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When your best friends breaks your heart and you feel partially to blame. — Hi all ​ **edited for sense** At the very beginning of our relationship, I cheated on him twice. I was in a terrible place, and I broke his trust completely. I stayed, I confessed, and I was terrif…

Marketplace Connect changed 12000 Amazon inventory items to 0 ! Has this happened to anyone? I can't get help uploading a product list I downloaded. — What a nightmare! This experience has been devastating! The software is supposed to be safe... how on earth does it change all my inventory to 0 and no one is willing to help me fix it?? I have gone a…

Ready to Boost Your Business? Our Pro Team Can Help! — hope you’re doing great! I wanted to reach out and let you know we’re currently helping businesses like yours grow faster with our proven organic and paid advertising strategies. Whether you’re looki…

How Are You All Handling Customer Inquiries? — Do you all already have a system when handling customer inquiries or noticed you need a more efficient system? Curious what others are using to keep engagement high without constantly having to manu…

✨ Marketing Consultants – What tools do you actually use to manage clients, leads, and projects? — Hey everyone – I’m doing some deep research into how independent marketing consultants (freelancers, solopreneurs, boutique agency owners) manage their day-to-day operations. I’d love to hear from yo…

Struggling with content ideas for your next LinkedIn Post? Drop your keyword, and I’ll give you 3 content ideas you can use today. — Creating content is exhausting—not because writing is hard, but because knowing what to talk about is the real challenge. Drop your niche and keyword in the comments, and I’ll reply with 3 fresh…

[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …

Fellow DAs, do you sometimes experience people taking it personally when you need space to be by yourself? — I'm a DA as stated in the title. By "needing space" I'm not necessarily talking about romantic relationships only. I've had situations where I've been on holiday with people and when I wanted to just …

Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…

4+ Months of LOB Practice — What's up people. Discovered this sub around the start of april 2025, and didn't actually navigate trough the index until about 15-16th of April, and after reading the index, starting 20th April I st…

Thank you — I'm in one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, and this subreddit—along with my therapist—has helped me in a big way. I still get triggered, but I'm better at self-soothing and have lea…

APs what would you want to hear in response if someone doesn’t feel the same as you? — So I’ve been noticing the way a few friends reach out, feels mismatched with how I’m feeling. Usually this is my more anxiously attached friends/most unhealed ones. Often it will be something sugary…

Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…

How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner? — When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and eventually when its too much, i just break down. …

Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…

contemplating root of avoidance — I have been considering why some of my relationships work while others make me disconnect. I think the root is a desire to feel deeply understood and seen. I recently had a connection with someone I…

How do you respond to people who are very quick to think that you’re angry at them? — I’m a DA and I’ve been in friendships and romantic relationships with people like this, where if I’m delayed in replying (due to being at work or similar), they’re quick to think that I hate them or t…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…

I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

Ex going on dates and hooking up — Me and my ex boyfriend broke up 2 months ago and he’s already going on dates and hooking up with them? I’ve been with him for 3 years and as soon as we broke up he was on the apps going on dates again…

What you want need to be in your body/subconscious — What you want need to be in your body/subconscious You need to feel you deserve it and be comfortable with accepting it into your life You need to feel ready and that it's 'normal' for you now in yo…

What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup? — For me it would be : "I have no hatred or resentment, and I don’t regret the year we spent together." Cool. I’m glad it was such a pleasant memory for you. Personally I was still trying to process ho…

I did it, I broke no contact. — So I had made a previous post about reaching out to my ex after a month of no contact. I was super hesitant about it and almost didn’t do it because I was worried about the result. But after some hesi…

Random lucid dream after I stopped practicing? — I stopped practicing lucid dreaming about a month ago. No reality checks, no dream journal, nothing. Yesterday before sleeping I was talking a lot with an AI about lucid dreaming and how I wanted to m…

Finally Got a Lucid Dream... So I Tested your Queries in it — Hey guys, this is gonna be a bit of a long one lol. \[CONTEXT\] For a while, I've been trying to lucid dream, but was too lazy to consistently do training, write in journals, or set multiple alarms …

