unbothered

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will caz…

Transition into a different role — Career Summary Masters in Design got me campus placed in a MNC. 2 years of UX in enterprise and I did an internal switch. Although my role is of UX Designer, the scope of work I do is mostly with educ…

antidepressants and avoidant attachment — i (22f, FA) came off venlafaxine (SNRI) about two months ago after being on it for 5+ years for depression and anxiety. predictably a lot of stuff is coming up, OCD and BDD symptoms, anxiety is a bit …

I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…

My (28F) boyfriend (26M) has recently got back into religion and it’s affecting our relationship. — I’ve listened/watched so many Reddit podcasts, but this the first time posting. This a weird situation and I have no one to talk to about this, I’m left feeling quite numb about everything. My boyfri…

Why does nobody talk about unsuccessful manifestation journey? — Well, here we are. Changing oneself, assuming new beliefs, new ways of interpreting life and it's meaning, healing, flowing, call it whatever you want. Commanding, choosing, focusing on who I am or wh…

It unfolds so naturally — I have spent a lot of time treating the Law like a science experiment rather than a mathematical equation. I thought “if I do x, then maybe y will happen” When in reality it’s more like “X + Y = Z”…

Tired of toxic connections.. can my birth chart help me finding the right people? — I’ve been trying to understand how to not stay stuck in what hurt me + somehow still find people I actually feel aligned with. I also wonder if some of these patterns make sense through my chart, lik…

How can I attract genuinely aligned friendships? (my NN is in the 11th but I have a very hard time with it) — Hi! I’m very interested in the insights of this sub bc I’m not very experienced with astrology but even less with the whole sign system. Just right now while transferring my chart in whole sign notice…

Need tips on managing my DA husband — Need tips on managing my DA husband 36F , married since 2yrs now. Before marriage, we had an Anxious Avoidant attachment where I was the Anxious one. After marriage I kept getting hurt non-stop and …

There problem is that your brain sees this as the end. — One of the reasons the breakup hurts is because your brain has registered this as the end. What do I mean by the end? When my girl broke up with me, I went into a panic; the end credits were rolling…

Consistency over Motivation — How can one maintain consistency when their own brain becomes a physical barrier to functioning? What if no matter how hard we push our insecurities they just bounce back unbothered? That standard…

Why is healing from a discard taking longer than the relationship itself? It was only 2 months — I'm 3 months out from a discard with a suspected covert narcissist, but we only dated for 2 months. Is it normal for it to take longer to get over the discard than the time we dated? It feels kind of …

How do I detach from people who have an on and off pattern with me? — 23(f) I have always been emotionally invested in my friends. The thing is, my friends are either really good at filling there void with company or their family. Being a motherless child who is only su…

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will …

Realizing you can't remember anything? — If you ever asked me\[M21\] to recount details of my childhood or even things is recent memory like last year, I'd be hard be hard pressed to give much of an answer aside from maybe a few memorable mo…

Me [23M] and my GF [23F] are having a disagreement and we need your thoughts. — Me \[23M\] and my GF \[23F\] have been together for about 2 years now. Ever since we have been together, she has asked me on at least 50 occassions if I would be up to try having sex with a man, somet…

need support, im stuck with my mother — hello, made a throwaway account today cause im at my last straw and dont really have anyone else to reach out to for emotional support— ive tried to talk to family and friends but it's always felt lik…

need support im not sure what to title this other than my mother being insane — hello, made a throwaway account today cause im at my last straw and dont really have anyone else to reach out to for emotional support— ive tried to talk to family and friends but it's always felt lik…

My mother (56F) berates me (24F) for going low contact — \[context is a little long, sorry\] I'm a daughter of a vulnerable narcissistic mother and a grandiose narcissistic father who was also diagnosed with BD. My father became physically abusive in the p…

This is the way. My ex broke up with me last week on the phone before my dentist appointment. I had to cut the call short because I needed to make my appointment. I lied about watching a sad show on m…

It’s kind of saddening/comical to see how majority of these posts go “my partner / ex is avoidant. They are the best thing since sliced bread and I’ve already read 102839172 books on their attachment …

Based on the other comments, his communication and failure to follow through on plans are a recurring *thing*. But either way, nothing I said was rude, offensive or negative. It was what it was and…

Born with mercury retrograde in Pisces and it feels like the “this is fine” meme. Everything is burning down around me, but I’m fine. Sipping my coffee. Completely in my element. Unbothered by it.

This is a great point, thanks for making it. I do have a tendency to think healing means being unflappable and unbothered about things which is maybe a common DA misunderstanding. Healing doesn't mean…

The top action you can take is exchanging custody at a designated police substation, every city has them established. If you don't have a reliable family/friend that can do the exchanges, then you des…

Does she take lisinopril? It’s a blood pressure medication sometimes called ‘the divorce pill’ for this exact reason. My husband had a very similar dry persistent cough that seemed EXTREMELY purposefu…

I feel the same way. I don’t know if I belong on this sub, but I do relate to a lot of things that have been posted here. Everyone wanted me to leave him and sighed with relief when I did. I still f…

Ugh I’ve considered this. There’s a part of my ego that doesn’t want him to “win” by me moving. Everything I like to do is near me now. It just sucks that my whole life has to change while he’s living…

She texted me back today! Very excited about the show wishing she could've made it. But, with the weather in general she just couldn't. Started recommending venues for me in her home town. I kept my r…

Yea I’m completely with you OP! There’s no way to approach a true narc about a problem in a way where things will go “right.” You either have to bend the knee to them and take the abuse and do your be…

Because when you block someone, it means that person triggered something. If you don’t block them, you subconsciously signal that you don’t care what that person did to you. You’re just unbothered if …

