flipping

i see this in a lot of my clients and actually have a prewritten paragraph about it that im going to share here. one thing i can catch here is you hold an assumption that beinh anxious is delaying you…

What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…

The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…

Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

My parents wore my friend out in 10 minutes flat. — Hi all. I'm currently stuck at home recovering from surgery. Trying to put my health first ahead of my demanding parents is hard, but has to be done. Anyway, I had some validation today. A friend of …

Nowadays, would you say it's easier to have kids / start a family in Asia or the West? — I know flings and casual sex and "game" and all that keep getting brought up in these communities, and I understand why. But let's suppose you eventually (or currently) want to settle down, take it ea…

Is this claim about psychedelics and psychosis accurate? (From How to Change Your Mind) — Hi all, I’m reading *How to Change Your Mind* by Michael Pollan and came across this line early in the book: “It is true that the terrifying experiences some people have on psychedelics can risk flip…

Initiatory Numinous Experience — I have been putting writing about this off for 11 years now. It was October of 2015; a lot of energetics were going on in and around me all at once. I don't know how to structure this entry/experience…

Genuinely hate him — I've hated a few people in my life. My bullies, my ex friends who befriended my bullies, etc. I was quite rageful a good few years back. Then it was just numbness. I don't hate anymore. It's exhaustin…

My father disabled me — TLDR: my father broke my bone, ring finger, for the sake of his ego. I refuse to accept his apology. ADVICE WANTED I (22m) have had a long history with my father abusing and violating me and then h…

RetroPK — # RetroPK Now, depending on your mileage this may or not may constitute as an experience. In 2025 in order to test for whether I had retroPK or not I endeavored to use a true rng to see how many time…

Looking for people with long-term lucid dreaming / awareness control (not beginner stuff) — ​ I’ve been lucid dreaming for as long as I can remember (since I was a kid), and I’m trying to find anyone else who experiences it at a deeper level—not just the occasional “I realized I was …

Journey from doomer to bloomer , this week's progress. ( 3rd week ) — ​ Fifteen days ago, I posted saying that I’m a doomer but I want to become a bloomer, even if I’m running a bit late. Here’s what happened this week. 1 - I focused heavily on finding a job; I…

A green elf in a purple hat told me to stop smoking, Logic vs Hallucination — Hello, first i apologize for a slightly long post and that the logic flow is not perfect, I am still thinking a lot about what happened. I am really looking for someone who could talk to me about thei…

Does hippie flipping help with proprioception? I mean mind muscle connection — I feeling disconnected from my body and I want to know if hippie flipping helps with proprioception?

is this narcissistic parenting? i try to calmly say why something he does affects me and he flips it to “why does everyone have to bend to your will” + “why do u act holier than thou” — so i 15M (ADHD and undiagnosed autism) was trying to tell my dad that some stuff he does really pisses me off. like when he repeats things a bunch or does that listing thing when he talks. i kept my v…

What techniques would help me approach/re-engage with my anger/drive/motivation for my own sake not just others sakes? — **TL:DR** cPTSD from alcoholic/neglectful single father. Parentified from childhood. Around 13, consciously switched off my anger/frustration to cope, like flipping a switch, and it never came back on…

I (23M) accidentally followed my ex (28NB) and now they want the gifts they got me back — Today I (23 M) was redownloading substack to read an article. When I set it up I merged my contacts and my ex (28 NB) was the first account. I didn’t know they had a profile so I tried to click on it …

My (30M) girlfriend (29F) of 5 years confessed to a "minor drunken mistake" with a coworker. My brother just leaked her group chats, and the truth is making me sick. How do I move forward from this? — **Background:** My girlfriend "Amy" and I have been together for 5 years. Recently, I took a stressful promotion that requires long, unpredictable hours. I did this specifically to improve my financia…

I feel like a wounded dog — So I 23f and my ex bf 32m broke up six days ago, it was mutual but damn it hurts so much I miss him. The first few days I was okay but I felt so sad yesterday, I get so tempted to see him or call him …

My Dad hit me frequently as a child, I've never been able to identify my emotions — I was born mid-90s so around this time it was still considered "normal" to hit your kids. Disgusting, I know, but that was that. My Dad used to spank me as a young child (like under the age of 8 or …

