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Wonderful. My mother fell again...in the parking lot of my building. — Well, according to her, anyway. I don't know how to handle my mother when she won't leave my apartment, so she cleans every square inch and/or centimeter. She claims that she's "abused" while she doe…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…

Why are therapists/psychiatrist vague about whether you were abused or not? — I've been going to therapy for years but I keep getting confused on whether or not I was abused because my psychiatrist keeps saying stuff like "It could be abuse" then suddenly going "They could be r…

Healing is noticing abuse in REAL time. — One of the signs of healing is, noticing abuse IN REAL TIME. When I mean abuse I mean the manipulations, passive aggressiveness, taking jabs at us, gaslighting and anything that is harmful or disrespe…

My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this — For context I am a 20 year old girl I was raised by my two lesbian parents they got a sperm donor and had me and my twin sister. Starting since I’m assuming a toddler up until about 13 my biological m…

Heart chakra help — Hello all, I hope everyone is well. I am suffering from a closed heart chakra, I consciously think I am good there but I am not. I hold pain there. It began in 2023, I got a snippet of some trauma i…

Horrified to find myself talk to my baby the way my mom used to talk to me — I grew up with two parents who hated each other but stayed married. They were also emotionally very distant and verbally & physically abusive to me (they'd beat me up sometimes). I don't ever remember…

My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…

Am I (26f) throwing away my relationship with my (30m) boyfriend? — ​ I 26/F have been with my BF 30/M for almost 4 years (june). I have been unhappy for at least 2 of these years. we have talked it out multiple times, he usually cries and becomes very upset w…

How I learned that a lot of women/girls are scared of men — I was sheltered by my parent in my teenage years. The first time I really heard about women/girls being scared of men, was at a mental health facility. All of the girls there were talking about how th…

My (M19) Gf (F19) constantly asks for details on me being raped because she "can't wrap her head around it", is this worth it? — Me and my gf (both 19) have been dating for 2 years. 4 or 5 months before we started I was raped by an older woman. She tried to play being my friend and it just happened. I have never told anyone ab…

Is brainrot real? — The past 10 days i went on a camping alone without my parents, the things i learned are extremely depressing. Here’s a list of then and ill provide examples afterwards. \- I cant hold up a conversat…

Anyone had a parent who wasn't interested in any interaction with them as a child? — I've been talking about this with my therapist and I wonder how common this is among people who went through abuse/neglect. All the kids around me were at least able to have some sort of conversatio…

Apologies for posting again. Apparently I am the abuser and narcissist - I am beyond devastated. No more sharing stuff online for me. *TW - unaliving mention* — I apologise for posting again but this may well be the last social media post I ever make. I am totally devastated and feel close to unaliving. I know that sound dramatic and I am deeply ashamed but t…

Stoicism and advice regarding isolation? — Because of life situations outside of my control, I have dealt with a lot of grief and pain regarding all relationships. I am essentially alone and after the grief and pain of betrayal and abandonment…

She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…

A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault. — I side eye every parent who has children with mental health issues. The likelihood that it was given to them by the parent is extremely fucking high. Case in point, I got harmed and abused a lot by m…

A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault. — I side eye every parent who has children with mental health issues. The likelihood that it was given to them by the parent is extremely fucking high. Case in point, I got harmed and abused a lot by m…

A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault. — I side eye every parent who has children with mental health issues. The likelihood that it was given to them by the parent is extremely fucking high. Case in point, I got harmed and abused a lot by m…

My N mom started therapy and her first update made me sick — **TL;DR:** My covert N mom started therapy after I confronted her about her abuse. I told her to go work through it with a therapist before coming back to me. She found a junior therapist. After her s…

Man who abused me died. — He was 66. Just found out. He keeled over in December. I’m going to drink Prosecco tonight and see if I can find his cause of death. I bet it was his rotten heart! He was a habitual dater of women wit…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

Is this just the beginning? — Time: 15:26, 12th of May, 1991 Place: Esbjerg, Denmark. This post is not supposed to be a way for me to complain but to get some clarity. I got sick and abused at my job. ended up quitting my job.…

SF to name street after Chinese-American woman who saved thousands from human trafficking — I was happy to read this news about a street in San Francisco being renamed after a brave Chinese-American woman named Tien Fuh Wu who saved thousands of women and girls from human trafficking. With r…

