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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease. — I am not model-tier attractive, but I have modeled for local brands and have a very unfulfilling "successful" dating life. Everyone in the internet, and in real life claims that attractive people "hav…
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
I’ve been shifting since 2016, ask me anything :) — Or let’s have a discussion! I found out about shifting on accident in 2016. It started as I was being homeschooled at the time(I was 12 im 21 now lmaooo) and I was extremely fascinated with like sci-f…
36F, is a serious relationship/marriage on the table for me again? — Soooo, I’m a 36yo female. I had been in multiple long-term relationships basically non stop since I was 16. I was even once engaged (in Sep 2014, the engagement lasted 3 years and we never got married…
Can You Change a Toxic Relationship? - Is this the right place to post this? — Hello, I am a long-time lurker of this sub first time poster. I’m not sure how to even start this post all I can say is I am completely at a loss. I am so afraid to be alone. Actually, I am horrified.…
Financial abuse is still abuse — I'm 70 years old. I've been in and out of therapy since I was 16. With the rise of awareness about narcissism, especially over the past year for me, I'm seeing more and more ways my nmother and n-ex a…
Wet the bed last night :/ — Throw away account cause I’m embarrassed. I (24f) saw my family this past week after going primarily no contact for a few years. I’m taking it much harder than expected. The emotions didn’t really…
Doctor didn't Believe that Psychedelics Cured my Depression. — In 2024 I had a trip that felt like turned my brain right-side up. It took away my self hatred, ruminating thoughts, and deep depression literally overnight. But I still struggle with executive dysfun…
I hate falling asleep because it brings the morning. — I keep hearing this is supposed to make me stronger. More independent. More self reliant. Right now it just feels like I’m barely holding it together. 20 years with the same person. Married 16. Built…
Being an avoidant is hard to fix — My mother was a meth addict who used prostitution on and off for years and is still an alcoholic to this day. my father bailed before I was born. I watched my mother have hundreds of sexual relation…
Lessons from a relationship with a narcissist — I posted this a year ago but deleted after my narc ex found this post. Posting again because this helped me find a better partner for myself, and can help others as well. 1. When a man says they don…
Turbulent year. Opinions on the worst year of my life? — I got into a relationship at 16. Within the first two years of our relationship I discovered he was cheating by having sexual chats and sending explicit pictures online to other women. I forgave him a…
I finally told my mom the truth in front of everyone and now she’s acting like i ruined her life — so this happened last weekend at my cousin’s birthday, whole family packed into this tiny apartment, kids running around, people pretending to enjoy dry cake my mom was in one of her moods, you know t…
NParent using other parent's absence for sympathy — The last time we saw our father was 10 years ago back in 2016. He's still alive, but he's working far away from us. Between my father and mother, my mother is the narcissistic one, and my father is th…
22F, 22M, 2 year relationship — I have been in a relationship for 2 years, and both of our families are involved. We are likely to have a wedding next year. However, something happened a few months ago that has deeply affected our r…
She wants to set something up this month… — My gf of 7 years left me last week. We were together since 15yrs old. She told me she needs to find who she is and that she needs space. She wants to be independent and be able to be her own person. S…
I (22F) and my boyfriend (22M), 2 year relationship - wedding next year but something happened a few months ago that’s affected us — I have been in a relationship for 2 years, and both of our families are involved. We are likely to have a wedding next year. However, something happened a few months ago that has deeply affected our r…
I feel stuck — Hey hey, Im 25m, autistic and have experienced trauma my whole life. I struggle greatly with appreciating the amount of work and success I have achieved in the past, to still keep on going. Every li…
Sell the house before or after filing? — I bought my house in 2016. I was with my boyfriend at the time but he's not on the house at all. We got married in 2022 and he was not put on the house then either, it's solely in my name. We now want…
Thinking about just leaving for a while.. — New here.. I got out of a 10 year long relationship with a physically abusive boyfriend in 2016. I started my healing-journey and felt joy again. Got both my PTSD diagnosis as well as ADHD. Was sing…
