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Update: Tried to set boundaries, now they want to be paid 25k — It's been a few months since my \[last post here\] (https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/s/lXVFmvyxxM), but its mostly come to a resolution. I wanted to do an update because I got some really …

I was partially refunded for a 13$ order on Shop a day or so ago, but the order status still says “Ordered” instead of “Partially Refunded”? — I also haven’t received an email confirming my refund. Is it processing or what? I’d atleast expect my order status to update. I am in contact with the seller, and I cancelled the order, he partially…

Freelancing rates — Hey all, I built a site for my side job (assembling furniture for taskrabbit) and was thinking of offering to build similar sites for fellow taskers if they’re interested… What’s the going rate for …

I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…

We should keep in mind that its a spectrum.. — I realized something in my relationship and it is not much shared in this way so maybe it helps someone else I am anxious and my fiancee is avoidant. He is very introverted and trying to deal with hi…

Signs.. but am I interested now? — I stay in india and sp stays in canada and been struggling to get him back for a while and then slowly started losing interest.. turned towards myself.. on new-year eve I did some powerful affirmation…

Knowing the exact time when waking up - psychic or circadian? — Recently again I keep waking up at VERY different times every single day (anywhere from the range of 7am to 11am - UPDATE: actually 3-11am as covered later in the post) and as I'm laying there in tha…

What is this hair style called and how to mantain it? — [https://www.tiktok.com/@12pell/video/7275444596438584619?lang=en](https://www.tiktok.com/@12pell/video/7275444596438584619?lang=en) Is this style called side-swept? How do I tell the barber? Do I ne…

27F discouraged by low income 27M — Hear me out I know that sounds harsh. We are married with 2 kids and have been together since we were 18. We both work full time plus I have a successful side hustle. I just crunched the numbers and f…

Breakup with my partner and best friend — Its one of the first time im using reddit so im hope it'll be alright. I've had a best friend. He's been my confident for 10 years, he was my safe person, I was relying on him for everything. 3 year…

Is this lucid dreaming or is it SP? — Put this in a few subs cause I’m starting to get curious about what’s going on with me. About six years ago, I experienced something unusual while lying in bed fully conscious but with my eyes closed…

IF YOU ARE 30+ USING NC — If you’re 30+ using the “no contact” method as a means to “Get your ex back”, DON’T. This is long. I just met up with my ex for the first time in 3 months. I was nervous, worried & genuinely conce…

How do I know what is my attachment style and how to change it properly? I have heard it a lot that it helps — I get attached too quick and put all efforts from my side even when other party does not reciprocate and I keep chasing until the dead end.

Midlife dating plot twist I didn’t see coming… (I have breast cancer 🙄) — I was only just musing recently about how sexy midlife dating is.. His suspected sleep apnea, my post-three-big-babies body (haemorrhoids, saggy boobs!)… all the glamorous stuff. And now I’ve just b…

Asian Male - looking for advice on my face and head — Something I noticed about myself is that my front profile (even if it’s better than my side) is pretty asymmetrical, and my side profile is really bad. I never liked my side profile but I can’t look a…

​Husband (46M) keeps "helpfully" rearranging, hiding, and disposing of my (46F) stuff--what tactic or wording can I use to stop it? — **​I'm getting private messages now so I'll add: please don't repost or use this anywhere else.** TL/DR: husband keeps "helpfully" rearranging, hiding, and disposing of my stuff--what tactic or wordi…

I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward — I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward I’m 36 and feel like I completely blew up my life and I’m struggling to move forward. I was in a 3.5 year relati…

I successfully manifested my SP after 6 months NC and a high paying part time job — For context so you can understand my situation pre- manifestation. I Had an amazing boyfriend, great self concept and I was absolutely happy, looked amazing, and had a lot of friends, I was loved from…

First provoked exit from the body, Raduga method, smart band analysis — Yesterday afternoon I received a smart band with a vibrating alarm on my wrist so as not to wake my partner. I had previously experienced two spontaneous OBEs within a 2-3 month period, but I had neve…

The gap between what I think I spend time on and what I actually spend time on was the most uncomfortable thing I've learned about myself — I've been on a self-improvement path for about 2 years. Read the books, built the morning routine, set quarterly goals, the whole thing. But a few months ago I did something I'd never tried before. I…

I (24F) am pregnant by my (27M) boyfriend after a toxic relationship full of love bombing, lies, and sexual assault. I feel like i have no way out. What should I do? — Hi Reddit, I don’t even know where to start, but I’m at my breaking point and I really hope you can help me. I’m 24, my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for two years and have been living togethe…

