penetration

Has Anyone Else Struggled With Understanding What Child Sexual Abuse Is? — I've seen a couple of posts on here with people questioning whether they had actually been sexually abused or not. This really stands out to me because I also struggled with this growing up. In my opi…

Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …

I f21 had sex with my friend m21 who is gay. What could this mean? — Hi, I'm 21f, bi, but more sexualy attracted to men. I've always questioned my sexuality about whether I was under the asexual umbrella since I've never found much pleasure in the act of sex with all t…

My (24F) boyfriend (25M) is extremely insecure and I’m not sure what to do anymore — My boyfriend is extremely insecure with his penis and almost everything about his physical appearance. I’m not too sure why he’s insecure about his penis. I’ve had way smaller and tbh penis sizes don’…

I 19F and 21M bf have been having trouble in the bed, how can i fix these issues? — I recently haven’t been able to make my boyfriend cum, this is new to our relationship as normally he cums multiple times during sex. When I asked him about it he said he could control when he came an…

Seeking advice for feeling like I’m not being sexually heard by my longterm parter (22M) as a relative virgin (20M) — I was sent here from another advice thread! Sorry for the long post! How do I make my sexual discomfort heard by my boyfriend after multiple attempts to not treat everytime we have sex like it’s a…

Was I groomed at 15? — I am 33F This is a story from the time I was 14/15 and was enrolled to go to a coaching centre for mathematics tuitions The maths tutor (35M) was very charming and someone every student seemed to lo…

Read something about the ways CSA starts and it made me come to some upsetting conclusions about my own abuse — Was scrolling through Twitter, not a great idea, but landed on a thread about grooming and the ways society has come to normalize behaviors that harm children. My abuse was not the kind of abuse that…

Is this mdsa or just normal? — I’m warning it just in case….Uhm abuse in general anyway But mdsa is mother daughter sexual assault, as a kid I thought this was normal but I want other opinions on this, as a child my mother was ver…

sexually frustrated and conflicted about sex life w bf M20 F20 — I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and I genuinely love him. we’re both 20 in college, our relationship is amazing in many ways and I do see a future with him. the issue is that…

Telling the "full truth" only when there's no other way out — I'll keep this short. (NOTE: This happened about 3 years ago, but still comes up, hence me posting about it now. We've generally worked through it, I've intellectually forgiven them and emotionally to…

My bf [M21] won't take accountability for making me [F19] insecure about my body and ruining my self image. — Hi, i’m my boyfriend’s \[M21\] first girlfriend \[F19\], and ive been with him for 6 months. I’m 182cms tall & 55kgs. I’ve never felt this insecure about my body in a relationship. I constantly find m…

I’ve set sexual boundaries but I still feel uncomfortable and don’t know how to cope — I (20f) have been with my bf (19m) for about 3.5 years. I’m not really into kinky stuff tbh. Like I’m not completely closed off to trying things, but it’s just not something that really interests me. …

Could I get thoughts on some sexual issues I have? I've accepted the way that I am and I don't feel insecure about it, but I am wondering about the effects it's had on my dating life. Please no comm…

I am exactly like this when it comes to penetration! My partners have been female until very recently so it hasnt been that big of an issue since fingers are fine. I just started going steady with a m…

I'll be honest and to the point because it seems like that's what you want. I think that in my case this would be an incompatibility. I enjoy it when my partner comes and I like vaginal penetration be…

I've had performance issues, and it sucks when you know your partner wants penetration and the anatomy is not matching up with the libido...but I've had some very patient partners and I enjoy making o…

You do realize he can pleasure you without penetration, right?

Hey man i may be late to this and you may never see this. I was 22m, with a girl id slept with a few times years earlier and our lives kind of just ended up in each others way again. We went out, n…

Mutual masturbation is honestly super fun and a great way to ease into a sexual relationship. Less stressful & both partners are probably going to finish more easily than during penetration. Also you …

lol…kissed. Yeah it didn’t stop there. You know damned good and well there was penetration. Who the fuck plays truth or dare in a relationship? Cheaters that’s who. Dump and move on bro. Get tested fo…

Lemme give my 2 cents lol. It’s actually not funny though i feel for you. First question i have is do you get turned on with your bf? I mean like aroused and “wet” . I may be wrong but it seems like t…

I had this exact thing. Extreme fear around penetration and then extreme pain when trying. Lube also burnt for me too. As the others said it is probably vaginismus. Honestly it took years before sex…

Because no one else said it, endometriosis can also cause painful penetration. Need to talk to a gyno either way.

