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That's heavy. I can relate. The narrative you’re telling yourself right now—that you are "unlovable and unfixable"—is a reaction to pain, not a reflection of reality. Here are a few perspectives to…
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Vegan Men as a Deal-Breaker — Just getting back into dating (Online), Curious on the general response or perspective from women to dating a man that is vegan. Would you prefer this to be disclosed before the first date? or someth…
I just ended my relationship and I feel hopeless — FYI, today marked 1 year of dating. It was kind of mutual, but if I’m being honest, it was more on his side. I think I just accepted what he had already decided deep down. We talked today and he tol…
Dumped and I know I’ll never be the perfect man. — I (30m) was just dumped by my now ex-girlfriend (31f). Earlier this week, we discussed the possibility of me moving out to her. It had been an ongoing discussion and I asked an innocuous question: “a…
I am also anxious. I told my partner to leave in June, which was extremely traumatic but I'm sorry, I won't cohabit with anyone who is an apologist for the worst excuse for a human being on the face o…
That's brilliant advice; focusing on actual deal-breakers instead of anxiety-driven urges is a game-changer for nervous systems!
Yeah this. If the physical connection isn't good with perfect on paper guy then he isn't perfect. Having come from relationships where we had mismatched libidos/lack of physical intimacy, not having t…
Switched to Tinder from FB dating. I like all the features on FB and that everything is free, but it just doesn't have a big enough user base in my area so I kept getting likes from California and Ore…
Same here, also the first and only guy I've been intimate with. I'm razor free and it's such a frustrating topic, a deal-breaker for many people from what I can see. Not like I'd want to be with someo…
Couples fight about money, politics, and faith. those are all potential deal-breakers in relationships. So ask them their views on political issues that matter. Politics is a mirror as to what pe…
I don't care too much about any one physical characteristic. I've been super attracted to a very wide variety of looks and bodies. I find that if I like a person's mind and character, I like their mea…
In all honesty a salt & pepper look is a hell lot more attractive to me than balding or bald. A bald head is not a deal-breaker either.
Hahahaha, very perceptive. Yes, that's definitely part of it, but not a deal-breaker on its own and is definitely improving. All the replies have been super helpful and I've updated the post. Chee…
Perhaps you should think of it this way: are you breaking your own code? Was cheating a firm deal-breaker with you? Are you lying to yourself? Your head and your heart will not agree, at least for a w…
Yeah I set distance as a deal-breaker but the apps just don't care.
You, like most of us, chose the wrong person to be in a relationship with. That is why this happened. Next time try vetting them for suitability. Not everyone cheats. https://in.yvex.de/term/partner…
This is a breach of financial trust. I'm shocked at some responses where they're saying it's not. Any more than a low amount (in our house it's max $500 - as a one-time expense, not repeated $500 expe…
I understand why you're upset, but when people say that they would never do something when they're 21 or 22 years old, take it with a grain of salt. As for destroying your marriage, she's the one des…
Frankly, your gf isn't mature enough to continue dating nor is she understanding, like you described. If there's anything that should make her feel disgusting, it should be her reaction to what you to…
please communicate this to her gently. but also, if your partner's body parts smelling is a genuine deal-breaker, i dont think you're ready for a relationship. my first thought would be "oh wow are th…
I'm 45, no kids. It wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me. Your options may be narrower but there are plenty of people like me out there. Keep focussing on building a fulfilling life with activities, frie…
Yeah sorry but I don't think there is any way you two are compatible. Having such low attraction for someone after only 9 months - especially when they actually tried to change a bit - is a very obvio…
Obviously... but lack of attraction is usually a major deal-breaker in a romantic relationship. Low attraction in a relationship is like building a house with poor foundation: it's not going to work o…
That feature is on all dating app, however it wouldn't cover all the friends of friends though. I know because sometimes I want to move in silent too lol. I believe Hinge has a deal-breaker feature.…
>I’ve actually talked to my family about it, and they’re not open to it right now and don’t really want to take that on. I also come from a more traditional Chinese household, so I don’t know if that …
since when is music taste a deal-breaker?? that might be the most petty thing I have ever read
This honestly should be a deal-breaker for you.
