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I'm gonna be completely honest with you bro, I haven't finished the book yet, heck I just started reading it lol. You should buy it and read it yourself or wait till I finish it and I'll tell you, but…

Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…

[Update] She [F25] withdrew consent after the act, how do I [M26] move on from this? — Hey everyone First, thank you for all the messages and the support I talked with my best friend about everything, she was already aware of everything because of that girl and chose to take her side. …

Outreach for women — 🌸 Women & Non-Binary Outreach (12 Step) A simple, structured space for connection between meetings 🤍 📞 3x3 / 4x4 / 5x5 outreach calls 👍 Respond in chat, then connect directly Consent-based sha…

Orange orb — Hello! I’ve been seeing an orange orb like thing during gateway meditations, and it started showing up very often. I started calling it, and it would show up immediately in the middle of my field of v…

What’s the worst smear you’ve heard your nex shares with people? — I’m sure there’s worse and I imagine the audience and subject can change how each smear lands, but mine is about my time in the bedroom. My nex tells people that I secretly recorded and posted video…

Kink, consent and dating — I \[44F\] was out on a 4th date with a slightly older guy \[51M\] last night. First three dates (1st happy hour, 2nd dinner, 3rd movie) there had been some low key affection but we hadn't kissed yet. …

Forced polyamorous relationships are the worst — What happened was that I was with my ex-girlfriend. When we were a couple, she started joking that she wanted a threesome with a friend of ours. I took it as a joke, but I was curious about what it wo…

NEW STUDY — Folks planning a psychedelic experience this year sought for a $250 entirely online Yale research study! — The Powers Lab at Yale University is recruiting people who are planning to use a psychedelic this year for a fully online study that measures how psychedelics affect basic perception and learning usin…

Anxiety tips you might not have heard of — Hello, I've had crippling anxiety on and off for many years and I have developed coping tools that has helped me alot. This Mostly is for people who have GAD and panic disorders but can help for almo…

Helpful words for those who were betrayed — Hey everyone, If you were betrayed by your ex I have something to say to you. Even if you weren't the perfect partner, and you had your faults (we all do), YOU still deserved better. You deserved …

I'm disgusted with my partner — I hope you can adress my embarrassing story maturely and offer real sympathy or advice. My girlfriend (29F) and I (37M) have been dating for 3 months. She mostly stays at my apartment. We have common…

I had my NDE in 2022, I died saw the process of a soul's comeback agreement — My first near-death experience was 4 years ago, in France, completely alone and isolated. It was not an accident, I was pretty much chose to cut off from my family and I have given up on life and in s…

My story of confusion - need advice — In early 2024, I met a woman from another country, and we embarked on a long-distance relationship that initially felt like a rare, once-in-a-lifetime connection. For the first two months, we were in …

Sibling abuse is not the same as sibling rivalry. — My older sister was extremely abusive to me growing up. It was like she didn’t see me as a person, just a punching bag to take out her feelings on or an obstacle preventing her from being the most imp…

BF (25M) ignored my (24F) safe word and I don’t know how to feel. — I’m feeling really confused about something that happened with my boyfriend and I don’t know if I’m overreacting or not. My BF (25M) and I (24F) been together for about a year, and we have a pretty r…

They'll make me insane. First they create problems for me & then paint me as an attacker — Idk how to defend myself anymore from my parents and grandma. I have to cope with their ugly behavior until I get away from this house but my university is really near my living place so I don't have …

sister resenting mom + mom projecting her insecurities? — My family is rather chill, and I am grateful for them. For context, both my parents were raised in Hong Kong, but my dad went to study abroad in the US for some time. I have a younger sister. Currentl…

Trauma and BDSM — I (29F) have BDSM encounters, and I pretend that I like it and enjoy it, but in reality, being used and mistreated is the only way I can tolerate intimacy. It's the only way I feel worthy of physical …

Turbulent year. Opinions on the worst year of my life? — I got into a relationship at 16. Within the first two years of our relationship I discovered he was cheating by having sexual chats and sending explicit pictures online to other women. I forgave him a…

I cheated and want to change — Hey, just going to be blunt. I was actively cheating on my girlfriend, honestly the literal best and most perfect person in my life…multiple times with the same person. Long story short, they both fou…

