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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Making the entire website a fixed-width — This is probably a stupid question, so I apologize in advance. I am working on a website for my dad that he had someone create back in 2013. Everything is fine so far, but the only problem is that he …
Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically — 1. We exist. But our existence is dependent. We as physical beings, did not cause ourselves. 2. Everything we observe in the universe is also dependent. Stars, planets, people, and everything else we …
Is matchmaking before marriage really important? — So my boyfriend and i decided to improve our relationship status aka get married. But our matchmaking point is only 13. Is it really important? Or i am just overthinking? Is there anyone who got marr…
Woke up today feeling awful — Today is my 48th birthday. I woke up feeling like a complete loser. My ex wife left almost 4 years ago. I knew we had some issues but nothing to level of divorce. She never mentioned it. Our daughte…
Broke up with me because his father didnt want him to be distracted from his career. Why cant I forget him? — As the title mentions. I (DOB 30.12.1993, first chart) was best friends with this boy (DOB 13.10.1994, second chart) from 2013 and we started dating in 2014 beginning. The relationship was a very good…
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
How I learned that a lot of women/girls are scared of men — I was sheltered by my parent in my teenage years. The first time I really heard about women/girls being scared of men, was at a mental health facility. All of the girls there were talking about how th…
I am unable to have children. How can I cope? — I 25f am unable to have kids. I have known since I was 13. The only way I am able to have children is through adoption or an egg donor. Even though I have a supportive husband who is open to all of th…
I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca. I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…
Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…
Divorce is Finalized BUT… WTF is wrong with me? — I’m 56 years old. My divorce was finalized in January. My wife was given three months by the mediator to move out of our home. I should say my home since I bought it and paid it off before we were mar…
I got my psych report back today, and it’s damning. — Hello everyone after a few months of intense therapy including EMDR, I got my psych report back today and truthfully, it made me cry. It was 8 pages long of just the most negative stuff anyone would w…
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the me…
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the medi…
One Sentence Encheiridion (1-15) — I was rereading the Enchieridion and decided to try and summarize each passage in a single sentence. This was a fun activity, let me know if I should share more. 1. The only thing fully up to you are…
The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD? — Hey everyone. After a recent brutal and totally blindsiding discard by someone who I thought loved me, Im trying to understand what I experienced (almost 1 year relationship and attempt at reconnectio…
I don’t know how to understand what’s happening in my family (mom vs sister & husband) — This is a long read, but I’d really appreciate any insights or thoughts. I feel pretty alone in all of this. I’m trying to figure out how to even classify what’s going on in my family, because it fee…
They want to exorcise me ?! — Hey,, so a family member wants to exorcise me from my mental health issues. Im 25. I already made a post about this but ill quickly go over and link the post if i can figure reddit out. I got diagn…
My mum is a pedophile — It took me 7 years to finally realise that my mum was a straight up pedophile and I still have to live with that women.What made me realise was multiple incident, the worst one when I was 10-13. She w…
Lessons from a relationship with a narcissist — I posted this a year ago but deleted after my narc ex found this post. Posting again because this helped me find a better partner for myself, and can help others as well. 1. When a man says they don…
Hi, - I dislike my parents, at the same time, and, I don't know if this is controlling or abusive : I'm F(16) turning 17 this September, I live in a place where Privacy is a luxury and kids are investments to your parents. My parents...have high hopes for me, but they force some things on me. — # Hi, - I dislike my parents, at the same time I love them, and, I don't know if this is controlling or abusive : I'm F(16) turning 17 this September, I live in a place where Privacy is a luxury and k…
Dad won’t(?) let me see brother — !! TW FOR SA, TRAUMATIC EVENTS AND ABUSE !! So for reference, I turned 18 2 months ago. I left the day after I turned 18 and cut my dad off but not my mom or brother. My mom lives across the state a…
