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I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…
Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure. I have been involved in th…
Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…
I'm lucky enough to have turned my podcast into a full time job - here's what I wish I had known — Hey all! Love this community. I'm really blessed to have turned my podcast into a full time job, getting over 200k downloads across 15 episodes upon launch. I'm working on more seasons, but I have had…
The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Anyone Else Feel Relationships just Aren't for them? — Hello all, I'm basically pretty severely A.P. , & so far I've been unable to get close to anyone (romantically) in my life without just exploding with terror that I'll be abandoned (or feeling a stro…
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…
23 and feel stuck with no direction — I’m 23 and feel really lost and stuck in life. I’m in a good relationship and I’m grateful for that, but mentally I’ve struggled since I was a kid. I had really bad anxiety starting around age 8–9 an…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
SELF-CONCEPT BLOCKS MANIFESTATIONS! Here's my quick fix — Feeling unworthy of receiving what we want is the dominant vibration even though we've affirmed 300 times "I am worthy!" It's our self-concept silently preventing our greatest desires! Even though i…
Heavy energy/projection in living space — I keep experiencing, on a daily basis, unbearable heavy energy (from the little I've learnt, and I have learnt a lot) it feels like a projection of some kind. I have learnt and grown about myself abo…
I (31M) have a situation with an aunt (70F) where she thinks she is my handler, she won't back off whenever I tell her to knock it off. — I'm just curious if my pushback is the only solution, or if I need to rethink my approach with this aunt, I'm going to use my sister's wedding night to paint the picture of what I've dealt with all my…
Why is my relationship with money so fraught? — REPOST: edited and reposted with WHOLE SIGN chart. Context: I was raised in scarcity, have always been rather lucky though and have had access to other people's money in my adult life. particularly …
self concept got me my dream life — This is a rant, but this is a confirmation that self-concept is real and it's what changes your life. Self-concept is something that you shouldn't convince yourself of. Self-concept is something you b…
Coworker with anxiety simply stopped talking one day — I don't have anxiety disorder myself. But in Dec I randomly started talking to a coworker from another team (our work and teams are completely unrelated to each other) who does. Apologies in advance f…
SSRI Time! — After almost 3 years of CBT and SO much growth and progress, I am still struggling to feel a healthy balance of calm and energized/motivated. My healthcare provider and therapist believe my fight-or-f…
Unable to forget what I (20F) saw on my bf’s (24M) phone — I 20F was unfortunate enough to run into my bfs 24M porn collection on reddit (lol). Although, this not being the main issue. For context, we’ve been together for about 2 years now and met through …
Perimenopause and dating — For the ladies. I'm 40F. I'm oh so very lucky that I'm going through perimenopause early. 😑 TBH, I feel ugly these days. My face has changed in the last year and I'm gaining a little bit of weight,…
Why I am so unlucky in love and always alone?
18 months after my husband’s affair and the “ick” just hit. Has anyone ever gotten attraction back after this? — About 18 months ago I discovered my husband had been having an 3 year long emotional affair with a coworker that he admits he was actively pursuing. We decided to try to reconcile. To his credit, he …
My ex called me a “walking green flag” when we first started dating, and then I ruined it all — I can’t live with myself. I hate how relationships sometimes bring out the worst in people. I went from the best boyfriend (my first relationship too) and now it’s been 3 months since the breakup and …
was it "written in the stars" that i was going to be dropped on my head as a baby? (transit chart for the date and approximate time it happened) — my mom was taking me to my babysitters' house, holding me in one arm and diapers in the other when i threw my arms up and rolled out of her arms, landing on my head on my babysitter's driveway. it was…
People Pleasers Make the Worst Partners — I'm a Codepedent in Recovery. My partner is also a Codependent (Severe) and he's refusing healing and is a Chronic People pleaser. Being in a relationship with a people pleaser is exhausting. You sl…
UPDATE: How do I (28M) tell my girlfriend (28F) a prenup and keeping my inherited house separate are non-negotiable? — TL;DR: I had the conversation. She brought up moving in first. She completely agrees the house and inheritance should stay separate, supports a prenup, was impressed I’d thought it through, and confus…
A simple example of how narcissists create no win situations. — My fil is a narcissistic abuser. I want to mention he did MUCH worse things than what I’m depicting below. But the example is so simple I wanted to share for people who maybe stuck in similarly confus…
Are My Expectations Too High? — 46F who has been dating on and off for the past year or so after leaving a DB marriage. I have had minimal sex in the past 2 years. Most men seem to have ED in my age group and this results in sexless…
Is my saturn placement considered unlucky? And how to use it for my own benefit? — People say that we should learn how to work with saturn not against it so I need to know how to work with this placement and make the best of it? And is it considered an unlucky placement?
