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Thank you, stranger — I remember this day i was complaining about a specific thing that couldn't just get out of my head and was throwing my uneasyness in a Discord server i used to share with amazing people. Crying about …

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…

Hello, could someone help me recreate an effect from https://www.charlieosborne.co/ —      <div         className='fixed bottom-0 z-10 h-20 w-screen backdrop-blur-[10px]'         style={{           WebkitMaskImage:             'linear-gradient(to top, rgba(0, 0, 0, …

Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…

Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…

How do you estimate the cost and effort for full ecom website builds? — If you’re building e-commerce websites for clients (Shopify, WooCommerce, etc.): → How do you usually scope the project? → Do you use fixed-price packages, custom quotes, or hourly estimates? I’m c…

Flora Market Mobile App — Hi! This is my 1st completed mobile App. It is a Flora Market mobile App, and it is a personal project. Summer is coming, balconies and yards are filled with flowers, so I found a good idea to des…

Good user interviews? [I will not promote] — Hey r/startups, I've had some recent pain doing user interviews, and I'm wondering if it's something that can be fixed. Every tool I've looked at for help seems expensive, and tbh, pretty shit. I'd …

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

My shipping options are all sorts of messed up — I have the shipstation for woocommerce plugin activated and setup for my website. On my shipstation account, I have selected that I only want to use USPS as my carrier. On my website however, it shows…

Making the entire website a fixed-width — This is probably a stupid question, so I apologize in advance. I am working on a website for my dad that he had someone create back in 2013. Everything is fine so far, but the only problem is that he …

Duplicated header menu — Hello for some reason my header menu is duplicated. This site isn’t using Elementor it’s on WP bakery or just the standard WP customization. It looks like the sticky menu is just showing constantly. …

Designing for AI feels like UX without control. — With AI interfaces, especially ones powered by LLMs, the experience changes every time. There’s no fixed flow, no guaranteed output, just probabilities. It made me realize most UX principles assume…

To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

Can You Change How Your Moon Sign Expresses Through Conscious Behavior? — I have a theoretical question about how flexible natal placements are in astrology. For example, if someone has a Moon in Aquarius but consciously chooses to develop emotional habits and attitudes th…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

Leo with both Moon and Ascendant in Cancer with a Taurus signature - why do i feel weird, stubborn and kinda emo? — A Leo but with mostly Earth/Water fixed influences ( Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer). Barely any Air elements and maybe thats why I suck at communicating and I feel kinda slow. Not much Fire either. Peopl…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

No one understands the effects of being trapped inside for years with an Nparent. — As flair said, its a vent. So please excuse my weird formatting. I'd also really love to know if Im not alone on some of these things. 1. Not being given the support or permission to learn how to …

UPDATE: The Trickle Truth is Real — I don’t feel like sharing too much because it’s painful, but the trickle truth is real. I was able to get access to the texts since her affair partner didn’t delete them. They never had any in person …

I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…

Should I help repay my sister’s debt to protect my parents? — I’m 31F. My sister is 29F and lives in Canada. We come from a lower middle-class Indian family that has mostly lived paycheck to paycheck. My sister always dreamed of studying abroad. She completed …

I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

I got a call from my lawyer — I'll make this quick, but 6 months ago I was arrested for something I didn't do. Since then I have remained under investigation for Conspiracy to commit fraud and it's turned my life around. The polic…

I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should. — I 30F am an abuser who has ruined my husband just because I can't accept being loved. yesterday I told him that I hope one day he gets the self esteem to leave me, and he responded that he hopes one d…

I have a Fixed T-Square 1 degree with 2 dignified planets within. What does that mean

Marriage fixed and halted. 10 years of relationship. What is my (30F) future? — My 30F marriage was fixed for end if April with my boyfriend of 10 years. Everything was going smooth but a clash between parents regarding ritual turned ugly and now both families are not Agreeing f…

Aphantasia might be superior — I notice so many people feeling like aphantasia is holding them back, or it’s something that needs to be “fixed”. What if I told you, that you are the closest to the truth with aphantasia, more than…

Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing? — I’m frustrated because I actually put real effort into this. I didn’t just throw up random selfies and then complain. I bought better clothes, changed my hair, spent money on grooming, flew to Miami,…

How do you handle conflict? — Correct me if I'm wrong, but I guess the stereotypical avoidant way to handle conflict is to... well, avoid it. Withdraw, stop responding, take time to yourself to process etc. But as for me, once a …

My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…

Has anyone had to fix their moral compass because they weren't taught how to be a good human? — Please be kind, I don't know where else to go with these thoughts. I've been mulling them over for a long time now with nowhere to go and no one to talk to about it. I never learned from my parents …

REVISE — “Man and his past are one continuous structure. This structure contains all of the facts which have been conserved and still operate below the threshold of his surface mind. For him it is merely histo…

What does fixed air mean to you? — I find the air signs hard to imagine when it comes to analogies, because of air's immaterial nature. The water signs are easy. Fixed water is like a bog or ice. Mutable water is like the ocean. Cardin…