I really just don't like myself. — I am 14/m and I really don't like myself. I hate my voice, the way I look, the way I look in clothes, the way I look in the mirror, my body, my everything. The only things I have going for me is fami…
I miss him. — This is my first ever post but I really need some advice, Me (F19) and my ex (M19) have known eachother since we were 13. I dated him for two years, one year off and on with him and 2 with no contact …
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
Piecing Reality Together After Going NC/VLC — \[TW, mention of CSA and general abuse\] I probably don't really need to give as much background info as I plan to, but I'm going to in hopes of finding...solidarity? I guess? Essentially looking fo…
I am lowkey tired of this, [Trigger Warning]: SI, trauma — I don't know where to start tbh. If you know me, no you don't, thanks. My parents were total idiots, they had me when my dad was like 2-3 years sober from drugs/out of rehab, and my mom had a difficu…
I would be cutting contact with my parents THIS JULY!! — As said in the title, I 20F would be cutting contact with my parents soon (I'll be going away for my masters) but I can't help but post stuff that happened to me because I feel like there is something…
my IMPOSSIBLE LIFE AND HOW I'M TRYING TO MAKE IT OKAY-ISH TO LIVE — Hi, I’m 16(F) going on 17, this september, and…I have a lot of issues, I’d consider this as a vent post, but I’m also going to be needing a sprinkle of advice and support. Today, yeah, around 6:30 am…
What NOT to do after a breakup — 1. Do not contact your ex for closure. 2. Do not look at your ex's photos, texts or love notes. 3. Do not keep painful reminders around you. 4. Do not idolize the relationship. 5. Do not have …
How the fuck do i process this level of medical trauma — Monday i had a medicine routine checkup on how my new meds were working with my doctor. I stopped taking my medication one week ago after only taking it a week because it made me feel worse and made m…
Found out father was a child molester, was I a victim? — this is probably the hardest thing I've written. i was a super daddys girl growing up and was absolutely devestated when he died tragically when i was 13. Growing up in my new home when I was 5, thing…
The guide that will help you to change your perception in heartbreak — I lurk here often, as once upon a time I did go through something like this. I never exited the community and it breaks my heart how so many of you are burning in the same pain I once was. What a join…
I don't know if I suffered a CSA — So, I don't really know if this counts as CSA, but lately I've been thinking about something that happened to me a few years ago, when I was 13. I started studying at a different school, and since I w…
I need help and advice. — Hello, I am a 16-year-old male from Sweden who is struggling heavily with emotions, relationships, and school to the point where I often don’t feel like existing. I try to cover everything with a smil…
I hate how I feel unjustified to his mistreatments. — He’s a piece of shit and he’s vile. He isn’t horrible all of the time but when he is it’s nasty. He says the worst things possible to his family and throws temper tantrums now more than ever. He used…
Misdiagnosis of schizophrenia. Psychopathy. — Hi everyone, this is my first post. I wanted to tell you about something that's really upsetting me, and I wanted to hear your opinions. There was an error in my schizophrenia diagnosis in 2013. Only…
It is so incredibly painful that my brother is the golden child — I live with bipolar, and my life is a miracle. I work full time in tech. I’m a solo mom to a 6 month old. I fought so hard for this life. My mom has had me blocked for 3 years. She knows I have a baby…
Need help understanding what I’m going through open to any opinion will not be offended — I’m gonna try to keep this short, however I have lots of detail. I believe some of this stems from childhood now I am 27 years old. My mental health has always been an issue however it has been declin…
I like when there’s tension in my home — This sound weird, but All my life, I was used to unstable environments. I was used to my mom coming home angry every day. I was used to my parents fighting every day. The only thing that was stable wa…
22 years old and trying to become better this year. — At the beginning of this year, I realised how much I’ve wasted my life and that I need to make changes. I’ve struggled with bad suicidal thoughts since I was 13. Attempted when I was 17. Started taki…
32F with 35M for almost 2 years — My bf of almost 2 years doesnt seem to understand why im not happy in our relationship. how can I explain to him AGAIN in a way that he will understand. Below is part of a list of things he says or d…
lease ending and i don’t know what i want to do with my life — I am a 20y/o F with my 20y/o bf. We have been together since we were 16. To paint the picture for you, when we met we were in high school of course. i had an extremely troubled teen years & childhood…
