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Practice Awareness/Mindfulness (it's the same as reality checking but not "silly") Notice things around you that you usually take for granted, like a piece of furtniture, a sign at work, the tiles/f…

The whole I will not promote in post titles thing is just silly (I will not promote) — Seriously, what kind of weirdo implemented this rule. Feels like being in a first grade classroom with a strict teacher. Long time reader of this sub but it’s just such a random and weird thing to imp…

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

States shipped map? — I'm looking for an easy way to generate a "state's we've shipped to" map for our store. Seems there's a few plugins that do this, but in typical Shopify fashion, they're all monthly fees, which is utt…

What makes an anxious attached person feel loved? — I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery. That means I have been working on myself. I would consider myself slightly secure but not secure enough to call myself secure Anyway, my boyfriend is anxious…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…

How do you tell whether you need to push through the avoidance or if you just don’t like them as a partner — I feel silly asking this but I’m in my first serious long term relationship and I’m struggling so hard. I get very paranoid that it’s not meant to be because I feel so insanely avoidant. Like what if …

Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

How does avoidance "feel" in your body? — Been thinking about this one for a bit because I see people frame avoidance as a fear, like you're afraid of love and intimacy . It doesn't always feel like a fear for me? If I were afraid I'd have a …

Asking for input from those who are avoidant — (Forgot to add user flair.) Last paragraph has the question. But for context, I have someone in my life who has acknowledged they are avoidant. When I started looking into attachment styles I found t…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Cannabis vs. Mushrooms [My Experience] — So I'll start off by saying I'm not very experienced and have multiple psychotic and/or disassociative disorders plus a medical card But I'm surprised at my take away when using the medical marijuana…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

When a tiny moment shows you the practice is paying off — I spilled my coffee all over the kitchen counter rght when I was about to leave the house. That kind of thing used to piss me off big time.. I’d rush to clean it up, cussing, mumbling under my breath,…

Can the 6th house represent the service of others? — Is it possible for a person with strong 6th house placements to just... have others do the 6th housing for them? I'm not sure if i'm wording this properly. But, in other words, would it make sense f…

Can a house drain your energy? — Hello! I’m not sure if I’m posting in the right subreddit but: We moved into our house about 3 years ago with the help of my MIL. Though we so gladly appreciate her help, we unfortunately didn’t get…

My Divorce Journey - Hope it Helps someone — Just want to share some notes on my journey through divorce…I’ve been divorced for about two years after a 15 year marriage (2 kids) and I’m finally on firm ground with myself. Just some key points …

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

The true meaning why you were told to never bottle up your emotions — I remember years ago I was very young and in primary school… I would always see on posters around me. “Don’t bottle up your emotions.” And of I went on YouTube at the time or I heard from fam…

I (22 male) slept with my colleague (30 female) and fell in love, but it was unrequited. — I apologize for possible errors in the text, translated by Google. I got a job as a loader at a store. And when we first met, we didn't really like each other. I just went to work; I didn't talk to h…

Persistence isn't effort. It's RETURNING — Persistence *is not effort.* Persistence is RETURNING to the state of authority. You are not persisting by trying harder, in fact you are persisting in a state that suggests you do not have what you w…

The best and 5 worst things I did after 5 breakups in 12 years chasing unavailable partners, and I just got marriaged on 2.14.2026 — I've been through 5 painful breakups over the last decades, all with the same pattern: I'd chase someone emotionally/physically unavailable—either a cheater or straight-up avoidant—who'd pull away jus…

It unfolds so naturally — I have spent a lot of time treating the Law like a science experiment rather than a mathematical equation. I thought “if I do x, then maybe y will happen” When in reality it’s more like “X + Y = Z”…

why do i not feel like a 12h sun? — i have my sun and chart ruler on the 12h but i don’t really resonate with the description of being introverted nor do i get projected on a lot lately. i do see it fitting when i was younger though. i …

