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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically — 1. We exist. But our existence is dependent. We as physical beings, did not cause ourselves. 2. Everything we observe in the universe is also dependent. Stars, planets, people, and everything else we …
I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease. — I am not model-tier attractive, but I have modeled for local brands and have a very unfulfilling "successful" dating life. Everyone in the internet, and in real life claims that attractive people "hav…
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…
The best and 5 worst things I did after 5 breakups in 12 years chasing unavailable partners, and I just got marriaged on 2.14.2026 — I've been through 5 painful breakups over the last decades, all with the same pattern: I'd chase someone emotionally/physically unavailable—either a cheater or straight-up avoidant—who'd pull away jus…
"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the me…
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the medi…
Some supportive words to all you going through this. — just as the title says, I wanted to share something with you all. A bit of trauma dumping. If you’d like to know how I was feeling a few weeks ago, you can look at my profile for my most recent post…
One Sentence Encheiridion (1-15) — I was rereading the Enchieridion and decided to try and summarize each passage in a single sentence. This was a fun activity, let me know if I should share more. 1. The only thing fully up to you are…
I’m a shitty person, my demons are haunting me, and I don’t know how to deal with these emotions. [24 F] — I \[24F\] just got dumped by my boyfriend \[21M\] after 3.5 years. It all started in high school when we met. However, we didn’t start dating until late 2022. We set up boundaries and we both agreed…
The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD? — Hey everyone. After a recent brutal and totally blindsiding discard by someone who I thought loved me, Im trying to understand what I experienced (almost 1 year relationship and attempt at reconnectio…
Manifested $1200 and My Story of the Law — Recently, my girlfriend was extremely upset with me over finances. I had spent 700 dollars in the short span of a month, and was 600 dollars in debt even after my monthly allotment. Fortunately, I kno…
Lessons from a relationship with a narcissist — I posted this a year ago but deleted after my narc ex found this post. Posting again because this helped me find a better partner for myself, and can help others as well. 1. When a man says they don…
Should i give up on shifting? Is it possible that I'm just not meant to do it? — I know this question must sound super annoying by now, so I expect a lot of people will just skip over this post and that's okay, I don't want anyone to feel like they "need to help me", not at all. H…
Hi, - I dislike my parents, at the same time, and, I don't know if this is controlling or abusive : I'm F(16) turning 17 this September, I live in a place where Privacy is a luxury and kids are investments to your parents. My parents...have high hopes for me, but they force some things on me. — # Hi, - I dislike my parents, at the same time I love them, and, I don't know if this is controlling or abusive : I'm F(16) turning 17 this September, I live in a place where Privacy is a luxury and k…
Triggered & Unexpected - HBD Hubby — It’s been a rough go of it. Yesterday I (HLF 39) realized I was trying but my heart wasn’t in it. Not in general, just In the moment I wished we weren’t together. He (LLM39) has his ups & downs but he…
Manifesting in the Midst of Chaos — I’d love to know people’s thoughts on this. I’d love if it could be grounded and based in experience. For the sake of my nervous system, I would love responses that aren’t victim-blamey. I don’t say t…
At Portland’s Lone Fir graves, a long-awaited apology is finally heard — At a ceremony honoring ancestors and marking the start of memorial construction at Lone Fir Cemetery’s Block 14, Multnomah County’s chair and commissioners read their apology on site for the first tim…
My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was both our firs…
I 22F WANT TO CALL HIM 70M DAD, BUT HOW? — I want to call him dad. This one's pretty wholesome guys. Just looking for advice om how to broach this subject. I 22F lost my dad 6 years ago. My mom has never dated anyone else. not that my sibli…
My Mom Kept Killing Our Pets — I always thought that animals had very short life spans. Through my childhood, we had adopted and buried at least 7 cats, 5 dogs, 2 rabbits, and 3 hamsters , not to mention a myriad of wild animals li…
Is anyone else fucking angry? — I'm angry. There were so many times in my life when someone could have intervened. One example is my family used to attend a 'family' christmas party every year, it was a long held tradition. it was…
My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — ​ hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was bot…
i just blocked the loml after 3 years 😔 /s — REDDIT KEEPS ADDING LINE BREAKS!!! PLEASE TRY TO LOOK PAST THEM 😭😭😭 — /s for the loml part this is all true fake names and throwaway acc contains drunk confessions, sober confessions, cheating, …
