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I did something a bit similar last year, I'm a trans guy, I think I messed up one T injection and took too much for one week, at the same time I was overworked since several months, (9am -midnight eve…
Webflow or Framer? — Which one do you personally prefer? And which one objectively has more potential in the long run/in which one can you do more than in the other right now? And how much steeper is the learning curve fo…
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Times where you introduced a friend to psychedelics for the first time? — Hi I’m just curious if anyone has any stories of introducing psychedelics to a curious friend and what they thought after their first trip. I have plenty of friends and family who have never done them…
Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity? — It literally feels like the onus is on people with really challenging life experiences, to hold that all inside and only talk about good things, for fear of burdening people who have objectively bette…
Hypomania with MDMA and doubts — In December I had an experience with MDMA that made me increasingly happy until, in mid-January, I was told in the emergency room that I was hypomanic. I was prescribed Olanzapine 7.5 And that caused…
Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…
I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …
I saw my ex after 3 months of no contact, everything looks different. — Met him recently. We were together for 4 years. We broke up three months ago and he moved on with his best friend within a week. I was so devastated by this because this new gf was someone who he told…
Bad things will lead to greater life. — It's one of the obvious, but sometimes even the obvious things are good to remind yourself. Everything bad that happens in your life will eventually lead to life with more freedom of mind. It filters…
why cant i feel proud about being chinese? — ive (M16) continually started to notice that i refer to myself as asian, and i rarely say that im specifically chinese. this isnt a thing where i bend over backwards for white people or see them as a …
how to really manifest! you don’t need to “do” more. you need to live differently. — it’s not that deep!! i really want to help people with this and share what i know but it’s so so hard to put into words what im trying to say! it’s like it’s almost too simple to explain in words, so…
You can't find what kind of chocolate you are, before finding your milk. — You'll find your chocolate eventually, but first you need to find your milk. Willy Wonka taught me something that I'll never forget. (The original movie, not the one with the lanky victorian guy) …
Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…
I need help, my SO is very not stoic and it kills me. — Long story short, My [M33] SO [F30] is very... not stoic and after married with her, it amplifies and gets worse as time goes by. She always gets irritated by what others are saying and when someone …
Disability *does* make manifestation harder, and I think that’s the point. — I’m sure this won’t be revelatory for a lot of people. I’m new to this stuff and more than open to being wrong, but… I was moderately disabled (not that that has any standardised meaning but whatever…
How I’ve helped myself the last 2 months — So after 5 years together, me (29M) and my now ex gf (28F) split up and it went very cordial and respectful to one another. I will say that she was the person in my life for the period we shared toget…
Good things are on the way.
I broke up with my girlfriend today — I broke up with my girlfriend earlier today and I hated it so much. I still love her and I miss her so much. It just seemed that we were stuck in that anxious-avoidant trap and we would talk about our…
how can i help myself when i constantly feel like i deserve to never get better to atone for my past mistakes — hi, i'm sorry for making this post, i hope it's ok. my entire life i've struggled with fitting anywhere, or being anywhere. i don't have a good relationship with my family and have been bullied to the…
Cheated on Years Ago but can’t get over the other woman — I was cheated on 4 years ago with a younger girl. I was 22 at the time and she was 19. My ex bf was 24. Which made it so weird when I found out. We all worked together, it was so awkward and uncomfort…