My nMom passed away. I handled her final days, funeral, and possessions. — ​ Growing up, I was always told that I looked exactly like my mother. I was her “spitting image.” I sounded like her, had her mannerisms, her laugh—everything. My younger brother also looked …
CRAZY, UNUSUAL, UNLIKELY manifestation stories. — Wow, so my last post kinda blew up (I asked about success stories) but there was a comment that I resonate with - how about stories of manifesting something weird and totally unusual? Not your job, no…
Yeah, the only person I've ever talked to on the phone that often was someone I was in an LDR with - we talked on the phone every day even when we were "just friends" and we've continued that pattern …
Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
Not necessarily. I’ve looked into Saturn in the seventh because my daughter has it. She’s only 13. But I can tell she’s probably gonna have a hard time dating. I’ve been in terrible relationships, ver…
OP, I could have written your post. You’re not alone. I feel as though I’m either having an identity crisis or want a divorce and I can’t tell the difference between the two. I’m 34 and my wife is …
I did but it was sparse. One text on day 1 from each of us, then I reached out on evening day 3 to ask how she's feeling now that its been going, and she didn't respond til afternoon day 4. Then nig…
Huh, interesting. I am super, duper, duper touchy feely but its a light switch that gets turned on after having sex, when I really like them. When Im not in a relationship, i don't mind not having i…
Thank you all for sharing your experiences and life perspectives. I have to admit I feel a bit overwhelmed by the responses, but also very grateful. I am both relieved that I am not alone in this exp…
My dad seemed kind most of the time and when mom would go off he would tell her to knock it off. He died when I was 13. Mom only had use for me when she could simper and preen over my accomplishments.…
See, each pada of a nakshatra is 13.33 mins long. With 3 mins apart, there is 25% chance that at least some of the planets are in a different pada. Different pada = different Navamsa. Some nakashtra…
I became interested in lucid dreaming in 2013. I never fully commit myself into daily journaling or whatever technic there is. The longest period I kept daily journaling is about 2 months. During thes…
From a guy's perspective: I'm 42 now and my late wife was 9 years older than me. Like you, she looked younger than she was. Our running joke when we started dating was that between my hair starting t…
Yes. Year 10 and 13. For serial cheaters, on average they can't last more than 1-3 years to cheat again. The last one was in 2024; we're still technically married because we're waiting for the judge t…
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This is me. I feel as though I’m either having an identity crisis or want a divorce and I can’t tell the difference between the two. I’m 34 and my wife is 35. Two kids aged 7 and 5. We are high schoo…
I blocked one of my dad's hits when I was 13. I didn't hit back, just raised my arm to block it. Got screamed at for retaliating, but he never hit me after that because he knew I was only gonna get bi…
I (43F) have been married to my avoidant husband (44M) for 14 years, and we have been best friends since we were 13. We share three biological children, and he has four other kids from his first marri…
I also have these experiences, or better had them in the past, circa 2013. I also a beakfaced friend, but they do not torture me, they just instruct me. They are good, but their work with us is inter…
I wish I realized this myself at age 13. You’ll go a long way my guy!
indifferent veering towards dislike. I feel like I've raised them and I've had to since like 13.
It’s tough as a solo parent. You became solo slightly earlier than me - mine was 8 when her father bailed and she’s now almost 13. I get it - hard to have the time to build up the type of life that ma…
I'm so tired of my dad always calling me incapable of being without him because I have social anxiety and I don't know some basic skills like cooking or operating a washing machine. When I was raise…
Thank you so much for the support, ParticularCover2313. It really means a lot, and I feel strong with the support of many Redditors. I hope you get a job soon.
Ohh I am 38 who has been in therapy since 14 following a suicide attempt at 13. I understand about not wanting to break a new therapist in. Termination is constantly a topic with my current therapist …
I respectfully call bullshit on this. Pete Walker book was written in 2013. We could find other sources that aren’t “very new”. How many decades are we asked to wait ? I think we normalized bad therap…
I could send my parents a list of what I want for my birthday or Christmas and they wouldn’t get any of it. It’s not about the cost, either. For example, I like to travel and one year I asked for a …
You’re right - my mom ate a lot of McDonald’s when she was pregnant with my sister (tired from taking care of 3yo me all day) and my sister has been a vegetarian since she was like 13.
