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Hi, I would like to share my experience to you about scripting so that you might understand how it should be. And to be fair enough, the scripting is my reality now. So basically, I just randomly in …

Plan to build the healthiest farm-to-table meal delivery service. Seeking advice. I will not promote. — I WILL NOT PROMOTE. Plan on building what I believe can be the cleanest and most transparent farm-to-table meal delivery service brand, and I’d love feedback from anyone who’s worked in DTC, food or j…

Success comes to those that can manage 4 innovation risks (I will not promote) — As a startup, your role is to strategically manage innovation risks to unlock your business’s financial potential. To achieve this, focus on addressing the following key risks: • Desirability Risk: …

I got my first devops position — I'm really happy about this but I don't have a lot of experience. I'm Actually straight out of college. I studied what kubernetes and docker was and even went to linenode to create a kubernetes cluste…

Yesterday I launched a landing page and I got 3 presales in 24h. (I will not promote) — I'm building a minimalist, AI based bookkeeping app. Went live with a simple landing page yesterday and shared it in a few relevant places. I was prepared for a long period of drought and self-doubt,…

Meeting with manufacturer tomorrow for sports tech product what info should i know/ have available for them — I am a newbie to technology products and want to try to make everything as smooth as possible. I am young and already nervous they won’t want to work with me due to me seeming unprepared. This is my…

Meeting with manufacturer tomorrow for sports tech product what info should i know/ have available for them. i will not promote — Meeting with manufacturer tomorrow for sports tech product what info should i know/ have available for them I am a newbie to technology products and want to try to make everything as smooth as possib…

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

College was supposed to be my escape plan — I'm so angry that I'm literally shaking while typing this. My dream all four years of high school was to get good grades and standardized test scores and participate in extracurriculars to get into a …

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

stopped trying to "fix" my adhd and started doing this instead — If someone is in a wheelchair, and they encounters stairs, they aren’t just gonna try their best to get down the stairs, they’re going to use the ramp or elevator. why should we keep trying to do thin…

Finally Got a Lucid Dream... So I Tested your Queries in it — Hey guys, this is gonna be a bit of a long one lol. \[CONTEXT\] For a while, I've been trying to lucid dream, but was too lazy to consistently do training, write in journals, or set multiple alarms …

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

Manifesting TOO well! — A few months ago I wanted to have a better social life and have more hang outs with my friends. I listened to subs and whenever I thought about it I just said my affirmations and got on with my day. N…

The Astral Plane: its Nature, Structure, and the Unseen’s Map found in world religions — *Disclaimer: The views expressed here are my personal opinions, except where excerpts are quoted.* # Nature of the Astral Plane The Astral Plane is the wider dream world. It’s a constant place that …

My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…

Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…

Blue Therapy Mike and Yasmin — Wow. Literally. This man is unbelievable. He’s a lazy, liar. Sitting around all day expecting his partner to not only work her arse off but deal with EVERYTHING alone, kids, home, financially. H…

My GF (22F) told her parents about my (24M) secret financial situation — I had a very rich/powerful dad who died when I was a child and left me a lot of money. After he died, all his sycophant, money grubbing “friends” tried to dig their claws into me. They would try to ma…

The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …

How do you hold space for, not necessarily judgment, but rather accountability and ultimately grace and growth for the dark side of codependency and insecure attachment styles — A recent poster who shared a story about his coworker got me really thinking about one of the standard FA rituals, and probably the cruelest FA rituals. We can be such experts on lulling people into…

Accidental awakening — Officially effed around and found out. Open to advice but I also feel an obligation to share that this is possible through the tapes because I never saw it coming and I'm currently struggling. I was …

How to be prepared for the life? — I feel like my time is running out, and that my adulthood is coming near. I feel like I need to take action. Otherwise, I'll be the one who's gonna suffer. What should I do?