Partners like this don't want a spouse......they want an employee. They don't want their desires or demands questioned, they want you to say "yes ma'am" and get to work. Nowadays, the expectation fr…

I have. I do a meditation where I focus on each Chakra starting from bottom to top. However, when this thing I mentioned happens I'm not doing anything usually, I just really feel clear mentally and l…

I was 4 or 5 and fell off my bike. I remember my leg stinging and seeing blood, and I began to cry. I was probably more afraid than physically in pain. A kid saw what happened and got my mom. She came…

So this dude can't be bothered to try to train a dog that's literally pooping inside the house ***almost daily***, according you the dog reeks too And he seems unbothered by it? This man is ok liv…

ABUSE AND MEDICAL TRAUMA TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ My mom is a diagnosed ASPD psychopath [and of course a narcissist] with FDIA (aka munchausens by proxy) and had me almost killed (we’re talking almost had …

A similar situation happened to me. I was numb. She said she fell in love with the old me. I discovered I have trauma and PTSD. I’m working on that now. We were together for 4.5 years. She said simila…

No, I think that is absolutely it. His whole family is like this. So they don't understand why it bothers other people, but also they are unbothered by it themselves. Like, it's not a hypocrisy. They …

I know he did not say he was tested FIVE years ago and everything was fine Even if he didn’t cheat on you, there’s 3 years that you weren’t with him that he could have got something wtf But his rea…

Waiting for disability pension. Same here. I feel for you 💔 It is horrible how people determine others' value by the work one able to provide. We aren't hecking machines! It infuriates me or makes …

Lie to him like he lied to you. Act unbothered and just say “yeah sure” and then if he follows up say you’re working on it. Then just never do it. Screw him!

I will start by saying that he's not wrong, but he seems to have gone about it the wrong way. Let me explain. He most likely wants your body to be special (and unique) to him, not shared with other…

This is the most relatable post I've seen in a while. That being said, I've gone a little further from unbothered apathy to off the apps all together and living my best life out here in the wild.

I dont know about othet mrn, but my abusive ex seems completely unbothered after ripping me apart mentally and emotionally. We were together for 5 years. Hes at ease with himself and i dont see him …

I love this :) I’m really proud of you OP for coming up with such a well-adjusted, wholesome way to deal with something that triggers you. You definitely are a reasonable and introspective person desp…

Hmmm I've never experienced this but I was able to manifest my ADHD away. Basically saw myself as someone who always focused, never distracted, able to manage my quirks with ease. You've got to put yo…

Hahaha ya, it's the identity assembly, which I can't relate to but to each their own xD With the Wasian example, to clarify, she was saying how he's not like the "basic" white guys that are the major…

Meh. Some people like the attention and being flattered that someone else is interested. That's probably what he's missing - your attention and the ego boost. Boy byeeeee. He had his chance, onwards u…

She brokeup with me on jan31st and said do not fill my ohone with msgs i didnt semt a singke msg then hse came and saod i missed u nad hot and cold towards me i matched her energy but unbothered and d…

I’m going to meet you where you are—but also gently pull you out of a trap you don’t realize you’re in: You don’t feel unattractive because you are unattractive. You feel unattractive because you’ve …

you’re not insane, friend. you’re hurt, scared, and comparing yourself to someone who accidentally touched one of your deepest fears. that can make the mind start telling very dramatic stories. not b…

If you don't want to remove them as a friend, it might help to restrict what they are able to see on your page. I know you're trying to act/be unbothered, but anything they know about you will always …

You said that much better than I did. And its valuable to distinguish the underlying motivation. I think addressing unconscious motivations is the key to getting stronger. You have to drag the unconsc…

I wish. 13 months in and I have not been able to move on. Men more often have a delayed emotional response though, that’s why some seem unbothered at first. 

I"m so sorry your struggling. I can identify with all of this. I think one of the hardest parts of this for me has always been the Injustice, and by that I mean the SHAME that accompanies trying t…

im sorry but this isnt strength. its ego. which is fine. if this person was important to you, focus on connection. you'll have the power to say no either way, but of course less satisfying than leav…

honestly, it was hell on earth, i'd say like living with hades 😂 thankfully now its farrr enough away for me to be largely unbothered by it and i can laugh about how terrible it was. i am a 90s/early…

As an FA who always has exes return, a few of the DAs return as a "look at me now!" They want to make you feel regretful for missing out while they completely misread everything when the cause for bre…

They will never forget the way you made them feel. They can't, even if they try to act unbothered by the loss - because they learned that not showing weakness feels like safety. And then, when they g…

Reels like maybe nerves causing him to act like a bit of a bumbling idiot over this. Feels like he tried to be cute, then before youvhad a chance to reply his confidence in the cleverness of his quip,…

If you both are keeping him accessible, he is unbothered about the nagging....from neither of you. Let her have him, its obvious he is not a respectable man, husband, nor father to do what he has do…

I think it’s important to take care of yourself and stop pouring into cups that clearly have holes in them. But also acknowledge that some of us just can’t be unbothered and nonchalant. You just happe…

It sounds like he showed you who he is and your relationship may not be a good fit. Despite many commenters I think that your age has nothing to do with your breakup. I took my boyfriend out to dinn…

1) she sucks - your “friend” will find out soon 2) that dude is not your friend 3) make the goal being unbothered as quickly as possible. Ground yourself in reality. Clearly you did not know her that …

Thank you for taking your time to answer! Firstly, I'm sorry to hear how you struggled and hope you could leave it all behind soon enough. Secondly, it is _soo_ refreshing to see people who understand…