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I 22F WANT TO CALL HIM 70M DAD, BUT HOW? — I want to call him dad. This one's pretty wholesome guys. Just looking for advice om how to broach this subject. I 22F lost my dad 6 years ago. My mom has never dated anyone else. not that my sibli…

Making the entire website a fixed-width — This is probably a stupid question, so I apologize in advance. I am working on a website for my dad that he had someone create back in 2013. Everything is fine so far, but the only problem is that he …

Need advice!! — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring taking over my dad’s welding business. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its…

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

Media fear-mongering or truth? — Back when my dad was around 17 he did shrooms 5 or 6 times. Just picked them and ate them with his mates. Had no knowledge of psychedelics and didn’t weigh any particular dose. Said it was great every…

does anyone feel a little pain when they see how other parents treat their kids? — i was with my mates at about 8 or 9pm catching up in a cafe. we’re all south asian in the uk (all our parents immigrated and we were born here) and they all go uni and i’m working a corporate job so w…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Woke up today feeling awful — Today is my 48th birthday. I woke up feeling like a complete loser. My ex wife left almost 4 years ago. I knew we had some issues but nothing to level of divorce. She never mentioned it. Our daughte…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

My dad told me to kill myself in front of my teachers — Last week I had parent teachers meeting in my school where my dad was present. So my school is a hell hole, because it mentally abuses students to the point a lot of the people here do self harm. Till…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…

Nmom wants an invite to my wedding or she is going to divorce my dad — TLDR; Nmom wants an invite to my wedding. I don’t plan on it as she doesn’t support or respect my decision, and only wants to go because my dad plans on attending and she doesn’t want to have to put m…

Choosing myself feels like betraying my family, but staying feels like losing my life — I’m 21F, Bengali, and coming from a strict Muslim family who are very traditional where marrying outside the culture is almost unheard of. All of my siblings had arranged marriages, and my parents hav…

As an artist, I now can see the reason I loved art, nature, and music so much growing up was a form of escapism from my emotionally neglectful parents — Can anyone else relate? I think when I was younger, getting lost in a painting or paying attention very closely to the natural world around me would help me find joy in a world where I felt extremely …

parents found out about bf — i’m indian 22f and my parents found about my bf (same age) who is from a different race and culture (we live in the US). my mom seemed to be open to it but my dad lost his shit. told me to stop it imm…

I hate everything — I got threatened with marriage because I seemed like I gained weight through video call. And because I had the audacity to wake up late. And my brother is a piece of shit that sees nothing wrong ever …

Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning — So long story short: My dad is an abusive piece of shit narc in a family of narcs. 7 years ago was the last straw when he beat up my little sister who was 19 at the time. Rather than harm him, I went …

It happend!!!!! — After about 6 months of practice I finely had my first lucid dream. Most ppl usually say your first lucid may only last a few seconds and that it takes practice to spawn stuff in but my lucid lasted w…

Why can’t I have long term friendships? — I have zero childhood friends. Zero long term friends. Growing up, my dad didn’t let me have a social life. So every time I tried to be social, I just felt like I was pretending to be normal. Then, I …

Heart Chakra opened, and I feel very very calm — Last night I laid down to meditate. After a while, my thoughts began to drift away again. They felt strangely random almost like they didn’t belong to me. I saw a woman and her child. She looked noth…

My dad admitted to seeing me as property just because I have his name in my certificate — I don’t know what to add but it’s crazy how our parents see us as property into our adulthood as well

Should I help repay my sister’s debt to protect my parents? — I’m 31F. My sister is 29F and lives in Canada. We come from a lower middle-class Indian family that has mostly lived paycheck to paycheck. My sister always dreamed of studying abroad. She completed …

Understanding the parent who ‘did nothing’ has been really hard for me. My therapist recommended I share. — EDIT: Thank you for being a safe place to share. I feel seen, but also heartbroken that so many of us have this in common. Due to the kind encouragement I received, I have posted links to the three …

Advice on how to deal with parent giving ultimatum over my relationship — I'm a 28 year old gay Asian male currently living in an East Asian country for my job, away from my home country and my parents. All my life, I had a great and loving relationship with my parents. I w…