TRIED MANIFESTING FOR THE LITERAL FIRST TIME WITH ZERO ACTUAL HOPES AND IT KINDA AMAZED ME — Hi, something just happened that honestly amazed me ! I have a big exam coming up in a week, and I haven’t prepared to a decent level yet. I really need good marks, so about 3-4 days ago I started lo…

where do i go from here? — hi friends, i’m not sure where to go to heal. i posted in a different thread about the situation leading up to my breakup with my now ex: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/UQCEcqeyRU today is the…

Getting a story about an ex from 20 years ago off my chest — TLDR: Had a weird break up. Reached out after 20 years. Got a response that made me feel bad. Learned a lesson about not trusting what people say during a break up, instead listen to what they do. I …

Help — Hi everyone, my first post on reddit, I was living in a tier 3 city after my graduation, lived for 10 months, prepared for cat but didnt score well. Then I planned to get a job and start prepare for…

I think I need to leave my marriage — I’ve been going back and forth on whether to post this, but I need to get it out somewhere. I think my marriage is over. There wasn’t one major event that caused it. No cheating. No physical abuse. …

Nobody talks about the first time you get sick — Honestly, something I never mentally prepared myself for after this break up is being sick all by myself. When I was with K, whenever I'd get sick, he would drop everything he was doing to cater to m…

Korean Parents disprove my (29F) boyfriend (30M) — Hi. I (Korean American f29) just found out my parents don’t like my boyfriend (white m30) of 1.5 years. I told my parents back in January 2026 that we’re thinking of marriage and plans of moving in to…

ex feels too guilty to be fwb — he says he wasn’t a good boyfriend & feels it’d be wrong of him to reap any benefits of affection since he hurt me & feels like he wasted my time. i tried to assure him that it’d be okay & i wouldn’t …

Seeking guidance for an authentic spiritual path in Varanasi - India — Hey everyone, I’m 27, from Bangalore, and I’ve reached a point where a lot of what fills everyday life feels hollow to me. The cycles of happiness and sadness tied to daily human activity increasingl…

I'm already behind in life at 18 — I wasn't sure which flair to use, because I think I need advice on a lot of things. I also want to preface by saying I do not blame any of this on my parents, schools, mental health, etc, and this was…

I (early 20s M) love someone (early 20s F) but timing, religion, and life stage don’t align as — I’m in my early 20s and about to graduate university soon. I’ve developed strong feelings for someone who’s a couple of years younger than me and still has a few years left before she graduates. We b…

What if death is just a dream you can't wake up from? — I've been thinking about this more than I should probably admit. You know those dreams where you're in a familiar place, your family is right there, but something is off. You try to talk to them an…

How to set boundaries with my parents ? — I am currently doing an internship as a system administrator at a large company. They asked me to keep working throughout the summer and several seniors have voiced their support on hiring me. My par…

I'm finally starting to realize that I'm worth it — My wife and I have been together 16 years. Married for what would have been 14 years in a few weeks. Last week I finally worked up the courage to tell her I wanted a divorce. I knew it would hurt but …

Advice needed in regulating anxiety — Sorry for the long post. TW : Mentions (only mentions) of>!self harm!< (Following is mainly backstory) I'm 15m. I do not have clinical anxiety, atleast, I haven't had it diagnosed (though it is high…

First astral projection CRAZY — Astral projection has been on my mind lately since I just got into it. I’ve been researching it a lot and thinking about it every day. About 2–3 weeks ago, I fell asleep really late, around 5am. I st…

Manifesting an Apartment — Hi, hello! 💕 I’m usually not somebody who posts here but I need some advice on how to manifest and apartment. So basically, I’ve started actively scripting for an apartment that fits my budget in dec…

800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…

Went on my first date in 16 years and I have ALOT of questions! — so I met this very beautiful woman on Facebook dating. something that I have not taken too serious in the past. I have to say, the attention and validation feelt nice. Especially after escaping an emo…

How I obe accidentally (bad English) — I am going to say how I managed to do it but it’s very long I was on a very powerful medication they usually help with lucid dreams And before it I was listening to gate away tapes for 17 minutes I …

M25 - Planning to cut my family off soon — I think the western chart shows issues with family but I don't know what the vedic one suggests. Is this justified based on the chart? I'm more than prepared to take this measure in order to succee…

Life has broken me: depression, bad health, shitty jobs, and an emptiness that even therapy can’t fix — Hey, I was in treatment for severe depression and it turned out a lot of it was actually untreated attention/concentration disorder. With the meds I’m more stable now — my brain only works when you f…