Swinging I think has ruined my marriage — Throwaway account for obvious reasons. My husband and I have been together for 13 years, have two kids (10 and 8). I first found out my husband was into swinging (only on my side) after I had my first…

Am I doing the right thing? F42, — So I'm 42 female.. been engaged for the last 4 years..to a great guy.. but from day one there hasn't been the intimacy there from my side.. I fell for his caring and funny side but over the years the …

I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically (Update) — Hello everyone excuse any grammatical errors or spelling im a little tipsy at the moment. I wanna start this with a trigger warning there is attempted suicide involved so if you can't take that stuff …

My fiancée just left me and I need help knowing where I went wrong… — My fiancée abruptly left me and then blocked me everywhere… I’m Allie (29F) and my ex fiancee is Kylie (32F). We were in a long distance relationship (she lives in France), but we would travel to see…

How to deal with anxiety? — I am going out next weekend with my friend to an event my ex could possibly be at, if they are there it would be my first time seeing them since the breakup 4 months ago. I haven’t had any contact wit…

Questioning ending a long term relationship — I (25F) am starting to question ending a long term relationship with my boyfriend (26M). We have been together since December of 2019, so about 6.5 years.  To give some background, I moved across the…

3 months of no contact and I still can’t let go. What should I do? — I’m Mia (20 y.o) and I have clinical depression. My ex Daniel (19 y.o.) and has the same diagnosis. English is my second language, so sorry if something is hard to read, an also sorry for such a huge…

Me (M21) and my gf (F21) broke up and no contact — You’re probably reading this wow another break up story with the same details. Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up. We’ve had prior issues and mostly with me and that was because I wasn’t really …

How to fall asleep on your back without choking — Hello! So I have been trying to shift for quite a bit now and for all of this time whenever I meditate on my back it works really well and I feel floaty and everything but then my jaw and tongue relax…

Issues from anger stops me from building long-term connection — NOTICE: I'm sharing a ton of information, and self-assessment so expect this to be long I've come with alot of friendships from schools, outside, and many things that allows me to potentially have fr…

Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …

Re edit: what do I do how dumb am I — \*Original post taken down I think I was too detailed, I’m really sorry🤦🏽‍♂️\* 21M struggling after breakup with 21F (6-year on/off relationship) – feel like a lot happened but I still want her bac…

I(19M) feel like I’ve lost my girlfriend(19F) even though we’re still together — TL;DR: I made mistakes early in the relationship (past flirting, not being fully transparent), which broke my girlfriend’s trust. Since then she’s become distant, says she lost feelings, and gives unc…

Indian Parents and their control over Children! — I'm a 23 year old women, I somehow wanted to speak about this! wanted to know If I'm not alone in this world. I'm a grown up adult now, due to strict parenting in my childhood here I am having lot's …

My ex (30F) and I (30nb) broke up 6 months ago and I want to vent about it — After dating for almost 2 years and living together for 6 months my ex broke it off and I had to move out. I am a trans nonbinary person (AFAB) and the day we met my ex knew I would be pursuing gender…

No contact after infidelity — Hello, my gf (23) and I (m25) have broken up after a 5 year relationship because I cheated on her. Twice. 1st time in 2024 and second last February. Because of depression, addiction to weed and lack …

I think I’ve been minimizing what I’ve been living in because it wasn’t “bad enough” — I don’t really know how to say this cleanly. I think I’ve been telling myself for years that this is just a “difficult marriage,” and I don’t think that’s true anymore. But if I’m actually honest, m…

Help me to help him understand my side of things please — Am I wrong for feeling this way? Me 19F and my ex 20M had been together for 11 months. The night he broke up with me he told me he still loved me and that there was still a chance we could get back to…

What should I do? — Guys the situation is: I live together with my boyfriend for 5 years now, total in relationship is 6 years. My boyfriend (35m) suffers from severe insônia for months straight now, he is doing very b…

About to leave a long-term codependent enmeshed relationship and wondering how others handled talking about it with soon to be ex. — I’ve been reading here for a while but this is my first time posting. I’m not asking for advice, but I would really value hearing about others’ experiences in similar situations. About two years ago,…

Constantly discouraging parent — My mom is always discouraging me. When i wrote my ACCA exams she always said that dont get to ahead of yourself its not like you run the world or you have completed yet. When i did complete she was ha…

My Narc is attempting a PFA on me — Me ( 24 F) and my narc (24 F) have been together for five years. The relationship was good up until 2 years ago when the abuse started. I don’t even know what to think but i’m not surprised. My narc …

I feel overly attached to my therapist and I don’t know how to handle it — I think I’ve become really attached to my therapist, and it hurts more than I expected. He’s genuinely important to me and our relationship feels very emotionally significant on my side, but I keep g…

