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THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will caz…

Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …

A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) — When I was 21 and *severely* fearful avoidant I dated a secure guy who was wonderful in every way, but obviously not for me. I did everything stereotypical of a fearful avoidant attachment does in a…

Attachment in someone with no relationships? — Wondered this for a long time so it's oversharing hours tonight. I basically don't have relationships. I've overly attached with my mom, possibly even enmeshed, but that's it, and there's a lot of du…

Anxious Attachment Injury - Nervous System Stuck in Fight/Flight — TW: attachment injury, trauma-bond withdrawal, panic attacks, obsessive rumination I think I’m in severe attachment-injury / trauma-bond withdrawal and I’m struggling to function. I’m asking for nerv…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…

Increased self-loathing — So far what I've read about codependency makes me loathe myself even more. Whereas before I felt frustrated by my partner's chaos and how I was always getting dragged into it, now I feel like all the …

The only thing you'll ever need to manifest ANYTHING. — *And it's so clearly is the internalisation of the idea — "being good with it and without it".* *I'd Like to quote Nero Knowledge here who perfectly describes what manifestation truly is, "Manifestat…

Avoidance and not being able to access emotions when deactivating — Wondering if this is something other avoidants have felt and how to deal with it. I’m in therapy but I don’t know that it’s helping that much with my attachment stuff. I’m in a relationship with a wo…

How to have a helpful conversation when you feel something is wrong. — I am working to become a therapist and I have run into a situation in my life that I don't know how to have productively. My fiancee is Catholic and has decided to wear a cilice. For those of you who…

Leaving them unblocked only hurts you — Though I started to see my narc ex for what he was and began detaching a few month ago, I still left him unblocked. I hoped he would message me either to apologize or give me 'proof' he was a narc. I …

Feeling genuine disgust when my parents seem proud of me/brag about my accomplishments — Is it just me that experiences this weird psychological twist of sorts? My parents only seem proud of me when I conform to their “ideal” image of me. Mind you, when that was the case my depression wa…

Don’t you fear being too isolated? — I recently got rejected by a girl that I really liked. We started off as very good friends and unfortunately I caught feelings for her. So right now, I’m grieving the fact that I lost a really close f…

When the Disciples could not perform Miracles, they were not told to become Detached or to do somatic release work, they were told that they MUST Believe! — I had to share this as I have noticed in recent times a slurry of misinformation being shared on this subreddit. I see endless mentions now of the need to let go, the need to be constantly detached, t…

Signs you dated a narcissist — This goes for both girls and guys and I realized all this after breaking up with my ex. 1. They replace you immediately they cannot handle being alone, they need someone to uplift them. aka their …

Chronic Stress Turned Into Depersonalization, I’m Scared — Hey all, needing some advice or just to know I’m not alone. I’ve struggled with anxiety my whole life, and had a lot of success with nervous system regulation techniques like somatic exercises and DNR…

Finally detached! Flying, static vision, and a sudden "lust-induced" snapback. Advice needed! — Hey everyone! I’ve been actively practicing for a while now—listening to 6 Hz theta waves and binaural beats, focusing on breathwork, and consciously lowering my heart rate. This morning around 9:00 A…

The Astral Plane: its Nature, Structure, and the Unseen’s Map found in world religions — *Disclaimer: The views expressed here are my personal opinions, except where excerpts are quoted.* # Nature of the Astral Plane The Astral Plane is the wider dream world. It’s a constant place that …

Did he just used the O method on me? Twice?? — ok so... I used the famous O method before, not even knowing what it was (found out later), with a guy I'm in separation with (not talking for months now). He checks only my "romantic" stories with h…

My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…

Neurodivergence(?) and meditation problems — Hi there, I hope you are doing well. Ive had a bit of an existential crisis about a month ago, a sudden spout of dread that has been trickling away bit my bit through each day, like how a wave di…

My second OBE was just... Magical!! — I got up in the middle of the night and went back to sleep. I tried to fall back into sleep but instead I shuffled, twisted and turned about. I was awake, with my eyes closed trying to sleep. So to ma…

She turned sunlight into homework. I left her house years ago. My mind still hasn't. — The sun came out today. And the first thing I felt wasn't warmth. It was guilt. A full-body, immediate, almost chemical reaction: *you should be outside. You should be using this. You're wasting it.*…

Update 03. I feel connected? — Can anyone explain to me what’s happening? I feel like a different person but I’m still me. I have no idea what’s going on but I have become extremely peaceful. I went from having arachnophobia to s…