No matter what I do, I’m a failure — I didn’t expect the divorce to hit me this hard. I knew it would be sad, but I didn’t realize how constant the feeling would be. It’s not just missing a person, it’s grieving the life I thought I was …

Find myself or Find her Again? — I was 16M when I met her and got into the relationship she was 19 at that point but her schooling was equivalent to me because she missed some of the years due to her parents separation. our bond was …

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

>“A good start”, LOL. &#x200B; Ah. A chortle. Clearly, not much money in your bank. Must be because you know the law. lol &#x200B; >I’m not reading POSM anytime soon. I already have a formula that…

Honestly the amount doesn't matter. Everyone pretty much starts the same way. Worked a full time job while starting my business. Essentially spent every moment of free time before and after work …

You can engage a sales rep who specializes in this retailer if you're not comfortable dealing with the buyers yourself. The customer will provide onboarding documents, including the Vendor Buying Agre…

What you have said mirrors almost exactly what I felt and went through, including me explaining to her briefly at the end about attachement issues and asking if she wanted to know more, and whether sh…

Everyone always gets hurt... we are human beings. Expecting not to get hurt ever is not going to happen. You can't actually change your behaviour without engaging with other people, and you cannot con…

Dude, how good would it be if people were prepared to self reflect and grow just at the time we needed them to. Unfortunately we can only love them where they're at. And hope they extend similar co…

It's easier if instead on focusing on what they're doing wrong and what you don't like you focus on what you're willing to invest and describing an alternative that would be acceptable for you both. T…

Be consistent and align your words with actions. This helps an FA trust. But first and foremost take care of YOU and be prepared for her to act out and test you a bit … you have to look out for yourse…

Good for you! The plan doesn't have to be extensive as long as you feel prepared for all possibilities.

I completely understand this. What if it is possible to experience these simply as junk thoughts that are running on an error from past conditioning? For me, for a while, I thought the thoughts migh…

Well we actually broke up just an hour ago - I came to this thread due to how strained our relationship had become…and just a few days later he finally pulled the plug. We had a very long conversati…

I think this is a result of highlighting what we pay attention to. Maybe there were enough things that weren’t working for you to break up, and so it’s good you did. But looking back and only seeing t…

About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…

It's great that you are feeling better about how you'd be doing in a relationship, but to be honest it seems impossible to meaningfully answer the questions on the test if you are not currently in a l…

I'm not the person you responded to, but in my opinion, insecure attachment patterns (like trauma dumping early on, keeping score, or obsessively seeking out your partner's time) create "faux-closenes…

I’ve been dating an avoidant woman for 4 months, we’ve been through two short break ups (2 days and 5 days long respectively). We’ve been together for about a month since the last break. Last week, a…

Parenting is a “little to no alone time” endeavor when they are young. It’s not that all children are all clingy all the time, it’s just that they have a lot of energy, a lot of needs, and take up a l…

As an anxiously attached parent of two genuinely awesome kids, be prepared for literal years of being stared at while you go to the toilet, or stand in the shower.  You will become a climbing frame, …

Im angry and disgusted (not at you personally) that people are automatically insinuating that avoidant people would make bad parents. First of all, being avoidant is not permanent. And no one said “Im…

I was going to say this too. I thought I was fully healed and now in a relationship and the triggers have resurfaced. Honestly, I feel like I’ve healed more in the last 2 months being in a relationshi…

I felt ready when I was OK with the idea of being alone long term. Build as full of a life as you can on your own. I did this even with a small social circle. I really just learned to enjoy my own com…

What you should keep in mind about all attachment styles is that, those are the basis for those individuals to form any kind of attachment relationship. So no, behaviors are not limited to romantic re…

Being FWB with someone who you actually want more with is more self abandoning then “practice dealing with triggers”. Her actions are reinforcing that she does not want something more with you. It is …

As someone who was severely avoidant, I used to never even kiss people I had sex with. I suggest therapy. A good therapist who is present with you and names feelings you describe in your daily interac…

