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THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

SSRI Time! — After almost 3 years of CBT and SO much growth and progress, I am still struggling to feel a healthy balance of calm and energized/motivated. My healthcare provider and therapist believe my fight-or-f…

Meditation hasn’t worked for me — I’ve tried meditation for years. I used to do simple breath work, I tried frequencies binaural beats etc, and for a while I did transcendental meditation. None of them helped me. So recently just a f…

how many therapists did you try before finding the right one — i'm on therapist #4 and still don't feel like i've found the right fit #1-> nice but too passive, i needed more direction #2-> too directive, felt like she was lecturing me #3-> good but scheduling …

No reaction/indifference really is the best reply - 3 months on — It's been almost 3 months since I was treated horribly by a narcissist Ex. I was away, blocked on ig and dumped by text. I found multiple intimate posts a week before I was dumped, including videos of…

My horrible mushroom trip by Jimmy Burnt — It all started during an environmental school excusion/protest. I had packed my lunch that day, drank my water, dressed well and expected nothing to happen. To preface I live in Sydney and lived aro…

41M - I think I'll be single for rest of life and have lost the motivation to date — I dated a lot during my 30s and had high hopes that I'd eventually find the right one, but here I am at age 41. I read this thread from another AM and I think I'm headed down the same way: [https://…

I was mass-deleting apps from my phone every week. So I built something different instead. — I'm going to be honest with you. I tried everything. Screen Time limits - I'd just tap "Ignore." Deleting apps - I'd reinstall them within hours. Grayscale mode - lasted two days. Digital detox apps…

I’m saving money living at home, but it’s costing me my peace — I (31f) live with my mom (61f) right now to save and pay off my student loans, but living with her is exhausting. Literally everything she does or says irritates/triggers me. Growing up, she put all…

How do you balance ego and desire — This morning i received an email saying i was rejected from a position I applied for. I was excited about it and lived in the end, embodying the person who already had the role. Now there are 2 side…

I don't feel connected to my therapist. Is that normal? — Hello, Recently, I (F, 30) went through a bit of a mental health situation, and found myself at an outpatient mental health program for a week. What the nurses thought was depression turned out to be…

R ketamine or S Ketamine for CPTSD — i can access both R and S ketamine and need to choose the right one for my therapeutic sessions. i live in a country where K is being studied but not yet provided by doctors outside of clinical studi…

My 30m girlfriend 25F of 5 years just told me about her cheating over a year ago — TLDR I don't know what to do now that I know I've been cheated on. For the last year our relationship has been off, I couldn't figure out what was wrong because nothing on my end had changed and no m…

I don’t know if I actually was emotionally neglected or if I’m just a dramatic brat, and I’m driving myself mad. — I (22f) have really struggled with my mental health the last few years, although most who know me wouldn’t know this, as I conceal my mental health very well. I constantly ruminate over my childhood,…

I was the problem and the reason for the breakup and its destroying me — I am 23F, and my ex-boyfriend is 22M. Basically, this has been such a bad past year for me. I moved back down to be with him in our college town (it's a big city, so it wasn't weird to move back, and …

I (25F) keep wondering if I need to break off my engagement to him (25M) — We are college sweethearts and got engaged last year. With the wedding coming up in the summer, I think I’m getting cold feet. I am a very anxious and cautious person, and decisions are difficult for …

I quitted alcohol 6 months ago. Tomorrow I'm quitting CBD. — I'm getting ready to take a big step in my life. Writing this helps me visualize the process, and I'm hoping to get an outside perspective here. I started smoking joints around age 20. Long story sh…

I actually have my doubts that therapy is ***the*** key for most avoidants, myself. I've been in and out of therapy at different points since I was thirteen, and *yes* it has helped with different thi…

I've been in this exact situation when I was an FA in a LDR with another FA in another country. And our f2f time was very little like yours but we spoke daily, intensely and talked and had plans. I kn…

There is a simple solution to the problem. Get involved with the start up community in your area. Get involved in meet ups. Hang out with other start up founders. Eventually you will meets someone who…

I think dating is for you and self sabotage is common. I think a key, a lot of the time is, is to go into most situations with no attachment to outcome. Find people you like, date and just see how …

I went through a similar thing with a DA for 18 months. He always made me sleep in the guest room. We didn't even get as far as making out. He had told me up front that he moves slow, but damn...it wa…

As a female, I struggled with this too. One day I had a mindset shift, and realized that the energy of wanting to find someone doesn’t bode well. You’re still in the sphere of anxiety. My advice w…

The spark comment is what makes us spiral and over analyze. Think of the worst-case scenario. We tend to internalize, and it drives us crazy. Without knowing the situation and I can only use my own …

TL;DR - yes it helps, but please also consider seeing a therapist!  Personally I've had success with antidepressants (I'm prescribed them for anxiety). It's worth talking to a psychiatrist if you ca…

Long text but I would really appreciate any advice and support 💗 TLDR in the end. I'm meeting up with my avoidant partner after he shut down at the mention of a problem. So my partner (21m) and i …

Its so painful; I'm really so sorry you're experiencing this horrific pain right now, I've been through this twice; both partners were DA's who discarded brutally after the new relationship energy w…

I definitely get this feeling. When I was working 24 hour shifts it totally destroyed the relationship I was in because the guy felt like I wasn’t making him a priority during the shift. Some of those…

Women are all attracted to different things, so I wouldn’t do anything to change yourself. Present as you are and the right one will be interested!