Does anyone have any insight into my difficult relationship with my mom? — I'd be curious for insight as to why my dad was the way he was, too, but mostly my mom. (Since my dad wasn't really there to hurt me, he hurt me in a different way than she has.) I won't trauma dump t…

Avoidance and not being able to access emotions when deactivating — Wondering if this is something other avoidants have felt and how to deal with it. I’m in therapy but I don’t know that it’s helping that much with my attachment stuff. I’m in a relationship with a wo…

My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course. — I don’t speak to any of my family anymore because they disowned me for being gay after i was outed. It hurt at the time but honestly the more time i spent away from them the more i realized how awful …

I think I’m genuinely stupid — As the title says, I think I’m genuinely a dumb person. When someone says “this guys is empty headed” that’s literally me. I’ve always known I’m not the most intelligent person, I deflect that by ta…

My mom always expects the best from me when I don’t get as much in return. — I am a 27 Korean American female. My parents divorced when I was really young and ever since, my mom has taken care of me as a single mother who can’t speak English in the US for 25 years. We were fi…

Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

I am 18F and I’m exhausted dealing with my Indian mom who practically worships her narcissistic, manipulative younger brother and lets him control my life while treating me like garbage. — My mom (44F) has two younger brothers. The one I’m talking about is the middle child. He’s married and has a 10-year-old daughter. In my opinion he is one of the most narcissistic, selfish, and arroga…

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…

Have we reached a tipping point with generational trauma? — So many people are just… so traumatized man. I’ve met way too many people over the years that are obviously stuck in a 4F response. I can’t imagine it was this bad when my parents grew up. Maybe it wa…

Asian Dad wants me to learn AI, then it clicked — My dad has been selling anxiety to me about AI, he thinks that I must take courses on AI or I'll lose my job. He forces me to watch videos about Elon musk on AI. Then when I use AI to summarize the vi…

My parents raised me to just serve people — I'm 22(F) and have moved away from my parents place but might have to go back because it has become too expensive to live alone and my parents bought a bigger house so it would all work out for me if …

For the adult children with emotionally immature parents.. now what? — Okay, we've established our parents are emotionally immature and neglectful. They don't care to know us as adults but they expect us to care about them. Now what? Is this just how it is now? …

You are God. — you can manifest anything and everything. I say this as someone who has been into this community since i was 10. I used to try manifesting height, weight loss, friends, parents to stop arguing, everyt…

Did any of your parents purposely scare you? — My cousin had an anecdote a few years ago (he’s a bit older than me) where me, my Dad and him were at the motorway services. Apparently I was in the toilet a bit longer than them, my Dad and cousin we…

effects of social isolation in childhood (as an adult). This is insane and i’m not crazy right? — I was a prisoner for lack of a better term. I went to school, the store, and home. I can’t tell you how long i spent in my room alone or else i’d need a strait jacket for both of us. Day in a…

Effexor 25mg — Has anyone gone from Prozac to Venlafexine? My dad is on Venlafexine so I hope it works similar for me. If you look at my post history, you will see that Prozac was horrible on my bladder and caused …

I feel like certain people latch onto me and drain my energy—how do I handle this? — Hey everyone, I’m brand new to all of this, and I’m hoping for some guidance. I’ve always noticed that, at different times in my life, I’ve had specific individuals who seem almost obsessed with linge…

I have a deep desire to be taken care of by my boyfriend like my dad takes care of me — Anyone else in a similar boat? I know it's wishful thinking and might never happen. Maybe I should snap out of it.

i manifested moving after 5 years in an RV — so to give a little background, I moved into an RV with my dad in 2021 of January. We have lived in this RV ever since and there’s not much space and I’m somebody with a lot of energy that likes to da…

Lost my mom, not sure where to go from here and looking for guidance — Sup guys, So at the end of December, my mom passed away. The last couple of years, I chose to live nearby, and my life somewhat was revolving around my mom. After she passed, everything feels numb, m…

Calling AM on her bluff, even if it means she becomes homeless — \*\*\*\*Warning this contains Abuse, this is not for everyone if you’re under 18 please do not continue reading this. I’ll try to make it brief. My AM was a single parent of 5 kids. That’s where he…