I brought my mother a cup of tea — Lately, I've been doing a lot of thinking about my Narc mother. I went NC in 2001 and she passed in 2014. I lived with her briefly in 2000 (that is a looong story) for about 5 months until I couldn't …
Trust issues & emotional problems. me[18M] gf[18F] — Me and my long distance girlfriend have been dating for over 2 years. We live in different countries and have never met in real life; however, we are planning on it. There have been very rocky momen…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
I (27F) feel stuck in a relationship with my (28M) husband because he doesn't want to move to my country after saying that he wanted to — **TL;DR:** Married quickly to get a green card, now resent my life in the US, have no intimacy with my partner, and am conflicted because I still have feelings for an ex. This is a lot, and I’ve neve…
Am i 23F Insane for wanting to ask out a coworker 23M? — Hello, I 23F Have come to terms with the fact that i am crushing on a coworker of mine 22M and now need to know if i should take the risk of asking him out on a date. I have known this guy for a few …
I don’t remember being SA’ed when I was a kid but idk if it happened — Hi. I have been diagnosed with CPTSD since forever and it was due to growing up in abusive childhood environment and due to sexual assaults that happened to me when I was 14. So I know for a fact both…
I would be cutting contact with my parents THIS JULY!! — As said in the title, I 20F would be cutting contact with my parents soon (I'll be going away for my masters) but I can't help but post stuff that happened to me because I feel like there is something…
my IMPOSSIBLE LIFE AND HOW I'M TRYING TO MAKE IT OKAY-ISH TO LIVE — Hi, I’m 16(F) going on 17, this september, and…I have a lot of issues, I’d consider this as a vent post, but I’m also going to be needing a sprinkle of advice and support. Today, yeah, around 6:30 am…
Divorce on the Horizon? — Sorry this is a long one so grab some coffee or tea. I (38M) have been married to my wife (35M) for 11 years together for 14. We have 3 kids, 5yo twins with autism and a 2 year old. When we met we ha…
What NOT to do after a breakup — 1. Do not contact your ex for closure. 2. Do not look at your ex's photos, texts or love notes. 3. Do not keep painful reminders around you. 4. Do not idolize the relationship. 5. Do not have …
“All we ever did was care about you” — My parents love to claim that all they ever did was care about my sisters and I. That they sacrificed so much for us, which I know they did in some ways but that doesn’t take away all the times they d…
The guide that will help you to change your perception in heartbreak — I lurk here often, as once upon a time I did go through something like this. I never exited the community and it breaks my heart how so many of you are burning in the same pain I once was. What a join…
I(20 FtM) met ‘the one’ (18NB) but I’m terrified it won’t last. (NSFW for talk of assigned genders) — Hey y’all! Just wanted to shout into the void I guess. Advice is very welcome! I feel… weird about all of this. I’m 20ftm(he/him) and my partner is 18NB(they/them). I’m fully aware of how young we ar…
What do I do rn? — Maybe this is a sub for more severe situations than mine and I'm sorry if reading this post was a waste of your time, I'm just wondering what to do in this situation. I'm 17 with a narcissistic mother…
My family has made me not want to eat or look in the mirror anymore, and I got kicked out of the house for saying no to Ozempic and beauty surgeries. I am allowed back in again but... I can't look at my family the same way anymore. What do I do? — I have been kicked out before when I was much younger and my mother started freaking out and yelling, but this situation... I couldn't do it. I can't seem to move on from this one at all. So, we were…
Are aliens taking me out of body? — The first time I had an obe was when I was around 14. It happened probably 10 times that night. Every time I tried to go back to sleep my consciousness would be ripped out of my body with ufo synth so…
32F with 35M for almost 2 years — My bf of almost 2 years doesnt seem to understand why im not happy in our relationship. how can I explain to him AGAIN in a way that he will understand. Below is part of a list of things he says or d…
Are they sending me a signal? — I'm seeing mirror hours everywhere; today I saw a total of 14. My McDonald's orders were 111 and 333. For the past week, I haven't stopped seeing numbers. I don't know if the universe is sending me si…
15 things I learned the hard way from my breakup — 1.Loving someone more than you love yourself is not romantic it is self-destruction . 2.The moment you start shrinking yourself to keep someone comfortable, you have already lost the relationship. 3…
how do i be more productive/busy instead of ruminating on trauma 24/7 ? — so i (18F) am a first-year uni student who has dealt with lots of traumatic situations. in early high school, i dealt with a borderline abusive friendship. in late high school, i dealt with bullying f…
Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
Funny you say that because my current partner has 4 kids, the oldest is 21 and the youngest is 14. We're super happy together.