Biggest difference for me is I’m more selective in my 30s than 20s. Not just about the men I’ll date, but what I do with my time and my lifestyle choices. I’ve always used dating apps, but in my 20s …

It depends on what you want out of a relationship. Some people are drawn to toxic relationships with emotional unavailability not out of choice but sadly because of patterns. If that isn’t you, this i…

Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…

Give me some advice!! Alright so I never have multiple dated or long term dated. Everytime I have been into a relationship was unexpectedly. First relationship colleagues to girlfriend to fiance. …

EDIT: Oops, sorry. Don’t know why I assumed you were using a dating app.. But maybe what I said could still be interesting to some. 🤷🏼‍♀️ A lot of guys (no offense guys..) seem to just not know wha…

This exactly. This is the balance between putting yourself out there and waiting for the one to find you. The idea is not to see either aproach as the golden ticket to meeting your future partner, but…

I personally think you can surely manifest what you desire but at the same time still be very aware of yourself and how you change and what you need; You cannot force other people into staying in your…

Aah, you're right then if he's the confusing one, then best to protect your interests. Dating, especially when you're looking for someone with long-term potential is so hard and can take time, so it's…

Glad if I could help a bit. I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope you manage to make a decision which will, no matter what it ends up being, turn out to be the right one for you!

I think that’s the worse part of it. To know you cared so much for someone. Have them still consume your thoughts and in the end they moved on from you and replace you like you were an old piece of cl…

Like the other poser said, you’re just overthinking things. It sucks but you’ll get over it and remember with the right one it won’t be hard and things will naturally flow.

>remember with the right one it won’t be hard and things will naturally flow. The problem with this line of thinking is that with her, things *weren't* hard and *were* naturally flowing. That's a bi…

I don't think its a compatibility thing because everything was fine we even talked much about it before and everyone knows what the other needs my problem is when you know what my intentions are why y…

It takes time but you will find the right one

Honestly, that sounds super common. Sometimes the initial spark just doesn't ignite into a flame, and that's okay. Don't beat yourself up, maybe you're just really good at spotting decent human beings…

I waited three years before I was ready to try again, but I was very skeptical but Mostly because my feelings were almost completely numbed. After we broke up I swore I was never gonna get into anothe…

One of the harder truths about situationships is that they can meet a real human need while still not being right for us long term. Physical touch is a real need. It regulates our nervous system. It …

I’m Christian and from the US. I have lots of wonderful Catholic friends. To echo what others have already said: That boy is manipulative and has a lot of growing up to do. I know it was a difficult d…

It's their motion \*relative to the earth\*, not just their motion. The perception of a planet moving backwards on its orbit is similar to a reversed tarot card. Objectively, materially, there is no d…

Don't worry so much on getting a diagnosis. Going in and telling the doctor what you believe you have ect isnt the right way to go. Focus on the healing and strategys that can be provided with therapy…

I tried meditating, but I guess I was doing it wrong? I dont know. Ky ADHD was hard to manage and overthinking + my brain wont stop, I tried yoga. Im 3 weeks in, and trying to slow things down and mov…

Wtf. Is banter like being funny?! My very personal opinion is to keep being you. Keep them laughing and it will get you into their pants (for the right one). Fun and attraction sounds like a great set…

Yeah I went to therapy right after and I know all of the decisions I made were the right ones but it hasn’t helped the feeling go away. I need someone to help me work through that I think.

I haven't spoken to my mother in eleven years now and I don't regret it. I wish I had a mother, but I don't want my mother. I've heard stories about her over the last decade from other family and it j…

Listen ... really ask yourself: Would the person I DREAM of marrying some day ever ask me to give away the birds I love? OF COURSE NOT! 28 is young. A better person is out there and worth waiting …

The part about not wanting to stay just to have a child resonated with me. I made a decision once that was heavily influenced by wanting to be a father. I stayed far longer than I should have because…

Honestly if it works it works. I fought myself for a long time trying to do "proper" focused breathing because that's what everyone recommends, and it just made me more tense. Switched to something cl…

I’m walking 3-5 miles per day to deal with the extra anxiety, I practice intermittent fasting for over a decade so I’m thankfully at my height/weight proportion. As far as feeling old, well…I can’t go…

Yes, def easier said than done, but the right one will rise to the challenge and make it easier for you to communicate your needs and boundaries

Yes people have types.   Why is that so hard to understand.  However, if you meet someone and have a connection enjoy it.  We are human, lets make the most of the moment and see where it goes.  Stop o…

I understand your frustration. It looks like you didn't find the right therapist since after 3 months you saw zero change. That can feel like a rip off. But therapy can be cheaper. It can be effective…

Dude, that's a classic conundrum.  Sometimes the sparks just aren't there for a second date, even if the first one was objectively good.  Maybe try lowering the pressure a bit and see if something nat…

You have to come to terms that sometimes the hardest most difficult decision is the right one.

Thank you. I had to go to the emergency room one night myself. I had a very bad breakdown near the 4 week mark. I felt so bad for my kids. I'm mostly 100% now. I had an unexpected cessation of my SSR…

I’m a 44 year old woman who has been married 17 years. I don’t understand all the other women in the comments picking up on this or that in your post, that tells them you were the problem. If your ex …

I get you. I broke up with my love four months ago. He was my everything, but we had some issues. We talked about how the future seemed to be dim for the both of us. That maybe, one day, when we event…

You need to try multiple therapists until you find the right one that fits and then do the work. It will take time. It’s hard but you are clearly self aware and thats the first step. Usually people wh…

Im sorry you feel this way. Your husband sound like a wonderful person. Keep trying with the therapists, sometimes it takes a while b4 you find the right one, hell im still on that journey after 4 yea…