I feel stuck in anxiety and cannot seem to find my way back to me — I have beenbgotling through a lot recently. Several months ago I moved cities and went LD with my partner. I've also been jobless for around the same amount of time and started developing depression f…
How do I stop seeing everything so negatively? — In general I am a really unhappy person. I have a lot of good things, but all of my instinctual thoughts are negative. If people are too happy around me, I feel irritated. If someone cuts me off in tr…
Why you should go no contact after a breakup. — Why you should go fully no contact after a breakup, and why you shouldn’t try to maintain being friends SHORTLY after a breakup? Just give it time. The most important thing you need to learn, is e…
My Parents LIE about their salaries. AND I'm not sure how much they earn. Tell me if My condition is pretty bad. — Hi. I'm 16(F) going on 17, this September, and My parents Lie about their salary. Mhm yeah. I...have clothes??, roof over my head(yes). and 3 meals. Sometimes. Look, the thing is...I haven't bought c…
Will Jupiter transit over cancer benefit me anyhow? 27M — How will jupiter transit over cancer affect me ? what can I expect? Is it going to affect me in a good way? I am 27M. I have just lost my job with 1 year of experience. Can I expect some good things…
Grew up in a healthy home but was traumatized by a “friend” at school, having trouble feeling valid in it. — To elaborate on the title, my parents have been and still are amazing and supportive people, and I am eternally grateful to have them. For instance I’m a trans woman, and ever since I came out they’ve…
I(25M) was in a 5 month relationship with my ex(25F). What are some things I can do to deal with a breakup? — I just got out of a very ineresting "situationship" of sorts. So here's what happened. We(25M 25F) met through mutual friends that we had and started hanging out as friends. Then she dropped enormous …
Hack for Visualization — if you're having a hard time visualising, then just repeat that scene which has happened in the past which is similar to the one that you're expecting in the near future . Just repeat that and stay in…
how to forgive yourself for past mistakes as a teen? — hi, 23F here. i grew up in a hypersexual, mentally and physically abusive household. in middle school and highschool school, i had a phase where id make fake accounts, bother people then swoop in as t…
I keep checking his spotify history — We dated for 3 years, cheated on me twice. We kept talking back and forth for 9+months because he was helping me with a lot of things like in terms of work, financial stuff, the cat we had together. I…
im leaving home — tw/ suicide mention i’m so done with this house. I finally got an apartment with my friends, and i move in this week. my mom for my entire life has belittled everything she has done to me. screamin…
The most unconventional ways of thinking that help you? I'll go first — ***"They have the audacity, why can't I?***" Sometimes I struggle with standing up for myself and my needs/boundaries. I get stuck in my head, scared about whether what I'm saying is fair, or balanc…
I (M22) am gonna break up with a partner (F24) who used to self harm, need help — I (M22) plan on breaking up with my girlfriend (F24). We had a sweet and passionate relationship but her toxic behaviours that she just can't seem to correct are becoming too much. Now, before I met h…
I'm planning on breaking up with my girlfriend who used to self-harm — I (M22) plan on breaking up with my girlfriend (F24). We had a sweet and passionate relationship but her toxic behaviours that she just can't seem to correct are becoming too much. Now, before I met h…
Career pathway. What should I choose? Any good things coming along my way? — Please tell me what job or career is suitable for me?
The Camelopard Series (The Mentalist’s Handbook) By Clint Marsh — Wanted to share this series here with PDF links to the documents/book. I’ve heard good things on it and wanted to see if any of you had read these. Let me know what you think and your experience with …
‘Not having long-term friends is a red flag’ — I think this CAN be the case, but I honestly think people who have this generalised view have probably had a privileged upbringing and aren’t looking outside of the box. I used to have a busy social …
What did you learn from your last relationship? What are the good things you want to carry forward with you and what are the things you won’t repeat?
