” that Mum used to sing about her dying. I st…

This book has been phenomenal. — I know it shouldn't just be men, but this book explains abuse and how abusive people functions. This has been extremely helpful to me in rationalizing my illogical choices of staying longer than I sho…

I’m 19 and left with a 4yo autistic sister. I feel extremely hopeless. — I’m 19f, my mom passed away November 2025 and Im left with a 5year old neurotypical sister and 4 year old sister diagnosed with autism, ocd, and adhd. My sisters and I have different fathers, their fa…

My parents (48F and 48M) feel offended as I don't have income to gift them anything. — I (24F) have been unemployed for almost three months and getting a job is ridiculously difficult. Father's day is celebrated around this time of the year in my country, and I have always felt pressure…

I (30F) suspect my mom (58F) may have taken money and my deceased grandmother’s earrings while I was away. I have no proof and it still bothers me years later, how do I move forward? — I’m 30F and my mom is 58F. I currently have very minimal contact with her due to a number of issues in our relationship. I haven’t blocked her, but I don’t engage much beyond unavoidable family events…

Unexplained flash of light — A few years ago my sister & I were laying in bed both on our phones & we saw what looked like a camera flash came from one side of the room. We both ignored it partially bc we hoped it was the other o…

My wife keeps helping her sister and husband — Hello, I need some advice, I'm a male of 45 yo, and my wife 44 yo, live a good life together with our dogs, no kids, because we got married at the end of our 30's and realized we didn't want kids. …

codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling — I took a codependency quiz last week on taro's tarot and i genuinely feel like the floor dropped out from under me. I've always been the person everyone comes to. The fixer. The one who drops everythi…

Does a Narc ever regret? — I dont mean hoovering or fake attempts, I mean actually regret the pain they have caused? Like some sort of lightbulb moment? For my Nex he was so attentive for the emotions of his sisters, mum, SIL,…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Actually, I have read the index and the POSM, and I've been doing training for 5 days so far, but I still have intrusive thoughts about hurtful events like his elder sister saying crap about me and ge…

thank you cub sister:)

Thank you cub sister :)

because I did something similar to as described and worked? but I agree with much of your points, as to me is annoyingly frustrating. and certainly read of NO LIMITS, yet my sister has cancer, can I c…

This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …

There are so many Taylor Swift songs that I relate to Attachment theory. The Bolter is clearly about an avoidant woman. Quite a few of the tracks on Tortured Poets are about exes that seem highly avoi…

Yes. I was with a dismissive avoidant and I divorced him, and then my older sister is a DA as well and I have been regaining my voice after I left my ex. So I have set very limited time to talk to my …

I'm a dismissive avoidant for sure. I've been in therapy for like a year I guess and my therapist is really the only person I have any sort of emotional connection with. It's honestly weird but it tot…

What you are describing is punishment. And while it’s understandable to a degree, it can also cross into territory that is incredibly toxic. For example, one situation that caused this “escalation” w…

Yes, he did consider me his girlfriend. He was the one who brought up that conversation. I met all of his friends via Facetime. He would always call me when he was out with them. He even called me whe…

Yep, it's probably not a good time...and I may have impulsively downloaded it out of loneliness. I have friends and a sister I can talk to, I have hobbies and a new career. I put a lot of energy into …

\> "anxious individuals have a lack of self control, don't respect boundaries, and and don't realize how much damage they do because they just don't care" That would be basically correct, that's why …

She is like a sister to me and just there in my life. While we’ve had plenty of petty fights, we were able to resolve it. This is our first major fight so yeah it’s been a really bad trigger for me. …

I’ve read about limerence. Does that happen even if I’m a straight woman? I thought there had to be something like romantic feelings for limerence. I see her as my sister but I’m so used to her being …

I am proud of you cub sister! Your pouncemonials are an inspiration to those of us still on our missions. What’s pouncemonial number 10 going to be?

