in silence

Thank you, stranger — I remember this day i was complaining about a specific thing that couldn't just get out of my head and was throwing my uneasyness in a Discord server i used to share with amazing people. Crying about …

Divorce isn’t all it’s cracked up to be — I miss coming home and kissing my wife. I miss coming up behind her and hugging her, kissing her neck, caressing her breasts. I miss her laying beside me in bed at night. I miss the conversations bef…

Met up with ex after no contact for over 10 months.It went pleasantly. — For anybody wondering whether they should reach out, it went well for me. I was also uncertain how it would go. The relationship ended very badly, we did therapy and it didnt help. I thought id never…

stopped trying to "fix" my adhd and started doing this instead — If someone is in a wheelchair, and they encounters stairs, they aren’t just gonna try their best to get down the stairs, they’re going to use the ramp or elevator. why should we keep trying to do thin…

Do not break No contact — Don’t judge me. When you are in love you do stupid things. After long no contact. I did send a text if they like to meet up over the weekend. Why did I do that?! I saw them, they are active in socia…

Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable people become when nothing is happening? — Lately I’ve been thinking about this quite often. The moment silence appears, most people immediately fill the space with something: music, scrolling, notifications, background noise. A need to be en…

People today have forgotten how to be alone — Lately I’ve been noticing people more and more, how restless they become in silence. The moment things get quiet, we reach for our phones. Music, scrolling, notifications, something constantly and en…

My ex-wife tried to kill me a few years ago. She just moved in three houses down from me. — I’m struggling with how to even process this. A few years back, things with my ex-wife reached a breaking point. She was struggling with substance abuse, alcohol and pills, and I had discovered she’d …

Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better? — 45f, I’ve been dating a wonderful guy ( 45 m) for about 7 months now. We are in a committed relationship, and for the most part, things have been great. We have common interests, similar lifestyles an…

My (21F) girlfriend had a complete meltdown when I (23M) tried to use her phone — Last night my girlfriend of two years and I were just chilling after about 4 days of not seeing each other while I had a close friend visiting. Initially, I asked to use her iPad (which I bought for C…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 duodenum cancer today. — I am 23. Dad is 53. Just 2 weeks back everything in our lives was so great. Just 2 weeks back, he had told me he plans to live another 50 years. Just 3 weeks back, My sister had said "Thank God for ho…

My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone — Pretty much what the title says. We live separately but visit each other every weekend alternating (about 1.5 hours apart). We've been together 2.5 years. His bag was on the couch with all his clothe…

ive been meditating and spending lots of time in forest alone. i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy, a bit heavy and not in this world after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is : i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. am i meant to be alone?? — ive been sensitive, super sensitive my whole life. i used to be affected by environment a lot. like metro makes me feel chaotic. forest makes me feel extremely peaceful. and bad-energy ppl gives me he…

am i meant to be alone? ive been meditating and spending time in forest alone where i feel so calm. but i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy and a bit heavy after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. — ive been sensitive, super sensitive my whole life. i used to be affected by environment a lot. like metro makes me feel chaotic. forest makes me feel extremely peaceful. and bad-energy ppl gives me he…

I broke up with him and I still can't move on. — Hey, so I dated a guy for four months, he was my first adult boyfriend. It's been three months now since the breakup, and still am struggling to come to terms with what happened and idk I just want an…

Sharp pain around heart during metta meditation, not sure how best to approach it — Hey! I've been practicing around ten years intermittently but in the last 300 days, for the first time, I've managed to consistently practice every day. Averaging like 45 minutes a day following TMI …

Attack of astral parasites — Since I got sick with COVID‑19 in 2021, something in me changed forever. Nights became torment: I woke up convinced my heart had stopped for seconds. In 2022, the sensation turned into a presence. I f…

HELP ME UNDERSTAND — Hi everyone, I've been reading a lot about the subject and i'm also in therapy since 3 months. I'm already non in the relationship with this woman but i sort of need to make clarity and hear other…

Dealing with a mom who can’t be alone. — It’s currently April (only the 2nd, mind you) and the entirety of March I had been sick and that meant that I was forced to take a break from school. As a result I have an increased workload because d…

Can I level with yall for a minute? — I knew everything about him. His favorite color, his favorite food, what he liked to do, down to the books he’d read. I met his family (not all, but the majority), I met the one person he loves more t…

You leaving me was a choice, not a mistake — I still don’t understand how the thought of leaving me even crossed your mind. Out of everything in your life, I was the one you let go— like I was something you needed to lose just to live. I can’t…

Predator or Stupidity? — \* trigger warning \* \*for adults \* sensitive topic I feel conflicted about something...and I wonder what others think... I went on a date with someone. it was pre-disclosed we were looking for…