Same, Chains of Love has been on repeat for me this week lol. Fully prepared for it to not be a great movie, but hopeful it will at least be entertaining- plus who doesn't want to stare at Margot and …

Alright, prepared to be downvoted potentially but really curious to hear other people's opinions. I (F 34) think I am changing how I approach asking men out on the apps. I tend to be the one inviting …

I'm pretty tired of my avoidant tendencies these days. I'm very mindful of not making it other people's problem, and I communicate directly and honestly. I don't engage in relations I'm not prepared t…

Last night was a great reminder that overthinking isn’t reality. I’ve been out of town a lot for work and haven’t seen the guy I’ve been seeing much. A few weeks ago, he had a “your most compatible ha…

Started talking with a new match last Monday, had our first date by the following Sunday, and now our upcoming second date this Saturday. I'm excited and I feel like we get along so far, but I've been…

Just a small update on [my new journey with a matchmaking service](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/s/0WlggXdzcz) that I mentioned a few days ago. I had my intake interview this morning, and …

Threatening to kill herself on your birthday…obviously I don’t know anything else but that’s a classic move of a personality disordered person to ruin a special day like that. Especially if that’s the…

Fucking run. Don't look back. You are not prepared for the crazy involved here.

Still annoyed that the guy I’m dating didn’t acknowledge Valentine’s Day or all the plans I prepared for us (I got sick the day of and had to cancel). We dated last year and he didn’t acknowledge it t…

My boyfriend and I had a pause moment last night on the phone because we have a difference in worldviews - now that's a legitimate concern, and in response I made sure we just got off the phone. But o…

Another day, another convo that turned sexual. I know that I probably sound like a broken record at this point. I was really excited about this one, though. He’s not a guy I would typically go for, …

"Hi" would have been enough in a mutual attraction situation? Don't beat yourself up over this one moment you werent prepared for. There will be others. She also didn't make a move. Maybe you dodged…

Going to have to ask some hard questions this weekend, to discover if my 3-month relationship really has longevity, and if we’re truly compatible. Im nervous and sad at the potential that we may not …

You have to offer. I just would not have accepted the dinner invitation. I have never had to split a bill, but I am always prepared to. Dinner is too much for a first date. I prefer drinks. Cheapnes…

I think that anxiety is perfectly normal. I have this debate often (currently 35F and very very single). I think it’s one many of us internally struggle with. My parents are in their 70s and I feel aw…

Looking for advice. Over the past 5 years or so I've (32m) developed an unexpected friendship with a colleague (29f) in my department. Totally platonic to begin with. It actually kinda took quite a w…

Depends on the guy. Not every guy in the US is forward like that, but it’s definitely not uncommon. If you like him besides the suggestive comments you could say like “I think you’re really great and …

If all my current matches fizzle out, I just found out there's a random "show up to this bar and kiss strangers in a photo booth while pictures are being taken" thing happening in my city a few times …

Here's one I haven't heard of before. "My mindset is I just kinda want someone to be my friend before I get into a relationship and relationship level expectations." I kinda felt like a "I just wa…

the last date I had was spontaneous. I hadn't done laundry in weeks, I had a half hour to get ready, I wasn't prepared. I had a hard time deciding what to wear, I had a couple 'pretty' shirts.. I ende…

It’s not a lack of enthusiasm, he’s actively trying to introduce shame to something that you really enjoy because *he* doesn’t enjoy it. This is really shitty behavior and he needs to do some intros…

If he's not the one to initiate the conversation, be prepared to not have it turn out well. I hope the biggest part you take away from my story is that at no point (despite thinking Hallmark movies …

I don't like to talk about myself, but I will reveal something. Because perhaps there are those who are similar to me in this. That's not quite true for me. I'm not a complicated person. It's not comp…

I was in the same boat man. Sorry. It's not your fault, it's normal. Take this as a chance to learn and go into the future more prepared, and you'll be happier with the next chapters!

Yeah this is kinda feelds purview. Be prepared to get liked by every enm couples account tho

You know about "I" statements? It's a way of being assertive without being rude or aggressive or unfair. The formula is "I feel X (a feeling or feelings) when you do Y (their action)." Sometimes you …