A complicated (online) friendship [vent?] — Hey everyone; I don't know if this fits here or relates too much to codependency, but I can try posting it and see what people's thoughts are. People usually talk about proper IRL relationships so per…

~1 year no contact check in. It gets better! — Here’s my experience of going from never being single as an adult to single and happy (spoiler alert! It was SO hard but probably the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done).  Background context: I had …

Jack of all hobbies, master of none? — Kind of a silly topic but ever since I was little I’ve been decent and passionate about so many hobbies. I bake, lift weights, sew, crochet, draw, read, enjoy movies, producing beats, philosophy, lear…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

Loved ones as phone background — Silly one but I've been thinking about it recently - do y'all have people you know and love as screensavers/background images on your phones? Lots of people do it but I don't really care or notice an…

4:44 — Well. It's 4:44 and I found myself immediately awake again. I took the advice of another experiencer and I went outside and meditated. It's been ages since I've seen anything in the skies and I saw a …

It Worked OVERNIGHT! — I’ve been living the Law of Assumption for years. I’ve seen it play out in my life over and over, growing my Instagram to 85k, TikTok to 25k, YouTube steadily climbing, social media success etc. But…

I think I manifested way more than I thought was possible — Okay… so I think I just came to the realization that I manifested ALOT more than I actually knew was possible…. Whether it was positive or negative. For instance. My elementary/ middle school crush…

Perpetually Stupid — I feel like everything is so difficult for me to understand, and I don't have much general knowledge despite always being on the look out for something to learn. My critical thinking skills just aren'…

i think my boyfriend doesnt love and never did — My boyfriend (29) and I (28F) met four years ago. I fell in love with him after just a couple of months of seeing each other casually, but he didn’t feel the same way. He often didn’t want to see me, …

My 18M bf broke up with me 17F because he got an A in maths — hi, im 17F and I'm dating 18M, we met in grade school and became high school sweethearts. It's been 4 years and we have been going on really strong, although he lives 30 mins away and goes to a differ…

My situationship doesn’t want a relationship but still has feelings for me?? — Please don’t call me delulu, because I’ve had my fair share of avoidant weirdos, but I don’t think he is one. Been talking to this guy since December. Things were great. The chemistry was there. The c…

Move to a city to find love .. — Hello, I've spent the last few years in a beautiful small city on the Mediterranean. The lifestyle is great, but dating is pretty abysmal; it's mainly students, old people or tourists, and as a queer …

I have bare mummy issues from being raised by a boy mum — My dad is genuinely just a terrible person. A far far worse parent than my mum, but I think because of this my brain didn't even register him as a parent, just an abusive man that lived in my house. I…

I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…

My parents dont approve of him im [18F]and hes [18M] — Im 18F my :( ex ? bf is 18M My parents broke us up. Its a long distance relationship for 3 years since we were 15 but we know each other Recently I talked about him and my parents dont approve at a…

Do emotions even matter? — No matter how much I struggled emotionally growing up, no matter how lonely and depressed I was cause no one understood me and i didnt know how to connect, no matter how much i harmed and isolated mys…

Is it possible? — Can I manifest my ex back even if tarot cards have said no? Sorry if this question seems silly, but I’m a newbie in this sphere.

Success Story: Brought my savings account over $20K — This will be more of a public journal entry, as I'm still on my journey learning and mastering manifestation. There's a lot of backstory here so if you're not interested, you can skip below to the TLD…

I told people in another reality I shifted to their reality - this was their reaction જ⁀➴ ♡ — hey everyone, this is such an odd post but I had this experience last night and I wanted to share it with you guys because it is kind of silly and I feel like this is the perfect community to share it…

800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…

Anxiety isn’t in the head it’s stuck in the body. The somatic trick that rewires it — I tried something that felt absolutely ridiculous during an anxiety spiral and it worked better than anything else I have ever done. I stood up put on a heavy beat and just started shaking. Full body …

Manifested away a bed bugs situation — Hi everyone. I wanted to share one of my most recent success story. I am young student living by myself. 3 weeks ago, my body started to randomly itch pretty much everywhere. I would scratch my skin …

What to wear - sleepovers — 48 year old female and recently started dating after 4 years of being divorced. Previously together with my ex-husband for 20 years, so there is A LOT I'm figuring out again. This seems silly but when…

This is silly. If someone is unhappy they’re morally allowed to break up with another person, no matter what.