At the age of 23, my brother is earning a lot of money, even though some astrologers said he has an average kundli. I’m posting this with his consent. — My cousin brother and I have been very close since childhood we’re basically like friends. He’s a software engineer and has also been doing trading part-time for the last 2–3 years. During this time, …

Seeking advice about my wife's actions — Seeking advice I’m posting here because I need honest input from people who understand limerence/crush dynamics, especially if you’ve experienced it while in a committed relationship or from the part…

The Power Of Awareness Notes — Consciousness is your concepts of self. “It is only by a change of consciousness, by actually changing your concept of yourself, that you can "build more stately mansions” - the manifestations of hi…

I had my views on consent challenged in a way that makes me feel guilty for believing the first view in the first place. — I had used to believe that sex with an asexual person was okay if they consented to doing it. I used to think it was normal to have sex to make your partner happy, even if you weren't feeling it at th…

Bullied Out of my Family — I've never fit in with my family. My mom had post postpartum depression, so she didn't really love or connect with me as a baby. She struggled a lot and had no support network, so I don't blame her fo…

Heartbroken — Hi reddit, I could use some comfort and I need to write this out After a slew of bad dating luck and heartbreak in the past few months, I organically started developing a connection with a woman. O…

Heartbroken and Need to Move On.. But How? — Hi reddit, I could use some comfort and I need to write this out After a slew of bad dating luck and heartbreak in the past few months, I organically started developing a connection with a woman. Onl…

My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was both our firs…

my X went no contact, but keeps trying to deplete me financially - help! — Divorce/Financial Advise This is going to be long because I need to give context (details have been changed for privacy). My ex moved out of the home we shared. We never had children and agreed with…

My (24F) boyfriend (23M) is in a Psychiatric Unit for Brief Psychotic Disorder, and my family wants me to completely cut him out of my life. Is that something I should consider? — On Friday (over a week ago), my boyfriend went on a work trip to Chicago and had what we thought was a manic episode. He basically roamed the streets all night, discarding his phone and wallet, destro…

Getting help at 18 — TW: mentions of abuse(physical, emotional), self harm sorry if I overshare but Ive recently gotten help at 18, ive recently turned 18 and I havent even gotten my highschool diploma yet but i graduat…

My ex-husband is borderline stalking our kids — I don't know how I got into this situation, but I feel like no one is able to understand or give advice, so I thought I would try Reddit. For legal advice, I will mention that I live in Germany. So…

Need help getting help — Situation in profile and stuff. I need to find a way to get therapy, or if not what could I do in the meantime. But my parents shelter me and don't accept therapy or condone it at all, I can't go to …

My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — ​ hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was bot…

I let my marriage shatter my entire sense of self worth. — TW: Physical domestic abuse I’m not sure why I’m writing this here. I’ve never posted anything like this, I’ve always just been a lurker. Maybe I want to know if I’m not alone maybe I just need a pla…

Informed consent (or a lack of) — Has anyone dealt with realizing they would not have chosen a relationship if they had known the full truth upfront? How did you move forward after that kind of distortion?

My therapist decided to end working with me after coaxing me to talk about my sexual relationship with my wife in more detail. — I started attending therapy because I was struggling with being a 'Girl Dad' after having a history of treating girls poorly and also because my wife acts more like a dependent then a partner. I fl…

Sexually abusive Ndad bringing up Lolita — Hi all, Never posted before, but the behavior of my Ndad has gotten so strange and creepy.. I’m sure you guys will get it and I want to let a bit of it out. My Ndad sexually harassed/abused me growi…

Emotional attachment after sex/sex for emotional validation — Hi, this is a shorter version of a recent post - I met a girl from class around this time last year and due to things that happened to me/lack of care/love in life, I got super attached really fast …

Dumped — I got dumped. And they said maybe one day we can be platonic after they said I ripped the rug from under them - making them no longer feel safe, or that they could trust my consent and that I made th…

32M Marriage prospects? How will wife be? — Sharing with my friend’s consent. Are there indications of marriage in his chart? How will his wife be? How does he find her? Anything interesting thing you can share about his chart as well?

kinky boyfriend ruined straight sex for me, pedophelia ruined lesbian sex for me — This thing has been eating me from the inside and making me so miserable I've been thinking abt it every single day since it happened. I hate how this happened to me. Sex is my only good escape but it…