I (24F) am pregnant by my (27M) boyfriend after a toxic relationship full of love bombing, lies, and sexual assault. I feel like i have no way out. What should I do? — Hi Reddit, I don’t even know where to start, but I’m at my breaking point and I really hope you can help me. I’m 24, my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for two years and have been living togethe…

Help me understand something...I am literally a victim of multiple gropings, physical abuse, a knife assault, rape and other crimes. How can I be "playing a victim role" if I am constantly placed in one? — What is up with people dehumanizing victims of trauma on social media and in real fucking life? For my very first relationship I was in a DV relationship and was beat for 3 years. I got groped as a …

Our couples therapist said something jaw-dropping last session--is this a red flag? — Context: my spouse and I started couples therapy about 10-12 weeks ago. We were in crisis and on the brink of divorce. Things have been getting a lot better, and we have both been trying hard. But w…

26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off. — Things were going really good in the beginning, she was sweet and nice but I realized she was a very different and strange. Like maturity wise, she had so many issues she was very controlling when I’d…

I broke up with my college girlfriend when she lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …

My ex lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …

its so fucking bullshit that we have to be the ones who figure out that we're being abused — i was just sitting earlier and it randomly struck me how if i never realised what happening to me i wouldve basically been the 'kid who has loving parents yet is troublesome and nasty to his parents,'…

I’m fairly certain I’m being abused, this last week has been ROUGH. Lives in MY home, I’m scared. — I’ve been in a relationship (me F34; he is M34) with this person for 10 years. Relationship never went anywhere, clearly. He lives in MY home and I’m afraid he won’t leave peacefully. I’ve been slowl…

My dad (66M) started making sexual “jokes” about me (20F) after I turned 18. — I’m 20F and I live with my dad (66M). Something changed so drastically in the past two years. For context: he’s not a “bad father” in the traditional way. He’s responsible, financially and kind …

Healing — It’s been 3 weeks since we broke up. 5 years 3 months 2 days evaporated. You showed me your true colors right away with the lies, gaslighting, and cheating. I endlessly gave you the benefit of the dou…

WTF happened — Hello Reddit, I think I just need to get this off my chest. Because I don't get it. Today I shook my head while walking home, because I realised that I never actually took a chance in my life and I …

Why do I LACK EMPATHY or CARE for other's feelings or problems??? — I will start by saying. if you met anyone that knows me. they would typically say that I'm a kind person, nice, open minded etc. I have been noticing a pattern over the past few years. that I lack em…

Financial abuse is still abuse — I'm 70 years old. I've been in and out of therapy since I was 16. With the rise of awareness about narcissism, especially over the past year for me, I'm seeing more and more ways my nmother and n-ex a…

My progress to a position of strength — I haven't posted my story in this sub mainly because it's far too complex and I felt compared to other people in this thread my betrayal may not have been as catastrophic. A summary for context - I w…

Should I leave my girlfriend (body count) — So long story short my girlfriend of 6 months has a pretty promiscuous past in my opinion. Let me state this first though me and her have the best relationship I’ve had with anyone ever in my life. Sh…

I'm disgusted with my partner — I hope you can adress my embarrassing story maturely and offer real sympathy or advice. My girlfriend (29F) and I (37M) have been dating for 3 months. She mostly stays at my apartment. We have common…

23F stuck in strict family, pressured to marry, no freedom, and don’t know how to leave — I’m 23F living in the UK, and I feel completely stuck. My family is very strict and I have almost no independence. I’m not allowed to go out with friends or even by myself just to shop or relax. I’ve …

The Tragedy of the Chinese Music Industry (and Society) — If anyone's been following the recent controversy in China concerning singers Li Ronghao and Shan Yichun, you've probably seen the actually vile environment that is the Chinese internet (and Chinese s…

My mom is ruining my life and I feel helpless — I hope that this is the right place to post this. I'm sorry if this is too long to read. I want to know whether its my fault or hers, me and my mom fight a lot. I feel like my mom hates me and is tryi…

They want to exorcise me ?! — Hey,, so a family member wants to exorcise me from my mental health issues. Im 25. I already made a post about this but ill quickly go over and link the post if i can figure reddit out. I got diagn…