Ex wife (36f) never read the divorce paperwork - Not even once. — Long story short, former step-son (15m) broke into my (42m) house in CT that I'm selling and caused some serious damage. I still talk to my stepson because I'm really the only stable adult in his li…

Neville Goddard - All Lectures (almost) — Here you go — (almost) all of Neville Goddard’s lectures. There are 279 in total, sorted alphabetically, with a table of contents page and TOC bookmarks. I’m not aware of any other sources that have a…

I haven’t had a dental appointment in 9 years. Today, I had one. — Around 9 years ago, I missed a dental cleaning. Months went by. Then more months. Months became years. I’d become *so* ashamed that I hadn’t been to the dentist that I couldn’t bring myself to make …

The Only Neville Archive You’ll Ever Need. — I finally fixed the fragmented Neville archives. Everything in one place. It's free, and I'm planning to open-source it soon. I just want us to have a quiet place to read. You can deep-link Neville’s …

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

Shifting the seat of consciousness from head to chest, have you tried it? — Hi everyone, I've been practicing meditation for a few years and I recently stumbled upon something interesting after trying astral projection. By default, the place where I usually perceive “mys…

Why does my relationship turn into a breakup every time we fight? — So I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (26M) for about 4 months now. We met on Bumble, and honestly… I really do love him. He’s kind, thoughtful, and overall a really good person. But there’s this …

How to stop thinking about my ex? — My ex and I broke up about 7 month ago. We were together for 4 years. I broke up with him and I stand by that decision/don’t want him back. We were very different. He was nice to me, but he was not a…

Let it go — It was the moment I surrendered the outcomes and realized surrendering control is an active task, is when the tide started turning. I noticed there was tension at my current work , for the last mont…

A Post from Ex — I just recently joined this sub, and I wanted to share something that’s been on my mind. I was digging through old photos to join the “10 years ago” trend, and while searching, I accidentally came ac…

If you're struggling with Meditation, this might be the push you need! — Apologies for the long-ish post, but I want to share this with everyone here, in case it helps them like it helped me. I used to think meditation was useless. I was a bit confused, a bit dismis…

Should I stop waiting for my ex? — TLDR: I want to get back together and I still love him and he says he still loves me but he‘s too afraid to risk breaking up again. Should I still wait? I broke up w my bf about a month ago. We were…

Sounds pretty avoidant. That sucks - I’m sorry. Does she actually understand how important this is to you? If so, I might try having the conversation one more time, being clear that it’s a dealbreaker…

You don't go up to a mountain and meditate to heal your attachment wounds, then come down and jump into a healthy relationship. That isn't how the human nervous system works. Healing happens in relat…

As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise.  I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…

Agreed. I also dated a guy like this and things got progressively worse and worse- no amount of ‘*understanding*’ would have fixed it because ultimately he wasn’t fit to be in a relationship. On refle…

Don't know what infra changes you are thinking about if your app just doesn't work. Applications that hang up from a ONE user - this is your problem, till that is not fixed there is no reason to think…

The answer here seems pretty clear. Fix the app. There’s no point scaling until you’ve fixed it. DigitalOcean is more than enough for your needs right now. And be wary of using Kubernetes. It’s an inc…

What does your therapist say to this question? The thing is, there's always some risk involved in learning to know someone, especially as people's attachment styles are not fixed and can fluctuate f…

This one is loaded, and I really feel it. As someone who's actively working through avoidant tendencies, I’ll say this: therapy *was* a must for me. I get the hesitation—there’s stigma, fear of being …

I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …

When I was younger I was anxious. In my late 20's I started self-help and working on boundary control, which fixed a lot of that and left me more secure. Committing to a career and conducting myself a…

Look I’m not go back in forth with you after this, I mostly answered because for someone who said some good points you got quickly derailed and started projecting your own trauma. It wasn’t a gotcha. …

Ahh, gosh!! What a coincidence. I'm sorry you have such poignant memories associated with this image, but, perhaps it would be helpful to see them as a source of strength: that you care so much about …

u/TTMI2 It’s really a shame to see sooo many cut throat answers here that leave little room for personal development and growth. These responses are missing a very important point; *attachment styles…

I’m in agreement with you (upvoted lol!). Yes, sad to see all the FA bashing. His text and reaching out with attempts for reconciliation are showing he wants the relationship but doesn’t have the know…

As long as the avoidant partner is willing to work on healing towards secure and seeking therapy then there is hope. Good on you for clearly expressing your expectations. This is what it means to work…

This issue with this is that all this stuff is a spectrum that has no real quantifiable way of measuring. You can be an avoidant with secure tendencies that is working on themselves and is getting be…

You can learn being secure! I certainly removed a lot of anxious traits and through therapy there’s light at the end, I promise! Another thing I would say is that attachments are not fixed. You are …

There are so many questions to be asked here that it's hard to give you any advice. Are any of these connections romantic? Is that where the jealousy is coming from? If so, do you have a significant…