I have this question all the time, and would someone, PLEASE answer it?! Why my body isn't there whenever i astral project? And why I can see in the dark, although my room is pitch black darkness? — I didn't planned to astral project, just awake up to do something else entirely, because for some unknown reasons when I tried to astral project multiple times in the past 2 years, I usually end up…

The early signs and red-flags to look out for with a covert narcissist. — Hi all, I'm making a list of signs/traits of covert narcissism to be aware of, feel free to add to this. When the covert narcissist entered my life, I had no idea what I was looking at. I noticed …

The pain of anticipating a divorce — How do you deal with the pain of knowing divorce is the only outcome of this marriage? Me and my husband have been married for 8 months. It was semi-arranged, but we both met and hung out multiple ti…

Am I (f18) falling out of love? — \*\*TL;DR;\*\* : I don’t know how to deal with my situation with this guy I’m with: am I not in love with him? Or do I just don’t know what it feels like. So I’m with this guy my age right now, and h…

Is there a way you can revise the past? — I (29) worked a really toxic job for years in my 20s. I was being mistreated and bullied. I don’t want to repeat the insults or anything here but I wasn’t alone and many people have been fired like I…

M21 turning 22 It's been 3 years I joined different universities I did the most wanted specializations — three years I fucking study my first year every time the same problem pattern happens and its so frustrating the pattern is (before commitment no substance abuse nor Gfs after I enroll and start study…

My big problem with WILD 1- i do WBTB 2-i stay up for 30 minuites 3-i lay on my side and relax saying my head "i am lucid dreaming " 4-i get the visuals , soon they evolve into visual , tactile and a…

The Guardian today [ps. I'm a totally lucid dreamer though can't choose what I dream, however every night is movie night and as graphic, in colour and sometimes I can change the dream by waking or sle…

Quick qustion last night i was kinda in the weird state of hallucnation not sleep parlyisis but after that i somwhat woke and i thing it was sleep parlyisis but then i heard somthing say you were alwa…

Thank you so much for saying this. I said some things, calmly and collectively to my soon to be ex husband last evening, which were all true, but reflecting back today I wondered if he may have thoug…

Intensity and pain. Fight or flight response. Neediness/avoidance and push pull from my side. All the FA behaviors.

looks clean. idk if its my side or what, but the animations are a bit laggy

Not sure I agree. I am a classic AP, and I would definitely say that about my last relationship if perspective partner would ask me. With my ex, I was trying really hard (in reality, it was just crazy…

well we talked about staying in touch when i wished her on birthday. she said that we had a geniune bonding, you know me very well, and you can talk to me if you want. So we just started staying in …

I'm a female DA with a male AP. I have never loved anyone before so I don't want to mess this one up (again lol), and I've been working on my style for 5 years now. I was truly a hopeless case before…

My ex and I broke up 7 months ago.. we never fought and his reasoning was he felt we were too different (we were together for 2 years).  I was crushed... he stated he felt he needed to end it so that …

"he stayed by my side, holding me, which is nice and usually what i need" - if you think this person is emotionally neglecting their partner, you aren't reading clearly and taking into account BOTH pa…

We started talking about these things once we became official. She told me herself about a small trigger that she has (she sometimes leans to anxious as well). And I told her that I attach anxiously…

M30 Hooked up with my ex f28 this last weekend after having not seen each other for 1 year. We only dated for 1 year to that prior but it was a fantastic relationship and neither of us has really done…

Great advice! Thank you so much. The audio is of me singing! I just cant share that. I also have a photo of me playing bass, but maybe I should use another because even though the photo is stellar, yo…

Chance in the future? Did I mess this up? Is there a chance in the future? How to stop thinking of someone you never dated? I (f in my 30s) connected with a m in his 30s on hinge. We both seemed v…

I pursue my interest, have so much to read and apply. I wouldn't mind having someone by my side and I've met really amazing humans so can't complaint. My reason is the modern dating culture as it gets…

yah i’m pretty sure it’s just old wounds on my side. hard to trust your own judgement when you’ve made some pretty bad errors in the past.