Anybody else had a father that was physically there but wasn’t emotionally present like AT all? — Growing up my dad was just physically there and just provided. He never hugged me, told me he loved me, he just been stone cold. We are in the same house, with 0 connection. He never sat and gave me a…

Idk how to process this plz help — I’ve gone literally my whole life without having any family members pass away and all of a sudden in the last 4 months, half my family has either passed away or is on the verge of passing. My grandpa …

This was so helpful to me. I’d be interested to learn more about the potential effects of a parent who was always physically present, but whose emotional availability varied to extremes for the first …

Ok- I dunno how to approach this. My parents did *not* talk about feelings. Still don't-- small town German-Irish silence. I never once witnessed conflict resolution-- just behind the back bottling an…

I was neglected from birth till, well, now, and have CPTSD for 28479227392 reasons related to my parents and to other experiences. I don't think focusing on blame is useful. I can't blame my one paren…

Much better at dealing with my emotions. I think of her every hour and it's been 11 months. My birthday was 2 days back and she didn't wish me. Sucks how easily replaceable/forgettable iam ,did I not…

So I want to post in this sub as an adult child of divorce, but I know some of my takes will probably come across as personal to the parents here going through divorce and so I don’t know how to post …

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

Childhood trauma doesn't always look like yelling or hitting; people mistake this a lot. You can have a lovely attentive parent who still didn't teach you emotional regulation, sent you in time out in…

Thanks for being understanding. My home environment wasn’t safe my dad once threaten to “spilt my head open” while he was drunk and I’m pretty sure my mom never loved me in a real sense, but no one sh…

Well, i can share, why not? It's not a big secret. My both parents really love me, but they both were extremely unstable during me growing up. With my mom it would go from obsessive love to silent tre…

Thank you for your perspective! It sounds close to truth for me but only with the partners that start getting gradually cold. I don't remember panicking like this with my AA ex🤔 About my parents - no…

It sounds the underneath cause could be codependency - the consistently over extending yourself and pouring your love, time and energy into others with, at times, at least being asked. The resentment…

The second to last paragraph here is so important. I didn't truly start healing until I realized that I was treating relationships like they were something I could react correctly to rather than corre…

I’ve been dating my guy for 5 months. He has been extraordinary. Patient, kind, loving, basically says all the things my soul has been dying to hear. He reached out to me, and by date number 2 said he…

Friend is distancing and I’m not sure how to correctly deal with it. I very much believe I have an anxious attachment style and it’s very closely linked with my BPD and OCD. In the past year, I bec…

I’m listening to this on Spotify! It’s brought up so many things I’ve never even considered. One of the most thought provoking trauma books I’ve ever read. My dad walked out and never came back and my…

Amen! I'm a 59F dealing with parents 84 and 85. I'm an ambivert/othrovert. My dad keeps thinking he's "the man" of the family. He was when I was a kid, but as soon as alI moved out on my own, I became…

I work in the tourism industry. Over the last year, I became extremely close to a coworker. We went through a lot together — long tours, stressful days, emotional breakdowns, late-night calls, comfort…

My experience? My dad fits the clinical definition of NPD; my sister, BPD; and at least one of my exes was diagnosed BPD. I went down the diagnostic rabbit hole after that. Oh, and I'm completing a p…

Thank you for this. In the past year I (35) have come to understand myself as neurodivergent (almost definitely autistic, maybe ADHD as well) and am now struggling to heal from the end of what was a v…

Hi all - this could be considered a graphic post. Just FYI. I wanted to introduce myself and say why im here. My first memory is of being used as a human shield by my dad when cops pulled a gun on him…

I get what you mean but I’ve often found that people who grew up with a secure, nice family who are secure tend to have a lot of empathy and understanding about mental health problems. My dad is ver…

I carry so much shame because of my avoidant attachment. I recognize how it interferes with emotionally connecting with my partner. In 2025, I was dealing with my dad's death, unemployment, and changi…

Is this weird to tell a guy? I sent it to the guy in question.... Your reputation/social-influence is far reaching 🤭 this conversation happened at the dinner table: Me: telling my parents about a…