Is it too late for me? — Is it possible to start over and change at 30? I used to be a bad person due to substance issues and an abusive childhood. I was forced to take medication at 12 years old, and then given addictive pil…
What should I do? — I've posted here before I was sa'ed for 13+ years by my uncle. From 3-16. I had a breakdown and went to therapy at 19 and cut my uncle off. And told my family the truth. They are on my side and have n…
Obsession with the past — I don't know if it's me who should take therapy or him. Our relationship bloomed with least effort and instant connection. We barely spoke about the past. He was someone who started his relationship …
What NOT to do after a breakup — 1. Do not contact your ex for closure. 2. Do not look at your ex's photos, texts or love notes. 3. Do not keep painful reminders around you. 4. Do not idolize the relationship. 5. Do not have …
AITAH for choosing my peace and dignity over this toxic ahh group? — this is a VERY LONG thread so only read if you have time please, although the full post has more context. SUMMARY IS PROVIDED AT THE END Last year, me (17f), and my 2 best friends lets call them, li…
how do I deal with emotionally immature and neglectful parents? — I'm 16. My whole life I've had to push and fight and self advocate because neither of my parents take my problems seriously. I have depression, anxiety, and adhd which were only recently diagnosed bec…
Aunt and Uncle Won’t Accept No for Answer for Social Gatherings — Me (30F) and my sister (33F) have a small family. Our dad is 60 and our mom died 10 years ago in 2016. When she died, her brother Derek (48M) and his wife Patricia (48F) started to become more involve…
The guide that will help you to change your perception in heartbreak — I lurk here often, as once upon a time I did go through something like this. I never exited the community and it breaks my heart how so many of you are burning in the same pain I once was. What a join…
Despite everything, it hurts that my dad dislikes me — I (26F) only have my mum and my brother left. Well, i have a huge family with aunts and uncles, but never really had any contact with them. My dad never really liked me growing up. He always preferre…
Law of attraction and guilt — My dog is 16. I’ve been thinking about her death and preparing for it. I was thinking I should make sure I know where the ER is in case I ever need it and an hour later I’m driving her there with a l…
How to grieve my (alive) parents? — I, 18y.o. Female, am greiving the "loss" of my parents and still am figuring out the traumas they left behind. For background, I lived with my mom and her parents all my life. Not because they were …
She broke up with me because I’m a bum, but it’s not over yet… I can feel it — I feel really stupid. Like really stupid. About 3 years of stupidity I’m feeling right now. I’m M16, she’s F16. We were dating for about 2 months. We liked each other a lot — well, I did anyway. One …
I wasnt allowed to have *my own* underwear, up to this day — TW: Childhood obesity, talks about body development, and a bit of weight loss When I was a kid I was obese, my mother force feds everyone, makes you feel bad if you dont finish your plate; and like e…
32F with 35M for almost 2 years — My bf of almost 2 years doesnt seem to understand why im not happy in our relationship. how can I explain to him AGAIN in a way that he will understand. Below is part of a list of things he says or d…
lease ending and i don’t know what i want to do with my life — I am a 20y/o F with my 20y/o bf. We have been together since we were 16. To paint the picture for you, when we met we were in high school of course. i had an extremely troubled teen years & childhood…
My (30F) ex husband (34M) is obsessed with me. How do I handle this with minimal damage? — This is an.. interesting situation im having. My (30F) ex husband (33M) and i have been divorced for about 6 years. I am remarried, and he, we will call him B, is still dating the woman he cheated on …
I have a lot to work on, how would I bring everything up to a therapist? — I’ve found a therapist and I don’t want to hit a wall on their expertise halfway through, do I simply tell a therapist I want to do long term work on multiple issues or is their something on the thera…
Your observations of debilitated Jupiter MD? — Hi all, Jupiter in capricon in seventh house, cancel asc. saturn ketu in 9th. Rahu MD ended in 2017. Class 12th ended in 2016. Life was awesome in Rahu MD(in 3rd Virgo), now unable to focus, lack of d…
One Sentence Encheiridion (16-30) — Hello! I'm doing a personal challenge to paraphrase the Encheiridion chapters using a single sentence. I did 1-15 in a different post, and I'll link below. Constructive feedback is absolutely welc…
'People do not care as much what you say, but rather how you make them feel'. Do most neurotypicals believe this madness? — 36M, formally diangosed with autism, OCD, GAD, social anxiety. I have heard this saying so many times, especially amongst neurotypicals. Why in the hell do people think like this? Where is the thres…
