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I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet.

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

r/AsianParentStoriespost3/21/2026
Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is?

Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…

r/web_designpost4/15/2025
My slut shaming parents

My slut shaming parents — A few months ago my parents saw my hickeys. This led to an awful fight in my family because they couldn't handle the thought of their 19 year old daughter having sex with someone. Me being me, I stood…

r/AsianParentStoriespost3/26/2026
I'm already behind in life at 18

I'm already behind in life at 18 — I wasn't sure which flair to use, because I think I need advice on a lot of things. I also want to preface by saying I do not blame any of this on my parents, schools, mental health, etc, and this was…

r/selfhelppost3/31/2026
Does anyone else get treated like a live in maid?

Does anyone else get treated like a live in maid? — They treat me like a fucking maid expecting me to clean up after them. I just finished cleaning the stove and I made it spotless. The next day there’s all kinds of sauce stains and shit all over the k…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/4/2026
Being pushed down my throat femininity and my parents basically bullying me

Being pushed down my throat femininity and my parents basically bullying me — (trigger warning Mention of suicide and child abuse this talk has just reminded me of some memories from my childhood. Sorry for this skip if this triggers you )My mom has always nagged me even in fro…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/6/2026
Trying to focus on me - but co parenting is getting to me

Trying to focus on me - but co parenting is getting to me — so I (35f) asked for a divorce about 3 and a half years ago - he (m52) was a deadbeat, and I felt like a single parent funding his laziness. I honestly feel like I'm still funding his laziness - slim …

r/Divorcepost4/6/2026
I [M30] have lost my desire to have sex with my girlfriend [F21], why is this?

I [M30] have lost my desire to have sex with my girlfriend [F21], why is this? — Well for starters, she is fairly innocent. She hasn't had that many partners. I have had many. I'm a lot older, and I've gone through phases of high sexual activity. I ended up going down that road an…

r/relationship_advicepost4/8/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud? — ⚠️UPDATE⚠️ I’d like to thank everyone for their rage first of all, because it was driving me absolutely nuts and i felt quite sane after reading everyone’s comments. I’d also like to say I have no int…

r/relationship_advicepost4/9/2026
Intimacy problems,can you relate?

Intimacy problems,can you relate? — (M31) I am totally disgusted by sex. People assume I always have someone around because I’m supposedly good-looking, but I’m repulsed even just talking about it; I feel weak, vulnerable, dirty. I don’…

r/CPTSDpost4/9/2026
“Respect your parents” hits different when you were scared of them your whole childhood.

“Respect your parents” hits different when you were scared of them your whole childhood. — I’m 30 years old. For most of my life, I thought my childhood was normal. I thought the heavy feeling inside me was just how life is. Now I’m starting to understand it wasn’t normal. And it wasn’t m…

r/CPTSDpost4/10/2026
Did I make the right choice ending things with my situationship?

Did I make the right choice ending things with my situationship? — I'm writing this post an ultimatum to myself that I won't think about this anymore. I (24 M) found myself falling in love with a (23F) and ended up having a situationship with her which I ended recent…

r/ExNoContactpost4/11/2026
He cheated after 6 years and blocked me everywhere(25f) (28m)?

He cheated after 6 years and blocked me everywhere(25f) (28m)? — I was in a relationship with this guy for a while and before that we were best friends. We met in college and we got super close over time. I was always closed off and never really talked to guys like…

r/ExNoContactpost4/12/2026
He cheated after 6 years and blocked me everywhere

He cheated after 6 years and blocked me everywhere — I was in a relationship with this guy for a while and before that we were best friends. We met in college and we got super close over time. I was always closed off and never really talked to guys like…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/12/2026
My Father Kisses Me on the Lips

My Father Kisses Me on the Lips — I‘m sure my father has no ill intent with this, but every night I’m required to say goodnight to my father and give him a kiss on the lips. I didn’t mind it much as a child but as I got older, I start…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/13/2026
Parents spending all of their inheritance

They have no intent of paying it forward. They have no intent of lifting up the next generation. I saw the same. My grandparents left money that helped them tremendously, while they squandered every…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/8/2026
I (28F) gave my boyfriend (29M) an STD and I can’t stop feeling so ashamed and guilty

Hey OP, something very similar happened to me. My boyfriend and I slept together once, I thought to get tested afterwards, and mine came back positive for herpes. He was also very kind about it. We'…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/8/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

I had a roommate who had never washed a dish in her life. Everytime I pulled dishes out they were slimy and dirty.  There were four of us so I didn’t know who the culprit was until I was talking to he…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
My mom flipped out on me for buying second hand clothes

you said it’s the most cleanest and good quality thrifted piece right? you could’ve lied and said it’s either brand new or a friend gave it to u. so that way you don’t run into issues like that again.…

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/13/2026
What can I do when my (20F) husband (20M) is convinced I cheated on him because I’m pregnant again and refuses to listen to me.

You , both, need REAL sex education. Condoms can & do fail (13% of the time). According to Planned Parenthood, “13 out of 100 people who use condoms as their only birth control method will get pregn…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
My (21F) girlfriend had a complete meltdown when I (23M) tried to use her phone

This is a green flag about you. Means your phone isn’t dirty. Nothing to hide. More couples should do this but people who want privacy usually aren’t clean. Something dirty in their phone to hide.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog?

Yeah, an excellent father wouldn't let the house get that dirty. He also wouldn't model outdated gender roles for his children. Or treat their mother like crap.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
I’m scared I’m the kind of mom people talk about here, even though I’m trying so hard not to be…

And my grandmother really was and is a lady not hyper sexual or dirty. I respect her so much. She is dignified and i think people today are so overly neeeeedy and sex addicted to the point where they …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/21/2026
Asking for STD tests?

