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Id suggest finding a male one, then saying you found one that wont be "biased".  Show your husband the Google map reviews like "see how good his reviews are" and go from there. What do you got to lo…

Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

1.5 Years Update 💀 My predictions became true — No, I do NOT want my ex back—like ever 😭 but I do have a story + some lessons from how everything played out. So basically, about 1.5 years ago, my ex randomly broke up with me out of nowhere. Like……

My GF (22F) told her parents about my (24M) secret financial situation — I had a very rich/powerful dad who died when I was a child and left me a lot of money. After he died, all his sycophant, money grubbing “friends” tried to dig their claws into me. They would try to ma…

Need advice — I have noticed some people effortlessly attract people's attraction be it friendly,romantic or just platonic.. I have a friend of mine who is very close to me.. Whenever me,her and another girl hango…

The Public's Opinion on WMAFs has done a 180 in the last 5 years — Public opinion has done a complete 180 on WMAF. Checkout this front page public thread. [https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/comments/1s6pw2c/why\_are\_white\_maleasian\_female\_relationships\…

The Tragedy of the Chinese Music Industry (and Society) — If anyone's been following the recent controversy in China concerning singers Li Ronghao and Shan Yichun, you've probably seen the actually vile environment that is the Chinese internet (and Chinese s…

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! — If you have something you want to say but don't want to make a post about it, you can comment here and get it off your chest. Happy news, sad news, venting or whatever else is going on with you is wel…

Is this EIYPO? — I have a 2 year old niece who I absolutely adore. She is my absolute favourite person to exist and i think she deserves the absolute best. Maybe that’s me being biased. But every single person who has…

I (23F) use Reddit for outside perspective because I don’t want biased opinions from friends/family, but I think my boyfriend (26M) found my account and is uncomfortable. How do I handle this? — I sometimes use Reddit to get outside perspective when my boyfriend and I have issues. I started doing that because I realized that when I go to friends or family, they usually automatically side with…

Am I wrong on this — TL;DR; : This is a sample summary of the TLDR rule, all things are bold. Is this going the right way?**. So my partner works with this girl who I had no problem with at all. She started bein…

Currently spiralling — Is this reason enough to leave my husband? I have been thinking about this since summer, this conversation has come up 3 times and he is in agreement so I’m pretty sure I am making the right choice …

My BF (22M) told his parents about My (20F) secret — Hey reddit! I hope you are all doing well. I just wanted to post about something that happened yesterday and I could really use some unbiased advice. My boyfriend (22 male) pressured a secret out of m…

Advice? F29, M29 — Hai My boyfriend (M27) and I (F29) keep butting heads and it feels like we just don’t end up truly listening to each other. We fought again tonight because his friend invited him to hang out at a ce…

Am I wrong for wanting to leave my parents house? — I need an unbiased and outsiders point of view. I've been working on creating a plan for independent living with an organization because I'm really beginning to reach my limit. I'm stressed all the t…

Thinking about her again after 9 Months — Title. I hope everyone understands this is my perspective. It will come off one-sided and I will be blunt as to not keep running in circles. I will be as unbiased as possible but I understand any ques…

Help Me Please I’m into my TA 21M and we’re ending the semester and I don’t know what to do 19F — This is really random but I don’t want to rant to my friends anymore because they’re all going to be biased. I’m finishing my freshman year of college 19F, and it wraps up in about two weeks. All seme…

What do I 23M do about my ex 22F — I M23 and my ex F22 broke up after a year and a half . And unfortunately we’ve broken up once before for a few weeks. I love her so much and I’d do anything for her and I’ve done so much for her and …

People here tend to overestimate the importance of looks and underestimate the importance of friends, in meeting women — I’ve seen a few dating-related threads here where a guy will post a picture of themselves and people will focus on weight loss, dressing better, etc. These are important but I think that \*the quality…