My Story — Hi guys! Sorry about the length of this, I just needed to rant. Feel free to give advice on any of this, I’m still learning. Starting at about 5, I can remember my biggest concern being about maki…
I still have trouble calling what I went through abuse, hoping for some perspectives — I’m a 23 year old south asian man, born and raised in the US. I’ve compiled this list of the specific events of abuse I remember at the hands of my parents for catharsis. I’ve never spoken to anyone a…
Have you had results within the first 3 days? — I’m conducting personal research and I’d love to hear your experiences. I’ve been practicing manifestation since 2016. I’ve noticed a recurring pattern: sometimes, after practicing a technique, I get …
2 theories about trauma — After doing some discussion and thinking about how things have changed after an extreme traumatic experience. Theory 1: the brain has now reduced the intensity of all emotional feelings. The love yo…
It's a pretty good tool, I've been using it for years and am happy with it ... especially the last version (0.16.x) it has been written in Golang. I wrote a post about it a couple of years ago: http…
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Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
You constantly feeling crazy is on purpose, makes you easier to manipulate. You are not crazy, you are not wrong for spending time with your boyfriend as an adult, his reaction would be insane even if…
I’m a middle millennial and I get a very uncomfortable creepy feeling instead of nostalgia when it comes to 90’s stuff. There’s a very narrow window of things I feel genuinely nostalgic for, the 2010’…
I watch old YouTube videos from the 2010s and listen to music from the 2010s. I tend to listen to Want to Want Me from Jason Derulo a lot since it brings back memories of 2015 and 2016.
She is. She’s bipolar so I figured she might just be manic and tried not to take it personally. I’m not. I told the police. They don’t care. If there no evidence of the rape because it happened like…
Not at all. 41F here and on the lower end of plus size and there are many men that prefer bigger women so I’ve found. I was married for 16.5yrs and was small and then got big after kids and he had lov…
My story isn’t the same as yours. 6 months ago I uncovered cheating 18 years ago. To me, it’s a fresh wound. As a result, I went into hyper detective mode and found a whole lot more, the latest of whi…
Why the hell should we have to remind middle-aged people to do basic hygiene. I’d be taken aback if someone asked me, as well. I’ve been doing this since I started dating at 16. One, I’d think it …
This is an impossible question to answer, because I don't know if you are referencing your personal chart or what is happening in the world. This is not going to be an easy year in regards to world e…
I assure you people in Norway suffer from sleep apnea lol. Over 50 percent of the adult population is overweight. The obesity rate is 16.8 percent. You don't have to be overweight or obese but it sure…
I tried fighting back (physically) when I was like 12/13 and again when I was like 15/16. Honestly, it only made things worse, especially w my father.
My mom scared me allllllll the time. When I was a small child, she would say in a scary voice, "I am NOT your mother." But only when I couldn't see her, like if the shower door was steamy or she was …
My first relationship was in 2016. I was 29.
If you are trying to retrace steps to current events: There was a retweet from 2013 by an actual Juggalo that suggested DJT run for POTUS in 2016. It was DJT's first tweet containing the word, "virus…
She says that he initiated contact shortly after he joined Facebook. They used messenger to chat and they exchanged phone numbers. That’s how it started. She said this was around October of 2016. She…
Her cousin died in early October of 2016. She said he joined Facebook and reached out around Halloween time.
Hey - this resonated with me. Is there a way that we could message privately/unanimously? I’m not sure you can do that through this platform. My H was pulling similar stuff between 2014-2016. I didn’t…
Before I begin, I want to make clear - I'M NOT DEFENDING THE GUY. ~~I only want to point out there are a small amount of situations where someone is labeled a sex offender and they really didn't do s…
Ive been here. Before I was chronically online believe it or not. You sound young and inexperienced in life. But not stupid. You could be young and sheltered like I was. Or maybe you just lack life ex…
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I think my body shut down like it's doing right now . My first suicide attempt was 12-16. I got strangled at 18. I'm 20 now and I struggle with everything plus I'm constantly suicidal.