I think im starting to get back on track. I still feel lost but I wanted to post to aknowledge the progress ive made — I went through a big breakup and then I started talking to this girl and then she said she needed space and I just had such a hard time with that. I have some bad mood regulation issues but im treated…

I visited my mom after months, and she stayed in her room the whole time — The title sums it up. I visited my mom yesterday after not seeing her for months. When I walked into her house, she didn’t even greet me. I had to find her in her room just to hug her. After that, she…

I visited my mom after months and she stayed in her room the whole time — The title sums it up. I visited my mom yesterday after not seeing her for months. When I walked into her house, she didn’t even greet me. I had to find her in her room just to hug her. After that, she…

How do I survive this? — Hello everyone, this is my first Post Here so I hope I follow the Rules. I'm currently battling with 2 Things at once. My girlfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago because of the second reason:…

My girlfriend [19F] told me [18M] she is still in love with her ex. — My girlfriend \[19F\] told me \[18M\] she is still in love with her ex. Me '18M' and my girlfriend '19F', have been dating for around 6 months now. We began dating in December after she had broken up…

Please give me some advice on this — This is gonna be a long story, so bear with me. I will add some background to make things as clear as possible for you guys. I'm in my late 20s now, my first and last serious relationship which laste…

I feel overwhelmed and lost and I think being the only and eldest daughter plays a role — I am 25 years old and the eldest and only daughter with four younger brothers. After spending the last few days with my family, I feel completely unimportant, like I don’t matter. Growing up, I was al…

My Christmas 2024 nightmare — I thought I’d share this story I have from Christmas 2024, and see if anyone else has any similar experiences? This was a big turning point for me, made me realise there was something seriously wrong.…

I’ve just released the evidence to the press that NSW Police fabricated a medical diagnosis to criminalize my trauma. I am dropping the files here on Friday. — *Disclaimer: I am remaining anonymous while investigative journalists review the evidence file I just submitted to them. I have on me clinical assessments, hospital documents, and audio recordings sup…

The insight that separates the best meditators from average. — In my path, I learned a crucial insight that helped me a lot in my practice. An average meditator spends their life trying to figure out what is right; a master spends their time trying to figure out…

I attended Matthias Barkers free webinar (The trauma you can't remember), so you don't have to! — I was curious seeing Matthias Barker on social media, he has some really good topics that he discusses and at surface value seems incredibly genuine. However, I was skeptical with the increasing prese…

I’m struggling to process my 8 year long-term relationship ending and his sudden changes on social media — Hi everyone, I’m going through my first heartbreak, and I’m struggling to process it. I’ve been with my first boyfriend for eight years, and overall, we had a safe and happy relationship. We always go…

10 days after he ended it for good, he is on Tinder — We were together for 5 years. I’m 25F, he’s 24M. We live together. He broke up with me because he wasn’t in love with me anymore. But I was deeply in love with him and wanted to start a family with hi…

29F Need guidance on getting over someone 28M or if I mishandled things here. — 29F here. Met a guy (29M) on hinge and we went on 5 dates - we haven’t had sex / slept together yet - but we’ve gone as far as oral. During the 1st two dates, he was ready being extremely physical (to…

Can my fiance be a grandiose/covert narc? Is this behaviour normal? I need your opinions idk what to do anymore — Hi, me(25F) and my fiance (27m) of 4 years have been living together since December. He works in the sea industry and I am an accountant for a big firm. This is a long one . Thanks for the read and fo…

Yes, i am asking this question again, i am still confused 🫠😔 also maybe it turned into a vent — I (17f) keep flopping between whether i am a rotten abusive daughter who is ungrateful and my parents (50f) (54m) are the problem i absolutely hate them and wish the worst. soo yeah...... i guess i so…

My (M25) girlfriend (F25) of 6 months broke up with me, and got back on hinge the same day — This is going to be a long post, I just need to vent and get my thoughts down. I apologize if this comes off as rambling, I am so emotional right now so it might not be structured perfectly. My gir…

how do i get him out of my head — since we have broken up i have done so much to change myself and be a better person and it has worked, but no matter how much i change i can’t stop thinking about him. I miss him more than anything i …

How do I (32f) support my partner (31m) with grief? — How do I (32f) support my partner (31m) through the loss of his father? His father has many health problems and has now began to sleep most of the day and eat very little. He will sadly pass away soon…

Tired of suffering in silence, but speaking openly about how I’m actually doing is too depressing for people. — \- The people mainly being the only family member I have left in my life. I understand that it makes her feel helpless to hear that I have constant night terrors - from which I awake sobbing or scre…

Staying in My (41F) relationship with my BF (47M)? — I (41F) am dating my bf (47M) for almost 3 year. I have been divorced for 4 years with two kids (6 and 8) and have 50/50 custody with my ex. I didn't introduce my kids to my bf until we were 1 year in…