Maybe biased because past experience, but I can't see even ASKING if I want/don't want something I bought for myself as anything but "Don't you know how to use a trash can?" any more. — Or as a suggestion that it's perfectly logical to assume I'll spend my money for the sole purpose of wasting it. Yeah, sure, sometimes I'll find out I don't like whatever, or I'll take too long to eat…

am i a bad person? — hi people, 18f here. my relationship with my mother and her boyfriend makes me feel like I might be a bad person or even a psychopath. the main qualms she has with me is that she thinks I have no empa…

I (21F) can’t get over my ex (21F) while also being in a relationship (21F) — Okay so this is my first post…. I just need some unbiased advice!! I (21F) have been in a relationship with a girl (21F) who we can call L for about 8 months. I met her on hinge and we immediately hi…

How do me (25f) and my fiance 26 M set up a good cleaning program? — Ok I know that we are adults and we should have this figured out but we need unbiased input. Background. my fiancé. He works 80 hours a week and I work 40 hours a week. I also have a chronic illness…

What should I do in this situation? Do you think he was aware or just clueless? — I wasn’t fully sure of how to title this because this whole situation is confusing me. I’m rewriting the intro because I posted this in the wrong Reddit. TW abuse (honestly up to interpretation if it …

Am i wrong or is my mom? — I’m going to attach the argument i had with my mom today. (Link at the bottom because i can’t attach photos) I really want honest opinions. Please criticize me if i need it, i feel like i need an unbi…

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! — If you have something you want to say but don't want to make a post about it, you can comment here and get it off your chest. Happy news, sad news, venting or whatever else is going on with you is wel…

Trying to understand if my relationship with my mom is unhealthy or just normal conflict — **I (24F) have a complicated and long-standing relationship with my mom that I’m trying to understand.** Growing up, I often felt unfairly treated within my extended family, especially due to favorit…

My date (24m) of 18 days hasn't replied for almost 24 hours since I (26f) asked him to think about how he feels about me. Did I overdo it? — So at the beginning, we both said we wanted serious things and wanted to take it slow. 18 days, we have had 4 dates. I slept over at his place twice for around 5 days in total. I kind of felt like we …

Contract by Mom — Hi! My mom has had enough of me and my brothers taking a long time in the bathroom she says. At first she said we could not be on the phones in the bathroom and now she’s saying we cannot have any ele…

Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…

Boyfriend was sexist? Lacking empathy? Am I justified in leaving him or wrapped up in my own feelings of past trauma? — 25 Female having issues with 27 Male boyfriend. I am referring to a close friend we share in common who is 26 femme that had been in an awful situation. Trigger warning, SA is mentioned. Hello, not s…

Unsure how to approach first contact after a traumatic breakup and structured no-contact — I’m looking for an outside perspective because I’m feeling really emotionally overwhelmed and I’m struggling to reality-check myself. I recently went through a breakup with someone who was both one o…

Is this normal, or am I being dramatic? — I just want to hear others opinions, and if someone else has/had similar experiences, because I feel like I'm being overdramatic about this. All advice is welcome and I would really appreciate it. I a…

Deciding how to move forward with my 6 year relationship? — Me (22F) and my bf (23M) have been together for over 6 years. Started dating in high school and did long distance through college (I left 5 hrs away, he stayed in our hometown and lived at home). Afte…

Is my couples therapist out of line? — So my wife and I sought couples therapy for help setting boundaries with her family being unsupportive and overall dysfunctional. Mine is too but I recognize it and have her back, it is not the other …

Breaking up with my (25F) boyfriend (24M) because of our different sense of humor? — Is different sense of humor a valid reason to break up with someone? I have been with my (25F) boyfriend (24M) for a little over six months. We met through a mutual friend and we work for the same co…

My bf (m19) is constantly rude to me (f18) because of hemorrhoids and I'm losing feelings for him. How do I know when it's time to leave? — I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and overall he can be okay somedays however he's almost always irritated, short-tempered, inconsiderate, and rude. Every time we argue, he finds a way to b…