I went from feeling everything, to nothing, and now I don’t know what to do with myself — I(31f) am going to separate from my partner (35m) of 9 years later this year. He’s deployed right now, knows that this is something I’ve been feeling, but accepted my offer that I not tell him if I re…

tried 2cb for the first time last night — holy hell. what a cool experience. i enjoy hippie flipping and it reminded me a lot of that but with way more visuals. none of my friends have done it before so i’m comin on here because i’d love to …

I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid …

I would start small like charity shops and flipping the items or vinted and depop and taking better pictures and flipping the items for more, then you move onto trying to get the one time drop things …

[We just had a discussion about this in the AvoidantAttachment subreddit.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AvoidantAttachment/comments/1kp4duk/the_hottest_hot_take/) What you're describing is very indicativ…

My take: People are terrible at self-identifying their primary attachment pattern. You see it over and over again on these subs, people claiming to be secure who could not be more obviously insecure…

Hm, well, attachment is dynamic. If she never showed any aloofness/indifference when in the relationship then it is simply anxious behavior strategies. In some relationships I'd be fully flipping bet…

Yup, it 100% comes from being anxiously attached. I've never broken up with someone thinking, "they were awkward this one time, I can't be with them anymore." But I wonder if it's like.. the awkward…

When we are undergoing a tough time and have a lot of stress it is super hard to see the positive sometimes. That is normal. Sometimes we have to make sure we made space for ourselves to grieve whatev…

I've been dating this woman for 3 months, fantastic, love her. The honeymoon period ended pretty abruptly when she suddenly "stopped feeling it". A couple days, therapy sessions, and some very long co…

Sounds like she's flipping the script on you. She's treating you how she feels you've been treating her. Regardless, the relationship looks over to me.

I have meditated for 3 hours a day, for 4 years now. When I started, I walked 12 hours a day, until I lost 60 pounds and ended in the hospital. You don't have to do that. The big thing is to be gentle…

Something else ive noticed that adds to what u/nottoodeep said, and explains the reaction that seems like jealousy. It often based on their ability of self reflection or pride. If a person has let go…

Euphoric recall is very powerful, and unlike narcissistic partners, we can't just detach like flipping a switch. Logically, your brain knows how awful he is. Cognitive dissonance is so strong with the…

This. I had a therapist tell me i wasn't a little girl living with my mom anymore and needed to let stuff go...so I let her go. Im sorry my brain marinated in abuse for 18 years, its not as easy as…

Those Libra rising examples are too real, like the scarcity fear sticks no matter the bank account. Your idea about flipping it into 8th house gigs like research feels smart tho, def considering that …

You say identify with the unending ocean but what does that look like practically and mentally? What are you focusing on throughout the day? Are you flipping thoughts/telling a desired story, etc? Wh…

saturns dispositor flipping the script for dad? That's a fresh angle, does it tie into the house placement too?

Sure, and this jumps right to the idea of “self constancy”, and object constancy is connected to that. It shows why we need to heal all that emotional impact at a somatic level. Nobody is ever going …

I know how you feel. I was going through something very similar until very recently. Walking on egg shells and she was still flipping out. My exceptional patience was being rewarded with things gettin…

I developed what I thought was my own method from because of some small advice from an old lausd baseball coach when I was in my 20s. It immediately started working. That was back in 2001-2002. Back t…

I feel the same way and to have suppressed memories of the horror iloved through come back to haunt me.. and everyone just started to trest me worse so isolate which they get upset at to the i try an…

My wife and I used to trip 2x a month before we had an illness in the family and we didn't have that consistent time where our daughter was out of the house. So roughly 2 years of this multiple times …

Boxing is a thinking mans sport, you have to think in there at all times. Its a fight and a chess match and a poker game. You have to be very precise in the ring as well as out of the ring. I am lo…

I was just venting to vent. Then I remembered how nice she was. Thinking how my current dating life isn’t that great feels everyone is so low effort. The reality that my ex was saying I am not physica…

all the things you mentioned are why i love in person therapy. commuting and waiting is part of my therapy ritual, i always go 1.5-2 hours early and sit in the near by park or in my car. i need reflec…