TRIGGER WARNING DV/SA 19 years kept it secret and dealing with dysmorphia, flashbacks, and other effects — TRIGGER WARNING DV/SA 19 years of silence, I'm breaking free Trigger Warning DV/SA ***DO NOT READ BELOW IF YOU TRIGGER EASILY OR ARE NOT SAFE RIGHT NOW*** Hey everyone. I spent the last 19 yea…

All babyduks look up — Dear D there are no words to express how much it pains me to know that you never want to speak to me ever again. I suffer in silence every day . The person that I'd do anything for has nothing but …

If you compare my traumas I refuse you sympathy — I have been treated like shit by other trauma victims my whole life. My mother being one of them at a certain point in my life - she would always tell me how her childhood was so much worse and that I…

Starting Over Is Quieter Than You Think — Starting over is not dramatic. It is not a big reset. It is not a decision you announce. And it rarely looks the way you think it should. We are taught to believe that starting over requires som…

[DAE] Start whispering your questions so they wouldn't get annoyed? — Anyone else notice they'd changed how they asked things before the other person had even reacted? Like you'd already adjusted. Softer, smaller, pre-apologizing, just in anticipation. I've been tr…

I loved this song so much, and I'm guessing this is the place where it'd be appreciated the most... — EDIT: Paragraphs Found it by chance while idle shuffling songs... Roughly translated it, original is Spanish. May I link it in the comments? They shaped me with trembling hands, they marked me with …

(19f) (18m) I’m lost — Tl;dr Last week of march me and my friend were talking about mostly me, and he asked if I was a “freak” I said yes and kinda proved with saying some things after that he asked after I had said somet…

Got it. Was not expecting her to share something vulnerable, I draw a line in shallow connection & up until 6 months it was casual banter. I need serious invested friends, not those who are there just…

He was amazing, thoughtful, and genuine… until he vanished (I think?). Help me stay zen while I wait. --- So… I (35F) matched with this guy (43M) mid-July, and honestly, he’s been kind of wonderful.…

It's tough because when I'm only half-interested someone, it's very easy for me to say "so what" when they appear to be losing interest. The spiraling starts when I actually like them and it's hard to…

you don’t owe a matching emotional pitch, but you do owe *clarity* if you care about the friendship what APs hear in silence is abandonment what they can tolerate in words is gentle truth somethi…

Looking for help and support. This girl and I have got a fucking unreal connection. When we are together, time stands still (sounds fantastical doesn't it!). But then she pulls back every time and th…

Just to add on top of this - I never knew I was actually de activating and I thought how I handled situations was the best way to handle them. You have to understand some of us won’t/didn’t realise o…

I'm realizing that all my favourite friendships, all my best relationships, all the best times in my life were with and around people that we had so much fun, talking about ourselves seemed ridiculous…

Communication with the guy I’ve been seeing hasn’t been great lately but I am SO proud of myself for bringing it up because normally I would have just suffered in silence. Can’t wait to tell my therap…

Exercise. Also, I've found some drop in meditation classes in my area. Sitting in silence with strangers and feeling everyone breathing helps. You don't have to talk, you don't have to be social if yo…

I worked on V-day and treated myself to a steak dinner with dessert. As I ate my meal in silence, I realized that I have never done anything special for V-day. I’m either single or I deal with a break…

Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…

I did... in my early 20s... when I already knew the guy from friends. If this is someone you know, maybe okay. If it's from an app, I wouldn't. How you gonna get to know each other sitting in silence…

I don’t know. We spent the rest of the night together (after about two hours of sitting in silence) and we weren’t on our phones. But part of me is wondering why he wouldn’t do it right then and there…

In the past I’ve taken a lot of initiative at the beginning of dating stages with texting and talking between dates. I usually only focus on one person at a time, but after a string of pretty disorien…

Had an amazing first date. All those nerves for nothing. Everything was smooth and easy flowing. Immediate attraction, easy to talk to, easy to sit in silence with, kind, attentive, inquisitive, eas…

Ranting about how my fearful avoidant traits are always fighting each other 😞 Though I’d say I’m leaning more towards avoidant. But sometimes the thought of “hmm… maybe I’m missing the point” strike…

So she declined additional activities while wearing sweatpants, and you both sat in silence for the entire meal, and you don't know anything about her, her day, her week, what her life is like, what h…

Yes! In fact, any time I was getting into a new relationship, I would have dreams the guy was holding me like a mother would a baby & I was trying to breast feed. Really bizarre. I always thought it w…

I find what I do before the meditation makes a big difference. I usually do some calming breathwork or chanting before to begin quieting my mind. Then when it comes down to sitting in silence and doin…

