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The best and 5 worst things I did after 5 breakups in 12 years chasing unavailable partners, and I just got marriaged on 2.14.2026 — I've been through 5 painful breakups over the last decades, all with the same pattern: I'd chase someone emotionally/physically unavailable—either a cheater or straight-up avoidant—who'd pull away jus…
Do people ever consider Mars signs when seeking career guidance? — I see a lot of discussion mainly looking at the mid heaven, 10th house, and 6th house when determining career. Since Mars is pretty much dealing with our attitudes surrounding action, I figured that i…
Single and celibate for 7 years -- how can I show a man I'm into him? — Hi all, I'm 41F and have chosen to stay single now for 7 years. I went through a bad breakup, then the pandemic happened, then I got into 12 Step recovery (not for drugs or alcohol, for family issue s…
Trying to help friend who can’t stop drinking and can’t get past MH issues — Hello, so my best friend has had serious mental health issues that have led her to having serious physical health issues in her life and idk where to even start… She has messed up her liver and pancr…
Please help!! Hey so this may be a long one but — Okay so Ive known of shifting and have tried in the past but it never worked and I am looking for advice and tips I would eventually like to perms shift to a different reality if possible but I have n…
Being offended,resentment,disappointment — I am gonna share my specific experience and hopefully try to gather information around it. Its 5 close people rather than 50 friends.Its the desire for deep connection.And this set me up for a lot of…
“How things went when dad cheated” :( — I’m sorry for any grammatical error or punctuations, i just wanted to express myself. 🤍sorry if it’s long i hope you can help me. this might be a sensitive topic☝️ It was December when everything …
The weight of Disclosure is on the shoulders of Experiencers. — What I'm about to talk about is often something that is unconsciously understood but rarely laid out and defined openly even within experiencer circles. I find it can often be the case in big voice ch…
Feeling super lost almost 4 months out, Have questions where I need help! — I went through a breakup in December with the woman I genuinely thought I was going to marry. The weird part is that I was not even fully happy in the relationship near the end, and when it first end…
Dark Entities Feeding On Us — August 2021 I astral projected for the first time in my life. It was spontaneous at around 4 in the morning. I had been fasting regularly during this time and had no idea what astr projection truly wa…
I feel crazy, I need someone with a clear head. — I M35 and my wife F35 have been married for 10 years, we have 1 seven year old together. Throughout our marriage there have been some issues with different things us working through them, I had suspic…
Something NOBODY told me about why they move on so fast … honestly it changed EVERYTHING for me. — I used to lie awake at night genuinely TORTURING myself over it. Six weeks. That’s all it took. Six weeks after ending a four year relationship and she’s out there living her best life. New haircut. …
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…
First, I think this is the wrong question to be asking. You can’t completely know someone’s attachment style until they attach to you. I think a better question would be “how can I identify relationsh…
Honestly, the biggest clue I get is how I feel. Are my thoughts racing? Do I feel anxious almost to the point of being manic? Is it affecting my sleep, like I’m waking up early and can’t fall back asl…
Some clues: - If you're anxious, you may feel drawn to them, feel a spark, want to win them over/seek their approval - charismatic, fun, funny, playful energy - workaholic, or has tenden…
I struggled with the same issue, and what helped is to realize that not everything is personal. I think that's a part of anxious attachment (or at the very least, something that worsens it): making na…
Sure, here is a portion that resonated with me a lot and made sense on what attracts me to the avoidants or unavailable or troubled people. Shall share more if you are interested: The need to be need…
We went to a vegan restaurant for a pre-birthday dinner last night. He did surprise me with the choice! I didn't expect to be that place. However he dropped some hints all along the whole week without…
Back in college, my bf at the time made dinner and dessert (Thai red curry and vegan mint chocolate chip ice cream -- that's right, he MADE it...or at least claimed he did lol) and we shared it on the…
If there's nothing to reference, you could try and come up with a random and unhinged question to provoke any reaction. Or question whether it's worth trying to talk to a person who couldn't be bother…
Late-diagnosed autistic 32F here! I was in a similar situation 5 years ago (with the only difference is that I don’t want to date my friend as we have different relationship goals). If, in a parallel …
Singles nights are a good status notification, I think. I'll try to start a conversation and get blanked, but if a dude looks good or drops some context clues that he's rich, they're locked in. No hat…
I would say: if it bothered you so much how she was dressed, clearly you both are not a good match. My first instinct would be write that she doesn't dress to impress you but to feel good and comfo…
The clues were there, you just didn’t want to believe them. This situationship was just being the side piece. You probably already knew this but were happy pretending you didn’t know. 10 years and sti…
I really like your example about small things like being late or buying the wrong brand. Those reactions say a lot about how someone handles imperfection. I agree that emotional safety grows with tim…
Emotional safety, in my experience, is not able to be measured/seen in early dating. I believe emotional safety is seen in relationships by the way one solves relational problems/conflict “together” “…
Agreed. Without any special digging, I get a sense of a date's values pretty quickly. There are multiple clues in his overall presentation, in how he talks about his life, his work, his passions, his …
So a few things. Personally I dismiss anyone that's listed themselves as conservative, moderate or not political. To me these are all varying levels of conservative and/or show me that a man is entitl…
No, ok so your 6th is ruled from the 5th. That means that a lot (probably not all) of the 6th house stuff in your life overall (not necessarily nitty gritty day-to-day, but big picture what your 6th h…
I actually just did all this in a moment of weakness lol. Trying to piece together who they were with based on context clues and why xyz is happening in the context/at the time they posted on their st…
I think it's both, I am very much a night owl naturally and can have horrid bedtimes. My trick worked with 8 hours and 2 hours etc. For me I'd love it to be more intuition (I am a witch as an aside). …
I'm on month 3, almost 4, I broke up with him because he said he wasn't sure about me after months, he couldn't promise me that he would at least try to work on the things that I found stressing, upse…
You will find pieces of it scattered throughout the chart. The home you build together shows up in the 4th. The way you first come together lives in the 5th, along with romance, children, and even the…
Yes! You are absolutely right! There are so many privileged assumptions out there it can be totally infuriating! And I say that even though I do get therapy. Now, even if one does get therapy, in my e…
I honestly don't know what it is. I think probably a combination of subtle clues that my subconscious pieces together. That and when they're being really "nice" it never reaches their eyes.