I’ve made posts in the estranged …kids sub… I’m late 30s. Nc almost 2 years. She sent me a package that was wrapped like it had a nuke in it, duct tape AND two ties of packaging tape. Inside had bubbl…
Yes, exactly what you’re saying, especially 'Psychologically and emotionally a child.' I’ve been looking back with a clearer head now and I’ve realized I was severely stunted, at 18-20 my emotional d…
Definitely a thing, but I don’t feel this fits my situation. My mother has many friends and has had many other types of relationships in her life and often I was the one left behind. Haven’t had m…
What’s interesting is this was one of my mother’s lesser things. I didn’t tell her about the emotional abuse, neglect, preferential treatment of my siblings, blaming me for ‘causing’ one to become a t…
Thank you all for sharing your experiences and life perspectives. I have to admit I feel a bit overwhelmed by the responses, but also very grateful. I am both relieved that I am not alone in this exp…
I'm on day 14. My mind won't stop ruminating about what went wrong. I still check my messages, hoping they would reach out, but not as much as the first week. I still cry every day, grieving what coul…
I had a gastric bypass in 2014. I've never disclosed to anyone I've dated as it's my story. I don't care what anyone thinks about some excess skin, I worked hard to get it and work hard to maintain it…
Thank you so very much for your kind words & wonderful wishes. Each passing month will be exponentially better. Like you, I had more intense waves of grief, anxiety & pain at month 14. They’ve les…
Yes I used to wake up at 4:44 every morning for a bout a year .. maybe a bit longer. I was 14. I was beginning a very long phase of spiritual awakening and learning. The angels were trying to tell me…
Near Christmas in 2014. It was a difficult year - my dad passed away and I was diagnosed with a chronic, incurable illness. I had very little money and was struggling. I received a check in the mail f…
Yes and no. Yes when it’s through support. Not really when it’s intense because I see myself and the lengths that I know I go to from needing to protect my family from killers since I was 14. I can…
Age of consent in UK is 16 and in China it is 14. Just because something is legal, doesn’t make it okay.
I agree with most of these and wow is it sad. I have kids. They’re 11. In the last 5 years I don’t know if I’d have kids if the decision was today. It’s a different world from just 2014.
Give yourself and her a set amount of pocket money. In my opinion that amount should be the same for either of you. So for instance the budget: - 500 pocket money for you - 500 pocket money for her -…
I know what you mean, it happened to me too. Also, sometimes I'd dream of someone I hadn't seen in ages, and that day I'd meet them. It freaked me out a bit. My first unconscious manifestation stood o…
26? he sounds 14.
I agree completely with OP. It's been about 8 months for me. I have one week on, one week off arrangement with my ex, my son is 14.... I work from home and have two staff members that come in to work …
You have a much bigger problem than the cost of the ring, but for arguments sake say you decide you’re dead-set on marrying this person. Take her to a jeweler. Ask them to show her two comparable ring…
I did know what men were technically capable of as a teenager. I got sexually assaulted by a man at 13, and physically abused by another man around the age of 14. It’s just that I wasn’t sure if it wo…
My god, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your response. I started crying when I read your last paragraph. When my newly started counselor asked me, I did the same thing. I wish I knew why som…
Before I begin, I want to make clear - I'M NOT DEFENDING THE GUY. ~~I only want to point out there are a small amount of situations where someone is labeled a sex offender and they really didn't do s…
There was another mom with a 4 yo daughter. She was married to a registered sex offender. I’m not positive, but I don’t think the kid was his. I looked him up on the registry. Multiple charges for for…
It’s not like I dated her for a few years, she was my wife we spent all of our teenage years attached by the hip since I was 14.