Narcissist are simply evil. — They are evil. From beginning to end everything they do is strategic. intentional. They know exactly where they are going with this. They know exactly how much it hurts you and still keep doin it. She…

Sibling abuse is not the same as sibling rivalry. — My older sister was extremely abusive to me growing up. It was like she didn’t see me as a person, just a punching bag to take out her feelings on or an obstacle preventing her from being the most imp…

i dont know whats my issue — first of all, i dont use reddit often so im sorry if i sound 'awkward' also this post contains very sensitive topics. I never really had a good life for multiple reasons: my father was absent and my …

I still feel like all the abuse was normal — Three months ago I had a realization that my mother was abusive my entire life. Verbally and physically. Silent treatments. Emotional neglect. Hitting me in public as an adult. About a week after tha…

Hi there - you may want to post this as a new thread (a toplevel post) or as a comment in the weekly check-in thread since not many people are going to see it here. I think basically all parents who …

This is exactly what I’m feeling now. 🥺 I want to stay and help him but I know I’ll lose myself too. If I try, he will take me back just to be abused.

My concern has been 3 years of astral staking by a person who abuses the astral. They have been taken over by a negative entity. And now energy harvest daily. This has taken energy workers many goes a…

It's so easy to resent and want to blame your parents, but don't you think the way you where raised where how your grandparents raised them? Finding compassion, and understanding that your parents did…

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

That’s pretty invalidating. Sure, a person can always choose what they want to do (unless they’re being literally abused), but it’s pretty hard act autonomously when you know another person will have …

There's also the point that not every therapist is a good therapist/works for said client they are seeing, and that therapy is a privilege, especially good therapy. Some people are so lacking in socia…

This attachment style develops from trauma. Your posts shows that you are unaware of the trauma you experienced. Therapy would be a great place for you to build some insight. Many people are unawa…

Aside from the fact that she has not behaved fairly - what else are you trying to gain from this? And I say this with kindness. What point are you trying to prove? Who else has abused your trust i…

Yes, that makes sense. I think we may be experiencing two different things honestly. I’m a very open communicator and will tell someone if I’m not comfortable sharing if they prompt me. My experiences…

😂 I am suffering from nothing at this point, other than my frustration with how psychiatry has inappropriately overstepped its ethical boundaries, and thus my children continue to be abused in public…

Do you realize that outbursts of anger and criticism are abusive behavior? That's exactly how I abused my exes and I have an NPD diagnosis. You need IFS/EMDR therapy ASAP if you want to stop. Not deac…

I’m 45F. I was previously anxious and have moved to secure. Part of getting there was realizing that my family of origin had used me as a scapegoat. I set a boundary with my mom that she could no long…

Since like teenage years I’ve only had like 3 serious relationships but I’ve dated a number of people. Prior to my first serious (teens) I would date someone I “liked” and then break up with them li…

Will there be an appeal or a trial, what about people who feel the community has abused them, how does this work the orher way around

I’ve been dating my guy for 5 months. He has been extraordinary. Patient, kind, loving, basically says all the things my soul has been dying to hear. He reached out to me, and by date number 2 said he…

Indeed the thought is that when people with attachment disorders remove themselves from difficult situations they are safe That would mean they have stepped aside from the cyclical nature of this I…

The first thing that comes to mind for me is DBT skills, specifically opposite action in the context of understanding the DBT model of emotions. Opposite action is a skill where you say to yourself "…

I’m 22 this month and had to breakup with the only person I’ve been in love with back in September. I originally ended the relationship due to too much toxicity and fighting, the usual bs At first I …

Its not stupid. If you are abused as a child you dont get the chance to have boundaries. That makes total sense.