I suggest you go to China, try to find a job and live there. You will realize that you are not, and will never be, a real Chinese. You grew up with all the liberal values about equality, fairness, fre…
I was physically abducted from my balcony late at night when I was 16. I never saw anyone's face. Never had a dream related to them but i became much more sensitive to energies.
Yep, mom and dad were very emotionally unstable and neglectful, and honestly most of what I had to go through was their fault, including the really really bad RTS that I had coming from a traditionall…
Off the top of my head... Sexually abused by 3 different people and inappropriately touched by 2 more by age 8. At about 12 a man at church gave my mum his wife's old bra and suspender belt for me to …
One of the less celebrated perks of being poor, or from a poor family is not having to give a shit what your parents think. They have to behave of they want to see you and vice versa. My mum was s…
I was 110 (5’2”) when I got pregnant so I was less than 100 lbs. at the end of 2016. The OB blamed me for not trying harder or better idk what. More than once I vomited at the OB, but I don’t actually…
Thanks to everyone who read and responded. To clarify, I filed on 3/20. We had gone through two therapy sessions (re this issue) and the second session on 3/19 was basically my wife denying, minimizi…
My dad did something similar before my wedding back over 25 years ago now. His reaction included calling people who had been invited and telling them (falsely) that he and his wife had been disinvited…
I met my husband at 16. Divorcing at 41 feels like cutting my arm off.
Good advice. Yes, I will ask. I'm sure it's because he wanted to meet at 18.00, but I requested 16.30, and it'd be easier to make that time if we meet in his city of residence. It's a 13min train ride…
I must have been 15 or 16. I realized that it probably wasn't normal for your parents to make you so frustrated to the point where you hurt yourself to manage the emotional stress. It didn't sound nor…
Covert narcs are the worst of them all imo. That’s what my mom is. No one plays the victimized martyr better than a covert narc. They believe their own delusions & revisionist history. I never under…
Just for completeness, here is a correspondence table of Lebell's section headers to parts of the Enchridion: 1. Know what you can control and what you can't (Ench 1) 2. Stick with your own business …
being ahead of your peers academically can feel really isolating because the people around you in class are dealing with totally different life stuff than you are. i skipped a grade too and remember f…
writing all of this out isnt self centered, its actually one of the more useful things you can do when everything feels like static. the fact that you can name the patterns and even see yourself in yo…
Older AM here with a throwaway. Want to share some pearls that helped me and others around me in life. Saw lots of failures as a younger person. I learned and used the below lessons to see success. I …
You sound toxic by wanting “revenge”. You aren’t 16. Move on.
I've been struggling also, because I did not consciously choose any of this since 2016. I chose the opposite. The best answer I've seen so far, for people reading this sub, is that we are spectators…
Answering the questions from the side of the betrayed spouse (husband caught first time in 2016, with EA/PA of 2 years; Caught in 2025 with another co-worker - this time I left the house, and the marr…
No you’re not unreasonable. She probably has a good deal of trauma just from the dad situation. I don’t care what anyone says, you can be the “grew up fast” type and still be incredibly emotionally im…
Considering the age of consent is 16 in a lot of places(including 30 of the 50 states), and given child development, there is a big difference between 14 and 16. I don’t think you would find many peo…
I just now saw this, but I disagree with 3, 15, and to a degree, 16. I’ll explain: 3. I would, personally, never want to erase those memories, and they’re a nice reminder that my ex *did* love me at …
3. Depends on if you were married, had kids, spent 5+ years together etc, but its defo best for your nervous system to let it go. 15. Strange, sounds like somone too afraid to make the jump, you pref…
3. Not being married or having kids doesn’t make a relationship any less special or important, though. It’s still a part of your life. 15. It didn’t cause me longer distress. I feel more at peace wit…
Here is the deal. What happened with your GF cheating and your flirting happened for a reason. Let me explain. When you enter into a serious relationship at too young of an age, for example 16, both p…
Sure! I was diagnosed on April 1st, 2016. (10 years as of tomorrow). Since mine was very aggressive, a very aggressive treatment was needed. It was 4 cycles of Chemotherapy. 1 week on, 2 weeks off …
When my mom said "maybe I should crash the car and kill us both" while driving recklessly when I accidentally made her late for work at 16.