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I haven't worked with him yet so haven't fully looked into how the entire process would look like, all I got was some pieces that gave me an idea of the whole thing, but I would only ask my guides to …
How do you generate qualified leads for a cohort-based course? — Hey everyone! 👋 I run a live, cohort-based masterclass on advanced Midjourney prompt engineering and am in the process of ramping up my lead-gen funnel for the next cohort. So far, I’ve Explored: *…
Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…
Best low-effort analytics tools for Shopify optimization? I'm drowning in data... — I'm struggling to make sense of all the analytics data from my store. The native Shopify reports give me tons of information, but I'm finding it difficult to determine what metrics I should actually f…
Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …
Death by a Thousand Subscriptions: Is anyone's SaaS bills higher than their Ad spend? — I've been watching several eCommerce businesses in my network, and it's fascinating how many are drowning in subscription costs for essential software. One store owner I know is paying nearly **$500/m…
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies. — I’m at a point where I just end things early if I see too many Avoidant tendencies early, but it seems like women with Avoidant tendencies are drown to me more often than secure or anxious which I’d r…
i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…
Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain. — I didn't plan to go no contact. I just got to a point where I realized every time I reached out I felt worse for three days afterward. So I stopped. Day 1–7 was the worst week of my life. Worse than …
How to deal with places that have bad energy? — For context, a few years ago i moved away from a city that drowned me energetically, in the sence that i genuinely couldn't feel joy for extended periods of time, but after moving to a new location fa…
Six months after the worst breakup of my life, I finally understand why I couldn't heal for the first three. — I'm writing this because I wish someone had said it to me when I was in month one. For the first three months I did everything people tell you to do. I went to the gym. I saw friends. I kept busy. I …
Finally sober, but I bedrot every day and can't do anything... need help — Hey all, 31F with ADHD and struggling to get out of bed lately. It takes so much energy just to survive. To eat. To go to work. I used to be a drunk, and I drank all of my 20s away. I was an ugly drun…
Sexual Vampire — I have no idea where to turn- and I never thought I would posting something like this. But here we are. 5 weeks ago I met a man at a bar. He was a bit younger than me, the same age as my first love. …
My mother is super affectionate now that I'm an adult and she has dementia. It disgusts me. — My mother doesn't remember the screaming, my mother doesn't remember her calling me stupid everyday, she doesn't remember her telling me to get out of her house. She talks to me now in a baby voice, s…
A simple way to think of them is chronically dysregulated humans who rely on others to regulate themselves. Everything else is a manifestation of that premise. — And there’s no solution. Just identify them and stay away. They’re sinking ships frantically reaching for others to drown with them. It’s tragic and pitiful but I choose my own one life first before…
The dangerous 'toxic positivity' of AI therapy: A personal story — **TL;DR:** I used a customized Gemini "Gem" as a complementary therapist, but it completely failed to spot a predator. The AI interpreted extreme red flags (love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation…
Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…
Has anyone ever changed their entire selves/view on life? — I (40f) have been struggling with selfishness my whole life. My husband left me and asked for a divorce but more recently agreed to a trial separation. One thing he brought up today was that I never s…
Creaking and Cracking — # Do you get unusual noises in your vicinity during experiences? **Such as: Creaking, cracking, popping, thudding, snapping, etc.** **These noises occur in synchronistic-timing** with my thoughts an…
How do I handle being overly attached to male mentors in a healthy way? — Every time I get even slightly close with a male teacher or professor I turn them into a father figure in my head. (My dad drowned to death when I was 14). I don't ever do or say anything weird but I …
I think too much it hurts my brain, literally — I’m the kind of person that’s always busy, juggling so much together in my daily life as a student/athlete and chasing success in what I do. Because of this passion (or maybe anxiousness), I constantl…