No, it's not up to opinions. It shouldn't be *my* definition of meditation. *The* definition of meditation may vary, but it would revolve around "the act of thinking deeply or focusing one's mind fo…

As a ADHD/Autistic woman, OPs description of her emotional neutrality to things like shes struggling with really resonated. It can be scary to confront, but diagnosis actually comes with a lot of rel…

So some contacts this is me coming from a place of having feelings for another person. And not acting on them. And actively resisting them. And still living knowing that there are things in my marria…

Nine years is a long time to carry that. I know that specific feeling you're describing. Not loneliness in general. That particular thing. The small physical moments. Coming up behind her. The glimps…

You don’t have to sit in silence with your thoughts. When there is no one around, you have to reconcile your actions and address accountability. That is uncomfortable for most.

When my boyfriend of 4 years (at the time) started feeling the way your husband has been feeling, he did something crazy. He *communicated* with me. He asked me to have a discussion with him about so…

I’m Bangladeshi/Bengali as well as I was raised Muslim. I definitely understand where you’re coming from. First, I want to pose a scenario to you completely outside of whoever it is you’re dating now,…

man, I've been feeling the same as of late, it's unreal. today especially. me and her were together for almost 4 years. domestic. marriage talks at some point. it's about to be 3 years since she walke…

Exactly. If you haven't been taught what to do properly with that time, and you're not deepening your spirituality using any other method, practicing the same thing one has been practicing... just lon…

I could tell you a million things but you are not there yet. You are content suffering in silence. Letting it eat at you and i understand she’s all you know. You can’t survive anything until you addre…

Some locations will fit your energy better than others. Since you can't leave any time soon I suggest clean your home (literally) and then comfortably sit in silence while observing energy, physical f…

I think people have always avoided silence, the tools are just faster now. A phone fills the gap in two seconds. Twenty years ago you'd pick up a magazine or turn on the TV. The impulse is the same. …

What you’re describing is actually very common today. Many people feel uncomfortable in silence because it brings them face-to-face with their own thoughts and emotions. Distractions like music, scro…

What you’re describing is not so much symbolism as the reality of everyday life in what we call modern society. It is really about a fear of space,...the space of silence and solitude, that we are not…

Sit in silence more. Eventually you’ll be called to your own journey

Doesn’t it feel good to be seen? It doesn’t totally solve your situation but it does make it better when someone else understands what you’re going through. I remember the first time someone saw who m…

I hate to say this but I am never going to date a recently divorced guy again. He asked me on a date and kept pursuing me yet he kept revealing more and more that he got divorced less than a year ago…

I like to paint in silence, usually dose about 4 grams of shrooms or 50mg 4-ho-met.

How do you know she didn't? I can almost guarantee she did. I'd bet there have been discussions. Just because she didn't put that into her story doesn't mean it didn't happen. Women rarely just suffer…

It really is! Even if we're in separate spaces, we often share videos and messages during the day. So we DO communicate. We're also both neurodivergent haha We need a lot of alone time to function p…

You would be wrong then, because if she had, there would have been a discussion and she wouldn't claim that him wanting to end the marriage came out of nowhere. Easy bet. Women absolutely suffer in s…

Oh holy shit you've kicked off such a thought spiral for me, thank you so much for this post!!  Really, us being "healed" instead of just existing as we are, who wants that? People who don't want …

Yeah it's true. Well.yeah with social media but I don't think the past generation like sitting in silence either, it's not social media but they don't like to sit around either

Social isolation plus 'something else' for sure I get some Nigerian Prince vibes from this stuff. They're not trying to be convincing to all, just to the unfortunate souls who are special enough to f…

Wow I had this exact same scenario with one of my better friends. It was a weird dynamic, whenever we would hangout he would give me his highlight reel “updates” and make it seem like his life was per…

If you can't just be together in silence and do nothing, the relationship won't work long-term. No amount of spark can fix that.

I agree with you, Accidental Guru. What you said here really resonated with me: *“My grandpa passed all his family trauma onto my dad, and then my dad onto me.”* I feel something similar in my own f…

It can happen. Especially on guided meditations which may contain xontent that triggers emotions, which is fine. Normally it doesn't happen as quickly if you just meditate in silence. But even then, q…

1. he told you it might’ve been true that he can get prettier than you, 2. his ex was model pretty unlike you 3. ex taught him gorgeous women are bad people, yet he didn’t take your beauty as proof t…

Im willing to bet that when they said "stand up for yourself" they wanted a version of you with boundaries and vocal about not liking the jokes at your expense instead of just taking it in silence. Un…

You sound like someone who’s conditioned yourself to expect and demand nothing from partners because that’s what you’ve always gotten. So you just inconvenience yourself and suffer in silence because …