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Is this normal, or am I being dramatic?

Is this normal, or am I being dramatic? — I just want to hear others opinions, and if someone else has/had similar experiences, because I feel like I'm being overdramatic about this. All advice is welcome and I would really appreciate it. I a…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/12/2026
Therapy, discovery

Therapy, discovery — I recently started seeing another therapist, the second one i’ve ever been to. The first one was a guy that was very nice to talk to but i felt like i was one of his first ever patients. This new lady…

r/Anxietyhelppost3/21/2026
Apartment

Apartment — This is something of a long story. I'll do the TL;DR up front. I've finally gotten housing, the apartment is beautiful. It's in the heart of a small city, in an ideal location for myself and my son. I…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/28/2026
Saw my narc mom for the first time in 2 years. The night ended in tears. I feel like I messed up?

Saw my narc mom for the first time in 2 years. The night ended in tears. I feel like I messed up? — I'm 28, married and have a 4 year old. I cut my narc mom off 2 years ago because she is verbally, emotionally, and financially abusive. She was/is an addict, a habitual liar, and someone who has made …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/5/2026
I (21F) accidentally called my boyfriend (24m) fat

I (21F) accidentally called my boyfriend (24m) fat — Hi. Sorry for any typos. It's 1am and I am running off of little sleep. The title sounds terrible, I know. I feel fucking awful. My bf and I got dinner tonight at an AYCE restaurant, so we ate quite…

r/relationship_advicepost4/12/2026
My partner’s 18-month cough is affecting our relationship but she refuses to discuss it

I have two points to make. Her PCP can't help her a this point. She needs to see a pulmonologist. As someone who has whooping cough for 3 months and now cannot get RID of the cough, I feel like I'm g…

r/relationshipscomment3/13/2026
New Partner Has Never Used Condoms

He also apparently won’t try latex free condoms with lube. He’s definitely making excuses.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 14, 2026

I would hope so? It just at times feels like I’m making excuses. I just don’t want to waste my time or anyone else’s.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/15/2026
r/Meditationcomment3/24/2026
the “meditate 10–20 minutes a day” advice is why I never stick to it

Their ego is making excuses. The last thing the ego wants to do is meditate.

r/Meditationcomment3/24/2026
the “meditate 10–20 minutes a day” advice is why I never stick to it

It is not wrong for most people. Realize the possibility that you are making up justifications, because that is what is happening. The most busy man in the world has the ability to make a 10min time s…

r/Meditationcomment3/24/2026
People with CPTSD what are things that people just don’t get about it?

"Stop making excuses." Well, I can't really DO that. This is how it is to live my life. I have this no matter what and I cannot change that. Every part of me has a reason for being this way and if I …

r/CPTSDcomment3/26/2026
r/Meditationcomment3/26/2026
the “meditate 10–20 minutes a day” advice is why I never stick to it

Yes, you are making excuses. Simple as that. I wake up half an hour earlier just to meditate. That's 4:30 in the morning. The good ole excuse I don't have the time yet you have the time to sit down an…

r/Meditationcomment3/28/2026
Should I (29F) stop waiting and move on from my boyfriend (30M) of 5 years?

Nope. Walk away. He is right, he does not deserve you. He will keep making excuses. He does not want to get married.

r/relationshipscomment3/28/2026
Should I (29F) stop waiting and move on from my boyfriend (30M) of 5 years?

It's not happening. You should not have to twist anyone's arm to get married. 6 years is enough time to decide if you are a team for life or not. He is making excuses. >he would feel more comfortable…

r/relationshipscomment3/28/2026
Im having a hard time fitting in and understanding Chinese culture. Can someone help me understand it better. Cooking related

As another Chinese American, I was gonna say try connecting to other Chinese Americans if your family isn't giving you that connection, but it's sad to hear that other Chinese have dismissed you. Maki…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/30/2026
I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how.

Exactly. He is absolutely making excuses. I live with pretty severe chronic pain every single day and although it’s certainly not easy, I still work a full-time job, live by myself, and keep my apartm…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
how to stop making jokes when you're not supposed to

And here you are again claiming you want to be better without taking accountability. It’s gross. Seriously, stop lying to yourself and making excuses. “I made a joke with my gf about smt she clearly t…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/3/2026
My best friend (29F) cheated on her husband (29M) with their mutual best friend (29M)

Oh no... she's making excuses. She could stop being friends with the so-called best friend if she really wanted to, OP! I'd tell him. Before they have kids!!

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
Are You Supposed to Forgive Yourself for Legitimate Guilt?

Yes, you are supposed to forgive yourself. It’s not about making excuses. You could acknowledge what you did was messed up and try to make sure you don’t do it again. That is what you can do. Guilting…

r/therapycomment4/8/2026
Lies about having kids.

No. It was a long relationship. She was about a year when he told me about her. He was paying the mom 599$ before they decided to put the kid in the system, so to speak, and set up child support pay…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/10/2026
Did your parents never let you defend yourself if they lectured you

I have vivid memories of this. I'd apologize for the miscommunication and try to explain what had actually happened or what I had actually meant by what I said, and it was always just taken as an argu…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/12/2026
Did your parents never let you defend yourself if they lectured you

> try to explain what had actually happened or what I had actually meant by what I said, and it was always just taken as an argument, backtalk, making excuses... Hey same. Try to explain what happene…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/13/2026