Walk on Water or Drown — I have been saying this phrase to myself to encourage myself to have fun with my imagination and proactively imagine things that I want/will make me happy. Today, I was randomly reading "All Things …
I broke up with my ex, but now I’m the one stuck and hurting — I have been with my ex for 7 years we were high-school sweet heart we started dating in 2017. we graduated high-school together nad college. we did everything together had got our first apartment. in…
71 days since DDay - I’m drowning — Just need to tell someone, a stranger, that I’m drowning. Husband and I had a rocky marriage the last year or two. I found out he was having an emotional affair for 4 months with a coworker. He’s…
I NEED HELP !! p — I NEED HELP!!! I'm a 23 year old girl from India. And i seriously need some real life advice or help. I'm currently in my 3rd year of a 4 year Nursing undergraduate program. And I can't do it anymo…
My ex (30F) and I (30nb) broke up 6 months ago and I want to vent about it — After dating for almost 2 years and living together for 6 months my ex broke it off and I had to move out. I am a trans nonbinary person (AFAB) and the day we met my ex knew I would be pursuing gender…
Anyone else felt like they were physically drowning? — Hey folks, just coming here to see if anyone relates. Basically, I was laying on my back and listening to music (just my usual music, nothing specifically meant for meditation) while trying to med…
Channeled message - this is why you’re not shifting༄˖°.🍂.ೃ࿔*:･ — Hi sweet shifting peeps, this is a collective message for you. \~ I specifically asked the deck, the crystals and the sound cleansing that I did it to help me pick out the card that would be most rele…
No matter what I do, I’m a failure — I didn’t expect the divorce to hit me this hard. I knew it would be sad, but I didn’t realize how constant the feeling would be. It’s not just missing a person, it’s grieving the life I thought I was …
Day 6 — 6 days since. Today was another pretty good day. Still think about her/us all the time. I try to listen to music as much as I can to drown out those thoughts but they still come in. If you are reading…
Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …
Being an avoidant is hard to fix — My mother was a meth addict who used prostitution on and off for years and is still an alcoholic to this day. my father bailed before I was born. I watched my mother have hundreds of sexual relation…
How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…
Break up - 2 years togther — I am 29yr and she is 25yr we dated for 2 years. So me and her broke up a week ago. I came home after class and she was standing there and said we are done. I was completely in shock. She said the reas…
Near drowning — When I was a kid maybe 8-10 years old I nearly drown in the ocean I have no idea how I got out but something pushed me out of the water no adults were around me and no way I could have got out but I j…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
Overcomplicating the simplest things — I hope to promote a healthy discussion on this topic, as I would like to convey some of my thoughts as well as gain some *enlightenment*. I have mostly been a passive reader in this community. Consta…
People Pleasers!!! — People who are in long term relationships, where one partner is secure or anxious and other is people pleaser/avoidant. The people pleaser would later on in the relationship start being unhappy with s…
Our wedding anniversary is Friday — I’ve been posting a lot because I don’t know where else to put any of this. It’s not helping, not really, but it’s something. It’s the only place I don’t have to pretend I’m okay outside of therapy th…
My Mom Kept Killing Our Pets — I always thought that animals had very short life spans. Through my childhood, we had adopted and buried at least 7 cats, 5 dogs, 2 rabbits, and 3 hamsters , not to mention a myriad of wild animals li…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
I need anyone to tell me I exist. — Please hear me out. I have no one. I'm 20. My only friend is my boyfriend and he's pulling away because I'm "too sad all the time." I live with my parents (absent dad, morbidly obese (it’s relevant l…
I’m losing hope. — please just hear me out for a second. i’m not asking for anything big. i just… don’t want to feel like i don’t exist anymore. i’m 20 and i have no one. my boyfriend is basically my only friend and ev…
My ex fiancé ruined my life and it’s kind of my fault. — This is a long, absolutely insane story. So buckle up. I’m only here as a way to get it out of my head and because of smosh story time on fb. Idk I guess I like other people reading stories. So here’s…