Are any of these things sexual assault or rape? — Caveating that this may be the wrong subreddit for this question, but posting here, since I’m here a lot and I’d expect people here to have take on this. The following are a few of the experiences I’v…

I'm in a love marriage and am facing a separation phase more than an year now. — I'll be honest, coming from an anonymous account feels much safer than being direct about it as I've seen people to just hunt for justifications which prove their side of the story even if it is an ut…

What did your parent(s) tell you about relationships and marriage? — I'm curious what kind of advice (if any...) they gave you about relationships, what to expect or do for a partner, consent, how to handle differences etc I just realized my mother only really warned …

How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ? — I'd like to share a story. Unfortunately, I'm still dealing with the narcissistic person and the flying monkeys. I feel like I'm trapped in a spider web and that the pain is going to stick with me for…

DARVO — it’s a long(ish) read but the last ever emails before i went NC officially with my Ndad and family Email 1 – You Hi dad I reached out on PayPal, I figured you’d call after almost a year of silence…

On my last limb here. — To make this easier to understand im the youngest of four silbings two girls two boys, my eldest brother lives in the states(secret love child my dad had), my other brother lives on a different island…

It helped me to cut out some toxic family members. One of the elements that fed my anxious attachment was that I had low self esteem. I worked really hard to build that up, but it was difficult to m…

I consent posted multiple times before seeing this! Hopefully it’ll go through soon! Thanks!

I'm not the person you responded to, but in my opinion, insecure attachment patterns (like trauma dumping early on, keeping score, or obsessively seeking out your partner's time) create "faux-closenes…

Text of original post by u/TheOceanTheSun: Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/…

And then turn around playing them victim when yes, correct, I , an adult, do not *need* someone with a rabid compulsion for enmeshment derailing everything and committing relational arson for my wellb…

Question for fam. If a girl invites you over to her apartment after the third date and you already had sex after the second date (booty call the day after technically) is sex implied here as well? …

Strongly implied yeah. As you said, consent is key and you can't take anything for granted but yup.

Implied, but not guaranteed. And I don’t ever beg or push for sex. I’m a consent king. 🤴

Speaking from my own perspective, I'm a believer in clear intentions. If you and I are dating and you want progress, we talk progress/consent. I personally think a lot of dudes like to talk the ideas …

Oof, definitely dodged a bullet there, that's a hard pass on consent!

Erections sometimes can’t be helped but you can adjust your body so that a non-consenting party doesn’t feel it. It would be assault if you do this intentionally so you can imagine what thoughts and r…

Okay thanks you. Well usually after the first date Im invited to their place or invite mine for a night and we usually have sex there. They care very much abt my consent -  but then wont engage much e…

I love it. It's bold and direct, but also consent 

...and consent is sexy

It's definitely not the only way to get consent, I think. But there's something promising about someone saying, hey I'm pretty interested in kissing but just want to make sure I'm not misreading the s…

yeah this resonates.. the recent relationships i’ve had where my boundaries are respected don’t really trigger my avoidance and that makes me think maybe i’m just introverted and a recovering people p…

We’re eight months in and I’m not in love. He’s very understanding, self-reflective, willing to listen to me and make changes, good social network/ friends, active, good relationship with family, hot,…

“hygiene, consent, being present, checking in with me during sex, how to care for a partner when they are ill” Oh boy. It’s been 8 months, I assume this man is 30+ in age, and you have to still keep …

Absolutely. If people are not making an informed consent to date you (knowing you date others/are in relationships with others), it’s not poly or ENM. It’s just straight old deception.