What does choosing yourself looks like to you? — I (F30) used to have a really low self esteem, was (not sure if this completely in the past), a codependent and was craving for love and attention since I can remember. Obviously my love life and rela…

Pediatric Hospice RN using Meditation to communicate with my terminally ill newborn patient for insight how to serve him and his family during his few days of life — I took a workshop with Bob Monroe in the 1970s. He and my mother argued about the best methods for OBE as we were active members of Eckankar and Surat Shabd Yoga prior focusing on the audible sound c…

Just figured out she was cheating today — So there's a long story, I met this girl a almost a month ago, she still to this day was the most beautiful woman ever, I love her so much. I was surprised I got her attention and quickly we got into …

Me (F19) and my (ex?)boyfriend (M20) are on a break/broken up and I’m unsure how to regulate my emotions — We have been together for around a year. We have always been very intense, honest, and serious about eachother. We are also both very intertwined with each other’s families, and overall everybody on b…

My ex turned into a middle aged fuckboy — Recently learned that my (40F) ex boyfriend (42M) of 6 years has been having picking up young (20s maybe early 30s) girls at the bar every weekend and having sex. There may be a more constant girl in…

2g APE trip, complete reality shatter and spirit talking through me? — For context, this is my second “trip” with shrooms, though i’ve microdosed for quite a bit now. The first trip was a very manageable 1g of regular cubes, but this one was a whole different animal. Se…

What... did the fog just lift? Am I... done??! Or at least... okay being done? — I don't know what happened. 2.5 yr relationship. The last 1.5 years have been not great, the last 4 months REALLY bad because I dropped my (usually very strong) boundaries which he saw as weakness and…

Anyone Here Tried Writing a Daily List of What They Want? — Hey everyone, I’ve been trying something simple lately, just writing a daily list of things I want or want to see happen, then going about my day without overthinking it. Nothing complicated, just c…

Disability *does* make manifestation harder, and I think that’s the point. — I’m sure this won’t be revelatory for a lot of people. I’m new to this stuff and more than open to being wrong, but… I was moderately disabled (not that that has any standardised meaning but whatever…

How do I deal w myself — writing this totally while on the floor overwhelmed w my feelings and not one of the guys who actively or passively share what they feel but everything's getting out of hands i absolutely don't know w…

How do I move on from someone I still love? (20F) — I (20F from Japan) recently broke up with my 22M ex who was in the U.S. military. We dated for about 1.5 years and were officially together until last November, then stayed in a secret/on-and-off rela…

Breakup with fearful avoidant — So I just want to tell my story of how the breakup is and how I assume that the person who broke up with me is fearful avoidant after analysing what happened and what was going on. I want to get some …

He said he doesn’t have to pay for his past sins. — We have had a disrespectful marriage given we both cheated on each other but always tried to reconcile. Most recently my husband was lying and cheating with prostitutes and chatting with women on What…

I’ve done near every regular psychedelic except dmt. Should I tick it off the list? — I’m terrified to try it cause I have a lot of trauma I guess I’m scared of finding out what the deal is and I’m scared I’m gonna have a bad trip which I don’t normally have on any psych. I’ve done mes…

I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 oct — I’m really stuck and I’m trying to explain everything as honestly as I can because I genuinely don’t understand what’s going on with me anymore. I’m 20, and my past has a big role in all of this. I wa…

Time to let go… — A final sort of love letter… My 2-year relationship ended in September, shortly after our anniversary. I’m still heartbroken as fuck. I’ve recently learned he’s already moved on. And I have a feel…

Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …

urgent — hi guys, i really need your help, ive been manifesting my ex boyfriend for about 2 weeks now. Tomorrow is his birthday and i really want to text him and wish him a happy birthday. I really dont know …

Emotionally abusive parents — I'm going through a really rough patch right now, and I last thing I need is my AP constantly nagging and texting me that I'm horrible and i made a mistake. i have always been emotionally detached fr…

i thought something i was manifesting was impossible so i detached from it and manifested it. — This is probably the CRAZIEST thing by far I have EVER manifested. And i would like to think im pretty good at manifesting. but basically, i completely believed what i wanted was impossible (the oppos…

How do I get rid of my desire for romantic relationships? — I’m 20f and this desire only causes me anguish especially when I know I won’t ever be in one. I don’t want to feel like this anymore I just don’t want to feel anything at all. Especially after what ha…