Completely untrue for me. If your only source for this is chatgpt, please dont believe that. Ive never seen an avoidant including Dismissive Avoidant people describe their relationships this way. What…

It is an interesting conversation. I don’t swing all the way to never using attachment styles in a dating context because I an anxiously attached (due to abuse in childhood) and it has affected my dat…

I have too. I was abused manipulated and cheated on by the two partners I had before my now partner. Been single six years before November bc that hurt crippled me mentally  Survived the death of a p…

Ok yeah that makes sense. I used to subscribe to "when you know you know" but I ended up being abused. I have an idea of my ideal partner in my head, but I've never met anyone that comes close to it. …

Ok yeah I see. It's a balancing act and different with everyone I meet. My ex was abusive and my last date who asked what went wrong in the relationship I hesitated and then just said "he was a dick"…

I've heard about the potential for attracting abusers by telling them of previous abuse too. In actual fact, I was abused by a previous partner before him, and told him about the abuse, thinking it wo…

Not at all. My mother and father never abused me. I’m autistic and I perseverate on difficult problems to solve. She just reaches the deep desire to problem solve and to never give up. It’s the Zeigar…

I really hope you mean ex-boyfriend. You don’t deserve to be emotionally abused 

Hi. Anyone else have any similar experiences? I’m a gay guy and really want a group of straight buddies for some reason. I love platonic bonds with other guys since I didn’t have any as a kid. I’m m…

Very much agree with the above commenter - the vast majority of porn available involves people who were exploited, as those inside of the industry have been telling us for years and years. There are e…

Yes, I very much agree. I appreciate your thoughtfulness on the subject. When people discuss this topic, it's often framed around whether consumption affects the consumer directly via a drain on thei…

Pretty sure you're tapping into the same kind of sense that abused kids tap in when they become hyper-vigilant. It's a state where some part of your brain is always extra aware of body language and mi…

You have a lot of clarity, and going forward that can actually be a godsend. The other thing is that a lot of people can benefit from your story and your desire to have a better life. Because if you h…

Don’t bother talking to him. He’s shown you over and over again who he is. Don’t waste years of your life with a man who treats you like this. Break up and find a real partner but get therapy first so…

I really think the idea that abuse only happens to "ugly" people OR the idea it only happens to "attractive" people are both forms of shifting the blame onto the victims and/or denying abuse, just mor…

If we stay with the whole sign chart, Saturn in Pisces in the 4th can signify a childhood where the child was invisible. Even quiet, you should never have been overlooked. To be both abused and favo…

And the most painful thing for a deep mind and brain is that you understand and analyse the things to such an extent where you just wished it would've never existed, such a high introspective capacity…

If he’s not willing to change his number to stop you from being emotionally abused, that is another piece of data for you to consider.

It would be worth asking the cell provider if it is even possible for the old phone to be sending the texts. Usually when you get a new phone after you lose one, the number is transferred. You don’t …

> Because if I was attractive in OPs shoes, I probably wouldn't want to be attractive. In all honesty, if I were attractive in OP's shoes, I probably would want to be *not abused*, not *not attractiv…

I think it can be Challenging for sure. Ironically, the hardest thing is the world’s attitude to trauma survivors. For me (57 soon) I still grieve not having a partner and kids/family because of the t…

That’s what made me think he’s lying. If it were me, I’d be going above and beyond to figure out what’s going on and fix it. She’s being verbally abused daily and she and kids moved out of the house a…

Thanks for your clarification. It wasn't that long ago when I felt nobody could possibly understand what I was going through. I can't tell you where I found people who understand what this feels lik…

Dead bedroom is indeed a big problem. Not being able to get the physical attention that is important to her is a big problem. I would guess there is a lot more to that issue than she’s explaining fo…

Dumper here. I agree with the half regret. There were so many wonderful and connected things about us... and then a few big reasons why it was harmful. My body was breaking down. I tried to work on th…

I didn't know anything about narcissistic parents and when I did, it hit me like a rock! Yes, they are spiritual vampires. My own mother verbally and emotionally abused me as a teenager. She is still …

It is insane. My mother admitted to me when COVID crossed her brain wires to say the thing she was thinking but never would say out loud, that “I’m feeling like 💩, so I can treat you like 💩 and tha…

That's the right mindset to have. I have an abusive brother who is now in jail and I refuse that anyone takes away my joy about it or ask me to forgive him just because he's suffering jail conditions …

Those two people put OP’s sexual health at risk as well as emotionally and mentally abused him. I think OP having a giggle when he makes eye contact is quite literally the least of his and their worri…

I felt the same way when I found out my ex husband is dating the woman he claimed was just a friend during our marriage. It took me a couple months to get back on track but I really spiraled for a min…