My ex changed their number — My ex and I have been on and off no contact for the past two years. This time around of breaking no contact things felt different. It’s like finally. Finally we are communicating and compromising. Eve…
How to get over ur ex no bs 💯 — Heres how i got over my ex who had me trapped in a trauma bond. I feel nothing, no lingering feelings make it hurt anger nostalgia Its just.. nothing like today i opened his profile as usual i wann…
What's the BEST thing about your breakup? — I made a post a couple days ago asking what the hardest thing is about your breakup. It was so great seeing so many people open up about their experiences. I hope that helped some people to get that s…
Found out father was a child molester, was I a victim? — this is probably the hardest thing I've written. i was a super daddys girl growing up and was absolutely devestated when he died tragically when i was 13. Growing up in my new home when I was 5, thing…
Does anyone find it hard to appreciate themselves — I dont have any childhood memories specifically in my home (all school memories are solid). But after growing up and started doing my therapy work, observed that I cant see anything good in me even th…
Anyone else feel like they're not made for this world? — I thought when I escaped from my abusive childhood home that I would finally feel some peace and safety. I could not have been more wrong. The world we as a species have created is overall so cruel an…
Regret from leading my younger life based on nparents distorted world view — Like some stories I’ve seen here, my parents weren’t 100% monsters. It’s not hard to recall good things they did, but they are massively overshadow by the horrible narc things. I knew something wasn’…
3 year breakupiversary — It'll be three years since the break up soon, and about 2 1/2 years no contact. 3 years NC i guess, since she never responded when I did reach out. We broke up a few days before my birthday and I've …
For me, this is a success. — I used to manifest before and I stopped in mid. Recently a week before, I started it all over again. I started with reading the book 'secret' to make myself feel positive. Once i started getting that …
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…
It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…
God, I pray my wife has that same dream. I am at my breaking point...20 year marriage and family are on the edge of the cliff. The only good things that it look like will come of this, are, 1. I kno…
Yes I know this feeling. A big thing that helped for me was to actually notice when I'm picking my partner apart in my head or feeling some ick. I have to objectively observe those feelings and ask if…
Don't believe it'll happen immediately or soon. I manifested something and it took five years for it to happen. Good things come to those who wait.
’m in a really difficult spot with my boyfriend. We’ve been together since late 2021, and recently he’s been second-guessing our relationship. I think im anxious and he’s avoidant. I’m 22 and he’s 25 …
I do resonate with the idea of just letting yourself exist and try all the good things that make u happy --> that energy will eventually resonate to the kinds of people that u will attract\~
You are very focused on his thoughts and feelings. But your thoughts and feelings are just as valid and you seem to be minimizing them as if he has all the control. Do YOU have compatibility concern…
Yes, casual sex can be compatible with secure attachment. If you're interested in a ton of reading on secure attachment and alternative sex choices chosen healthily, I've heard good things about the …
First I think you should make sure you are allowing yourself to grieve. Break ups hurt no matter what. You can’t let go of your emotions if you don’t process them…feel them. After you do that, I thi…
i think youre right! honestly ive become closer with my irl friends over the last few years and i love being around them and talking to them. most of them are older than me and they are great at offer…
The flight was around 24 hours...I guess my friend and I have been just too hurt to believe that good things can happen and are monitoring for any sign something is off.
It doesn’t sound like you’re in good working order for relationships right now. I know that sounds harsh but it doesn’t sound like you’re in a place where you can both be in a relationship and feel …
I (37m) don’t know how much more I can take before I give up entirely. There’s only so many times you can hear “your a good person” and other good things but still not being chosen by a way and feelin…
I’m scared to talk about the good things about my relationship on here. I feel afraid of jinxing myself 😩 Does anyone feel that way sometimes?
When i feel like saying it.. I wait a month or 2. Because emotions come and go. When its still there after a monthish... it usually just gets blurted out. Maybe your not like me but if I say it and …
Aw, I'm so happy for you!! I'm in a somewhat similar boat - I was really ill in 2023-2024, got laid off from my job in April 2025, and then spent eight months unemployed before finding an amazing new …
Awww so happy for you! Congrats! It's okay, you don't have to believe it, it's still happening :) step by step you will see it's your reality too, and that good things happen to you too. You definite…
I have a date tonight. My friend set me up with him. Her trusted friends have been trying to find him someone. She's met him once. All good things. To be totally honest cause this is a ~safe space…
"I wish you told me sooner?" You guys met on a dating app though! It's not like you were pining after a coworker. I'm sorry you went through this. This one is grinding my gears on your behalf. Pers…
Thank you! I was under the impression that it was a sneak peak so I got a little excited. May 2025 - September 2025 a lot of good things were happening (travel, discipline, and was very much in love).…
Agree with all of this. I am certainly not afraid to be alone and my non-negotiable was someone who was ready to build a real future together. This guy really is doing that and so many more things -…
I'd be more interested in her negative traits. Playfulness, passion and hobbies are all good things to have. Whats she doing that pushes these men away or lose interest.