Why am I always attracted to unavailable, detached, older men? — The men I liked are always self absorbed, detached, unavailable, and emotionally stunted. I noticed a pattern that I tend to like older men, sometimes significantly older than me (20 years age gap is …

Recently got into manifestation and some crazy miracles have happened — I am a pretty sceptical and non- religious person but the long period of unemployment made me desperate to believe in something that would help me and thats how I stumbled on this forum in February th…

Do you ever experience a profound sense of weightlessness, where your body feels like an external shell? — Sometimes I feel entirely detached from the physical world, as if I'm just observing it without actually anchoring into it. What are the everyday physical triggers—like the biting cold on your skin, o…

I have this question all the time, and would someone, PLEASE answer it?! Why my body isn't there whenever i astral project? And why I can see in the dark, although my room is pitch black darkness? — I didn't planned to astral project, just awake up to do something else entirely, because for some unknown reasons when I tried to astral project multiple times in the past 2 years, I usually end up…

Predator or Stupidity? — \* trigger warning \* \*for adults \* sensitive topic I feel conflicted about something...and I wonder what others think... I went on a date with someone. it was pre-disclosed we were looking for…

If you're already fast asleep, then you *should* be able to exit. Usually there's not that much of a special trick to exiting the body, simply just 'get up'. However if you might be well adjusted to a…

The point is to still go to sleep, if you're going for the direct method, exiting the body happens during the precise moment between wakefulness and sleep, [see this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralPr…

Either way, just don't think about it too much. Simply get up as you usually would. Your physical body should be sleepy enough to not get up. Be detached from your physical body~

I’m not a DA, but I have dated several and I also have a long term relationship with a securely attached introverted person. When my DA exes wanted space, they didn’t just physically distance themse…

I’m not a DA but I do need space. Fortunately, my friends have always understood that, and I haven’t had to communicate it. I feel like they are kind of the same and everything just feels super natura…

Thank you for this answer. I am very detached/annoyed with people Im not interested in (even when not talking about romantic rltp, any person I feel "meh" with I dont engage further). So what do I do?…

You’re spot on with this observation and I didn’t realize how it impacts other people at all. I am extroverted and love people but when I’ve had enough, I turn off like someone flipped a switch and I …

By not chasing and instead matching their pace. Absolutely reply when they text you, and match the energy if you can. Ideally you’d want to be perceived as safe, so when they text you should be detach…

A big part of healing is facing the fact you don't trust anyone and leaning into it by trusting someone, such as a therapist. There are books you can read. The main thing is  learning emotion regulati…

I felt like you , I was blind to how much effort it took her to feel as easy as i do.It becomes easy to forget , that it just may not be enough. I find it easy to put joan on a pedestal just for tryin…

I was in a similar position, ruminating for more than a year excessively about a relatively short relationship, feeling guilty about not being understanding and patient enough. And that’s the point I …

So, this is the message that people who want their avoidant’s back wait for. It has an apology, accountability, shows internal reflection, they understand how they treated you. If you want this pers…

I think it might also a problem with the way you sound about it like too aloof and casual. Like, at this point, you might not be able to trust anything about yourself as it pertains to relationships …

I remember experiencing emotional blunting with SSRIs, and my doctor told me, “while it takes away those bad feelings, it can also take away good” 😔 When I stopped because I felt like a zombie, I rem…

Healing without going no contact is really hard. I think you might benefit from reading "Adult children of emotionally immature parents" (I think you can find it on YT for free). Specifically, "Detach…

This was very much my experience and I eventually married another FA, we detached from each other probably and stayed together for 10 years. After him I met another FA, fireworks, amazing 3 months a…

I mean if you really want to check in , you can just have a short convo and end it clean , because at one point you were her everything and I bet she misses you even now but also wants to avoid you du…

I do not :/ I know he was a wonderful person, but once I detached I detached fully. I feel bad for how I behaved and treated him at certain points, but I never felt the pull to go back or even regre…

When you do leave, do you regret it or do you stay detached?

It depends. If you're completely emotionally detached before it ends, and then flip - yes that's FA behaviour. It's not unusual to grow into more of one style with age.

Already started therapy a couple weeks after breakup.  As far as engagement I thought that's what she may have wanted...I think she did in the moment, but it triggered something in her.  I was there f…

Apparently many people with personality disorders (BPD/NPD/HPD\APD) date in order to secure a “new mom/parent” in order to develop their stunted self and then individuate from said replacement. Not…

Yes, they projects their fault at you so they don't have to be responsible for their own action and issues. After a blissful period of connection and honesty and closeness with my fearful avoidant e…

Nope 😔 I am getting detached. At this point, he's either in a coma in a hospital somewhere or simply not interested anymore. I believe the latter is more plausible..