I was with my girlfriend for 5 years total, we got married last year, and the divorce is just being finalized now. 6 months of marriage, haha. She made a decision that effectively ended the marriage, …

How do I bring up the frequency of sex? I really don’t know how to mention it. M30F30 Been dating a girl for 5 months and we’re exclusive and despite her living very nearby, we have only had sex once…

I’ve gotten over it once and right after I did she came back, I genuinely did think I was using logic in what I did *because* I laid out my criteria for her returning. I didn’t expect her to honestly,…

For a number of years I had a friend who I helped during a tough time in his life. He probably has undiagnosed autism or some other issue, but I was happy to assist him. I gave him a job, spent time…

I have mutual friends with my ex. Found out he got so drunk on Valentine’s Day he got kicked out of the party, scared a bunch of women off, blocked his friends from meeting women, then tried to go to …

I (31/m) didn't date for 4.5 years, a dry spell which ended a little under two months ago when I started seeing this girl. Now we've been seeing each other for 6-7 weeks. I met her friends, we hang ou…

Yeah. I loved him as a person despite his many flaws. I felt amazing when I was with him and so attracted to him. But I felt so much pain when we were apart and he didn't love me back. We were only to…

Two more phone chats today then finished with this round. 15 matches, I swipe with pretty much everyone as I only know from interacting if we'll get along. 5 unmatched me when I asked early on if they…

That’s the only thought i have for now. He probably cheated and didn’t want to look bad, he cares a lot about his image. And he did tell his family and friends that we fought too much and i never app…

I exposed my narc. I wasn’t at all concerned about appearing bitter. After what I went through, I don’t care one little bit what people think about me. He absolutely lost his mind. He accused me of r…

When I was still with mine, I eventually told my family what was going on. That he was trying to control what I wore and other unreasonable things. And then I told him that my family knew what had bee…

> Personally, what I do is weigh the cost of my actions on myself and others, and when there is a net gain that's what I do. So I hold the door open for a stranger whose arms are full, because it cost…

I think the first one is really fun because of the potential and the unknown factor. I think most of my first dates are always fun for the other person. I may not be having fun, but I am engaging co…

I get what you’re saying. I did spend a long time trying to understand things from his perspective, blaming myself for everything. But even understanding that, I still feel like these were things we…

Awesome story, I’ve just been getting into manifestation and Neville Goddard. How specific does the manifestation have to be? I’ve been trying to manifest a job in a different city but Im fine with …

I had a really good childhood. Both my sister and I are dismissive-avoidant. Our parents were good parents, very supportive. The only thing I can think of is that they both worked a lot, and my sister…

I was meant to go out with this guy on Sunday but had to reschedule due to issues on my side. I immediately offered some alternate time suggestions because I didn't want him to think I was blowing him…

I too am sorry that you went thru this, Admirable. My children were 10 & 12 when their mom had the affair in our 12th year of marriage. She already had introduced them to her AP, and they hated his gu…

I had a persistent cough that was likely related to chronic inflammation. After taking NSAIDs, I noticed a significant decrease in my coughing and throat clearing. I also put a small air purifier in…

I called them yesterday from a friends phone they told me again to never contact them again, that they cannot be with me anymore how can someone who promised to stay by my side forever say this they k…

I’ve been using 100% of my side hustle income to pay it off.

I'm disabled - I nearly died earlier this year after bleeding around the clock for weeks. I've just had surgery to remove my colon & have a permanent stoma. I also have a heart condition and have to w…

He has an awesome mother and generally good parents . He will listen and understand if his mother talks to him . He must be near his parents . He talks bad words and thinks of everyone as an enemy gen…

I would be extremely hurt and upset as well. If you have been together that long and still miss being single for any reason, something is wrong. I've been with my partner 5 years and I could never i…

Same! It's awful. I just cut mine off after I told them I wanted to transition and they fully physically attacked my wife and I. But I absolutely know what you mean, when they only care once in a blue…

Wow thank you so much for sharing, I'm really sorry you went through that as well. The part about you painting his house, cleaning it, helping with the rental, doing all the real life stuff while he …

Life has been more than I could ever have imagined. I got a job I love that allows me to be home when my son is home. I have a house I can afford. And I finally have peace. I have amazingly supportiv…

Thank you so much. I’m 53 snd hubby is 54, married for 26 years. My kids are 24, 21, 19. They are all young women so they are devastated and on my side. Thank you so much for your encouraging words. G…

5 years ago I was just running from myself.. consumption of cheap dopamine media, CPTSD/Freezed/dissociated.. looking back you would even call me autistic how I behaved.. now 5 years later, amazing wo…

I was walking home when I was around 18 or so. It was winter in Germany, at night. Everything was snow covered, gray white, cars rushing by, and I suddenly found myself bathed in golden light from the…

All the time. My father liked to show me jumpscare videos as a very young child and laugh when I ran away crying. He also terrorized me with my fear of spiders. I remember one time he picked me up wit…

Thank God mine wasn’t THAT bad. But the entitlement was more than I could handle. The first thing she said when she moved into my house was that she’s sleeping on my side of the bed. I said I’ve been …

I'm 57m, and it has been 2 years 3 months. Divorce was final over a year ago. I had high hopes of finding someone to date, but it didn't happen. I was so worried that, I was too old to find someone, O…