My last message to her — My last message.. I am not moving on. I am not letting you go. I stopped texting, not because I stopped caring, but because I got tired of hurting. If you text me, I will reply. I still check my p…

How to deal with an avoidant person — As I've read it's really normal that me and her would have an intense connection deep talks future talks like all good she's deflective me being sweet but she joins in just light jabs but she has alwa…

Potentially unpopular opinion re: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents — Just finished “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson after seeing several recommendations for it on subreddits like these. I thought the book had some good info, and I’ll a…

The best and 5 worst things I did after 5 breakups in 12 years chasing unavailable partners, and I just got marriaged on 2.14.2026 — I've been through 5 painful breakups over the last decades, all with the same pattern: I'd chase someone emotionally/physically unavailable—either a cheater or straight-up avoidant—who'd pull away jus…

My ex messaged me. — She simply just showed me a picture of a place she was at where we went on holidays together, a couple of years ago. We messaged for a few days, and I tried not to get invested again. I tried to just …

My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch — Not sure exactly how to flair this. Marked it NSFW just in case. Sorry if that's not right. I'm a 22y/o living between my divorced parents (don't have the means to get out on my own right now). Thing…

IF YOU ARE 30+ USING NC — If you’re 30+ using the “no contact” method as a means to “Get your ex back”, DON’T. This is long. I just met up with my ex for the first time in 3 months. I was nervous, worried & genuinely conce…

Apologies for posting again. Apparently I am the abuser and narcissist - I am beyond devastated. No more sharing stuff online for me. *TW - unaliving mention* — I apologise for posting again but this may well be the last social media post I ever make. I am totally devastated and feel close to unaliving. I know that sound dramatic and I am deeply ashamed but t…

Revision can alter physical incidents — It hasn't been long since I truly started grasping how magical revision is, and I just remembered an incident that happened a few months back last year that actually made the concept of revision sink …

Finding out about an unknown child from an affair 28 years ago — I’ve found out I have been deceived for 28 years by 50M after DNA test I F47 and husband 50M. 29 years together, was contacted by my BIL 3 days ago , had spoken to a F27 who had take a dna test tryi…

Text that Blew Apart My Entire Life — Note: This is a repost of a post I made a couple of days ago. I deleted it because it was made from my 10 year old account and I needed to make a throwaway account to work on my issues in case my STBX…

Really bad random energy all in one day — Hi I just had a really strange and off putting day and I’m in shock. The day started off pretty good, I woke up pretty refreshed, i met up with my friend Chi and we had a good time, then later on I me…

Partner (27F) wants to separate (26F) following her cancer diagnosis. — My girlfriend of almost two years was diagnosed with cancer last week and she texted me yesterday that because she "doesn't want to weigh (me) down" with her treatments ahead. She asked for space for …

A LOB analysis of an experience I had at 17; and some encouragement — # Long post, probably worth it to read: There was one certain manifestation (I don't say LOB yet on purpose, you'll know why) of mine when I was 17 which always gave me goosebumps at the time too, an…

I wrote the perfect text to my ex. Read it back 6 months later and couldn't believe I almost sent it. — It was 2am. I was been staring at my phone for an hour. I had everything figured out. the exact words. the right tone. the right thing to but not too desperate, not too cold. just to be honest enough …

Wife cheated after 7 years of long distance and 3 years of marriage — Met my now wife 10 years ago online. I live in Europe and she is from the US. We talk for a year and things start to get romantic. I visit her for the summer and we decide to start dating and go long …

Log 02. Step by Step on how to Achieve Meditation to the 3rd power/Replying to multiple readers 🌠🪬🎭

Quit weed 4 days ago and radio silence from every friend and family member. Am I going crazy? — On Wednesday last week, after finishing what I had and then smoking whatever Dusties I had left, I (24F) cleaned my bong, threw the cone piece and set out on my quitting journey. So far this has been…

nmom ruining my pregnancy by bullying my body — went no contact again and she won’t stop blowing up my phone — My whole life my sister and I have been bullied by our mom. When I was anorexic skinny, she’d say I had “no ass” and looked like a stick. Now that I’ve recovered and I’m at a normal, healthy weight (f…