The girl stated that “it felt like rape,” referring to the sense of violation that can arise when a non-consensual act occurs during what initially began as consensual sex. You asked how someone can w…
Good question about the nightmare thing. **Short answer:** I don't know. **Long answer:** My nightmares usually seem to be internally created, based on my worries. Bad dreams my subconscious is t…
Yes 100%. Like others have said, I’ve learned she has no core personality and mirrors others. I had clues of this throughout our 20+ year relationship. For example, I never knew what to buy her for pr…
I consider myself a fairly advanced reader but I still benefitted greatly by starting with Erick Cloward's "Stoicism 101". It's a nice, inexpensive little book with 1-2 page sections on the essential …
You are able to understand context clues? Adrenachrome only comes up in a modern conversation due to the influence of Qnon. You think OP is referring to ancient vampiric theory? Get your head screwed …
It sounds like she felt things were bad and damage done long before you did. That’s the disconnect. I’m also baffled that you seem to think there’s an acceptable level of neglect in a relationship th…
Well, if that happens, I will simply tell that representative what I have told others on here. I cannot fulfill some kind of "divine purpose" (or whatever it may be) if I not only don't know what it i…
So I agree that there were most likely signs BUT it’s also completely unrealistic to expect someone to read your mind or just pick up on clues. Your partner may notice your unhappiness & may even try …
Original copy of post by u/Successful_West_2433: Hi all, I'm 41F and have chosen to stay single now for 7 years. I went through a bad breakup, then the pandemic happened, then I got into 12 Step reco…
I mean in your case, you should be proud of yourself if you left an avoidant. Was he diagnosed? I’m just curious… it takes a lot of guts of leave that relationship. Or were there just clues you’ve rea…
Thank you baconbitsy. Your post is opening up my awareness and hopefully healing to a place I hadn't given much thought to before. My father was ill for many years and my N-mom was his primary caregi…
The mixed signals you're seeing from her are actually a reflection of what's happening inside you. You believe she's yours, then you doubt it. She mirrors that back to you. The real question isn't wh…
I feel you.. I felt led on by someone similarly.. well maybe not, my story was different but I see some similarities around being interested, blaming some kind of mental health thing, not saying anyth…
It’s not over. It is still early on and you’re processing everything like how can such an absurd evil person exist and flourish? but they do. Just get familiar with the narcissist clues before committ…
💞Beautiful awareness! 💞 No thoughts? OR... running on autopilot???It's more likely that you're simply not paying attention, in the moment, and miss the warm up prior to the snap. I invite you to tu…
Speaking of music, in retrospect there were a bunch of clues to what my wife was going to do in the lead up to her work trip where she slept with her AP. Out of nowhere she took an interest in Megan T…
Now that you put it that way, yes I agree. I was always fascinated with the paranormal, and absorbed every bit of information that I could get. Like I had amnesia and I was looking for clues.
I’d say: Trust your gut on this one. Unfortunately if you have to ask on Reddit I suppose you do not blindly and fully trust your husband? If you did, you would just speak with him or know for sure…
Now I see why you’re single. Your rudeness is entirely unnecessary. I’m *literally* an English teacher and published author. My reading comprehension isn’t the problem. Why do you assume everyone know…
As someone who has also been on a journey regarding elements, colors and gems/stones, I wanted to drop some clues of places you may be interested to look: Shem HaMephorash and corresponding gems/ston…
Oo I feel this one deep. The best way to go about it is to do something that could be considered pretty casual and easy to exit if it feels uncomfortable, something like a work walk or a lunch. Keep…
Dopamine "studies" are almost always a way of making nonsensical conclusions. This website has the telltale clues: "Understanding **dopamine and cheating** begins with a neurochemical fact most peopl…
Weird, I didn't have an experience such as yours, but I was thinking about how I don't feel I fit un and assumed from some other planet and then I read your post. Regarding how you highlighted no dru…
Different things could cause this. Without considering what would fix the situation, I’d encourage you to use your mind to zoom out from a detached perspective while also accepting that your body and …
This guy's post is full of clues he's not quite right.