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A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…

Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago. — I was reflecting and journaling on my past relationships, and taking full responsibility for past mistakes. I'm an FA so there were times when I thought I needed external validation to feel whole, and…

Is this a new-ish policy: Payouts released when orders fulfilled? — Hi all. I noticed a stack of money in my 'to be paid' payouts section. It ought to have been scheduled for Wednesday, but hasn't been as yet. I spoke to Shopify support and asked what was going on.…

What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…

What are some healthy ways of self-soothing in place of limerence? — Hi fellow anxious attachments girlies (and guys!! and everyone)…I’m someone who has used fantasy about a person to escape a lot in the past. I’m better about it now, but sometimes the tendency still c…

Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Is this an emotional affair? — I (36F, single), have a good guy friend (40M) who has been dating a new woman for 2 ish months now. Full disclosure I don’t like her very much and I think they’re moving super fast (already saying I …

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

My Fiancé kicked me out with only a few hours notice — This is the situation I am in. About a week ago my fiancé (25 M) brought up how he has some problems with me (25 F). We have been together for almost three years. He said he cant bring up sensitive to…

Dating over forty and living separately — I feel like I do better in relationships where we don't cohabitate. I'm autistic and really like control over my space, living with someone messy can feel very overwhelming. Also, I find that having …

I feel so alone — It's odd. I don't miss my husband. I'm 1000% confident in my decision - there's a huge sense of relief since he moved out - but ever since I made my decision I feel so alone. I have a great support …

I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…

Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch — I've been dating a great guy for about the last four months and we're a good fit in several different ways. We're both in our 40s, no kids, no previous marriages and have lived all over the world. We'…

Me (32F) leaving my husband (39M), MIL (70F) became distant. How do I approach her? — I (32F) recently made the decision to separate from my husband (39M) of 9 years after a long period of ongoing marital issues. Now that it’s clear that the separation is actually happening, things hav…

32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth? — I’ve been married for 32 years now, but there is a something from 2006 that I’ve never been able to move past. Back then, my daughters were 11 and 10. We were leaving my parents' house after a weekend…

My boyfriend (31M) is upset I prioritize money and don’t want kids, even though I (24F) told him this from the start — I (24F, in university) have been dating my boyfriend (31M) for 3 years. We both still live separately with our parents. From the very beginning, I was **extremely upfront** about my priorities: I do…

Drifting away from stoicsm — Stoicsms changed my life, but now a days I find myself not connecting as much with the lessons and forgetting them even though they helped me lots in the past. I'm and avid student; I do flashcards an…

Finally admitting I have an attitude of entitlement. — Need to get this off my chest: I’m realizing that at 35, I’ve spent a lot of my life operating with a mix of entitlement and a victim mentality. The short version is that growing up, I had a lot of t…

Why does nobody talk about unsuccessful manifestation journey? — Well, here we are. Changing oneself, assuming new beliefs, new ways of interpreting life and it's meaning, healing, flowing, call it whatever you want. Commanding, choosing, focusing on who I am or wh…

All is now. Be Here Now. — One of the biggest misunderstandings about manifestation is the idea that you are trying to create something in the future. Neville’s teachings point to something deeper. Creation is finished. Every…

I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…

[Update] My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth — It’s been almost a year, so I thought I’d give an update in case anyone is wondering. First, I want to thank everyone who took the time to comment, message me, or simply read and reflect on the post.…

My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…

Super Neat! — I found out about the Gateway Tapes/Monroe about 3 weeks ago. I have read most of the links and information on this sub reddit, watched some of the Youtube videos and started listening to the audio b…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

Has anyone felt themselves gaining agency in dreams before gaining lucidity? — In my journey of journaling my dreams, I have so far failed to feel super Lucid. More often than not I'll just feel like I'm playing a videogame, instead of realizing I'm in a dream. Like some kind of…

I Can't Stand My Mom — When I was younger, my parents basically used me as an emotional punching bag. Most of the memories I have of my childhood are them screaming at me over some minor mistake that I made. A lot of the ti…

How do you approach talking about sex in a new relationship? — I (23F) have recently started dating someone (25M) for around two months now, and we recently had a conversation explicitly about us being exclusive. Our sexual chemistry is definitely there, but we h…

Could use some compassion - I broke up with my ex of nearly two decades last fall. I was codependent on him for everything. — TW: a depressing and heavy post, self blame, neglect I left him last August after realizing we were holding each other back. I wanted to get married but he just… never proposed. At one point we did …

REVISE — “Man and his past are one continuous structure. This structure contains all of the facts which have been conserved and still operate below the threshold of his surface mind. For him it is merely histo…