I agree, I also did a bit of revision but but I felt flipping the script helps better for me, I would say if you react to the 3D it litteraly does not slow down or speed up your manifestation, UNLESS …

I truly did care and love this man unconditionally and I hate the fact that I can’t immediately turn it off. I still have so much love for him that it just hurts. But I was sitting with my parents rer…

They’d match with me first. I’d start chatting with them and there were just immediately so many issues. Inability to carry on a conversation, being weird about me owning a home while they didn’t, say…

There were two final straws. The first was when she went through my phone and got upset that I still had a conversation on my Facebook Messenger from a girl from 5 years before we even met, and we wer…

Heavy on the "my family has never been there for me for anything, and it's always been someone outside of my family who has been there for me, taught me basic life skills, cared about my feelings and …

I initially manifested a lot of things this same way, later when I read about manifestation and stuff I was trying to control by doing technique flipping negative thoughts etc etc thanks for reminding…

>2 weeks later I was new. I felt myself upgrade to a brand new self concept, a new way of living I really feel everything you said in your post. Recently I've gone through the same. Since I got into …

This reads so inspiring. How did you achieve flipping negative believes? I struggle with feeling unworthy and incapable of things (academically). I do know that the root to my negative believes is t…

Try flipping through the r/AsianTwoX subreddit. They may have relevant suggestions.

Thank you for saying I speak with conviction! That is something I never thought I would hear. At public presentations I’d always be the person stammering and looking at the floor and fidgeting, taking…

yup. sister’s ex was working retail and sending her insane texts that he was going to slit his wrists. he was AT WORK, probably flipping back and forth between emotionally terrorizing her and playing …

Yes. I had actually gone back to look at all the conversations I had with my nex bff thinking something must have been wrong with me and I wanted to know where I went wrong only to find out it was her…

You’d experience the same thing through therapy, just with a trained professional so it doesn’t get out of hand. They just call it by another name: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flipping-ou…

Yea it’s hard for me to personally understand flipping that quickly, but it probably is as simple as them finding someone else they’re more interested in. Thank you! A lot of time it feels like I’m n…

There’s definitely a rise in online surveillance culture, but something you can do to feel more agency is looking into legislation related to internet privacy and calling your representatives to encou…

The only partner I’ve ever had tell me I’m a narcissist (and “every girl he dated turned out to be a narcissist) was a narcissist himself. If you are actually stopping and looking and questioning, be …

What a trippy experience to have had when you’re not religious. The most interesting part of your visitation imo is how you looked at the screen and instead of having zero reaction or thinking “I wond…

also: i went to Voc Rehab when my son was a baby. my chosen career of becoming a psychiatrist who provides talk therapy via the CNP nurse track was just made obsolete. my counselor looked at my colleg…

It doesn't seem like people normally have control over flipping the switch from negative to positive. If you go to r/sleepparalysis then you will find people complaining about negative experiences wit…

Same. I could’ve written a lot of the OP, and yours is spot on. I’ve started over so many times I’ve actually lost count, and it’s been really hard and each time the “recovery” is less and less. I’m…

Ony you can decide whether to go NC, but for the love of God, don't let her "help" when you have a brand new baby. My N parents came for both of mine, and I felt like I had to entertain and cook for t…

the only logical explanation is that hes cheating on you and lying/flipping the accusation into you. have him take an STI panel. if hes clean, then youve by some miracle gotten infected without sex. i…

Exactly. He's flipping this around like you (OP) are overreacting. You aren't. He's doubling down by taking everything to scare you into backtracking. Don't. This is one of those defining moments in a…

It sounds like you might need stuff for the vagus nerve. TRE, cold compress to the chest, and a peaceful but busy hobbie like knitting/crochet, puzzles, cozy games, etc are great places to start. I'…

Why abstract? If the conclusion you draw is true, how is that abstract? If you read the material Epictetus tells us to start with something small, like a cup, as opposed to the big ticket items like d…

I still have my exs last name. Im sure it pisses him off but I do not care. We have a kid together and I raised the kid alone with no help from him. I kept the last name because I’m a professional …