I feel this so much! So what worked for me was the notes app, but opposite the triggers - I add the good things and then reread those when I'm feeling spiral-y.
You'll always think of them. It doesn't go away fully. Ruminating is physically draining for me. It's a snowball effect that makes my body hurt from stress after a while. I've found that routines are …
That’s tough. I feel your pain. I regret not realizing how many smart people I was leaving behind at school as well. Or not understanding the trade-offs of choosing to live where I did, when I did. I’…
Girl, I have blown up good things before when I am in the state you’re in. Go workout, journal, dive into a work project or call your mom or your bestie. The anxiety can pass! Wishing you luck and lov…
I think the little rules and ideas we all have about how dating SHOULD work are often getting in the way of things. People (myself included) are so hooked on our ideas of how things SHOULD be, that I …
I really liked your analogy. My child was diagnosed with PTSD at 13 (now nearly 16). They also struggle with Dysautonomia and managing this, and learning how to regulate has been so much work. The…
Relationship tend to change from time to time. Similar thing happened to me but both of us would like to work it out. So we are going to get counseling and will talk about what should we change to kee…
What’s your honest take on your wife / soon to be ex wife? Did you - honestly - see yourselves living happily ever after? Was it a situation in which you were perfectly happy and thought everything wa…
I was happy, I always believed that no one is perfect, and for relationships to work we have to let go and settle if the good things are more. But now I don’t know if i still believe in that.
I have loved partners and family that way… the truth is something over all toxic to your higher self… your I want to work on me and my anger learn the lessons self may have been aware of toxicity.. it…
Your words about grieving the future you planned really hit me. That’s been one of the hardest parts for me too. It’s not just the relationship you lose, it’s all the plans and the life you thought yo…
Just talk to him, let him know you are happy for him. Certainly as a human being you can acknowledge his happiness by being excited for him. Do you now feel good when the people you love are happy a…
I'm permashifting because I miss where I came from and wanna go home. I don't even know how I got here, but I don't like it and i wanna leave (which will inevitably happen), but taking things in strid…
Im 29M. The more i 'heal' the less i belong/ am tolerated anywhere. The older i get, the more i see that i missed out on things you can only get as a young person. The older i get, the more i accept t…
Called it a break and said "I hope you find what you're looking for in a relationship, you deserve good things in life" and started deleting photos of us from her socials. When questioned, she still c…
There is no secret, just keep looking. I'm 57m and liberal, and have similar issues find good matches, as I am in a red state. I do know that more liberal men seek therapy, and for myself, that adde…
"sadly all good things must come to an end."
That’s awful. What matters now is taking care of yourself mentally & physically, I hope good things come your way.
Overall: I think it is a nice dating profile! I'm getting the impression from it that you seem like a nice person with cool hobbies, values family and who doesn't take herself too seriously. All good…
When you hurt and abuse people, you lose all rights to have people think and say good things about you. It’s an ugly thing to cheat, they’re clearly ugly on the inside for it too. But you draw the lin…
You are an Angel 😇 🙏 Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I think sometimes we don't realize how much our words impact other people, and I want you to know that you have given me renewed …
Give yourself a pat on the back for all the times you survive. You pushed thru and the exhaustion is one proof for you. All the battle scars show you done the hard yards. Spoil yourself because you de…
Thank you so much🙏 I wish all of the good things and health for you too😁🙏⭐️
Exactly what these other people are saying. Leave now, come to terms she wasted your 20s and move on. It gets better! I wasted my 20s and early 30s in a cheating narcissist. I want so bad to go back i…
I feel you. I had written down a prayer for what I thought the affair partner deserved and put it on my fridge that night. It was not a kind prayer 🤣For the ensuing 14-15 months I’d read it out loud …
Eyyy Man! Welcome to the Club & a New Journey! Keep it cool, even if you can't. Summer is here, Shine. Mornings have a kind of energy that heals you faster, so sleep for 7-8 hours & wake up early to …