Yup you’re the one I was trying to reply to on that post about the lottery. You think things should only look one way and can only be manifested in one way and that’s a fallacy and a limited belief. T…

After all is said and done. My one true key belief is that YOUR BELIEFS SHAPE YOUR REALITY. Good or bad. Right or wrong. How you feel about everything in your life is what receive from it. It’s th…

I cannot lucid dream on purpose yet, but if i dream specific dreams(Like me driving) I can realise that im dreaming. Then I say to my self, you re dreaming, great im now going to control this dream. T…

This is a very silly reply. Any idiot knows that faith is essential (and unwavering faith is not, just 51% sunconscious faith vs 49% subsconsious unbelief) to LOB success. That is not the point of t…

We started with Terraform 6 months ago, and are looking to migrate to OpenTofu right now. TF has some silly restrictions in it that OpenTofu fixes, like being able to iterate over certain classes of o…

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You can visualize yourself in 30 days when your ban is over for not following the rules of the sub. By then, you should have your answer to this silly question. Thread locked.

Some of these comments are saying silly (and heteronormative) things like "weird around children" or "checks out other women when they think you're not looking". Obvious reminder that being uncomforta…

I actually did chuckle! Yes, Darwin awards energy. I think it's also a humour in explanations of things that are obvious to most people... but not to some. This is a silly analogy but it's like if a …

>Why can't they stop experiencing love like they say they do and start experiencing it like I think they should??? Because they clearly know best for all avoidants of course! They read a psychology t…

You MUST build a support system. You have to. The whole point here is to get better, not perfect, but to get better you have to do it. More of a network would show you that this isn’t a doom spiral,…

Hey mate, I really relate to what you’ve written. I’ve had similar struggles in relationships – my anxious attachment would flare up with partners even though I felt steady with friends or at work. Fo…

You’re welcome. A lot of people in these communities shut down questions and are quick to say “you’re not doing it right” which is just nonsense. Of course you can change people. There are infinite …

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…

So I (35M) have an anxious avoidant attachment style, and I really don’t enjoy it. My Ex (32F) is pretty much exactly the opposite which had us in several head butting moments where she just wanted to…

This is actually such a huge win! You’re learning to catch yourself mid-anxious spiral and reframe the story you’re telling yourself. That’s not silly at all, that’s real growth. The fact that you wen…

Me (anxiously attached) was just broken up with by the girlfriend (fearful avoidant) two days ago. Morning text excited to see me in the evening, but when I got to her place, mood was somber. We had a…

I definitely suffer from the two questions you asked. And yeah, I think I tend to ignore all the other obvious ways that points to a person caring about me and cherishing me in their life just becau…

Wow! That is so insightful! Holy heck, why isn't this comment at the top?! That makes so much sense that it kind of hurts a little. And, to be up front, the only way I've ever been able to feel "heale…

Oh, absolutely! I completely agree with you. I didn't mean to suggest I don't care about friends or anyone wouldn't care simply based on their attachment style. And yeah, it doesn't make those relatio…

What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…

This is silly to me because practically you will eventually be “no contact” with an ex, theirs no healthy way to maintain close contact with your ex’s indefinitely. No contact is the most practical wa…

My relationship is still less than a year old and is long distance. I love my girlfriend very much and I know she loves me and she has put up with various of my problems and supported me and has been …

"*Quiet does not equal danger.*" Oh gosh. Yes. I understand this. This is how my partner now reminds me to be assured of space, and with myself. What also helps is, both of our quirky nature and humo…