I'm (31F) my parents' only daughter and also the youngest child. My dad is in his late 70s and luckily in good health. But I get anxious knowing that because of the horrible dating culture, he might k…

I think it’s the social setting of where I live where I feel the pity. Just the way my friends (not all!) talk about it. Even during Christmas my dad said my mom was crying because she’s the only one …

I’m 40, my gf is 39. We live together. We spend a ton of time together. I WFH on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Fridays. She’s a teacher and gets home every day around 3:30. So M-T she curls up next to me on …

My parents got together in their 20s and are now in their 70s; they are like this now that they are retired and generally we’re mostly like this while raising us. My dad worked full time and would go …

Having learned from my dad, I enjoy an occasional round of golf, but I totally get why it turns people off, especially women. For me, it's not golf the sport, but golf the culture: the private clubs, …

So I recently learned that everyone has their own love language. There are 5 and it sounds like you two are the spending time together one. In order for any person to be fulfilled in any relationship …

I started dating a guy, about half a year ago, I'm not sure when exactly. We both have kids.. When my partner met my kid, my ex was there, my ex was aware, my ex and I communicated about this relati…

I celebrated Valentine’s day by going on a solo date to the local coffee shop ❤️ I brought a new book with me and read 50 pages before I ran into someone I knew! It was really nice. Then I went to the…

Well me, I don't find it really strange though. My dad got married and had kids when he was 34 years old so in my mind your 30's has always been the age range when you "settle down" in life.

Same with my dad. He peaced out on an arranged marriage for my mom. 

I met my ex in February 2022. He impacted me more than I could ever have imagined. I was arrogant and full of pride and it bit me in the ass when I realized how much I actually cared and also realized…

I get this new persons PoV. I think your friendship as it is, is imposing on a romantic relationship. I think it’s fair for the new gf to expect your friendship will have to change now that he is in a…

I just got out of a relationship with someone I have been on and off with for about three years. The relationship ended the first time because they pulled away as my dad was dying and made the situati…

It's been almost a month since my dad died, and I thought I would be okay, but last week was probably the most depressed I've ever been. My dishes and laundry were out of control, my apartment was a m…

Just had a mutual breakup earlier this week after our one year anniversary, because I loved him and he told me he still wasn’t sure about how he felt. I am notttt looking forward to my upcoming week…

A long time ago, I asked my mom if she would ever remarry if something happened to my dad. She thought about it for a second and then said “Nobody else would understand our inside jokes.” I do think p…

1000% this. Ok I will admit I do not “approach” anyone. It is so rare I see someone out that I am into. But I basically talk to everyone out and about. This works well for a lot of reasons. I get f…

I use whole sign houses so this will all line up. Scorpio rising at 12°01’ conjunct Mars at 9°20’ and Pluto at 11°16’. I mention this because my chart ruler in both traditional and modern astrology i…

That part is honorable. I was raised by a single dad who did his very best. However, what truly made an impact in my life is seeing how he treated women and how much he respected women, including my …

I got some much needed stress relief with the guy I've been hooking up with for the last month. I've asked him if he likes to be called anything in the bedroom and he said he doesn't. Tonight a tiny p…

Yeah my mom was telling me how her friends have asked if she’d ever be open to love again (my dad passed away a few years ago) and she said she could see herself falling in love with someone. Maybe tr…

I want to tell my boyfriend that I'll always prioritise my BFF over him in a way that doesn't sound rude or dismissive. He's disappointed that I chose to spend next Sunday with her instead of him (she…

As a bloke, I recommend utilizing things you detailed above… “You’re the best guy I've ever met and I'm in love with you. It is also true that my BFF has been part of my life for the last 24 years. …

I feel this. In 2020 moved to another state and moved in with my dad. The plan was to stay with him for several months while I established myself there. Like I didn’t really know anyone and I didn’t …

My dad was separated and in the process of divorcing when he started seeing my mom. They're still together.

My folks were separated, with no chance of getting back together, for nearly a decade before they got divorced. They finally signed the papers so that my dad could get remarried. So, I think that co…

Thanks, it makes me feel good not to be judged here. I only have an issue with racial preferences when people (men or women) put other races on a pedestal and talk bad about them. My younger brother a…