My (32M) wife’s (29F) jealousy is getting worse and is affecting my friendships and work. What should I do to help her get real help without losing myself? — My wife (29F) and I (32M) have been together almost 5 years and married for 1. I love her, I am committed to this marriage, and I do not want to leave. What I want is for her to get real help for this…

I (32m) found out my partner (32f) cheated on me while she was away on holiday. She doesn’t know that I know. How do I navigate this? — So I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7 years now. We’ve had our ups and downs and have started to go to couples therapy (and we’re still going), trying to figure out our relationship.…

No reaction/indifference really is the best reply - 3 months on — It's been almost 3 months since I was treated horribly by a narcissist Ex. I was away, blocked on ig and dumped by text. I found multiple intimate posts a week before I was dumped, including videos of…

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? — Dating a new guy for a month, he was a gentleman and very kind towards me. He very recently just told me how much he liked me and that I’m “pretty but most of all I’m a kind person with a good heart, …

About point a, moonlight, oh, sweet, old memories, I actually hallucinated about 1 year, trying to act as if. No, it was not rough, it was hell, but I did it. And it kinda worked, but I don t recomme…

There was no reply because you asked a stupid question.

What are the actual steps for someone who is doing this for the very first time? Pls reply

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

Another ex messaged me today. The thing was I'm better off alone. I'm contemplating whether to reply or not. I've been left with no contact for months. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Apologies, I know this is an old post but I just read it for the first time today and felt the need to reply. Yes, what you're saying is absolutely true. However, at least for me, this is the motiva…

What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…

Quick qustion last night i was kinda in the weird state of hallucnation not sleep parlyisis but after that i somwhat woke and i thing it was sleep parlyisis but then i heard somthing say you were alwa…

Can’t believe i am replying to this after a 4 week fling and my SA did a 180. Connection felt real but was way too fast (Red flag). Trying to come up with ways to continue were just ploys to avoid f…

No Contact does not mean literally no communication. How unmannered and uncivil it would sound if a person asked you "How are you ?" as you were exiting your office, one evening after work. You should…

Thank you so much for this! Actually, also 12 years and my husband had an affair 6 months ago and a new one now that I discovered right after a very sad (for me) Thanksgiving. So I get what you’re say…

Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…

I needed this pinned post today. When I don't reach out, I am kind of ok.. if I cave and she doesn't reply, the pain is absolutely unbearable..

From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…

Thanks for your reply! Roughly how long did it take for your eye colour to change? Seeing as it’s such a deep-seated belief you have to change, was it a difficult mission?

Waiting patiently for a reply on bestcubs comment while people from your sub have started to delete their comments on this post. How odd.

Yup you’re the one I was trying to reply to on that post about the lottery. You think things should only look one way and can only be manifested in one way and that’s a fallacy and a limited belief. T…

I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…

I did what you did.. except correctly 🫨 Not every one is drinking the koolaid. You’re attributing a few things you’ve seen on REDDIT OF ALL PLACES to a whole group of people. The silliness. There’s …

Uh oh…better get to affirming and visualizing before your man runs away! Imagine not being able to enjoy your time with your partner because you always need to check your thoughts and assumptions? Wha…

\>Daydreams and dreams serve a similar function. Neither involve looping a specific scene. Both involve a sort of mind wandering. Except one you are unconscious and the other you are awake. So I disag…

OP, you ended off your post above with the following words : "This post is kind of all over the place and I'm probably forgetting a few key points, but I really wanted to get this out." Is there…

This is a very silly reply. Any idiot knows that faith is essential (and unwavering faith is not, just 51% sunconscious faith vs 49% subsconsious unbelief) to LOB success. That is not the point of t…

Hey, thanks so much for your reply. I can’t find a way to translate this page into English, nor can I find any other information on this person when I type his name into google. If you have the time, …