I’m neither here nor there on nipple piercings but would, on the whole, prefer not pierced. It’s not a deal-breaker. I’m far more opposed to septum piercings which always look hideous.
Well, is not having kids a deal-breaker? If it is, then that's your answer. If there's a world where you two would be happy having adventures, vacations, living life just the two of you and you'd …
It sounds like having a family is really important to you. So - your girlfriend's stance might well be a deal-breaker.
From your replies it sounds like a deal-breaker for you. And that’s fine, but if it is and you stay you’ll end up resenting your girlfriend. It’s tough, but it’s an important subject to discuss. I k…
Sounds like he's setting up the threat of divorce to put you in a situation where you're jumping through hoops to please and keep him. Don't fall for it. He told you he wants a divorce. Tell him to fi…
>I guess I just wanted to know why she married me and had a kid with me. Now everything is so much harder. We could have just had a clean break without a mortage & kid involved. That to me is almost t…
Original copy of post by u/eat_vegetables: Just getting back into dating (Online), Curious on the general response or perspective from women to dating a man that is vegan. Would you prefer this to b…
If you miss her, reach out and allow them the opportunity to rebuild trust. You have been friends with them and so you know if they're the type to continue cheating or not. But you already sound like …
Disrespectful. Its okay if this is a deal-breaker for you, OP.
Is it a deal-breaker for you if your date is not vegan or receptive to at least trying?
There is no way that the good things this man brings to the table (assuming there are any) is worth the emotional labor you are putting in. Silent treatment is an absolute deal-breaker for me, as is a…
I met my vegan ex-boyfriend (broke up for other reasons) at a dating event and several weeks into dating, I realized that I'd previously swiped left on him earlier online *because* he was vegan. It wa…
Shouldn't you just say this in your profile? It is a real deal-breaker for a lot of people, because it is a major compatibility factor. Some of us learned this the hard way. Personally I would never w…
I would want to know beforehand. I love all food including meat. I have nothing against vegan food and enjoy it as well but I could never do it as a lifestyle and I would have a hard time being in a l…
For me it would never be a deal breaker. I myself have swung vegan and vegetarian at different periods. However, I have settled into a path that realizes my body feels better when it eats meats. I …
I don't have kids and I'm very grateful I didn't. And I'm not looking to change that this late in the game when it could easily turn into regret lol, and a guy with either pre-existing or aspirational…
"Stop looking through my phone. I don't like it and I want you to stop. "I don't care what your reason is. I don't care if it's because you don't trust other people. I don't like it and I want you to…
He told you his point of view: he is incapable of being loyal. The real question is whether this is a deal-breaker for you, or if you are okay with your man hooking up with other women because he has …
it depends what you want. if you'd be happy with a larger wedding then you can say it sounds like you don't want to elope now let's arrange a small wedding with immediate family and best friends. If…
My husband very clearly told me cheating is cheating is cheating and that was that.. meaning it doesn't matter male female or whatever, there is no allowance... And because I love him and value our ma…
Yeah I know how you feel....and I'll be honest, that kind of behaviour doesn't go away. They get better at hiding it. He is showing you who he is. Don't bet on it changing. It's more important you…
All of the above, but the kicker is, you'd probably be a deal-breaker to them too for posting such a "poll" on Reddit LOL. Luckily, I tend not to attract those kinds of guys. I'm not a nerd (aside f…
I'm all for trying to the slow-burn thing as opposed to my usual butterflies/anxiety obsession, but I have questions. 1) He set a date 2 weeks ago, but I didn’t think about him or the date for a who…
If he is the type of person that you can have an open conversation about this and raise that someone you see yourself with long-term would eat different foods with you, because it's part of your inter…
Boundaries are to be stated as such: “an open relationship is a deal-breaker for me.” And following through on that is important. Tell him he can have an open relationship if he wants but it won’t be …
For me I think something like this might be a deal-breaker. Unless he's actually taking concrete steps frequently to work on his mental health, you don't need to make it your problem.
YES. I'm sorry, poor oral hygiene is a deal-breaker. I brush 3 or 4 times a day, I floss once or even twice a day, and I've had braces so my teeth are straight. I also get whitening, either with th…