As long as you’re not looking for anything serious…sure I’m ENM so even married people are fine as long as all parties are aware and consenting

Shadow industry. Entities galore. It's dark. And whatever people may choose to believe, it's no different from doing it in real life energy-wise. And think about it, are the people in the videos happy…

My NM manipulated me into giving written consent to my therapist so she could discuss my case with him. I was at a really low place in my life and figured it would be ok. I have no idea if she even co…

Yes, I very much agree. I appreciate your thoughtfulness on the subject. When people discuss this topic, it's often framed around whether consumption affects the consumer directly via a drain on thei…

This sounds like a group I've encountered that I refer to as pseudo-mantids. [I talk about my experiences with them in this comment, as well as my observations on and thoughts/opinions about them.](ht…

For your searches, searching 'cuddle' on 'meet up', or starting from 'cuddlist' and 'cuddle comfort' might help find this sort of thing. It is too bad society is tipped so much towards touch means se…

I just stumbled upon this comment chain and I do appreciate you not sharing all the gruesome details. I wanted to mention that I often have disguised reptilians and their servants coming at me in drea…

Hey, I am an Epstein girl to a different elite. I was sold to him when I was 11 by my grandfather. This is not good advice. They spiritually use people in ways that you cannot fathom when you “re…

I've been doing gateway for 6 months and have had something similar happen as well. But it has been happening during sleep. I have seen people say Jesus's name during these things and have been meanin…

And the porn user's partner. I find it interesting how no one else has mentioned this when half of porn users are coupled. For one, most women are hurt by it and do not want it in their relationship a…

Don’t let these people tell you it’s gross. It could have come from either of you. He even said he had slept with some people after his last test. It just takes 1 time to contract chlamydia and it oft…

I feel similar. And I know a lot of people don’t want conventionally pretty people complain because of our so called pretty privilege but there is such a thing as pretty curse. All my life I have been…

Fellow autist. Two main factors helped me have more of an "it" factor on dates. 1. Connecting with my inner romantic. This was mostly a study of art, and then attempting to make similar art. I…

I just don’t like the feeling of “he’s telling me what I need to hear” Ask your doc, who knows you and have an impartial discussion with them And good for you for asking Here is my favorite way to…

Unfortunately nothing was taken off the table. He was asymptomatic and was taking meds. We were together for 8.5 years. He stopped taking the medicine without my knowledge, yet continued to have sex w…

I guess I have a very hyperactive and planner mind. At the peak of the trip I couldn't achieve anything but keeping rolling in the mental loop. I guess that I wanted to much and I didn't let anything …

>*you* are the one deciding you are not "good" and *you* are the one deciding that your partner doesn't deserve what you are offering. I did not decide this. After 5 years of saying "I love you" to e…

Getting this emotionally tied up when a person won't commit to you as their only option is, in my opinion, an incredibly risky move. They're already indicating that you're not really enough for their…

If you're in a single party consent state, Id video every exchange with him. If he's saying awful things about you now at exchanges, that may continue and process into parental alienation.

Turning off the news was a good first step. The next step is to stop googling for reassurance. There reassurance is happening right now, in this moment. The is no draft. No one is being sent to fight …

(sorry, writing from a place of intense annoyance because of a similar personal context, so this is gonna be a bit intense) Her need for touch is NOT on the same level of your need for sleep. It's HER…

“manufacturing consent” was coined by Noam Chomsky, pal of Epstein it’s still a useful term for political analysis

That's because the word trauma dumping has become weaponized by callous individuals. It's not supposed to refer simply to sharing trauma. It's supposed to mean sharing graphic and deeply upsetting c…

Thank you for naming this because it's been bothering me for a while. Somewhere in the last few years "boundaries" became code for "I don't want to feel uncomfortable" and those are not the same thing…

I don’t talk about my shit Willy nilly bc I know I’m not special and it might bring up other people’s trauma. You just don’t do it when you don’t know people or the vibe well. I’m super down to talk a…

I think if someone asks you how you are, and you tell them, then being accused of trauma dumping is unfair, however, i have to concede, it is a thing. Its when a person chooses to center their own neg…

Document everything, date, time and what happened. That is evidence. The parenting app used to abuse you should be show to the judge. Many areas have public areas to do visitation exchanges with vi…

So at any time, any level of graphic-ness, without asking your consent, from anyone-- you're available to hold space? None of that would ever be inconvenient for you?

You live with the guilt. You face it and tell yourself over and over that you are choosing autonomy over your own life. Over time, like a cut on your skin, the guilt will dissipate into nothing. W…

Sit down, have a talk and work together. Get on the same page, that you both want to improve it, and what that means for each of you. What would be the ideal for each of you? I get where you’re comin…

I think of “trauma dumping” as exposing the listener to possibly distressing material without asking consent first. Broad, vague statements like “I was abused as a child” is not really trauma dumping …