A gentle reminder that having STI doesn’t make anyone dirty. Words matter.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
Asking for STD tests?

I’d absolutely require it and volunteer to get tested myself. I’ve only had two partners in my 47 years, neither who had anything to pass onto me. It doesn’t matter. It’s about showing respect and con…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
Asking for STD tests?

Judgemental is saying people with normal conditions that happen regardless of their moral character or behavior are dirty. The words do matter. To not understand that means a potential partner would b…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
Socrates said" the unexamined life is not worth living"

"Do you think it’s better to question everything, or just live and not think too deeply about it?"  The quality of my life, the quality of every day, the quality of this very moment, is immeasurably…

r/Stoicismcomment3/22/2026
Me 19m and my gf 20f ass stinks during sex can someone give me some advice?

I understand your pain. I once dated a woman who was 45, while I was 27. It was just for fun, but during our second encounter, she was undressing, and her panties were on the floor with the biggest sk…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
Breaking Through the Barrier

Yeah, that's one of the traditional ways of looking at it. For some people, it sure feels like a barrier. But, just like today where we get stuck in some meme and that filters our world view, people w…

r/energy_workcomment3/29/2026
"You have to be hungry enough for your desire"

Exactly!! See I've wrote in my comments. That junk spreads confusion conflicts on every post. That junk An insensible joker. Blocked me cause... I've always ready to give a savage reply. even another …

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/30/2026
Does anyone think that their parents view your primary purpose as to be successful so they could brag about you?

Yeah I went to go to the same schools as my cousins and have better grades so they can brag about how much better I am. I had to go to the same uni do the same bullshit degree just so they can have an…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/30/2026
29F 35M Bf giving me an ultimatum for not wanting a dog after 4yrs of being together

I recently broke up with someone who do not want a pet at all. I have a cat and when she expressed that concern at the start of relationship I did say that we can’t date. Not because I did not respect…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
What can I do to glowup? I don't get a lot of likes on dating apps genuinely

You are very handsome, imo. But you seem too tired and a bit dirty.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/2/2026
What's something your parents did to you that YOU had to apologize to them for that still makes you angry?

It's  a toss-up between  the time my father  flew off the handle and threatened my life over a staple in papers he blamed me for baselessly and my mother  wanted *me* to apologize because  he's under …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/2/2026
She wants the divorce but won't file. I feel stuck.

It's what the lawyers say. It removes credibility from "I filed for divorce because I feared for the safety of my children" type claims, if things get dirty. At least that's what "they" say.

r/Divorcecomment4/3/2026
Is diphenhydramine any good?

I thought it was unique, despite many people saying it's trash. I've done up to 400mg. If you're determined, you should starter smaller, like 150mg, and see how you feel, first. Space the doses by a…

r/Psychonautcomment4/3/2026
Do you still think about your ex?

It’s been 15 months I still think about her everyday. She did me dirty. There use to be a lot of sadness, greif hurt rage and pain when I look at her . Now there’s just a numbness I think about her da…

r/BreakUpscomment4/4/2026
I ‘28F’ Donated a kidney to my dad ‘52M’ and he hasn’t checked on me once

You know sometimes I think he once cared so much that he has nothing left in him. My mom got into drugs when I was fairly young, she was in and out the house, she’d steal money from him, ran his credi…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
I (49F)finally asked me spouse (50M) for a separation (after 20 years)and I am reeling a bit

I know. I’ve gotten that advice before. I have referrals for divorce attorneys and I’ve started documenting events and all of our bank accounts, etc. he is very controlling around finances and I am p…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Husband (28M) wants to cut off lifelong friend (28m) after he made AI porn of me (28F) How do we move forward?

please read The Gift of Fear. your conditioning as a female is the ONLY thing telling you to hear him out. that’s your brain overriding your body’s total rejection of this man’s behavior. girl he …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Husband (28M) wants to cut off lifelong friend (28m) after he made AI porn of me (28F) How do we move forward?

Lawyer up. Your husband did you dirty. Is that how a man who respects you acts?? That soooo fucked up. And there was AI porn of his mother?? Id be done.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
AITA: Body Odor

INFO: Why are you seriously dating a person who won’t shower before they see you? Regardless of allergy, there is no excuse for being dirty. How will you bring a stinky woman around friends and fami…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/6/2026
I feel trapped

You gotta believe in yourself, and show up dirty. Just gotta keep showing up. Taking care of yourself means doing things imperfectly

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/7/2026
Intimacy problems,can you relate?

No, it isn't, you’re right,but the idea that I was wrong even for doing it continues to haunt me. The last time I had sex, I did it just to make my partner feel appreciated and loved. I agreed to do i…

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
Intimacy problems,can you relate?

I can relate to this. I don’t really know when this happened for me, because of my early childhood experiences I was interested in sex very early. This was persistent until I got into a long term rela…

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
26f 27m Tired of arguing about chores

lots of guys live alone and keep their place clean. hes telling you that he isn't one of them and he doesn't care if its dirty. My now ex was that way so I refused to clean or cook for him. I only coo…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Trust your gut, even when your mind is unsure

Yeah. There’s some wild thrill for them with this kind of thing. My now ex had secretly arranged to meet HER ex and, when I caught her on the way there, she insisted I come meet him, too. She said the…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/11/2026
Why do people look for hookups after a long relationship?

Female here, the last year of my previous relationship was brutal and I left feeling so small and lost. 2 months post breakup I slept with someone. I know the guy was plumping me up with attention and…

r/BreakUpscomment4/11/2026