Would love a response to the inaccuracy pointed out below. The study you cited stops collecting reports of attacks until 2014. Making assertions and conclusions based on flawed as fuck data. Mea…
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I think in your situation I would say something to your parents like "I'm not sure how to talk to you about this but here is how I feel and I would like to get …
I have a question about point 14. How does meditating take apart deeply held beliefs, self-identity and worldview? I've been warned in many books on meditation that it can lead to these things but I…
Thank you. We've gone through 13 marriage counselors and are on #14. That doesn't even count individual therapy. Even when im emotionally deregulated, I try to say "I wish, what I'm hoping for is. …
I gave chances, tried my best, and lost myself in the process. Yet now, I’m being portrayed as the “bad guy.” She was the one who approached me for the relationship. From the very beginning, I was ho…
M46, with kids 17-15-12. I'm definitely thinking LTR with my current date, F48 with kids 19-16-14. However. The reality of it is - I am legally bound (by parenting agreement) to live here until my yo…
I am 39 and have been going to therapy since a suicide attempt at 14. None of my therapist did anything but make me able to speak like a therapist. I didn't have clarity until I started reading Pete W…
100%. If a cheeseburger is all you can keep down, then you eat that cheeseburger. Pregnancy nausea is horrid - I was sick constantly until about week 14. I hope you feel better soon, OP! Your fiancé‘…
Thanks to everyone who read and responded. To clarify, I filed on 3/20. We had gone through two therapy sessions (re this issue) and the second session on 3/19 was basically my wife denying, minimizi…
Can I ask what was happening astrologically during the times you mentioned? Ik jupiter MD was active till age 14. But what are the other years you have mentioned? There were no jupiter AD also during …
Me, three! I barely talked until I was 14. I got in trouble for even saying what the heck so I figured whatever. But that stunted me emotionally, socially and who knows what else. Being afraid of stup…
Ok, so it was my cousin. Her parents are also strict and yet healthy. She could share all her problems, even boyfriend issues, with her. They even talk about sex. Not like openly but still. There rela…
Im in debt, unemployed, in chronic pain. If it wasn’t for my husband…..ugh….all of this & dealing with the empty feeling inside, the anger & frustration you woke up to see another day. I have a rare w…
Nope, this is real. They knew about what I would have and wanted to get me on board while I was young and manipulatable. They all were claiming they felt they “owed” it to my dad to give me this great…
Yes.. happened Feb 14 this year. “wake up!” in a computer-like voice about midnight. I went back to sleep after nothing else occurred, but then at 3am I suddenly woke up again and could see what tur…
That they'd have been better off if I'd succeeded in my attempt when I was 14.
Feels like an Olive Garden commerical needs to be inserted here... Tired of $25 pasta? Thinking that pasta needs to be $5 to $6? Come, at Olive Garden enjoy one of our buy one, take one deals for 14…
Just for completeness, here is a correspondence table of Lebell's section headers to parts of the Enchridion: 1. Know what you can control and what you can't (Ench 1) 2. Stick with your own business …
Older AM here with a throwaway. Want to share some pearls that helped me and others around me in life. Saw lots of failures as a younger person. I learned and used the below lessons to see success. I …
Thank you for mentioning fostering. I was saved (after enduring 11.5 years of abuse) by a friend and her father, then removed from the home and put in foster care for three months, then adopted by nor…
When someone moves the goal posts after I have already done everything plus a bit more f what was requested. My father had a graduate degree in this. My mother knew this and other of his horrible tra…
My mom set expectations for my behavior by mocking other kids she felt they were too childish or reliant on their parents. "Why would she tell her mother she needed to see the doctor? Just call and …
Preach🫶🏼😂🤦🏽♀️🇨🇭🇨🇦🍁🩷🚩🚩🚩 Plz don’t make more kids,you have two babies already and please tell him that and show him this right here: have you done any or looked at behavioral or psycholo…
My mother was obsessed with being the cool mom, but would talk about blow jobs with my gay friends when we were 14. And then I woul disassociate and she interpreted that as consent to watch porn with …