I totally agree that there is a general trend to project personal issues and give drastic advice, especially since... well, it's not your life. I particularly notice it when it comes to fear of a par…

Really solid points and then there's space for legitimate concern regarding abusive relationships. Basically, the “Power & Control Wheel”, like instances of sexual harassment/ assault, emotional abuse…

My lil cousin(20F) was having relationship issues- she is an avoidant and he is an anxious. I pointed this pattern out and she said, "My therapist said the same, does having this attachment mean I'll …

1. It seems like the study you linked investigates a slightly different topic than what your post is about. The study is investigating the psychological relationship between attachment anxiety, attach…

Not OP, but, as an FA, I would say that if pride or anger is an issue, it's probably actually fear and insecurity. When we're afraid and insecure, we go into fight or flight mode. When the mode is fig…

You’re right. First, I want to say the mods here can be toxic, rude, arrogant, and biased. Anyway, back to your question. Most people who believe in the LOA only learned it from The Secret or some mod…

I think it's normal in anxious attachment style. That doesn't mean it feels comfortable for you - nor for him, to be honest. It sounds like you could both benefit to do work around your attachment sty…

So, with insecure attachment, there’s comes a lot of misconceptions because of how our brains are wired. So, mind reading is common, so is dichotomous thinking, automatic negative thoughts as well. E…

chat gpt is not a person, its a bunch of code programmed to analyze what youre saying and keep a conversation going. sometimes it spits out pure nonsense just to answer your question. it literally jus…

There is no direct correlation between low cognitive empathy and anxious attachment. I could not find a study that explicitly drew that conclusion. Studies do report that securely attached people show…

That meta analysis addresses empathy in general. As stated by them >We did not differentiate the dimension of the empathy; both cognitive and emotional dimensions were included as a general measure o…

Attached by Levine & Heller is quite a bad book imo (I have read it). It is extremely biased against the avoidant attachment style (calling people who have it "the avoidants" while no other nicknames …

Something I have found that helps me quite a bit with AA and hyper vigilance is ‘journaling’ my thought spirals with ChatGPT. This obviously isn’t for everyone, and it definitely takes some getting us…

I'm perhaps a bit biased because I do have some avoidant tendencies myself that I am working through after growing up the child of an alcoholic, but I agree. If my instinct is to withdraw, it's out of…

I know you understand this, but I'll say it anyway in case it helps to see someone else say it: Yes, there will be evidence in favour of the negative image you have of yourself. The problem is once …

If it means anything, I would happily date someone 5 or 6 years older. I have the opposite stance of not willing to date someone any younger than a year or two. Just seems like a huge difference in ge…

I mean they're not together at work, and that's alerady around 12 hours every day? I might be biased cause my marriage is also like this and it's fine, we all still have our own friends and hobbies b…

You explicitly told him "You can't say the wrong thing," then he lowers his guard. The moment he did and honestly admitted he was afraid you immediately judged him (the coward's route) and are now moc…

My boyfriend was in this camp before he met me. I'm biased, but I think there are good ones still out there and good dating experiences to still be had.

nah the doctor analogy makes sense, but i have not encountered it. my type is emotionally reflexive, politically outspoken neurodivergent women tho so i’m biased. it seems like you’re looking for …

There's a certain level of emotional independence two parties need to reach before they can form a healthy relationship with each other. Avoidants tend to have too much emotional independence to the…

I wonder if your friends are biased against your new guy out of loyalty to Frank

I always say this. Reddit is not the place for social advice. People on here in large mass are incapable of giving nuanced, unbiased advice.