Meditation has started to make me wonder if im actually crazy. — I enjoy practicing sound meditation. While im practicing sound meditation, my thoughts can become so convincing and loud that it literally feels like I cant hear the sound I'm supposed to be focusing …
What do you do during periods of extreme dissociation/shutdown? Standard skills are failing me — Hey everyone, I’m currently reaching out because I feel like I’ve lost all control over my own perception. Honestly, it’s not surprising given everything that’s hitting me at once: I recently lost my…
My only friend got together with the girl I love and I just feel so done — Im mostly using this post to vent you dont have to read it I feel like a real asshole for writing this but I really need to get this all out my chest so around a month ago my friend got with some…
16f- trapped in an “RV” of trauma and chronic pain.need advice on surving systematic failure. — **Body:** I’m 16, and I feel like I’m living in a "survival thriller" novel, but nobody believes the protagonist. I have **hEDS**, **POTS**, **Autism**, and **ADHD**. Right now, I’m in 10/10 physical…
Thoughtful Advice that requires only Effort that can change your Life — If a person is drowning the best advice is to try to save them because they will pull you under in panic to survive. Same as once you lost and/or betrayed every bit of trust others had in you, all res…
i had the same dreams when i was a child until today, that i am 33 years old, like i was drowning in a broad daylight or evening in a isolated ocean, as in! no people around me and i was fall into the…
I have experienced death before in dreams, many times, and in many different ways: drowning in icy cold mud, suffocating on rust, being electrocuted, having G-forces rip the vitals from my body, being…
This is largely because people would rather avoid the discomfort of being honest about how someone's behavior impacts them, and let somebody else continue to struggle forever, than let themselves be u…
Hahaha, I love it. I would say it's more acknowledging that you can feel 2 emotions at once. On different ends if the spectrum. I hate you AND I miss you. You disgust me AND you made me feel someth…
Good luck on scaling lol. Solo founding is fun until you're drowning in customer support tickets at 3am with no one to tag in. VCs want co-founders because they've seen this before - the burnout…
Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…
I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …
1. Drawn not drown. 2. You're the AP. Bc no one brings up wanting kids to a stranger like you're on a 1:1 date. As an FA, I find that very weird and off putting.
You always saw her as something more than a friend, it's just that now you need to realize it because she is out of your reach. Since she was always available before, you never bothered and was part o…
I don't resent any of my exes. When exes would reach out to me I was pretty aloof/indifferent towards them. Which is typical avoidant behavior strategies. Usually the one's that have resentment toward…
I need to spend time imaging losing him and surviving it. Where I am right now, I haven't seen a way I could make it through that and end up with a life I'd want in the least. The most likely outcome …
The anxious behavior strategies are fairly more obvious. >C1 (Threateningly Angry): They use anger to coerce attached figures into proving care and comfort. >C2 (Disarmingly Desirous of Comfort): Co…
I really hope I can find some answers here about why I’m unable to let go of and forget one person. The breakup was unbearably painful, drawn-out, and emotionally exhausting. I spent years chasing an…
Bless you, I can feel with every word how deeply he hurt you. I am so sorry for your pain. Your words were lovely, and they really resonated. I wish I had the words that would help you heal. I don't, …
Still not over my breakup back in December, usually I’m mostly recovered in a couple weeks so idk what’s up with me. I went out with one guy on a whim but I wasn’t feeling it romantically. The apps ar…
Darling, first of all, a hug. I was in that same place once. It is necessary that you allow yourself to feel every emotion, and most importantly, anger—because this anger protects you from the people …
I can relate, I’ve been in a very similar situation but I didn’t realise I was a DA and she was FA until after I divorced. I can only give you insight on things I’ve learned and realised over the yea…
Attachment therapist here- Your partner can’t fix your attachment strategy, but they’re not irrelevant either. DA organization is built on one core imprint: relationships aren’t reliable. So when som…
Surely there are more productive ways to solve your crisis then drowning them in booze.
Because there's a very widespread myth that all women are drowning in male attention.