I got into medical school but my mother is still ashamed. — I (24f, Filipino) recently got accepted to medical school away from home. For context, I had a conditional acceptance for my local medical school that did not work out in the end. After 3 cycles and 4…
How to FEEL like you have your desires — it’s really simple but these coaches and influencers are teaching it in a way to keep you hooked and invested in them. the amount of money you have now? wow you’re so lucky you have that! some people…
5th house sag stellium, yet unlucky? — I have a Sagittarius stellium in the fifth house that includes Pluto yet I often feel so unlucky, broke & depressed & I also have fomo😐
5th house stellium yet unlucky? — I have a Sagittarius stellium in the fifth house that includes Pluto yet I often feel so unlucky, broke & depressed & I also have fomo😐
“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…
What does Marcus Aurelius mean by “misfortune” and “good fortune” in Meditations 4.49? — I’m having trouble understanding what Marcus Aurelius means by “good fortune”/"good luck" and "bad luck"/“misfortune” in *Meditations* 4.49. From Robin Waterfield translation: >Be like a headland: th…
Question for AM: did your parents encourage you to socialize / date early? If you are a father, what's your opinion on early socialization / dating? — I think I was too harsh on my parents growing up but I realize now that my mom went out of her way to find me a Chinese girl to be my playmate which sort of was pretty radical by Asian American standa…
How do I deal with a non-virtuous past that led to a good and comfortable present? — Hello everyone, In the past months I have been studying Stoicism (I have read the Discourses, Meditations, and now I’m on my way through the Seneca letters). I, however, wanted to have an opinion on s…
For anyone who struggles to believe in Manifestation. Read this. — (Apologies in advance for the long post) Okay so I used to be that person who would physically cringe when someone said “manifest it.” Like, I get it. The whole world around this thing is just deepl…
Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…
I think I’ve been having my first experiences - looking for a bit of guidance from the community — Over the past couple of years my view of reality and the world has shifted quite a bit. I’ve done a lot more exploring of the spiritual side of life and feel I’ve really “woken up”. I’ve had a couple …
Narc mum's (horrific) reaction to my gf's pregnancy — I’m 35M and recently found out my girlfriend (we’ve been together \~6 months, known each other \~12) is about 7 weeks pregnant. We live together in my property, we have jobs, we're secure enough, and …
My boyfriend is way more attractive and out of my league — I stepped out of the shower and saw my boyfriend had sent me a shirtless pic- he has that David Laid physique- all lean, muscles and abs. Then I looked at myself in the mirror. The comparison hit me a…
I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. — \*\*\*UPDATE\*\*\* After a long 3 days my results came back and they were all negative. I, of course, told my boyfriend and he was relived much like I was. He was supportive of me and he apologized …
Why are koreans so class/status conscious? — \*\* here, 'koreans' mean korean-koreans or first gen korean immigrants, not korean americans who tend to be more chill in my experience. I'm a first gen immigrant. I'm posting it here in a hope to ge…
How to get over wanting love and relationships — Before, I was asking how to find love and a relationship, nowadays I realize its just not gonna happen. I used to believe there was someone for everyone, but now I realize its bullshit because if that…
SATS, newbie results! $ — Hi everyone! I’m a long term manifester but very new to applying Neville. I have been watching loads of videos and am very inspired to apply the journey to a jackpot lottery win - because, why not! …
She did it on one of the worst nights of my life. — After having been the perfect girlfriend, always kind, supportive, caring, she went and hung out with her ex the night I found out my father had less than 24 hours to live. It was the best relationshi…
Anyone here unable to work due to Cptsd? — Hey people, I had to stop working due to CPTSD symptoms after working in the medical field for 12 years. I was stable, or at least somewhat stable, during that time, despite the stress of working w…
Getting your medicine right will make a big change. It didn’t cure my sadness and grief and fear and all the things that came with my new circumstances but when I finally got on the right dose of the …
Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …
Where is there more information on “the lucky few” whom for each dream they have, lucid dreaming is all that they experience? Has there been any research done on individuals like these, or are there o…