Pelvic physio here. One of the key rule we discuss with a patient is never continue with penetration if it’s actually painful. You are just building more anxiety and the next time you actually try pen…

Definitely do not “try to have sex multiple times.” Every time you have painful sex, it reinforces the association between sex and pain, and creates an aversion, which causes more anxiety, which cause…

Can I just say, I had this problem with my ex - I enjoyed everything up until P in V, and then it just hurt. Excruciating pain. I couldn’t understand because I could use my dildo on my own just fine,…

Edit: I saw a comment that OP made confirming that he actually invited her IN the room that is weird? Idk why he would do that ? Definitely ask why he did that, if you like this man and he’s not evil …

The first thing here is you need to actually bring this fully into therapy and not just mention the assault once and move on, because from what you’re describing this isn’t a minor side effect, it’s c…

You boyfriend sucks, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your vagina. He was 26 when you were 18, this man is far to grown to be dating you, and FAR too grown to be acting so fucking gross. When …

hmm. maybe Sliquid. It's lube originally created for a woman who was allergic to like every lube in existence. It's worth a shot. Also, my best suggestion is maybe quit the penis penetration for a bi…

If you suspect your child is being abused, you should take them to the Dr. Im not a Dr, so idk how they'd go about determining if penetration took place or not. I suspect it would be similar to a rape…

There are some laws that exclude penetration with fingers in regards to rape. Digital penetrations is still rape even if the law refuses to acknowledge it. There are laws that exclude female predato…

I know that, if u knew how to read properly, I said "idk how they'd check if penetration happened, but I'm sure it's similar to a rape kit." You're just focused on the fact that a virginity check is …

R * pe is legally defined as involving some form of penetration however emotionally, any form of s**ual assault will have the same if not similar ramifications as r * pe. I highly recommend rainn.org …

I'd say something like, "Hey I've been thinking about our sex life, and I'd like to have an orgasm or at least get *very* wet before we start with penetration; the lube helps, but I would like to be a…

I think you are referring to Ingo Swann and his book Penetration.

What are you talking about? Oral sex is extremely common in real life, for some it's even more common than regular penetration. But have you ever had sex before? Maybe you never have, but that doesn't…

So I have questions: 1: You said that you guys were pretty drunk Do you think that had an impact on him not stopping? If so there needs to be a limit on drinking or even the Dom/sub dynamic when y…

Virginity is a totally bogus concept. Like, completely stupid and unrelated to real sex life and bodies. You cannot accurately check for it either. Anyone who claims that is just looking for excuses t…

this absolutely isn’t okay. i’ve been in this situation and let it slide the one time and it kept happening here and there until it became rape. and you saying stop / using your safe words and him not…

Idk if I'm allowed to say this - we learn that sex always begins with a woman giving oral to a man, then penetration, then woman have these massive orgasms where they scream and "ejaculate" (it's not …

I was taken aback by this but did some research. Molestation is specific to those under 18. Since the unwanted sexual touching (without any penetration) happened after, it's sexual assault. TIL!

"you didn't have sex, it was sex" sex ≠ penetration. plenty of people have non-penetrative sex exclusively

If he won't do it....why not do it yourself? I would love to see my woman touching herself while we're having sex. She doesn't often bc she's one of the lucky ones that get off by penetration. But I …

How does he bring ur orgasm? Clitoral or penetration?

I will say, tell him that you will help him find how to make you orgasm. My advice for you is that next when he comes to have sex with you make your orgasms priority first. And tell him you will help …

Yes 8 years. And I do get off. Every time. We have 4 play where he's the only one doing anything. Touching me the whole 9 yards. But I want sexy time for longer than he can handle. Penetration. But it…

Have him make you orgasm first by toys, hand, or oral and then finish with penetration sex. Simple. My husband makes me orgasm at least two times before we have pentration sex. Its not fair to you.

Every time someone posts something like this, people in the comments talk about how he needs to do more foreplay, make you cum beforehand, etc., but I find those comments so annoying because none of t…

As said, what you see in porn, as appealing as they make it look, is generally not what most girls are looking for. You can have a big dick and be bad in bed and have a small one and know what you're …

I love her so much and she loves me so much too. She said she doesn’t want to break up but just tell me her feelings and not ignore them. I get what you’re saying but shes so dead-set on me having an …

On a lot of contrys this would better defined, not just as a penetration thing. 🙋‍♂️

People that don’t know what squirting is are the main people commenting on this so I’m gonna say it pretty certainly; this is your g-spot being stimulated and it’s exactly what it feels like when you’…

I would try to talk to her, not in a pressure-like way, but rather to reach some agreement to try things little by little so that she feels more comfortable, because the longer she waits, the worse it…

Here are concrete things you can do, short of a threesome, to test how she feels (with her consent, no need to pull some big trick here): \* Watch porn together - does she freak out at you admiring a…

I believe it was detailed in Ingo Swann's book "Penetration"

I get this sensation from intercourse with smaller penis'. I hated penetration with my ex husband, id just do it for him after he took care of me in other ways. I thought it was just the way I was unt…

I can kind of relate. I’m a woman, but I also have always had problems with penetration until I met my current partner. TW: I did have previous trauma where I have been held down, choked. . but no pen…

like we do oral, touching etc literally everything but no penetration, that’s off limits to him rn

Is there anything that comes off as odd when you guys are doing sexual stuff, besides the no penetration thing? Also, does he come from a religious family?

Yeesh, I'm slowly learning why women are always so surprised at my pacing at sex. I don't like penetration on the very first sexualized encounter. Anyway If it was me, I would just say penetration i…

I hate trying to walk back the expectation that as soon as you are in someone's house, penetration will occur. It's one of the aspects of dating that causes me the most anxiety. Even if I explicitly s…