Congrats brother or sister. 30 kills at an 80 percent win rate is incredible ! I know its a bit late to ask How do you know your results came from Law of belief and not from pure conventional di…

Highly suggest this for meditation. This is the description of the video and audio file. https://youtu.be/r6a_EnUG180?si=-x7_b4mf2JSIjBG2 Taygeta, one of the seven sisters bright star visible to the …

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

That’s how my last ex was it’s like he refused to understand my anxious attachment issues sometimes it felt like he didn’t even think something like that could exist. It makes matters worse when said …

Already started therapy a couple weeks after breakup.  As far as engagement I thought that's what she may have wanted...I think she did in the moment, but it triggered something in her.  I was there f…

I m really sorry to hear about your sister. How are you doing with that? I hope you have someone other than your ex to support you. I think it is quite common for people with trauma that lean avoidan…

I appreciate that, nice to have encouragement!!  My sister is in a fight for her life, but making some incremental progress everyday... and thankfully I do have good friends & family around me as a su…

i like painting and drawing, reading, and watching shows with my sister. i also hang out with my sister and dad when they are home. i don’t have any friends to hang out with. honestly my boyfriend is …

I been out my last relationship for 3 months. Looking back I can see I was anxious and codependent. With that I was a caretaker trying to help become more open, share more, make more decisions, and so…

I’m hoping someone will say it’s not bad and it’s not a big deal and it’s just my anxious attachment style. But I also want the truth. She apologized for this type of behavior years ago. She told me …

I (DA) always wanted kids, and so has my wife (FA). We have three kids and it's great, it was definitely the right choice, even if it takes a lot of effort. I couldn't imagine my life without them Fu…

My experience? My dad fits the clinical definition of NPD; my sister, BPD; and at least one of my exes was diagnosed BPD. I went down the diagnostic rabbit hole after that. Oh, and I'm completing a p…

Do you think it's possible to gauge long-term compatibility within a month or two of going out with someone? Even then, what does "long-term compatibility" mean to you? Because people grow and chang…

Rats I read to the end hoping for a magic solution. I was just trying to describe this to my sister the other day and I fear she thinks I'm a monster now haha. 

Hi all - this could be considered a graphic post. Just FYI. I wanted to introduce myself and say why im here. My first memory is of being used as a human shield by my dad when cops pulled a gun on him…

Whenever I try addressing conflicts instead of avoid them, it’s not just an emotional response, it’s like my whole body is physically fighting the urge to retreat. I also have diagnosed anxiety which …

I googled "how to communicate as an avoidant" and got a slew of "how to communicate TO an avoidant" with a side dish of "avoidants are soooooo immature fr fr no cap"  🙄  I just wanted quick tips …

Got a message from a friend (that I accidentally ghosted) today. "You're weird" He isn't wrong. I was supposed to drive a few hours to meet up with him last summer and when I was fixing to leave …

I think it’s important you untie your worth to your friends- remember that you ARE important and you are talented and special on your own. Normally I find my friends either by accident or through a sh…

After therapy yesterday, I got to listen to my FA soul sister. We each have our own struggles. I find it sad that in our corner of the world, it's just so easy to give up on healing-- family is inse…

My sisters always act so confused when I try to talk to them about being avoidant. They say Im the one thats most likely to bring up a vulnerable conversation, and I’m cheerful, nurturing (“like the m…

I wasn't ever really planning on having children but wonder if I would feel differently with the right person if they wanted kids? My sister recently became pregnant and is older. She never planned on…

My sister and her husband are constantly telling me that I should be more open about looks and age and... they met at work. Stfu. The apps are a different animal entirely.

You sound like my sister and BiL. They literally are together every minute that he’s not working. It’s not my cup of tea, but they seem very happy.

This is so relatable and very hard. I realized for me a big part of where my avoidant attachment stems from is from my people pleasing and my inability to set healthy boundaries in my life and even fi…

I bring it up bluntly literally within 5 messages. I've had too many people with an undisclosed desire for kids (or already have them) ignore what my profile says and match with me. For people outsid…

Lately I’ve been feeling shitty about how my two younger sisters have already gotten married (one of them divorced but has lived with two other bfs since then) and I (33F) have never even lived with a…

I feel ya. Two younger sisters as well. One is married with baby on the way and she felt like SHE was late :/

Amen, sister, right there with ya!!

I understand that it is a lot. That is fine with me. I don't need every man to be attracted to me or be compatible with me.  I am a high effort friend, daughter, granddaughter, sister...and would als…

My friend is eloping then throwing a big Italian, family-style dinner for her closest friends and family! She gave me a plus-one, but my response to that was, "Haha, good one," so I'm sitting with her…

Plenty of people who are allergic to dogs still have dogs (in my personal experience). They take precautions like frequent vacuuming, no dogs in the bed, take daily allergy pill. Does he still get the…

My ex girlfriend who I cheated on got married yesterday. A couple of years ago we went to a concert and on the way back I lied to her saying my sister is unwell and I need to go see her. We had book…

Dealing with an avoidant breakup/separation and my sister committing suicide and Valentine’s Day is really hard. That’s all.