Yo. It’s a good kill. Congrats. This sub is a pretty straightforward place, so I’d like to politely ask how you feel this is a legit kill when it is just a lucky strike amongst a series of losses. …
You're welcome to ask. A lucky strike - that sounds just like an LOB effect to me, haha. Also, to answer "a gambler high off a win", I didn't specify my wins in the above pouncemonial, though have a …
Anecdotally, I am good at getting admitted to all-funded conferences, I used to say it’s just because I believe in it. Later on, I realized it turned into a pattern as I was lucky for getting into the…
I've been there! I'm bordering between being a DA and a FA, personally. For me, it happened somewhat quickly after I opened up to my therapist and it was i n t e n s e. Like, I had never in my life…
I totally relate to the awful feelings of seeing an avoidant ex move on super quickly while you are still reeling from the triggering and retraumatization of that relationship. Going through it right …
Hi there, i know it's only been a day, but are there any updates? Reading this, i feel a pit in my stomach for you and hope that he's just busy. It's almost like getting the news that someone you love…
It's actually not uncommon for stalkers to follow their targets when they move. It's advised to stay/move near support systems. This all happened to me 20 years ago and I did 13 years of therapy, whic…
made $100 on a tycoon game once. Basically, you learn to build one of the proven cash grab games and just try to theme it differently. If your goal is to make millions then you need a unique concept a…
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Thank you for your supportive words :) I am definitely still an AP, but in comparison to some years ago I am able to identify my patterns and self regulate my emotions much more. This is the big diffe…
I'm more FA but have definitely been in this situation when going on holidays. In my case I mainly needed space due to chronic illness, so I usually try my best to explain it to people politely - but …
Curious to know why you’d assume she felt pressured. Would you feel pressured? Just asking because like I said, did I get lucky? Is this really a solution to bridge the gap or is it a one off?
So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…
No, you didn't get lucky. I know it feels like a win, but look at how much thought and work you have put in to make a relationship barely functional. You say you don't want to fix her, but you do ever…
It can be the goal. But you don't wake up one day able to have secure attachment. Literally no one does. We all have to learn it. Lots of people are lucky enough to have had parents that taught them t…
> Better yet, many are up front and say they don’t want anything serious/don’t want a relationship. This isn't even an AT comment specifically, but imo ignoring people when they say this is just a re…
Thank you, and I'm truly sorry to hear you had to experience this. It's unfair... but these are the cards we've been dealt, I guess. I remember thinking, "I'm so lucky, I wish everyone could experienc…
Time to move on, dude... You're lucky you got the money you did. A lot of talented creatives never see a nickle from their work... at least in this lifetime. But you have, and obviously what you've do…
I’d say hear what he has to say but be VERY VERY VERY guarded He should consider himself lucky that you even consider it Either way, you owe this person nothing
This is true. I got rocked by a recent breakup with an avoidant i can't tell if he was dismissive or fearful. He told me all the time how much he loved me, lots of physical touch, told me how lucky he…
My ex and I have been apart almost four months. I realize now I'm fearful avoidant. When we got together, I actually kind of didn't want to. I had left my last relationship a few years before and felt…
If you would rather die than be single, something is very wrong with your perspective. It's not wrong to want a relationship either so I won't say things like "be happy being alone" (although you shou…
For those of you in romantic relationships, especially living together. I have a few questions for yall: 📝 How often does your partner text/call you during the day when you’re apart? Did you notice…
Thank you! He is the amazing one! He is so steady and so loving. I can't begin to explain how much he does for me. Our marriage is very happy; we communicate very openly and we both give each other a …
Don’t feel so bad. I wouldve bet my life I was DONE. Then my FA texted me “Hey” last week and he was in my bed an hour later. Dumb dumb dumb dumb… duuuuuuumb. Maybe consider yourself lucky they didn’…
Friend is distancing and I’m not sure how to correctly deal with it. I very much believe I have an anxious attachment style and it’s very closely linked with my BPD and OCD. In the past year, I bec…
You are an incredible human. Your daughter is so lucky to have you! Your future partner will be lucky to. Thank you so much for the vulnerability and sharing.