Anxious attachment does indeed show up at work The issue is to look at scenes from your childhood where these issues originate from The sense of being abandoned . Anxious attachment is indeed cyc…

Thank you, you make good points. And I think I undersold where I started at. I have a bachelor's degree in psychology. I've gone to many therapists throughout my life (maybe 5 now?) and a handful of p…

You likley attract many types of men but choose to engage with men who are fixers. The minute you realize someone is not what you want you have to end it immediately and not hope for improvement. Stay…

Detachment or Anxiously Slipping? I was in and on again off again relationship for long while. Neither of us had a lot of experience in relationships before the other, despite being in our late 20’s,…

I understand, I have a DA friend who after like 5 years of friendship + 1 year of being roomates told me "I'd like to become a hermit. I wouldn’t give a shit if nobody in my life ever spoke to me agai…

Hi, I am an AA and me and my FA girlfriend “broke up” - nothing solid was ever said, we agreed to talk about us in the future after she had had some space - but it’s been 2 months now and after breadc…

For me, it depends. Sometimes it's just dissociating, so I'm not really "in my body) to feel anything. Very literally detached. In therapy, bringing up anything I've been wanting to avoid is all in …

Maybe not :). For me,, in-between 'love bombing' and 'healthy attraction" is "infatuation ". Infatuation and love bombing can be very difficult to distinguish but infatuation can still be healthy and…

Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…

Text of original post by u/rainbowjungle: TW: attachment injury, trauma-bond withdrawal, panic attacks, obsessive rumination I think I’m in severe attachment-injury / trauma-bond withdrawal and I’m s…

I'm currently at the tail end of the same experience. I had been orbiting a FA since March of 2025. The connection repeatedly hit my abandonment wound when she would suddenly withdraw on me just as I…

I'm making really stupid immoral decisions lately, and it's completely unlike me. The person I was a year ago (even a few weeks ago) wouldn't recognize me.  I tried really hard, but I'm so burnt out…

This is such a good point, I see it used so often as in 'they were detached/didn't care bc they are just an avoidant' and it's like ehhh that's not really how that works

So I read the article, and it's pretty interesting. I'm definitely in the freeze+fawn group. Freeze from childhood emotional neglect, and fawn from my narcissistic, volatile, and controlling father. I…

i’m happy i could share some insight, i’m also mostly in the freeze/fawn group and i relate to what you’re writing. i recently realised i have a tendency to extensively provide ”servitude” (fawning) t…

How often do you see each of them? It’s not what I would be able to do, but I am curious how it works. Maybe you don’t see them often enough? Or maybe you don’t like any of them strongly enough? Or ma…

Seeing A tonight for the first time in around 11 days due to his work. I'm looking forward to seeing him but i'm also feeling weirdly detached from it all. I don't think I missed him as much as I expe…

Lemme give you my perspective, as a good-on-paper, self-sufficient 37yo woman… Yeah, he’s settling. My (43m live-in, avoidant af ex) told me at one point that I was ‘likely the best that he could ever…

Girl.... what? First you day he doesn't really do emotional stuff "which is fair..." ummm NO THAT'S NOT FAIR!? and then you say he doesn't show affection "but he checks in on me" GIRL WHAT THE HEL…

No problem! Also, maybe you’re fishing in the wrong pond? Idk the answer to that, just something to consider Recently, I’ve been reading this book called “Detached” by Sabrina Alexis Bendory. It’s …

I wish I felt it. I'm so detached from my emotions everything is very dulled (happiness or sadness and everything in between). But I feel for you, anyone assuming we're a certain way just because we'r…

Moon is arguably more critical to examine than the sun. If someone doesn't appear to be acting as their moon suggests, this is more a sign of the reader not understanding the position and aspects more…

TLDR: having a huge drawback moment after arguing once. i feel weird an i want to be normal me (19mtf) and my bf (19m) have been dating for 4 months. i always had anxious attachment but since we're r…

>Yeah it’s a difficult placement to understand. Pisces on one hand is dreamy, boundless, intuitive and emotional. Saturn is persistent, enforces boundaries, reliable but can also be pessimistic and bu…

One thing that doesn't get mentioned enough is the "Progressed Moon." Your natal moon is your baseline, but your progressed moon changes signs every two and a half years. If someone is a textbook Canc…

Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…