I did demand it on 3/13. She agreed. Prior to me learning of the affair, but while I had suspicions, she had already been offered and taken a job at another school. She plans to start at the new job i…
I've heard chronic sleep paralysis since i was 13. I am now 22. Although from when i was 20 the occurrences reduced. During that state, I have hallucinated many different thing and heard many demonic …
Yep. I moved across the country when I was 15 to escape a toxic family dynamic, snd before that, was taken from my mother at 13. I used to wait tables, and when I was very young and bright eyed, peopl…
This should be a sticky imho. This question is asked so frequently that I might copy/paste my own reply to this frequent inquiry. Agreed wholeheartedly with what you've said. It's interesting, the t…
I’m going over your post again and cannot determine when you found out of her cheating and/or confronted her about all the suspicious activity? Because, again, the contact should have stopped immediat…
Good observation. I did wait a while (from 2/27 to 3/13) to assess the situation, speak to a therapist, and try to figure out what else she was hiding. On 2/28, I found the texts showing he was in h…
I was in college, still living at home. My father fully expected me to hand over my signed pay check for him to dole out what HE thought I deserved. He expected to know who/what/when/where/why of my…
I think you can flex on education. A piece of paper isn't as important as someone who is a lifelong-learner with a lot of intellectual curiosity and that may take a form completely different to what y…
As others have said this is very much worth posting to r/CPTSDpartners Grain of salt the heck out of my reply tho; while i have been the kid in this scenario this is EXACTLY the mainstay of the reaso…
Just for completeness, here is a correspondence table of Lebell's section headers to parts of the Enchridion: 1. Know what you can control and what you can't (Ench 1) 2. Stick with your own business …
Yes especially the basic skill of politeness and communication. They don’t talk to me or have conversations with me. They never sat down to talk to me the period talk I had, because I knew what a peri…
Older AM here with a throwaway. Want to share some pearls that helped me and others around me in life. Saw lots of failures as a younger person. I learned and used the below lessons to see success. I …
Mine broke up with me a month ago now. We have been contact ever since. Well i have been n she was just being toxic with me and giving me mixed signals. Now she is talking to someone new. We have been…
I was exactly that child, told to me daily and I believed it until age 13. I was told repeatedly that I was not normal, that there was "something missing". I wanted to find out what normal was, and wh…
"This might... but I'm just so inspired by Ryan Coogler and not in the way you might think. So Coogler just won a bunch of Oscars for his incredible film Sinners, and there's so much to appreciate abo…
My brother and SIL combined their houses of 3+2 kids when they were ranging from like 5-13. While not as many as 8, I will say that both families had been through a lot and the kids were excited to se…
Preach🫶🏼😂🤦🏽♀️🇨🇭🇨🇦🍁🩷🚩🚩🚩 Plz don’t make more kids,you have two babies already and please tell him that and show him this right here: have you done any or looked at behavioral or psycholo…
I (42F) hear people talk about spring break trips, studying abroad, and summers off in grade school and college and I can’t relate to any of it. I raised my younger siblings and have worked for pay si…
My closest friends that are still in my life all these years, I had originally met online. I don't remember using Yahoo chat much, and my parents didn't have AOL, but I used AIM and AIM Buddy chat. I…
This seems very SEA-coded. I don't even think Americans were even eating sushi back in 2013.
One of my guardians in the astral has been a dragon since I was 13. She doesn't speak the way you'd expect to have a conversation --- as another user mentioned they are animalistic. But I could really…
This isn't the answer you're looking for, but humans are social animals and need connection; it's very rare for one of us to be okay completely alone with no connection, and it's worth considering whe…
As someone who has also been on a journey regarding elements, colors and gems/stones, I wanted to drop some clues of places you may be interested to look: Shem HaMephorash and corresponding gems/ston…
When I was 11-12 I truly believed I’d move to a different country with my family. We unexpectedly moved to a new country when I was 13. I’ve had other instances where I believe that I’ll receive money…