You are an amazing human. Your daughter is so lucky to have you.
About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…
"*Quiet does not equal danger.*" Oh gosh. Yes. I understand this. This is how my partner now reminds me to be assured of space, and with myself. What also helps is, both of our quirky nature and humo…
Kudos to you for doing recovery work. I was in a long on/off relationship with a DA until recently, and the biggest thing I learned is that secure attachment is only sustainable when both people activ…
Sorry to hear, that sounds like a very difficult situation. Based on my personal experience long-term deactivation is definitely a thing, but I was not long-distance so it looked completely different …
I'm just mad that I made so many excuses. Like a part of me *felt* that they were unreliable, inconsistent, and ultimately not safe. The other part of me just focused on how they were traumatized too,…
I'm confused, I'm distraught, I am lost. I've spent 10 months loving him, and learning him, and adjusting, and ignoring my needs for his needs, and the day I felt that something was wrong, I in fact w…
I think in my case, underlying childhood trauma was partially also why that marriage ever even happened, and with the earlier connections I just got lucky with the people I connected with. The later r…
Yeah I figured that out too. Though my childhood had no abuse or anything, there were just things about it that an avoidant narcissist personality really triggered things I never knew I struggled with…
If you can find a therapist who has a heavy interest and has also contributed to the research, I would recommend trialing them! General trauma based therapy is fine, but it always feels way too superf…
My (anxiously attached F) ex is avoidant. He left me in a blindsided breakup 3 years ago. We dated for 5 years and we lived together. He promised me an engagement ring, we had one at the store that he…
I’m FA with some DA tendencies, when I would deactivate it would look similar to what you described. Mine however used to last days at times. At first I didn’t realize I was doing it, I just thought I…
This is probably controversial - but I’m 31F and below average attractiveness. I kind of would love to talk to people similar to me about their experiences but also just sort of like wonder how do you…
Ooh sorry, it was more of a joke. I'm on some low calorie subreddits and all the cottage cheese/healthy cookies I've seen so far have been panned. But maybe you'll get lucky with a recipe!
I know you understand this, but I'll say it anyway in case it helps to see someone else say it: Yes, there will be evidence in favour of the negative image you have of yourself. The problem is once …
I'm lucky if I can get one first date per month.
Reply Goodbye and good luck. Look, I think she’s messing with you - trying to draw you in my pushing you away. If you send that response and get lucky, she will disappear. However, I think she’s b…
I feel extremely confused and don't know what to do. I honestly don't understand if I don't understand myself or what's going on. So the guy I am seeing came to my place yesterday's afternoon and st…
Just thinking about how the avoidant that I recently cut contact with told me his longest relationship was for 6 months, despite being 35 years old. Unlike my other friends, I only heard him mention …
I'm lucky to get one a month on hinge. and maybe only 1 in 5 matches will actually lead to a first date (since conversations fizzle out or they just don't respond to an opening message). Hinge has a w…