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I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…
My mother is super affectionate now that I'm an adult and she has dementia. It disgusts me. — My mother doesn't remember the screaming, my mother doesn't remember her calling me stupid everyday, she doesn't remember her telling me to get out of her house. She talks to me now in a baby voice, s…
Revision can alter physical incidents — It hasn't been long since I truly started grasping how magical revision is, and I just remembered an incident that happened a few months back last year that actually made the concept of revision sink …
Please help me: My husband did something he doesn't remember — I want to start by saying I love my husband I'm just so lost and I don't know what to do for myself or for him. When he was young he was sexually abused by a kid in his neighbourhood. He was around …
30M girlfriend of 1 year 29F Girlfriend kissed another man on drunken out. Where do i go from here? — My girlfriend and i have been together for about 1 year. The relationship has been mostly solid, with a few issues here and there. For context she is an INFP-T and I am an INFJ-A. Whenever one of us i…
30M girlfriend of 1 year 29F Girlfriend kissed another man on drunken out. Where do i go from here? — My girlfriend and i have been together for about 1 year. The relationship has been mostly solid, with a few issues here and there. For context she is an INFP-T and I am an INFJ-A. Whenever one of us i…
My (24m) Partner(23m) Sent Suggestive Snaps to a Past Hookup, and now I Don't Know if I Can Trust Him? — Throwaway, bc my bf knows my main account, sorry for the lengthy post. Me (24m) and my bf (23m) have been dating for a little over two years now. He has always been a bit "protective" of his phone, t…
Medical intuitive can only "tune in" again when I've paid for another session? Is this normal? Am I being played — Hello everyone so I made a post here yesterday as I think someone may have taken advantage of me but I'm not entirely certain. Anyway I saw a medical intuitive and she made a pretty bold claim relati…
That's annoying. My Mom does this. I'll tell her some information about something I find interesting, and then much later in a group setting, she will regurgitate what I've said without mentioning I h…
I don't want you to be more alarmed, but this is terrifying behavior. Tell him that if he truly doesn't remember sending these texts, then he's having a mental health episode and he needs to go to t…
Has he ever had an issue with drugs or alcohol? Head trauma? Any other time his behavior has been erratic or he's done something he doesn't remember doing?
My ex did the same thing! One thing he said that will stay with me forever: "The only thing we have in common is that we both love you." Emphasis on the last 3 words. Doesn't remember saying it.
The sad part is probably you are 1 of many and he probably doesn't remember you or your wife? You can get mad at him for what he did but who did you share vows with? You are mad at the wrong person bu…
I'm so sorry. It's hard when you realize that someone holds very different relationship ideals than you do. Your sister is actively going out of her way to distance herself from you. You're not only…
My mom doesn't remember anything, everything was fine with my childhood, she's a victim too. I struggle to let it go.
She's trying, she's been doing a ton of IC. Which is the only reason I haven't left. Biggest problem is getting the full disclosure. She was diagnosed bipolar, BPD, and DID.... so I can't tell i…
Finding those boundaries is hard!!! I (40f) just left my husband (43m) of 15 years under pretty similar circumstances 2 months ago. His mental illness comes from bi-polar and frankly I was terrified…
I'm so sorry. My sister's trauma response is not remembering anything from our childhood, but my trauma response is remembering absolutely every single thing. I talked to my therapist about that. We …
I was 9. I asked my dad if we could have a daddy-daughter date. He said yes. A minute later he said "actually, your brother told me not to make promises I don't plan on keeping so no. We can't have a …
First thing: take a rolled up newspaper and go find your so called "friend" and firmly slap his muzzle and tell him he is a bad dog. Just kidding about the above. I would tell all your mutual friends…
Oh. Yeah. She doesn't remember it so it never really happened. Just go about your business. Nothing to discuss here.
Listen to me. Just because you're in the same room with somebody, does not mean they get to use social norms as a weapon. Never be afraid of anybody. At these family gatherings, or anywhere else, you…
Hey. Sorry that you’re going through this. Your husband needs therapy, as well as his sister. I don’t want to diagnose anyone online, but there are strong undertones of a still-unresolved childhood…
Let me start by answering the questions posed: it is not wrong to help him or to want to help him. You are not a bad person and neither is he. It isn't wrong to trust him, as he's given you personally…
My mother is like this. She's always uninterested about what I'm saying, will attempt to block most things out then pretend she doesn't remember the next time a certain topic comes back up. She instea…
I would never get a tattoo with someone in mind unless it was my child or maybe a parent (if we were closer). Someone I know I will always love unconditionally. I will always love my child. I've bee…
Look, I've seen this pattern way too many times in the military - guys who seem totally normal until substances get involved. The thing about "he doesn't remember" is that alcohol doesn't create viole…
I volunteered for a DV hotline. This is the first step. It will escalate. Even if he doesn't remember it, he's now aware it happened. If you stay with him he will be aware it happened AND you're willi…
My father's side of the family are all dead except my grandmother, who has severe Alzheimer's and doesn't remember I exist. I am no contact with my mother's side, as they are all violent and drug abus…
I think a lot of the time we're very ready to categorize behavior as something it's not. Not saying that he isn't doing "weaponized incompetence", but if his behavior was something you categorized qui…
Very true- when I channel I tell the person to record it or write it down because I will not remember as the messages and impressions are not stored in me nor do I want the to be . So she is accurate …
Dude, you've basically got a meet-cute in progress! Seeing her in the park multiple times, plus you actually chatted about art? That's way more than most people get. Don't overthink the AirPods; they'…
Dude, this is like a rom-com waiting to happen. Honestly, just go for it. The dog is your wingman, and you've already broken the ice with the art comment. Worst case, she doesn't remember you, but at …
Apologising clears your guilt. Also don't beat yourself up. You've done what you could with the skills you had. Now as an adult you have the power to make amends. Even if she doesn't remember, acknowl…
I cut off my dad for 20 years and it was the best thing I have ever done for myself. He had a near death scare and I agreed to talk to him again, and he was not comfortable with my boundaries and was…
I'm so sorry to hear that. And even though you were only a 3 day old baby and your mind doesn't remember, your body probably does so I'm so sry about that. Yeah and for me at least I had stuff with …
This resonates with me a lot. My mother has admitted to purposely yelling more and egging me on after I started dissociating during her rage as a kid. She wanted to "get something out of" me. My mom a…
You hadn't talked about it seriously so he wasn't necessarily doing anything wrong. You are within your rights to not want a date a guy who watches **P**orn, but you don't get to make any rules that h…