I know lots of single folks who are not on apps. Myself included. Broad strokes is that we didn’t get the engagement we wanted on apps. And often we were what I would call the wrong type for where w…

Possible Reasons: * I like you but see reasons it wouldn’t work. * I don’t actually know you’re interested. You never said anything. I just don’t recognize your signals. * I find you more “sibling-c…

I didn't do any therapy, but I discussed my situation a lot on Reddit and answered many questions about my experience as a DA, which helped me a great deal in terms of understanding myself. My discuss…

As someone who was on the other side of this, separated for 2 and a half months, and started dating someone, I'd say it's case by case.  I connected with someone, was up front about my divorce (firs…

Speaking as a guy who is currently separated and going through a divorce I'll say the not filing part is what would worry me about the situation. Yes divorce is difficult and expensive and can be a h…

>The main thing they all agree upon is that the world is all suffering Not a single one says that. That's your interpretation, and the first indicator to you that your interpretation is biased is som…

i put all my chat settings into ‘professional’ and ‘serious’ so it can give me unbiased opinions I was so desperate

Absolutely, it helped me a lot. But you had to avoid being biased and giving it loaded questions. Though this was one of the 4.x versions, which had the reputation of becoming "yes, man" and just bei…

He’s an alcoholic. He either stops drinking completely or you’re gonna be dealing with broken promises and disappointment for the rest of your relationship. I’m an alcoholic who’s wife didn’t give up …

This is wrong - men show symptoms more often than women.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chlamydia#Signs_and_symptoms OP thinks she's the more likely one and there's no other reason to suspect him.…

This is honestly more prevalent in Asian countries for me. Every time I've been to an Asian country, most people assume I'm from Asia until I start speaking. My family knows I'm from the US, but if I …

First thing's first -- do I think you'll be able to find someone? Yes, absolutely. Call me a hopeless romantic, but I believe there is someone for everyone out there. Life is not a race so if you find…

This seems like full on AI Psychosis But I would like to admit I’m a bit guilty of this too, like I would talk to ChatGPT for like situations/arguments with friends ,talk about feelings like I ask f…

I understand where you’re coming from, and I agree that it’s a bit concerning that he spends hours talking to AI. Of course he’s going to become defensive, since he probably feels like it’s the only t…

I’m sure you know this, but people hiding behind their keyboards are typically twice as shitty as they are in real life because there are no repercussions. You’re in a difficult situation, they don’t …

Asian arent biased in favor of other asians ?

It doesn't inherently mean that, but even if you're a big party animal, most of the time you'll spend with a committed long-term partner will be in quieter, less social settings. So if someone front l…

My parents were ok with my chorus involvement, though my father was a trombonist and somewhat biased against vocal music. I tried learning 2 different instruments but finally realized music isn't real…

I might be biased here but I believe your partner is being a bit insensitive. I understand that he's hurt because supposedly you lied to him, but he should try and put himself in your shoes and unders…

With all due respect, you have absolutely no business "leaning" towards a diagnosis after reading a couple paragraphs a stranger wrote online. You also have no clue what would be beneficial, and it se…

I’m in a huge metro with lots of matches. I just don’t take it personally if someone falls off and we’ve never met. Sure, he could prefer another option. Based off no real info. Who cares? If she s…

It definitely sucks.. people can’t differentiate.. they always see reality through their own personal biased lenses.

It's not that simple. If I double down, people act like they are shocked, like I really did something horrible; they exaggerate their reaction and manipulate the situation. They exclaim loudly, "she…

Yeah I have no idea and I think I'm too biased to ever answer that question myself. But my antennas are up and I'm hypervigilent now. My greatest fear is that she's a malignant narcissist and hurt me…

How we see reality is always through a personal biased lens. But unfortunately most people can't understand that each person has *their* own reality, which may be very different from our own.

If it isn't heavily biased, could you explain how an avoidant feels "validated" by the statement? I can definitely say how an AP would. 

I think the word you’re looking for is ‘biased,’ OP. (Bias is a noun, biased is an adjective that describes something else). My partner and I have mutually agreed to give each other space when need…