A success story I’d like to share with you — Three jobs that are exactly what I wanted, money and something about love Last December, I was laid off from my full-time job, had €4,000 in debt, and was living alone, even though my partner and I …

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

how to find motive? — I struggle with getting things done that need to be done but it often times cross my mind that , i really have no purpose or no motive because i am more than capable, i know the limits of my brain. i …

Be as if you have a happy past — ​ Assume you have a happy past. Most trauma people carry trauma because they keep remembering their traumatic past. Be as if your past is a happy past even when it's not , and this will fr…

Fiancé ended our 12 year relationship after meeting a new guy — Caitlyn, I'm sorry, and I miss you and still love you. I can't function. I can't sleep. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how much of this was me, and how much of this was him. Everyone has to…

Feel terrible for initiating NC — On an alt account for this. I was broken up with about a month and a half ago or so. 3 years together and it was a relatively amicable breakup, I wont go into details because the entire situation was …

It’s been 7 months and there are still some moments of pain — Me and my ex have been broken up for seven months. Before that we had dated for two years, he was my first boyfriend. I would definitely say I’m over him, but sometimes I catch myself being sad when I…

It’s Been Four Years 😢 — If anyone can share some advice, I’d really appreciate it. It’s so embarrassing for me to share this, but I need to get it off my chest. I still haven’t gotten over my ex-situationship (would’ve been …

Has anyone reached out to their nex’s exes for the truth? — I’ve been thinking a lot about how my ex framed all of his former partners as mean, crazy, narcissistic, or toxic, and now that I’m out of the relationship, I’m questioning how much of that was ever t…

Some supportive words to all you going through this. — just as the title says, I wanted to share something with you all. A bit of trauma dumping. If you’d like to know how I was feeling a few weeks ago, you can look at my profile for my most recent post…

37/m. 3 months ago, I committed an act of domestic violence on my ex partner and I am trying to make sure the version of me that did that stays in the past. — In December I physically attacked my now ex gf of 4 years. It is the single worst thing I have ever done in my life, to the person I loved more than I have ever loved anyone before. I moved out immedi…

Anxiety tips you might not have heard of — Hello, I've had crippling anxiety on and off for many years and I have developed coping tools that has helped me alot. This Mostly is for people who have GAD and panic disorders but can help for almo…

UPDATE: My (23F) Boyfriend (24M) got really jacked and now I’m no longer attracted to him — Hi, I really don’t feel obligated to update but I felt it was a little important due to the amount of attention my post got. Before doing so though I wanted to address everything systematically, so sc…

It’s Been A Year… So Here’s My Last Post — Well, tonight makes it official. It has been a full year since I was dumped. Whoever said you lose track of time when you’re having fun is a liar. You REALLY lose track of time when you’re miserable a…

Should I stop waiting for my ex? — TLDR: I want to get back together and I still love him and he says he still loves me but he‘s too afraid to risk breaking up again. Should I still wait? I broke up w my bf about a month ago. We were…

Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

Glad it helped you in some way. I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. Babies and children absolutely register lack of affection…

This has most likely has been asked a couple of times, but how does one forcefully achieve sleep paralysis? The only time I successfully astral projected is when I had sleep paralysis and I simply tri…

>The baby immediately notices and first tries to laugh or shriek or point, or do anything that has illicited a reaction from its mom in the past. The mom does not react. The baby quickly escalates to …

It’s been a year (yesterday) since my ex cruelly and coldly discarded me by text (after 18 months of dating… and lots of life experiences).. “I can’t see you anymore, I wish you well”.. It was massive…

thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. in my experiences i was chased and pursued. i think of my past romantic relationships as miscommunications based on skewed beliefs and perceptions …

It’s good that you’re reflecting on past relationships - that’s what transforms them from painful failures into learning experiences. 1) In confronting your deep sense of unworthiness (which I totall…

I question myself, for sure, which only leads me to ignore the initial red flags (love bombing, rushing to intimacy and commitment, neediness, etc.) I tell myself that I am being paranoid, that I am…

My therapist pointed out actually that withdrawing emotionally while still feeling emotionally connected or retaining symbols of connection as a part of push and pull dynamics. It is not a manipulatio…

The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…

I am a FA learnt secure, and I'll say almost half of the women I have dated are avoidants. Ken Reids and Dr Sarah Hensley have given lots of advice on this. I'll paraphrase them: 1) Ask them early,…

Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…

What ended up happening here? I’ve had similar things happen in the past. I’ve never understood people that ghost like this.

Thanks. I may have had a similar set of circumstances in the past. Without the happy end.

Lack of accountability. OP mentioned he tried to act like nothing happened in the past. Either he's gonna do it again, or purposely being vague so OP wanted more explanation

After being away for some time, the nervous system regulates and they make decisions from a calm safe space. And realize that they should (maybe) not have left the relationship, they were too rash, wh…

I’ve rejected available women in the past.

Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …

So if it’s not possible to heal without practicing what we learn in therapy every day within a relationship, should we just give up? I just want to be a bit more reasonable with avoidants who expres…

I suspect his last relationship she was more DA so maybe he was more triggered into his anxious but it wasn't a super long term relationship, 2 yrs and they also broke up and got back together through…

Thanks, I have empathy for them because have been like that in the past.

I'm sorry for the stress you feel and everything about it. It sounds like your life now revolves around him: \- You continue to have regret and remorse about the past. \- You are actively checking…

I don’t think it’s possible to be both an experiencer and a skeptic, not unless you’re just in denial about your experiences. And that does happen at the beginning! But it’s a stage you have to get pa…

I tend to choose avoidants because at the very beginning of the relationships they are super invested and act basically like AA's. Reading more about attachment theory now, I understand that it's the …

It sounds like you're disowning and shunning your negative feelings. Since they don't seem logical, you're pushing them away. But they're not going to be logical. They're probably the result of repres…

So I (38M)'ve just been dumped again by someone who picked up on my attachment anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated because I'm pretty far along my healing journey, but not finished yet obviously, an…

I am so scared to date again. I don't know if I can open up after my last relationship. It sounds so stupid, but as a lover girl, I don't wanna lose it. I wanna stay a lover girl, stupid & naive. But …

Forgive me for being thick, but I think I just became even more confused. I read both posts and just finished reading the link to the post by Marsh273, you shared. I have read quite a few of them in …

I'm going to take a crack at this using critical thinking alone. *" The very concepts of "beginning," "created," and "suddenly exist" are all products of our three-dimensional perception, where we ex…

As I said, whether you're 'avoidant' or 'anxious' because there is either a lack of emotional processing, or complete omitting of emotional processing. People that are 'avoidant' perceive time as fin…

Thank you so much for your kind words, I really appreciate it. Reading through your comment made me feel incredibly understood because I feel like everything you've said is spot on - I have really low…

Text of original post by u/BoysenberryAwkward76: Hi fellow anxious attachments girlies (and guys!! and everyone)…I’m someone who has used fantasy about a person to escape a lot in the past. I’m better…

Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…

This might be due to a lack of internal confidence perhaps. I know that when I was younger and would get involved with someone with an anxious attachment, they’d internalize almost everything while tr…

Yes, they projects their fault at you so they don't have to be responsible for their own action and issues. After a blissful period of connection and honesty and closeness with my fearful avoidant e…

I associated it with a freeze response because that's how he's described it before when it happened in the past. I injured my foot but had no crutches. He watched me crawl around the floor to get to …

>I associated it with a freeze response because that's how he's described it before when it happened in the past. To be clear, what I said before was that it *is* a freeze response, just that it's n…

I wouldn’t send it. If you’re anything like me it will send you into an anxious shame spiral of overthinking, fretting, and self-doubt. If you’re in the midst of a breakup with some other avoidant the…

So allow me to repeat the part where i say that if you can't leave your past in the past, then don't expect me to want it as part of my future. Of course people will have a past. it's the idea of mak…

Text of original post by u/upernikos: My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. …

I don’t mean nothing else is important, but don’t try and do someone else’s internal work for them yk? There is a difference between curiosity and a more codependent kind of need to “figure someone ou…

I'm a guy of 50M and am in a relationship with a woman who is 46F We are 2.5 years in a Living-Apart-Relationship. She lives with her childs, I live with mine. We see eachother once a week for one, t…

Keep imagning yourself eating a food that you havent eaten for a very long time. Keep repeating it everyday. When youre doing it, do it slowly and calmly. Make sure that it is happening now in your im…

One thing that I'm learning now that I'm in a healthy relationship: quiet does not equal danger. In my last 2 relationships, I got used to the emotional roller coaster. We fight, we make makeup, rin…

Past you really sounds a lot like current him haha. Honestly this is so helpful. It helps me feel less alone and less like I'm making up a narrative. And I'll definitely take your advice on board.…

You should check out the book Nonviolent Communication!! There are free PDFs online if you want to try before you buy. I'm moving from AA -> Secure and it has been super helpful. The basic idea is: …

> Well there is no existing relationship lol. that's what I mean. I was wondering if using an online dating app felt like an admission of that. I certainly have a level of anxiety about people as…

Has anyone here been able to successfully navigate a relationship between anxious attached (me) and avoidant attachment partner? My partner of nearly two years and I are struggling with communication.…

I think there is often a gulf between people who have had serious struggles with relationships in their family of origin and people who have not, and between people who have had to deal with mental he…