> Idk if I'd compare real life to a dating app designed to limit men's options and keep their match rate artificially low This is not correct. The main factors limiting men's options are men themselv…
I had an absolutely amazing date on Monday and haven't stopped thinking about this woman since then. We've been chatting on the app for almost two weeks now. A few questions because I'm absolutely ter…
>it seems like trying to reason with her about all the things she engaged in with me is futile. YUP absolutely correct she not only will not care but also percieve you as pathethic and desperate whil…
sit and listen. no need to judge it, but allow what ever is to be to be. just listen to the conversation of the universe. let things come and gently go, realizing you are experiencing reality. isn't i…
Same thing happened to me. Grandparents left millions to my mom and her brothers. Her brothers are smart and hard working and their kids will be fine. My mother blew through it all (and all the mone…
I have a few different things to say in response: First, I should answer your direct question: # What is Kindness I'd say that's just a semantic thing. The real question is what you think is the ri…
To overcome all you have, you have clearly been working hard on yourself and you have so much to be proud of!! I have a bit of a difficult situation as well that to many people would inhibit dating. …
As the saying goes, "some die of dehydration, while others die from drowning". Sounds like you're swimming in it!
My first memory is from around 4-6 months of age, so I do not believe I am an abductee from some other place.; however, I have experienced what seemed to be NHI abduction. It is also possible that som…
Fellow Indian here. I had a love marriage - after 29 years together and two kids , got divorced. He was born and raised in US and I was in India- I completely feel you on the ‘ I’m Indian and it’s tab…
astrology is just the cycles, the patterns, the weather. if you are very reactive, you will be predictable when the storm hits and your future is set. if you are capable of responding to the storm con…
I just thought of something else and felt the need to vent. I remember being at work and we were talking about trips we took as kids, and I shared the first trip my family took. Everyone talked abou…
Anticipation is the killer of all experiences. This is probably one of the hardest parts, letting go of any expectation. It will interfere with your flow state, it keeps the intellect active enough th…
See....I'm so angry I went straight for death by drowning. 😂 He shattered his tibial plateau on his boat 25 years ago. I thought my mom was gonna swan dive off the roof before he regained mobility.…
This is always the thing that amazes me. I have to just conclude that people are so wrapped up in themselves nowadays that they don't really listen to people. In my head I get a picture of someone sit…
The ascendant isn't the ego. It's your personal appearance and life. Your ego is cancer. You'd identify with cancer. The ascendant is removed from the sun. If a Scorpio sun person met an ascendant Sco…
man, I've been feeling the same as of late, it's unreal. today especially. me and her were together for almost 4 years. domestic. marriage talks at some point. it's about to be 3 years since she walke…
Its normal, specially when you have strong bond and lots of good memories together, but don't get your self too attached with those memories, you might get drown on what ifs..
I have given exactly that support to many in my life. People come to me with problems and I give them an ear. If they are asking for solutions, I give what advice I can, but mostly I just give them a …
She has BPD and nothing was ever good enough. She doesn't love herself and drowns herself in drugs. She left me but I should have left years before.
And then those guys are all over Reddit complaining about the men’s loneliness epidemic and wondering why dating apps don’t work. It’s a huge circular cluster fuck. Not disagreeing with your premise…
That’s really good insight and makes sense. Thinking back music was an escape and I used it to drown out negative thoughts
Yeah sorry for coming on strong. But the fact of the matter is that I asked in here because I just need to know if what I want from a relationship is some insane outlier. This is my only long term rel…
You accept that part of yourself. It developed that way to keep you safe from something, but now it's time to thank it and ask it to stand down. You also come to understand that you only have to own…
Hi, I was diagnosed with adult ADHD later in life, but it explained quite a bit of how I arrived in my life journey. While that severe scattering still occurs, I’m mostly moving along with it rather t…
You are so welcome! I am really disappointed in a lot of the responses and comments you are getting, I am so sorry there is not more support and understanding. And sorry if I "mama beared" a little in…
I was Daddy's girl until I was in my thirties. Then I really opened my eyes to just how fucking selfish he was. Literally yesterday I remembered having panic attacks trying to drive down to his place …
Same, he looks to be happy, don’t even have any grief at the relationship ending and I’m drowning in the destruction of his actions and decision. Just waking up, working then going back to sleep. You’…
Umm your making excuses for her bud. When someone shows you who they are believe them!!! Never play the pick me dance - that's the path your heading down and it will look weak and in the end she'll en…
As a metaphor, one can drown in 10 feet of water and one can drown in 60 feet of water. Both are the same drowned.