This is so great! I love this communication but I do have a question. When you give him this list and he goes away and then follows this list, do you ever read those goodnight texts or look at that si…

Fuck I just want to rage and scream at how fucking unfair this is. Just like the cosmic fucking joke that we were so deeply in love but what felt grounding to me felt destabilizing to him. I would beg…

I was in a similar relationship like that. She was also Anxious and also spoke to me like I was a child needing direction and she did that with her parents as well. I couldn’t do anything wrong. I cou…

Yeah, I'm sure she's probably not. Probably not even for a casual thing. That this is more on her than me, I just happen to get attached very easily. And I appreciate it, I will. It just gets very tir…

When my DA ex and I were still together he would sometimes say similar stuff ("*when* we breakup," etc.), and i figured out it was 2 parts pushing away so he didn't feel smothered/overwhelmed and 1 pa…

See I wonder if he sees quality time as closeness. We don’t live near one another but have travelled a fair few times to each other & call a lot. But then he also tells me he doesn’t see his friends t…

This is just my experience but EMDR helped me because with CBT and DBT I could talk and intellectualise my way out of therapy without actually doing the work. Basically I learned what the correct answ…

I'm over here taking notes. This reply is my sign to curate a feed of silly sharks and art tips on my art dump IG. I appreciate tips on relationships and healing, but past a certain point, after s…

It is unfortunate that as we get older we do tend to grow apart from old friends. It is a normal part of life. It still sucks, but it helps to keep the perspective that all people (even secure ones) g…

I travel (internationally) a lot for work...one of my silly daydreams is a kind partner who makes sure I have snacks for my journeys. I obviously don't know who you are dating, but little stuff like t…

Only you know. I can’t stay with someone who isn’t fun. What I mean is, I want to laugh in my relationship. I don’t care how sweet, hot or kind he is - if we aren’t laughing I’m out. I’m a silly pers…

Chat (says the 38 year old man trying to sound young and cool) I have a silly conundrum question. With Valentine's Day coming up, I want to get my lady some nice flowers from a local florist. She love…

Yeah the thought of losing a whole day because it's valentines is also pretty silly!! 

It's not a reflection on you. He's not your person. You did nothing wrong. I know that sounds empty when you're hurting/feeling insecure but we've all been there (agonizing over ghosting/flakiness) an…

i've ignored my abandonment wound through many breakups but i am now only recognizing it while going through my toughest breakup yet. sometimes it feels silly to sob and feel the hurt kid inside you, …

>I still struggle to name my feelings and needs and share them I guess I had an inkling about it, but it never really occurred to me that it's naming my feelings and needs that I have a problem with…

I'm trying to not gush too much on here about green flags (dating for 6 months) but I was watching a Youtube video about sharing appetizers on dates, and was reminded of how early on I shared with my …

Thank you so much for being with me in this strange moment and thinking through this. I totally agree. I am just so so so confused. This is what I wrote about him before (so it's not like I have been …

I went through this intensly for almost a year, I used to get bodily reactions from anxiety. I recognised it (as in the attachment style) 4 months ago. Since then it got better. It was still intense i…

I feel you... with my emotionally abusive ex, we would talk until the morning, we actually would need to put alarms to go to bed. I don't think mine was a liar or a cheater (who knows though) but he w…

Irl I am repulsed by people who are obsessed with me because it's like cool cool so you don't actually see me at all you're just projecting whatever you want to see onto me and I'll be discarded and d…

I like this. I asked the guy I’m seeing, on the second date, what he was looking for and he gave a pretty vague answer. I should have paid attention to that or maybe asked more questions. The lon…

This might be a silly question, but I always thought you need both condom and birth control (pills) for better combo at preventing pregnancy. Or is a condom only always enough, unless we noticed a lea…

It won't 😭 And I just want some friends I can be my silly, animated self with.

I understand why overly sexual jokes would be a turnoff. If you said "I found out he plays golf" I might have some more questions.  Sidenote: I find it a huge turnoff when a guy plays golf. I cannot…