Thanks for the reply and guidance, which is welcomed. Yes, I'm actively working on my anxious behaviours as I'm fairly self-regulating. I'm just concerned that my DA partner isn't even self-aware 🫣

Thanks for the reply, and yes…. I appreciate it… The part about being deserving of love (and for me without performance)… is one of the most recent and most powerful realizstions. Yesterday I went to …

Why would you post this topic in the attachment theory sub? This is dating 101. I see you’ve been dating for a while now - what’s stopping you from realizing people don’t have to reply back right away…

It's amazing how small changes can completely reframe your view on things. "But" is restrictive, AND opens doors. Same for Yes and No. Love your reply, thank you for the positive words!

>I am not a millionaire because that wasn’t my goal. What a foolish and dishonest reply to my earlier point, thus proving that you have no rebuttal. Banned 60 days. And covid ended 2 years back and …

Your word choice is really interesting. As someone who has an anxious attachment style, constantly wanting to contact your therapist sounds to me less like anxious attachment on a personal relationshi…

Bester Username 😂🤍 your reply filled me with so much pride and joy 🥺😩❣️🫂 you are doing the work. I am soo happy and glad to hear that 🤍🤍🤍 And YES! Thank you, very well worded. Your ex's *acti…

It ended with “you can’t always read their mind”. Sounds like the original commenter is similar to me or has been through stuff. But if you happen to be disorganized and also have bdp (I don’t think…

Agreed, a therapist is incredibly helpful. Appreciate your reply. I’ll check out those resources. Thank you. Hope you find your forever match soon!

Yeah. Several people ended friendships with me for needing time and replying slowly. And I can’t really blame them. If it’s not okay with them, if my communication style is painful for them- then it’s…

I can say absolutely the same about anxious-attached people, but you don’t see me doing that? You ripped my words out of the context. Do I know that I’m avoidant? Yes. I used to be real bad as a teen.…

So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…

Taking a few hours to reply is ok. Taking a few days is questionable. Taking a few weeks is unacceptable if it repeats. If my close friend does it, I wil call him. But it’s not something I will sweep …

He was definitely avoidant and also very emotionally unavailable so maybe I’ve confusing the two! I also like to take things slow, and hate rushing into anything as I’ve gotten older but there’s slo…

You’re spot on with this observation and I didn’t realize how it impacts other people at all. I am extroverted and love people but when I’ve had enough, I turn off like someone flipped a switch and I …

Thank you for your insights, but how exactly is the “allow the space” - not texting and/or replying to their chats? We are actually back together, but the communication has dropped, the distance is …

By not chasing and instead matching their pace. Absolutely reply when they text you, and match the energy if you can. Ideally you’d want to be perceived as safe, so when they text you should be detach…

There's no reason anyone needs to know that you see a therapist. If you don't tell people, they won't know right? Depending on your health insurance, a session usually only costs a copy ($20-40) fo…

Me ex said he was “anxious attachment”, he proceeded to panic and freak out after he got me pregnant and dump and abandon me. Any time I talked about moving the relationship to the next level, or plan…

Excellent reply! Everyone should read and understand what you have said, including your first line where you state, 'primary attachment style'. The other important aspect is the fact it can take m…

Indeed, this is a great reply. The answers people get online are rarely precise. What is more, I bet plenty of people lie to themselves to protect their self image or because they genuinely believe th…

i dont think you should reply. the apology seems pretty off too. no mention of what he did specifically. just a generic "i apologize for how i was at the end"

This is called “hoovering”, it’s a known technique for toxic individuals.   They’re saying whatever they think will suck you back in to the scenario.  Note the expansive, emotive but oddly totally no…

if you have time to spare, talk to them and take your chances. if you dont have time for trial and errors, let them know and dont start talking again. i think people who say don't reply are wrong, no …

If it will help for closure, you can absolutely ask him to tell you what went on. But please be so damn wary about this again. What could have possibly changed in the last two months, that would make …

Good god, serial abuser!? I don't need to read the rest of the comment to know we're not going to agree about this at all, if that's your take based on a single text and the post from OP. And no, I do…