emotional enmeshment

Also I forgot to mention, that this idea of saving him is giving into the same people-pleasing tactics taught thru narc control. I get that he isn't the narc, but you're doing a disservice to yourself…

I assume you're talking about the hyper vigilance where someone 'reads between the lines' with text messages and automatically assumes the worst about things? Understand that this is nothing about yo…

It is simply a pattern that shows up in anxiously attached people. The emotional enmeshment does make it hard for them to hold space for other people’s feelings. Since they have high affect empathy, …

>I also want to address the idea of anxious people being seen as “roles.” I understand this may come from your personal experience, but not every anxiously attached person relates to others in that wa…

There is a topic called Ambient Incest or Emotional incest, also Covert Incest. I think some parents might not be actual paedophiles, but instead don't have healthy boundaries, eventually leading to …

I can understand why you are feeling this way, but try not to take it personally. You shouldn't feel responsible for you mum. You should read up on emotional enmeshment. This happens a lot when rais…

Yes, I am currently having that pressure mostly due to constant triangulation efforts. Instead of communicating to me directly, the narcs vented at others who felt like they had to say something. Last…

Neither my parents had good relationships with their parents and even before that too. Familial conflict was persistent generationally and a century ago, you can ghost your entire family easier just m…