I struggled with the same issue, and what helped is to realize that not everything is personal. I think that's a part of anxious attachment (or at the very least, something that worsens it): making na…

So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…

What I've done after being discarded by an avoidant was literally change up my requirements for the sort of man I'm looking for. My ex had a brilliant mind, but also deep insecurities, anxiety, childh…

So you are aware that you're DA... have you done any work to move forward from this kind of attachment style? None of these points are fixed.... but someone who is an unmanaged/changed DA obviously s…

One thing that I'm learning now that I'm in a healthy relationship: quiet does not equal danger. In my last 2 relationships, I got used to the emotional roller coaster. We fight, we make makeup, rin…

Kudos to you for doing recovery work. I was in a long on/off relationship with a DA until recently, and the biggest thing I learned is that secure attachment is only sustainable when both people activ…

I’m glad you feel that my comment helped you, and I’m glad you’ve communicated these feelings! I assumed you had, but us avoidants aren’t really known for our vulnerability lol.  Man, I’ve definitely…

I'm confused, I'm distraught, I am lost. I've spent 10 months loving him, and learning him, and adjusting, and ignoring my needs for his needs, and the day I felt that something was wrong, I in fact w…

Edit: fixed typos Watching manipulative protest behavior fail will never not be funny lol. I simply stated how I felt and what I would like to change so I don't feel resentful. I specifically said I…

I confronted them when they gave me the opportunity. They apologised for being patronising. Why people treat me like a naive creature to be taught and fixed is beyond me. It's not my first day on eart…

In true Co-Dependency, both people in the relationship are part of the abuse. Both could technically qualify as both abusers, and victims. Thats what makes this so aweful. "Fixer" is a better name …

Glad you you liked the translations. Logout issue should be fixed and there is also conversations history added.

I have a counselor but it's a much deeper issue than that. It wasn't just her, everyone has treated me bad. My parents, brother, friends, and her. My life has just been filled with people who don't ac…

Of course it can be fixed. It just takes work.

I think we all want to "just click" with someone and sometimes we do and it IS intoxicating. There are not a lot of romantic movies about two More Or Less Compatible adults working hard at communicati…

This is not a skill issue. It’s not something that can be fixed by the use of one tool or another. This isn’t about feeling. That’s why grounding statements don’t work because it’s not about the arous…

Offering my thoughts as 37F who tends to lean demisexual, has had multiple relationships that grew from IRL friendships, and is now married to my husband I met via OLD... For me, attraction is a thre…

I'm fearful avoidant working on becoming secure. It depends on the other person's  Attachment style. The most common pair is actually the fearful avoidant and the anxious preoccupied. That's what I wa…

My fiancé is abroad for work and he sent me flowers. The deliverer uploaded a proof of delivery photo to him - rather than knock on our apartment door and/or leave them right outside our apt door, the…

You’re close friends, asking him what his views are on life is getting to know someone who you care about and are close to. If he says he’s not into relationships that’s fine, if he says he doesn’t k…

First and foremost,let me say it takes courage to do what your about to do. I feel your anxiousness and the lump in the throat but also the butterflies that start when you see the other person. You me…

I think deactivation is a strong internal mechanism of protecting yourself from a situation where you are giving without receiving, and not getting your needs met. If you’re not balancing it out, payi…

Yes. We matched yesterday, he texted me all afternoon and evening (even though he’s supposed to be working - I was having my computer fixed by our IT team so wasn’t able to work at the time) and then …

I only fixed this way of thinking with therapy, and by fixed, I still feel that way, but am self aware enough now to realise what I’m doing before it impacts my relationships. I will also add, this a…

i'm not entirely sure. i think it's the second option, and that would make sense because i've been in cognitive behavior therapy for 3 years and i haven't really fixed these issues. before i realized …

I totally get what you’re saying, my problem is my long term depression mixed with mild autism, which ofc can’t be ‘fixed’ in the traditional sense, and it feels like that’s why I spiral so easily, an…

Don’t put so much stake into the apps, people are noncommittal with lots of dud matches in general. Try to think of it as an uncommon surprise if/when they actually work as intended. Edit: fixed typo…

Im 38 and taking a cooking class this spring, after I get my teeth fixed. Might also join a bowling league. Havent been out of the house in 8 years. Wish me luck.

I dunno, OP can choose whatever dealbreakers they want but if he's hot and a good conversationalist in person and his over-excitement can be fixed by saying, "Dude, I like you but you have to chill wi…

I definitely feel like I am unable to fit what I want to fit into a dating profile. The text boxes on mos sites are so small, and you have to choose a prompt from a fixed list, so unless what you want…

I use whole sign houses so this will all line up. Scorpio rising at 12°01’ conjunct Mars at 9°20’ and Pluto at 11°16’. I mention this because my chart ruler in both traditional and modern astrology i…

One thing I’ve always struggled to workout is fixed/complete your life needs to be before you can start dating. I have some people tell me that everything else in your life needs to be hunky dory wh…